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How to Use Your Jealousy for Good

How do you react to jealousy?

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We’ve talked gratitude, we’ve talked abundance versus scarcity, and now let’s talk jealousy. Oh yeah. I know we have all had those gut punch feelings when we see another mom succeeding in business. Or in life. Or in having Pinterest worthy home or Instagram-able vacation.

This mindset strategy will help you flip the script on those gut punches and use that jealousy to boost you up rather than hold you back. It may take a few tries and a bit of practice to undo the inborn feelings of defeat, shame, or wanting to throw in the towel because “why both if she’s already done it.” But if you are willing to take a breath, evaluate your feelings, then use that energy as motivation to propel you forward rather than holding you back, you too can conquer your jealousy and use it for good.

Before, you might find yourself lying in bed after a social media scroll having rage-y thoughts about “why does she get to do all this”. Or “I would be so much better than she is if I was doing that”. Or “there’s no way her life is actually like that…she’s such a fake.” But have you taken a minute to analyze why you are reacting the way you are? Could it be…jealousy???

And you may be thinking “that’s not jealousy, I’m just tired of everyone faking it on social media.” But, real talk, why do you even care if there wasn’t the smallest part of you that deep down wanted a piece of that life? Wanted the chance to see if you were the mom in that picture, would you feel happier, more fulfilled, or think life was more enjoyable?

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You can have that Pinterest perfect, Instagram worthy, relationship, family, business, home, and life if you stop whining and start working. The only things different between you and Insta-mom is that she learned to harness the power of her envy and jealousy to propel her forward before you. But don’t worry, there’s plenty of time.

When you start focusing on what you can have and what you can achieve versus what you don’t have and haven’t achieved, your mood is better, your work is more focused, and your drive is engaged. As much as it might feel good to bash another women’s progress to make yourself feel better in the moment, in the end, the only person who loses is you…because she loses nothing when you’re jealous of her.

And as with so many mindset victories, when you use your jealousy for good, you show up more positive, you’re work is more focused, and most often, you’ll make more money. And let’s face it…everyone in your house appreciates when you make more money.

Flip the Script on Jealousy

So how do we stop letting jealousy tell us we need to quit. That we aren’t good enough. That we will never get where we want to be.

And how do we start using that feeling in our belly to motivate us? To be the driving force that says “if she can do it, I can do it, too!” To examine what we’ve been doing and figure out where we can invest more, become more efficient, or delete what might be holding us back.

First…recognize the feeling.

Second…identify the root of the reaction.

Third…rephrase the jealousy.

As an example…you’re scrolling Facebook and you see a friend from high school on an amazing Disney vacation. You immediately recognize a wave of jealousy that you can’t/haven’t taken your family on an amazing Disney vacation. You identify that your feel jealous because you feel like you cannot afford a vacation. Then you rephrase the jealous reaction to a motivation to research Disney vacations, start a savings account, and work towards taking your family for a  similar experience. Recognize, Identify, Rephrase. It takes some practice, but I think you can do it.

Now is the time to stop wallowing because you don’t have her life. Start using your jealousy as a motivator. Remember, we all have the same number of hours in the day as Beyoncé. We can all work hard, build an empire, and have an amazing butt if we put the effort in. Or we can just sit and be jealous from afar.

Want to take action on your jealousy today? Write down something you’ve found yourself jealous of recently. Then follow the 3 steps…you’ve recognized the feeling, now identify why you’re jealous. Then rephrase the jealousy as a motivation. I’d love to hear how you’re reframing your jealousy. Comment below and let me know how you’ve flipped your script.


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Leah Ellis – 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur

Meet Financial Coach Leah Ellis…

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My next guest on “5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur is mom to 2 and financial coach Leah Ellis of Endeavor Financial Coaching. Leah pivoted from an in-home daycare to finance coach when Covid hit. She and her husband used their own financial journey as the inspiration to help other families pay off debt and live with financial freedom.

Mom and money teacher by day and financial coach by night, Leah Ellis is all-in to help eliminate money stress in America’s families. Her money management classes for kids and teens help the next generation learn how to plan for the future and avoid debt. Through Endeavor Financial Coaching, she is dedicated to helping millennials break the paycheck to paycheck cycle and reach their money goals. No matter your age or financial situation, Leah is ready to help you create a plan to take control of your money. Find her online for students here or for adults students here.

You can listen to my chat with Leah at the link above. Or read a summary and connect with her below.

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1. What do you do in your business and why did you choose it?


We help broke people break the paycheck to paycheck cycle and reach their money goals. Our clients learn how to handle money in order to build long term wealth. I chose to become a financial coach because we were living paycheck to paycheck. When we realized that it was possible to reach our goals, we wanted to share that knowledge with others.

