How to Overcome Your Limiting Beliefs - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Overcome Your Limiting Beliefs as a Mompreneur

Are your limiting beliefs holding you back?

What do you hear the voices in your head saying when you talk yourself out of doing something new? Or something bold? Or something scary? Those voices, my mama friends, are known as your limiting beliefs. And they just might be what is holding you back from reaching the next level of success you crave as an entrepreneur or an uplevel you crave in your personal life.

But today we are going to help you identify and move past those limiting beliefs so you can achieve emotional security and mental strength. And the person to help us do that is Heidi Gruss. Heidi is a licensed psychotherapist and transformation strategist who specializes in working with burned out women seeking a change in their lives. She brings to her clients two decades of clinical and administrative experience in both private and corporate behavioral health settings. Heidi spent four years running a multi-million-dollar behavioral health program for the state of Connecticut that became a model for the rest of the United States.

Through her multi-six figure coaching business, she helps women rapidly identify and overcome negative patterns of behavior that hold them back from success in business, health and life. Her clients have been able to obtain much-deserved promotions, transition into different careers, create greater work-life balance and improve their well-being.

Heidi’s expertise was featured in media outlets such as Master Your Mindset With Coach Marc, The Bigger Braver Show, Grow Your Path to Wellness and Victim to Victory. She has also presented to audiences of thousands on virtual and live stages across the United States. She lives in Waterford, Connecticut, with her husband and three children.

Highlights on Overcoming Your Limiting Beliefs

  • Tell me a little about what you do in your practice? Most people seek me out because of my background in psychotherapy. But also because I am a successful business owner. I’ve owned my clinical practice and been an entrepreneur for many years. Because of this experience, I can really empathize with what entrepreneurs experience on their path to success.
  • What is your definition of a limiting belief? Ultimately, what I teach my clients is that a limiting belief is just a story. It’s an internal dialogue that’s keeping you stuck in your current circumstances. I use the word “story” because if it were a truth, it would apply to every entrepreneur across the board. Ask yourself “is this true for every person?”
  • Now that we know what a limiting belief is, how can identify them in ourselves? Once I ask my clients the questions “is this true across the board?”, it helps them see that there are other options. And once I have the buy in that it isn’t an absolute truth, we can explore what the real block is. For me, the block is typically an emotion.
  • Is overcoming these limiting beliefs that hold us back something that will take practice? It’s definitely a tool. Once you overcome a limiting belief the first time, that’s a tool no one can take away from you.

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Rapid Fire Questions for Heidi

  1. Are you a morning person or a night owl? Morning person, all day.
  2. What is your favorite activity to do with your family? We love to be outside. We’re heading into beach season. we have a pool.
  3. What is your favorite activity to do without your family? I love to read.
  4. Best book you’ve read or listened to recently? Fiction is “Pretty Things” by Janelle Brown. Non-fiction is “Never Split the Difference” by Chris Voss.
  5. Tool or hack that makes your mom life or work life easier? I swear by my paper planner. I have a whole ritual every morning so I know exactly what’s expected of the day.

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Balance Your Hormones as a Mompreneur - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Begin to Balance Your Hormones as a Mompreneur

Do you know how to balance your hormones?

Or how your hormones effect your daily life? Not just once a month or when you’re pregnant. But how to balance your hormones to maintain the day in/day out functions. And fluxuations that affect your mood, your weight, your appetite, and your energy levels. This is an area I’ve become more interested in since my breast cancer diagnosis and that’s why I wanted to bring Laura Martire on to the podcast.

Laura is a registered holistic nutritionist and the founder of Laura Martire Holistic Wellness. She specializes in women’s hormone health and through her own journey to wellness knows firsthand how simple changes, a shift in my mindset, and a commitment to prioritizing your health can make all the difference in being on the path to feeling your absolute best.