2. What is your greatest strength when it comes to running your business?

I am good at creating a plan and executing it without too much procrastination.

3. What is the area entrepreneurship where you could grow the most?


I am terrible at marketing, and sometimes let my business take over my personal life.

4. If you were to start your business over today, what piece of advice or lesson learned would you emphasize to yourself?


Don’t expect the clients to start rolling in the first time you send out an offer. Give yourself time and grace.

5. What is your best advice for balancing business and home life or creating intentional family time?

Add family time to your schedule. It isn’t something you will get to when work is done, it is the most important work you will do. Add one thing every day that you can do as a family or one-on-one with a child. Even if it only takes 30 minutes, it will help your children feel loved, appreciated, and safe.

Where can we find you online and on social media?

Website

Facebook


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How Eating the Frog Helps You Get More Done

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What in the world is eating the frog?!? 🐸🐸🐸

And how can it possibly help me get more done???

Let’s finish up our week of tips for balancing work at home with homeschool with a little talk about priorities. Eating the frog kind of priorities. Yes, eating a frog. And no, I haven’t completely lost my mind. <Ribbit>

The term “eat the frog” comes from the quote…

“If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning. And if it’s your job to eat two frogs, it’s best to eat the biggest one first.”

Mark Twain

I can’t imagine there’s a lot of you who would enjoy eating a frog. And if you do, I’m not judging. But if your job depends on you doing something that you aren’t very motivated to do but needs doing (because it means you’ll make more money, get more clients, or serve your community)…do that thing first. And this same logic can apply to those homeschool assignments that your kids may not be so excited to do.

Eating the frog ensures you get the tasks you NEED to do but don’t WANT to do done. And off your to-do list. No more spinning your wheels doing things for your business that won’t actually move you forward. No more kids realizing at 9pm they have a report due tomorrow but they put it off all day. Eat the frog. Then move on to the tasks you’ll enjoy doing. Usually with a clearer mind and the satisfaction in knowing you got the task you’ve been dreading finished.

You succeed at eating the frog when you’re aware of what needs finished. By knowing your priority tasks. And dedicating yourself to completing those tasks first.

Need tips on figuring out those priority tasks? Click here to check out last week’s episode about TRIM-ing your to-do list.

Often, we are really good at making a to-do list. But then focus on what we want to do. Or what would be the most fun. Or what would be the least work. Taking the extra step to identify your priority task, even if it isn’t your favorite thing to do, ensures the most important tasks are completed to move your business forward. Or that your child’s important assignment is complete.

So if you ever catch yourself wondering why you feel like you work all the time but aren’t seeing results…it may be time to eat the frog. Does your kid always tells you about a big report or assignment at the last minute? It might be time for them to eat the frog.

Complete your urgent and important tasks first to help clear up time and brain space for the things you like to do. Or want to do. You’ll feel less stressed and make more money because you are focusing first on the tasks that will generate revenue. Or grow your community. For your kids, they will learn to get the tasks they hate to do out of the way. And learning to create a prioritized list of tasks is a life skill that benefits them when mom isn’t around. You know, to make sure they get those frogs eaten in college and beyond.

And when you focus on eating the frog, you’ll feel less stressed looking at your to-do list. Imagine a list of 7 tasks, 3 of which you are dreading to do. If you knock those 3 out first, the other 4 tasks will be much easier for you to tackle. You’ll feel more motivated to finish your list rather than letting those tasks you’re dreading hang out until tomorrow.

And when those important tasks we need to do for our work or school life are done clients are happier. Teachers are happier. Our bank accounts are happier. And really the family, in general, is happier.

So as you sit down to create your list of to-do’s, whether it is a daily list, a weekly list. Whether the list is for your business, your child’s school, or just a list of chores around the house…figure out which tasks are your frogs. The tasks you must do for your job in order to generate more revenue. Or serve your clients in an immediate way. The assignments that will have the greatest impact on your child’s grades or education. The household tasks that you’ve been avoiding but are necessary and important. Find your frog and eat it first thing. You’ll be happy you did. And if it’s hard to swallow, ketchup makes nearly everything better.

Your eating the frog action step is to pick that one urgent and important task from your to-do list that you dread doing. And do it first. Make a conscious effort when you look at your list to identify any resistance around those urgent and important tasks. And that same applies as you create a daily list with your kids…encourage them to complete work for the subjects the like least out of the way first. Then they can focus that waning, late day energy on things they prefer. I’d love to hear what frogs you’re eating. Drop me a comment below to let me know what’s on your list.