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Highlights from How to Balance Your Hormones

  1. Tell me a little about what you do and how you got started?  In 2016 left my career to care for my father full time following a cancer diagnosis. After his passing, I was at my lowest point health-wise and was dealing with hormone issues and digestive issues and I as began the process of healing I ended up going down the path of holistic nutrition.  I loved it so much that I decided to go back to school and open my own practice. Now I help support other women in taking charge of their health and understanding how their habits contribute to their symptoms.   
  2. I know this may be a huge question to answer in a short period of time, but can you explain what our hormones are and what their function is? In a nutshell, hormones are chemical messengers in our bodies. They help coordinate functions like sleep, metabolism, mood, hunger, energy, etc.   They play a role in just about everything so when they become imbalanced it can really have an impact on how you feel.   
  3. What can cause a hormone imbalance?  Lots of things…from the foods you eat to how you manage stress. From dieting and gut health to your skincare products and home cleaning products. So much can contribute to issues with your hormones. This is why I love a holistic approach to health as it takes into account not only what you eat, but also your daily habits and routines. 
  4. What are some of the signs we should look for that indicate a hormone imbalance?  Signs you need to balance your hormones might include low energy, low libido, hair loss, acne, stubborn weight or weight gain, brain fog, cravings, disrupted sleep, and mood swings. 
  5. What are some things we can do at home if we know we’ve experienced some of the causes of hormone imbalance or we start to see the symptoms of imbalance?  Try to manage your stress. Prepare well-balanced meals and seek out good nutrition. Eat foods that keep your blood sugar in balance. Stay aware of what’s in the products you are using. And try to move your body daily.

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Rapid Fire Questions for Laura

  1. Are you a morning person or a night owl? 100% a morning person.
  2. What is your favorite activity to do with your family? Going for a nice long walk or a hike.
  3. What is your favorite activity to do without your family? Read a book.
  4. Best book you’ve read or listened to recently? Under the Stars (novel).
  5. Tool or hack that makes your mom life or work life easier? As a nutritionist, meal prep. Making sure I’ve got my fridge and cupboards stocked with healthy ingredients I can use to pull together an easy meal.

Ready to experience better mental, physical, and emotional health without sacrificing additional time and energy? Let’s jump on a free, no-obligation 15-minute clarity call to see how I can help you experience more fun & fulfillment in your work and home life.

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Why You and Your Kids Need a Sleep Routine - Business Savvy Mama

Why You and Your Kids Need a Sleep Routine

If you had to rate your kids’ sleep routine on a scale from 1-10, 10 being the best, how would you rate yours? I know the sleeping habits of kids at any age can have an impact on stress levels and sleeping habits of moms. And we need as little stress and as much sleep we can get when we’re trying to juggle running a business and running a home.

That’s why I’ve brought in an expert to help create healthy sleep habits and routines for our kids. Meet Anna McMillan of Little Winks Sleep. Anna is originally from New Zealand and now lives in British Columbia, Canada, with her hubby and 2 kids. Anna believes in facilitating strong attachment between you and your little one while using the science behind sleep to help your family thrive.

Highlights for Creating a Sleep Routine

  1. Tell me a little about what you do and how you got started? I work with families to help teach their little ones to sleep and create a sleep routine. I started exploring sleep training when I was a foster parent before I was a biological parent. He was not a good sleeper and I became obsessed with understanding how sleep works. Then when I had my own child I knew there had to be a better way than letting the child “cry it out”. So I because certified and now I have 5 sleep coaches that work with me.
  2. I think we often focus on the benefits of sleep training our kids on them, but what are some of the benefits for us mom business owners who are trying to juggle it all? First off, your anxiety will rapidly decrease when you have a good sleep routine. And you have a better ability to regulate yourself and your kids when you are well rested. We need to make sure we are managing ourselves so we can manage our businesses properly. And finally, you can remember things. Shifting from short term memory to long term memory happens when we sleep.
  3. What are some of the signs that we may need to bring in a sleep professional like you for our child? First, ask yourself “am I ready?” You need to be ready to stay consistent even in the hard moments. Then ask yourself “does our current sleep routine cause stress?” If it’s not working for one of the three of you (yourself, the baby, and the other primary caregiver), that’s when we need to look for change and be strategic about it.
  4. Are there any small steps we can take on our own to start the sleep training process in our home? the first thing we need to take a look at is timing. And you can download my free nap cheat sheet or my free awake times chart to figure out how long your baby needs to be awake. These can be helpful before making any changes to your current sleep routine.

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Rapid Fire Questions for Anna

  1. Are you a morning person or a night owl? Night owl.
  2. What is your favorite activity to do with your family? Swimming.
  3. What is your favorite activity to do without your family? Pottery or drinking wine. Or pottery while drinking wine. 🤣
  4. Best book you’ve read or listened to recently? Better Late Than Never by Emma Mahony about mid-life ADHD diagnosis in women.
  5. Tool or hack that makes your mom life or work life easier? I always wake up before my kids. Whoever starts the day, leads the day.