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Organizing Your Workspace for Work and Homeschool Success

What do organizing your workspace and productivity have in common?

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Let’s continue the theme of making your work and homeschool life easier with tips for organizing your workspace. Organizing creates an environment that fosters focus. It minimizes distractions. It also helps keep mom work or school work from spilling from room to room. And prevents lost homework, lost Chromebooks, lost workbooks, lost reading books, etc.

Want to see massive results in focus and productivity? Commit to creating a specific workspace. And maintain the space by putting things away in their place so you can find them when you need them. It’s literally as easy as a 10 minute clean up at the end of your school or workday. You start the following day with a clear space. Plus you have the items you need when you need them…Because an organized workspace means less time looking for lost things.

So many people see organizing their desk as a one and done task. They do it monthly or seasonally or perhaps when the space becomes unbearable. I’m suggesting that you work the practice of maintaining your space into your daily work or school routine.

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And you may be thinking “at the end of the day I just want to be done”. Or there’s no way I can get my kid to clean up when they are done, they just want out. But the long term benefits to maintaining your workspace include getting work done quicker, working more focused, and actually spending less time “working” because you have what you need when you need it and aren’t getting up to look for it.

And let’s be real…how many of us enjoy saying “do you know where your folder with you work is”. Or “where is my laptop? I have Zoom call”. Knowing where to find the supplies we need makes working from home, whatever that work is, so much easier.

And I’m sure your family will gladly spend a few extra minutes putting things away at the end of work session if they can avoid crazy mommy time. My kids will literally do anything to prevent crazy mommy time.

Steps for Organizing Your Workspace

Have I convinced you? Do you agree that taking the time to organize a specific workspace is beneficial for you? Your family? And your neighbors who may hear you losing your mind? Here are my steps create and keep a workspace organized.

First, make sure you collect all the items you might need in one space. Depending on your curriculum or your work, there is a list of frequently used items you will need. Make a list of those items then start to collect them in on place. And don’t think “I don’t have a home office so I can’t create a workspace”. Or “we have 3 kids and only one office to share so we can’t create dedicated spaces”. Sure, you may not be able to have one desk per child. But each kid can have a bin or basket to hold the supplies they need in one place. And the same applies to mom.

Organizing your workspace is especially important if you share a workspace. It makes it easier to keep track of whose work is whose. You can see what supplies refilled. And it makes it easy to make your workspace mobile if you need family members working in different rooms.

Next, make a habit of putting those supplies away in their home after your work sessions. Maintenance is a far too often overlooked step in organizing processes. And spending a few minutes returning items to their homes can save you many minutes, even hours, looking for office supplies and lost homework.

My challenge to you today is to make a list of everything you need in a typical workday. Or everything your child would need in a school day. Bonus points if you go ahead and collect all those items in one space. And bonus bonus points if you assign them a home in your home. 🤣

Got questions about organizing your space? What to put your supplies in? How to get in the maintenance habit? Let me know in the comments below…


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How to Balance Homeschool and Work Like a Mom Boss

Looking to balance homeschool and work from home?

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This week, I want to give you strategies to balance work from home and homeschool for all those mamas out there who might be gearing up to homeschool or distance learning.

Today we are going to talk about what you need to be doing NOW to get your routine in place to work from home and homeschool. And from what I see around social media, there are LOTS of moms out there who will need to balance this is some way, shape or form. It could mean full-time homeschool. Or maybe in class part-time. And possibly preparing in case your kids are heading back but there is that chance that they may be home for school at some point. My tips today will help you create a structure and routine so everyone knows expectations, what needs done when, and that everyone in the family has what they need to get their work done…whether that work is school work or mom work.

Want to know what will make you most successful when it comes to the balancing act? Taking time now to pre-plan by creating structure and getting very clear on what your work and home priorities. Winging it does not work for running a business. It often does not work for family life. And based on what I read in many Facebook groups, winging it while homeschooling and trying to run a business or work from home does not work either.

The steps we are going to talk about today may be different from what you tried in the Spring because now we have some time to plan. At least we know what is coming or have an idea of what to expect. We can start to create a structure for our success. We know what worked or did not work in the past. And we can add or subtract or change where necessary.

Can I Balance Homeschool and Work?

I know there may be mamas out there feeling anxiety over what the school year will look like. Maybe you felt overwhelmed in the Spring. Maybe you feel like your kids will fall behind and that you will be blamed for their loss of education. There is understandably a lot of fear around being responsible for the education for your kids. You might also be stressed because there are literally not enough hours in the day to do everything. Like the only thing that can make this situation any better would be a cloning machine…or a fast forward button.

But implementing the steps we are talking about today you can feel confident in your efforts. You will know when your kids will be working, when you are working, and what the expectations for your family. And you can actually feel accomplished in your day because you focus your time on completing your priority tasks.

And having a daily schedule will help everyone in your house to know the expectations. As I’ve said before and I’ll say again…kids thrive on structure and routine. Clearly defining expectations helps diffuse arguments and helps everyone complete their work.

And when there is less confusion, frustration, yelling, or questions, the family will feel more calm. And they will get more done. There are clear and stated expectations for every day. And when those tasks are completed, you’re free to do whatever socially distanced, family activities you want. Right?

So what exactly is this framework or structure I’m talking about? Well, here are the 4 pillars I use to complete my work while balancing school.

Create a Clearly Defined Daily Schedule

First, I create a clearly defined daily schedule. I know what I am doing when. And my kids know their schedule too. I know I wake up at 5 am and I will be working on XYZ until they wake. They know at breakfast we will go over their assignment for the day. We talk about what is due today. And what we can move until later in the week if we don’t get it done.

I also make sure I set reminders on my phone for Zoom calls or important project due dates. You also do this on a written calendar. But it’s just easy for me to tell my digital assistant to add a reminder or task to my calendar.

One final note when it comes to a daily schedule…I found it helpful to write down the assignments that were due each day. Kind of like what I would do for my daily to-do list. I would check the apps our teachers used when we were eating breakfast to create our daily workflow. And to make your school day planning easier, I’ve created a link to a customizable worksheet on Canva. This is like the one I use so you can implement a similar plan and structure. I’ve made it so you can customize it with your kid’s names and subjects. Print it out daily. Or you can do like I did and laminate it so you can reuse the same copy.

Grab your free School Day Template to help create your daily routine by clicking here.

Start Practicing Your Routine Now

Speaking of implementing a plan and routine, my second pillar is to start practicing your new schedule now. Summer may have lead to later evenings, later mornings, and a willy nilly meal schedule. But think about how schools run their day…there is a clear pattern of events. A bell rings. You have announcements. You eat your lunch at a certain time. Have recess at a certain time. By a few weeks in, even the youngest kids know the flow of the day and expectations.

That is why it is so key for you to start to work on your “school day” schedule. Start waking at regular times. eating at regular times. Maybe even include some reading or learning to wake those brain muscles back up if they’ve also been on break. And to be clear, I am not suggesting a super rigid schedule down to the minute…unless of course that is what works best for your family. Create a simple schedule now like: wake at 8 am. Eat breakfast until 9 am. Read between 9 and 10. Do some sort of physical activity from 10-11…Work a structure back in place to help you succeed when actual assignments start coming in from your school.

Know Your Priorities

My third pillar is priorities…for both your work and your kids’ schoolwork, it is vital that you know what is due when. You have to know what MUST be done first. This way you aren’t struggling to file a report while your kid is struggling to write a report.

Knowing due dates, getting them on your schedule, making time to focus on them will help knock those important to-do’s off your list. You may even be able to bring in help or enlist a spouse or older child. For instance, if you have an urgent project that needs completing at the same time your kid will need help. This is why you need to know when those priorities are due. Remember proper preparation prevents poor performance. Know your priorities, get them on the schedule, and get help when things feel overwhelming.

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Give Yourself Grace

Finally, you need to give yourself some grace. Actually, a lot of grace. Many of us tackling homeschool or distance learning didn’t expect to be teachers. Obviously there are going to be days when school or work is easier than others. As evidenced by the multitude of social media posts I saw last Spring, many of you worried not only about the education of your child, but about your relationship with you children…which in many cases never included teaching math or science. Do your best…make a structure, stick to a routine, know your expectations, clarify the expectations for your kids, and complete priority tasks.

Take some time today to map out what your day might look like once school starts…If it hasn’t started already. Create a loose schedule. Talk to your kids about what it will look like. Talk to them about your needs to work from home and what you expect of them. And as soon as you can, start implementing a framework. Include wake up time, meal times, and of course, play times. And don’t forget to grab my free download to help you organize your daily assignments. You can grab that by clicking here.

Got a great tip to share how you balance homeschool and work? Please share in the comments below. 👇👇👇


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TRIM you to-do list to get more done

You Should TRIM Your To-Do List to Get More Done

Feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list?

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If you are the mom with a huge, constantly revolving to-do list on your Notes app or a yellow legal pad, today’s episode is for you. If you feel like you don’t know what to do or where to start because your list is so long, I got you, mama.