Ready to experience better mental, physical, and emotional health without sacrificing additional time and energy? Let’s jump on a free, no-obligation 15-minute clarity call to see how I can help you experience more fun & fulfillment in your work and home life.

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How to Balance Home Responsibilities to Find Time for Yourself

How to Balance Home Responsibilities to Find Time for Yourself

Ever feel like you do it all?

Are you ever resentful that you have no time and energy left for yourself? Because you’re absolutely worn out from all the work you do for your family and your business. I know I’ve done my share of hate cleaning when I feel this way. 🤣 And I figured a few of you might have felt this way too. That’s why I’ve brought on Jannine Mackinnon to talk about balancing home responsibilities so you can have more time and mental space for self-care.

Jannine is a mom to 2 from Victoria, British Columbia and the founder of Unapologetic Motherhood, a community where you have access to monthly content on topics like cannabis, sex, finances, women’s health, relationships, and so much more. She is cutting through the shit to talk about the real things impacting everyday moms.

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Highlights from Balancing Home Responsibilities…

  • Tell me a little about what you do and how you got started? As I transitioned into motherhood, I wasn’t finding information about topics I was researching readily available. That’s why I continued to pivot in my business. To become a resource for topics like cannabis, women’s health and anatomy, sex, finances, and relationships.
  • Why do you think (or do you hear) that moms feel like they have to do it all? Where is that messaging from? I think it comes from all over. From when we’re kids in our homes. From social media where we are constantly bombarded with messages about how to do things “right”. Part of the struggle in balancing home responsibilities is our own fault. We absorb these messages and start to do it all. And because we are doing it all, we establish a status quo that other members of the household follow.
  • How do you think we can start to break the cycle? Two parts…doing your own thinking and reflecting and then having a conversation. Communicating our needs to our partner. I always encourage moms to look at ways they can lessen their load. For example…if you are the primary person responsible for making and serving dinner, ask for help in setting the table.
  • Some of the conversations you need to have may be scary or uncomfortable. What do you say to the moms who feel like they want the extra time and mental space you’re talking about but lack the confidence to go after it? Think of giving your spouse or partner a roadmap. Often, they won’t see what you think is obvious. More often than not, if you ask for specific help, they are willing to help. Also, use a “soft start” to your conversation instead of coming from a place of anger or resentment. Use phrases like “I’m feeling…..” or “I’ve been thinking about how I need help…”. And remember to schedule check-ins so you don’t find the family returning to status quo.
  • Finally, what are some of the greatest benefits you’ve experienced or seen in your community when moms take steps towards more self-care or personal pursuits? Having regular conversations and check-ins with your partner will strengthen your relationship. And when you lessen your mental load, your stress levels go down and your patience goes up. You’re able to stay more present with your family. You’ll feel happier and more fulfilled when you are able to have the time to do what interests you.

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Rapid Fire Questions for Jannine

  1. Are you a morning person or a night owl? Used to be night, now it’s morning.
  2. What is your favorite activity to do with your family? Be in the forest.
  3. What is your favorite activity to do without your family? Be quiet outside.
  4. Best book you’ve read or listened to recently? The Rebel’s Apothecary by Jenny Sansouci
  5. Tool or hack that makes your mom life or work life easier? Automation.
A Simple Secret to Better Evenings as a Mompreneur

A Simple Secret to Better Evenings as a Mompreneur

Let’s talk decision fatigue and better evenings…this week’s episode goes out to all those mamas who have lost their minds over the question “what’s for dinner?” ( I think I did it like two nights ago. 🤣)  I want to dive into why that happens and what we can do to fix it…how we can actually enjoy our evenings. And how we can have the end of the day stop feeling like we are completely just spent. Like if anything else happens or if anything else ends up on our plate we are just going to explode.

Often when we’re irritable or we’re stressed out at the end of the day it’s because we’ve been making decisions all day long. From the moment we wake up until the time we go to bed at night. Everything from do you hit the snooze or do you get out of bed? To what should you have for breakfast? And what are you going to wear…there are so many decisions that you have to make during the day. Frankly, by the time 5 o’clock rolls around, we’re real tired. And we don’t feel like making decisions anymore.