My TRIM method will help you pare your to-do list down to the essentials and focus on what is urgent and important to do for your work, home, and family. And by focusing on what is a priority, those urgent and important things, you’ll feel less overwhelmed. And you may even want to tackle some of those other to-do list tasks that aren’t as urgent and important.

Up until now, you may just keep a running log of what you want to get done. Or maybe you have a daily checklist in a planner or on your phone. But have you taken the time to prioritize the tasks? Or are you just doing them in the order they’re written? Maybe you’re doing what you want to do first?

By TRIM-ing your to-do list first, you pay your bills, you file your reports in a timely manner, and you see results from completing tasks that will actually have an impact on your work and home life.

When you focus on the tasks that will really have an effect, you will start to feel more accomplished. You may even find some of those other tasks you THOUGHT you needed to do don’t need done now. You may be able to shorten what it is that you need to do. And you can cut down on busywork that may just be you spinning your wheels rather than actually progressing forward.

And of course, when mama feels more accomplished and happy, the family feels more accomplished and happy. Trust me, it is much easier to shut down working mom brain and focus on family time when you cross those urgent and important tasks off the to-do list.

Take a look at your list of tasks and determine what is urgent and important if it falls into these categories…and just a note, some tasks may fall into more than one of these categories. I feel like that just emphasizes the fact that you should do those tasks first.

“T” is for Time Sensitive

Does the task have a deadline or due date? Is that deadline or due date approaching or has it passed? Or are there sub-tasks that are time sensitive that you need to do in order to complete the project or tasks on time? Like you’re doing a podcast interview next week but the host would like you to send a headshot and bio before the interview. Because there is a due date for submitting my headshot and bio, I would consider that task “Time Sensitive”.

“R” is for Required

In other words, is it something you must do or there may be a consequence. For instance, you have to log into a certain site and watch a video. You have to take a class. Or you need to take a test. You need to schedule a meeting. Think “what will happen if I don’t do this tasks.” If the answer is something that may have negative results for your business, your home, or your family, then it is a required tasks you need to do.

“I” stands for Impact

Impact tasks will positively affect your business or home life. From a business standpoint, this is where being clear on which marketing avenues actually help you grow your business and get new clients, and which do not. If a huge part of your clientele comes from social media, tasks related to social media would be considered “impactful”. But if you don’t see a good ROI on a particular platform or you find more success with networking or email marketing, make sure those tasks that make an impact are the first to-do’s you tackle.

“M” is for Money-Related

Finally, will doing this tasks help you make money? I could mean returning an email or phone call to a potential client. Or finishing an online product. Or uploading items to sell in your online store. It could also mean not doing this task cost you money…as in paying your bills late or not paying your bills at all. Think of how completing or not completing this task can positively or negatively impact your bottom line for your business or your family.

Today’s action step for TRIMing your to-do list starts with evaluating your list. Determine what needs done first and what could be delayed or dropped. If a task is Time Sensitive, Required, Will Have a Impact, or is Money Related, do those tasks first! Anything else you can throw in during your day will be a bonus.

Doing a regular review to TRIM your to-do’s will help you stay on track of the most urgent and important tasks for your home and business and help you feel like you get more done. So, what can you TRIM from your to-do list today? Tell me in the comment below…


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3 Ways to Find More Time for What Matters

Trying to find more time for family? Self-care? Your spouse?

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Today, I’m talking to the mamas who feel like they never have enough time. I am going to help you find or create more time in your day. And yes, I am a magician. 😉

Here’s the trick…Are you willing to make some choices with where you spend your time? Are you willing to work on figuring out your priorities? Then you will start to find more time to do the things you love.

And this is great because you have the power to start right now. Today. As soon as you finish listening to this episode. You have always had this ability and it will cost you nothing to get started. Win and win in my book!

Incorporating and practicing today’s time management tactics will help you find time in your day and schedule for what is important to you. You will start to feel like you are less stressed on a daily basis because your to-do list is getting to-done. And you can actually find some time to do something for yourself…if that is one of your priorities. Which it absolutely should be. 😉

And your family will benefit from you being less stressed and more available to them for focused, family time. Sound like something you can get on board with? Yep, I totally agree.

Pick Your No’s

Your first tip to find more time is to Pick Your No’s.  Whump-whump…as in the things you say “no” to. I stole this bit of parenting advice I received when I was pregnant for my first child. But I think it applies well here as well. So often when we feel overscheduled or stressed about time, it’s because we have said “yes” too often. “Yes!” I will do this for a client on short notice. I will absolutely enroll my kids in 7 different activities. “Sure.” I will agree to make cookies for the school fundraiser and deliver meals to a friend who’s had a baby. And run a business. And have a family life…

Just to be clear, I am not saying any of these things are wrong or that you shouldn’t do them…unless you feel overwhelmed by your schedule and that things are slipping through the cracks. When you start to feel that way, you have to pick your no’s and figure out where saying yes is important and where you need to say no.

Make Your Priorities a Priority

Picking your “no’s” goes hand-in-hand with my second tip to find more time…Make your priorities a priority. Know what is important for you to focus your time on. Get those activities on the calendar. Do what’s important first thing when you sit down to work or with your family when you wake up each day.

I often see a vicious cycle where moms are frustrated because they feel pulled in too many directions because they aren’t clear on what is important for their business or family life. And because they aren’t clear on what’s important in their business or family life, they do all the things trying to make sure every base is covered…all the while stressing out themselves and often their family.

Getting clear on your priorities helps you focus your time and energy on the things that truly matter in growing your business or spending time with your family. And if you have time for other stuff, that’s gravy.

Ask for Help

My final tip to find more time is to let someone help you. And I know this can be hard. Believe me. I am the queen of thinking I can just do it all myself. Or that I can do it so I should. Or that I can do it right and I don’t want someone to mess it up. But letting go of a little control and allowing ourselves help will go a long way in helping us buy time, move forward, and spend more time with our families. You cannot be the only person who does all the things without cracking eventually.

And getting help doesn’t mean surrendering all control. This may mean your spouse puts the kids to bed so you can work on your priorities in the evening. Or everyone pitches in for a 10-minute cleanup session every afternoon. Yes, your spouse might not read The Pout Pout Fish the way you do. And yes, the toys might not make it into the exact right bin you’ve labeled. But sometimes done is better than perfect. Especially if you feel stressed and overwhelmed.

If you feel ready and inspired to find more time in your schedule for what is important and what you love, I want to you take action on the steps I’ve given you today…

  • Pick Your No’s and start saying yes only when something is a priority.
  • Make your priorities a priority. Get those urgent and important things that help you grow your business or spend more quality time with your family on the schedule.
  • Ask for help if you are still struggling to fit it all in. Figure out what you can have someone in your family help with or hire out tasks that don’t require your direct involvement.

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Combat Working Mom Guilt Like a Pro

Let’s chat working mom guilt.

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Mom guilt something that I dealt with since I became a mother. I have always worked since I had my kids. I stayed home for about 14 weeks with my first son. When I went back to work and had three different part-time jobs during the first year of his life. So I totally get the working mom guilt thing.

I’ve developed a couple of strategies because I believe that kids need us. But I also believe there is something to be learned in learning patience or maybe even a little boredom.

Today’s podcast episode helps all you mamas out there feeling like you can’t ever get anything done because the minute you start to write an email or unload the dishwasher, a tiny human starts crying that they need your attention. The tips I share help the mamas who can problem solve for the fits and tears before they happen…and who can work on a healthy mindset about what your child can learn by playing independently.

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Up until now, you may have tried asking them to play quietly or told them you needed some space without actually creating a plan for spending quality time either before or after you work.

My tactics may be different from what you’ve tried in the past because they require a bit of pre-planning…both in your work schedule and in your thinking around how you will confront those guilty feelings that creep up when your kids are crying but you need to get work done.

If you implement these steps you will start to create confidence in your kid’s ability to play independently. AND your ability to work (even if it is just for short periods of time). You’ll feel much less of that mom guilt because you are actually building quality time with your kids into your schedule.

Creating a routine around when you work helps everyone know what to expect when mom needs to work. You’ll hear me say this a lot…kids and adults love structure and routine.

Another fun fact, you benefit by getting work done and spending quality time with your kids. Your kids will benefit by spending quality time with you and learning some independent play skills…what’s not to love. Here are three of my strategies for combatting working mom guilt like a pro.

Start with Quality Time

First, start out your work session with some quality time with your child before your quality time for work. This helps to assuage any mom guilt because you know you’ve spent time with your kids. If you’ve got younger kids, start out by having them pick out to short books or an easy game. You’ll read or play with them. Then say “all right, Mommy needs to work now and when we get done we can do something else.”

Spending quality time before takes the working mom guilt off the plate because, ta-da, you already have spent some time with your kids. Start with short activities that might take like 15 or 20 minutes prior to your work session. This will help to tamper those guilty feelings of taking time to do the work that you need to do.

And that “work” doesn’t need to be sitting at a computer and answering emails. That work might be putting away laundry or I’m cleaning the bathroom. You can totally use the same sort of tactic of starting out with intentional time one-on-one time with the kids. And then move into your work, whatever that looks like.