I can think of nights when my husband is like “let’s order pizza…where do you wanna get it from?” And I can’t even decide where to get it from. It’s like my brain is so spent at that point that I can’t make the simplest decisions. Perhaps there are a lot of you out there that feel the same way.

And you may think that it’s just that you’re just irritable. Or that’s just how it is. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Your evenings don’t have to be a brain dead mom not being able to make decisions and getting angry at people for asking simple questions. And that is why we’re going to talk about how you can streamline and simplify your life with some systems and routines.

Brain Fatigue and Better Evenings

Ever feel like by 3 o’clock you can’t make even the simplest decision? Or that you’re unmotivated? Super irritable? Like the smallest question that is not a big deal really just sets you off? Maybe you go to bed and as you’re laying there, you’re feeling disappointed about what you didn’t accomplish today. Or your head is spinning over everything that you have to do. All of those things are related to brain fatigue. And one of the major things that contribute to brain fatigue is decision making.

Any way that we can sort of streamline our days and take things off of our brain’s plate is going to reflect better on our attitude and on our mood. We’re going to get to sleep easier. And we’re going to feel more accomplished in our day, even if it feels like we’re doing less.

Streamlining and simplifying your day with systems and routines can help you to be a better mom and mom entrepreneur. Here’s a fun fact about brain fatigue…your brain is responsible for 20% of the energy that your body uses up. Think about how big your body is and how little your brain is. Yet it is 1/5 of the energy that your body is putting out. And as we just discussed, so much of that energy is going into making decisions.

Better Evenings…Where to Start

There are two simple ways you can reduce the number of decisions you make in a day. First, set up a routine. Something that you do subconsciously. A pattern of things that happen over and over again so that you’re not constantly making decisions. Second, set up a system. A series of actions that lead to a particular result. You have some sort of checklist that you are following because there is an end result and by creating that system you aren’t making as many decisions.

Sometimes these words are used interchangeably. Routines can be systems. But not all systems are routines. The thing to realize is we need them both. They are what is going to help us be a happier mom at the end of our day.

Here’s a great example of a routine and a system. This is from my sister who has four kids under the age of nine. She’s got a lot on her plate but this routine and system have simplified her evenings. She makes the same meal on the same night every single week. Monday night is spaghetti night. Tuesday night is tacos. Wednesday night is hamburgers. And so on. Every single week she knows exactly what she’s making. The kids know exactly what they are eating. And she knows what she needs to get from the grocery store which is where her system comes in.

Before she does her shopping for the week she has the task of taking an inventory of the stuff that she needs for her regular meals. She has created a list on her phone of the exact things that she needs to buy every week to make the food that’s part of her routine. She does her grocery shopping. And when she comes home she puts all those things away. She knows exactly where the items are when she needs them for her meal routine.

There is your routine of what you’re eating every single day…very few decisions being made because it’s the same thing all the time…and the system of checking to make sure that she has the items that she needs, buying what she doesn’t have, and putting those things where she can find them when she needs them. Routine and system. And while the idea of eating the same thing over and over again may sound boring, the idea that she has streamlined this part of her life means that she can now redirect that energy into something else. She’s freed up her brain to make other decisions because she has taken meal planning decisions off her plate.

When you incorporate routines and systems you’ll have less brain fatigue. You’ll have fewer decisions to make. And you’ll have better evenings. Not to mention, you’ll enjoy your workday more because won’t feel overwhelmed. Meanwhile, you’ll have a chance to put that amazing brainpower and creativity into those things that make an impact on your business or your family life.

Now where can you incorporate a routine or systems so you can have better evenings??? (If you’re struggling with creating systems or routines, click below to schedule a free, 15-minute clarity call to see how I can help.)

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Basic Business Skills that Make Home Life Easier

7 Basic Business Skills That Make Your Home Life Easier

Let’s chat how some basic business skills that can help you to make home life easier…

These basic business skills that I honed over the past 12 years as an entrepreneur sure came in handy during my recent treatment for breast cancer. I can’t imagine how much more complicated it would have been if I didn’t have these skills in my toolkit. And that’s why I wanted to create this episode for you today…so you too can use the skills that you’ve been working on in your business to create a happier home life.

When you utilize the skills that we’ll talk about today in your home life, you will also improve the way you use them in your business. Not to mention your home life will run smoother because mom doesn’t have to make as many decisions. You’ll feel less stressed. And there’s more certainty for everybody because you will know where you’re supposed to be. Or what you’re going to have for dinner. Or just what the flow of your day is going to be like.

An added benefit as you incorporate these skills is that other family members will watch and learn. They’ll learn to confidently create a schedule, a checklist, or a routine. They’ll learn to ask for help. And these skills are great for any human to use on a regular basis. 

7 Basic Business Skills  

Creating Checklists…First up, creating checklists. This helps to offload decisions that you need to make when you are trying to complete an activity. An example might be you want to get out the door in the morning…what are the things you need to make sure that you have. Or maybe you want to clean your house on the weekends. What are all the tasks that you need to complete? Consider all the steps you need to take to complete a task or project so you don’t continually recreate the wheel. What steps do you take to make sure that every “i” is dotted and every “t” is crossed? Creating these checklists offloads the number of decisions that you make and in turn, makes you feel less stressed. 

Maintain a Schedule…Number two is to keep a schedule. You may already maintain a schedule for your family but this is not just for mom. Try to iincorporate your kids in their schedule making. Show them how to use a calendar or the calendar app on their phones. Help them get in the habit of knowing when they need to be at soccer practice or when they have projects that are due. Remember…practice makes better for all of these skills. And scheduling is one of the things that college students struggle with most. So the sooner you can incorporate your family in helping to keep a calendar or a schedule, the more practice they’re going to get before they don’t have you around to help them out.

Know Your Priorities…Our third basic business skill is to know your priority tasks. Prioritizing helps you focus on what is going to move the needle. And ask yourself if something is important enough to take up space on your calendar. Knowing your priorities helps you decide if you want to say “yes” or “no” to a task, activity, or opportunity. We don’t have to do everything. And we need to know if the thing that we are committing to is worth our valuable time, energy, and effort. And many times when we feel overwhelmed or overscheduled, it’s because we’ve said “yes” to a lot of activities or tasks that aren’t really a priority. So look at your schedule. See what you’ve committed to. And see if there’s anything that you can delete or delay until you have more time available.

Learn to Delegate…The number four basic business skill that you can utilize at home is delegation. This is passing off tasks that you do to somebody else so that you don’t feel like you have to do it all. You could delegate grocery shopping to Amazon or Instacart. Or delegate a spouse for school pick ups in the afternoon so that you can be home working on your business 

Ask for Help…Delegation goes hand in hand with number five which is asking for help. I often hear moms in my community struggling with asking for help. They may need help cleaning their house. Or watching the children so that they could work. Think about where you are struggling or feeling most overwhelmed when it comes to your home life. Then brainstorm where you can ask for help so that you don’t feel like you have to do it all. 

Create Routines…The sixth basic business skill is to create a routine or a habit. Whereas the checklist has an end result or a goal, a routine something where you run on autopilot. For instance, you might have a morning routine where you wake up. You turn on the coffee maker. Grab the newspaper from the front door. Wash your face and put on your moisturizer. And when your coffee is done, you sit down and read the newspaper before you wake your kids up for school. That is a routine. A flow. And the great thing about these routines is that it offloads the need to make decisions. Because decisions fatigue the brain. You can save that precious brainpower for more important decisions throughout the day. Look for places to create these routines so you can go with the flow and make fewer decisions. 

Develop a Growth Mindset…The final basic business skill is to develop a growth mindset around your life as a parent. If you’re unfamiliar with the term “growth mindset”, it is to constantly improve and make changes for the better. This is the opposite of a fixed mindset which is “I’m already as good as I’m going to be and I’m not going to put any effort or time into improving.” I like the Japanese concept of Kaizen. It’s the idea that every day you’re getting 1% better. Maybe you lost your mind on your kids because they couldn’t find their shoes on the way out the door. Or you argued with your husband. Or you’re having a day where things don’t feel like they’re going right. Now that you’re aware, look for a way that you can improve your response or your attitude by 1%  the next time. 

And those, my mama friends, are the seven basic business skills that can help make your home life so much easier. If you’re ready to incorporate these skills but aren’t sure where to start, I’m here to help. Click below to schedule your free, 15-minute clarity call where we can discuss your ideal home and business life and how I can help you make it happen.

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How to Clearly Communicate Expectations for More Success

Do you communicate expectations at work or at home?