Give Them a Carrot

My next tip is offering them a carrot…Try saying “if you give me the time I need to get this work done, then we will do something you want to do.” Like we will go on a bike ride. Or we will go to the park. Or we will do something that will take a little bit more time.

This works really well if you have analog clocks in your house. As a professional organizer, I often encouraged my clients to have analog clocks. They really help for kids (and adults) to see the passage of time better. In this instance, you say to them “if you give me till a certain time, we will do something that you want to do.” Then you are able to point to the clock and say “the big hand is on the three. If you give me to work until the big hand is on the 12, we will take a bike ride.

Analog clocks give a visual way to see this passage of time. It helps to know when they’re going to get that thing you are offering them. This tactic can also buy you time for work that you’re doing in your house.

Boredom is Good for Kids

My final tip for tamping down mom guilt while you’re trying to be productive is that boredom is actually good for kids. And I know that that sounds crazy to think about but it actually encourages problem solving and creativity. The idea that you have to be 24/7 available to meet the entertainment needs of your kids just isn’t true. And there are plenty of studies to back this up.

A 2014 study from the University of Michigan observed how kids react to having more options to play with and guided play versus less options and independent play. They found when they gave kids fewer toys and allowed them to play independently, it encouraged problem solving and creativity. Because it forces them to exercise those brain muscles.

And the same is true if you are trying to be productive and get stuff done around your house. Telling kids they need to go figure out for themselves what they want to play with is a great way for them to create those neurological pathways. It allows their brain to be creative and to solve problems. Don’t feel like you have to spoon feed your kids entertainment every single day…Especially if you are trying to be productive.

How will you pre-plan to combat working mom guilt? What are your techniques for creating healthy mindset around working in front of kids? Share below to help a mama who may need your strategy. 😀


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Screen-free play ideas

Screen-Free Play Ideas So Mom Can Work

You’ve gotta work. Is it possible to get your kids to play…screen-free?

Why yes it is. I got you, mama. I’ve reached out to some of my working mom/blogging friends for their best screen-free play ideas. Whether you’ve got toddlers attached to you ankles or 10-year-olds with video game controllers attached to their hands, there is an idea for your family.

And just to be clear…my kids play on screens. We have tablets. And we have Netflix et al. We even have a Nintendo Switch. But I definitely look for ideas to break up their screen time with some screen-free fun.

One quick suggestion before we dive into the screen-free play ideas you might use…spend some quality time with your kiddos before you need them to play independently. It may be reading a book or having a tea party. Or sitting with them at breakfast without a phone or laptop. It doesn’t have to be hours. Sometimes just 15-30 minutes before your start your “work hours”. Engaging with kids before you need them to play independently will help you start your work knowing you’ve given them some undivided attention. Good for your family. Great for your mom guilt. 😉

For more on teaching your kids independent play skills, you can check out my “Independence Skills for Independent Kids” course. But now, let’s jump into the fun stuff…

Screen-Free Play Ideas from My House

I’ll start with a list of favorites from my house. My boys are 7 and 9 but I’ll include some of their favorites from their younger years. 😭

  • Kinetic Sand (preferred over Play-Doh)
  • Hot Wheels Cars (be sure to check out the super cool track idea from Emily below)
  • Figure Play with Dinosaurs and Transformers
  • Large Floor Puzzles featuring Dinosaurs and Space
  • Duplos/Legos/Kid K’nex (my boys have played with this set for 6+ years)

We keep a fairly minimal household when it comes to toys so don’t think you need more to occupy your kids. One thing that helped me was to look for open ended play like the figures or the cars. That way they weren’t running to me after 10 minutes when the puzzle was finished or the game was done. Open ended play allows them to create a story with no end (well, hopefully.)

Schedule Your Screen-Free Play Times

My good friend Rose Lounsbury is a keynote speaker and minimalism and simplicity coach. She is also mom to 11 year old triplets. #handsfull She says they stick with the tried-and-true old faithfuls like sidewalk chalk, Legos, simple art supplies that make kids do most of the work (aka markers and plain paper), craft kits that kids can do on their own, books, trampoline in the backyard, bikes and scooters.

At 11, Rose’s triplets are able to do more independent play than younger kids but she’s found that the key is creating a SCHEDULE they can stick to and come to rely on. They brainstorm the schedule TOGETHER so they have ownership and honestly, her kids just follow this every day. Sometimes she will remind them if they start to slack on it but they’re so used to following a schedule that it’s second nature now. Check out an example of her schedule below. And you can connect with Rose on Instagram and Facebook.

Summer Schedule - Screen-Free Play Ideas
Photo Courtesy of Rose Lounsbury

Screen-Free Play Ideas for Toddlers

Next, we jump to Kristen Holland who blogs at Gracefully Busy. One of her favorite ideas was to set up an indoor obstacle course. She encourages her 2-year-old son through the course a few times and cheers him on. Once he’s burned out some energy on the obstacle course, he will spend time playing with it on his own. Check out her obstacle course below.

Obstacle Course - Screen-Free Play
Photo Courtesy of Gracefully Busy

Kristen has lots of other great ideas for screen-free and independent play ideas for your toddlers in her post “9 Activities to Keep Your Toddler Busy at Home.”

Screen-Free Play Ideas for All Ages

My friend Emily from Happy Organized Life is no stranger to keeping kids occupied. Along with writing a successful blog and homeschooling, Emily is mom to 7 (well, nearly 7…#7 is due this fall but close enough 🤣) I love Emily’s round-up of ideas for pool noodle fun. Especially with summer winding down and what could potentially be a long fall and winter, she features great ideas to repurpose your stockpile of pool noodles for outdoor and indoor fun. As a mom of Hot Wheels loving boys, I especially love the idea of the Hot Wheels tracks pictured below.

Photo courtesy of Ramblings from Utopia

You can check out Emily’s full round-up of pool noodle ideas on her post “Fun Pool Noodle Activities”. She also featured a slew of electronics-free play ideas in her post “How to Have Fun Indoors Without Electronics”. One of my favorites is this Mission: Impossible-style laser maze made from streamers. What a great way to use up the ends of the streamer roll from your last birthday celebration!

Photo courtesy of Brassy Apple

If you want more ideas for a Happy Organized Life from Emily, you can connect with her on Facebook and Instagram.

What are your favorite screen-free, electronics-free play ideas for your kids? I’m always looking for new ideas…share yours below!


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organizing your workspace

Organizing Your Workspace with The Simplifiers

Let’s talk organizing your workspace…

Would you consider your office calm or chaotic? Do you find you can be productive at your desk? Does your workspace set up work for you? Or are you often working in another space or wasting time searching for documents, files, or supplies? Read on to see how organizing your workspace can help you with productivity and time management. And a bit of sanity.

Last Summer, I appeared on the UK-based podcast The Simplifiers with host Mary Baird-Wilcock. Mary and I discussed where to start creating a system to organize your space, how to manage paper, and how to maintain your efforts.

Even if you feel completely comfortable in a chaotic workspace, a few tweaks here and there will help you with efficiency and productivity. And show your boss you care. 😉 You can watch my interview with Mary below:

Here are some of the highlights from my discussion with Mary:

Creating Organizing Systems in Your Workspace

  • Organizing your space is personal to your style and preferences. If something isn’t working for you, tweak it or try something different. There is something out there that will work for you.
  • Keep it simple at the beginning. Baby steps make creating new habits easier. And it will be easier to maintain.
  • To figure out your personal system, start by figuring out the basics you NEED to do your work. Put those items in the closest proximity to your workspace.
  • Next, figure out what items you use occasionally. Things you access on a weekly or monthly basis. Those items can be placed further away from your primary workspace. But still convenient enough to access when you need them.
  • Finally, determine what items would be rarely needed. Create a space out of the way for archival and reference items. This way you have them on hand if you need them. But they aren’t cluttering up your prime workspace.
  • Schedule a specific time to organize and reset your workspace. This will ensure you can follow all the steps of pulling items out, sorting like with like, purging what you don’t need, and assigning where items will now live.

Just because a system is working, doesn’t mean it couldn’t work better.

Organizing Paper in Your Workspace

  • Touch paper as few times as possible when it arrives on your desk. Break it into 3 categories:
    • Recycle or pitch items you know you won’t need or need to address.
    • File or assign items that have a specific place or person to process them
    • Determine a course of action for items that need attention. Consider using desktop files with action words for the labels. Words like “email”, “call”, or pay work well.
  • Determine your best method for storing paper. Are you a piler or a filer? It doesn’t matter how you keep it. Just create a specific place for items to go so you, and those in your office, will know where to find it when you need it.

Organizing is about retrieval of information at a moments notice.

Organizing Maintenance for Your Workspace

  • How do you maintain the space you’ve spent time organizing? You have to make the time to do it.
  • Schedule time for regular resets to refresh the space. It is also a great time to tweak systems to make sure they are working for you.
  • The more often you reset the space, the less time it will take.

You do not just get organized…it’s the development of organizing skills.

Organizing your workspace will help you find what you need. It will help you do more in less time. You will feel more in control and less stress. Organizing your workspace is always worth the time investment.


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