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Do you tell people what you expect from them? Or do you bring them into what you are expecting of yourself? If not, how can they possibly know what to do or how to best support you? People want to help you succeed. Or they just want to help you in general. And a great way to help them help you communicate expectations aka tell them what you need from them. Genius, right?

Last week, we discussed managing our expectations. We also recognized the difference between what we perceive as an expectation. And what is actually expected. Now that you are clear on what you are expecting from yourself (if not, you should pop back and check out that episode by clicking here), it’s time to bring those people that the expectations affect up to speed. Which may be part of the process that feels intimidating. But not after today. 

Ready to feel understood? Seen? Satisfied? And Successful? Start to clearly communicate expectations to the people in your family. Your team. Your clients. And anyone that you expect anything from. When everyone is on the same page working towards the same goal, you’ll have less misunderstandings, less resentment, and you’ll feel less overwhelmed. You’ll create a baseline for behaviors. And you’ll open the lines of communication as they relate to your relationship and the expectations you have. 

All it takes is you taking the time to create and clarify what you expect. Then communicating those expectations to those they affect. Uh, sure Christy. You make it sound so easy but I’m just not a confrontational person. 

If this is what’s spinning your brain right now, you may need to reframe your mindset around setting boundaries or explaining what is expected. Communicating needs is not looking to start a fight. Boundaries are put in place to establish limits. Expectations are what you and others hope for or work towards. 

When we aren’t clear on our limits and what we are working towards in our relationship, confusion abounds. Resentment builds up. And it just makes life harder in general. Ever found yourself pissed off because you’re folding laundry while everybody else is outside having fun on a beautiful fall day? Or you work super long hours for a client going above and beyond when you don’t feel appreciated? Was the work you are doing clearly laid out and defined? Or is it a product of what you “think” you need to do for your family or clients? See how that resentment starts to creep in? 

Benefits of Communicating Expectations

When you clearly define and communicate expectations, you are aware of the workload or the requirements for your job…. whether that job is in your home or with your clients. You can reduce your workload because all those extras you thought were necessary are not necessary. You can delegate jobs you added to your list that doesn’t require your ability. 

Now, you can build your daily to-do list around these expectations at home and at work. Rather than what you perceive your spouse, your family, your team, your boss, or your clients want you to do. Remember, when you clearly define what is expected, there’s no wiggle room… you know what the expectations are expectations are and create a task list or schedule based on those expectations. 

And when you create your schedule around the clearly defined expectations, there’ll be less side-eye at your spouse for enjoying the evening while you are working. because. You’ll no longer resent your clients for underappreciating the extra work you do. We’ve defined the expectations of every job and all involved and communicated so it’s all sunshine and roses from here on out. Or at least it is monumentally better than you bitterly cursing under your breath because you feel unappreciated and undervalued. 

How to Start Communicating Expectations

I know sometimes these conversations can feel hard.  But I think this quote from Thomas Fuller sums it up well…. “All things are difficult before they are easy.”  The more you have these conversations, the easier they become. The more comfortable you are with the idea that you do not need to do more than you are absolutely expected to do, the easier it will become to have a conversation about your expectations of yourself or others. 

I’ve paired it down to 2 steps to effectively share your expectations: create and communicate. First, when you create your expectations write down the who, what, when, where, and why. Who is involved? What is happening? Where is it happening? Why does it need to happen? As you develop these expectations keep them as simple as possible. Don’t be wishy-washy. Don’t go overboard with explaining. Keep this super simple. Make it as clear as possible so there is no mistaking the expectation.  

Once you clarify the expectation, it is time to communicate expectations to those involved in making them a success. Set a family meeting time. Create an onboarding document for new clients. Have a team meeting to present the new system. If you’re feeling a little nervous before this meeting or presentation, give yourself a little affirmation pep talk.  

  • I give myself permission to set and share expectations and boundaries that support myself, my business, and my life. 
  • I’m worthy and deserving of setting expectations that serve me. 
  • I’m worthy and deserving of setting boundaries that serve me. 
  • It is easy for me to share my expectations and boundaries with others.  
  • It is safe for me to share my expectations and boundaries with others. 
  • I honor myself by setting and communicating my boundaries and expectations with others. 

Action step & CTA (Consequence & Deadline):  

Your action step for this week is to clarify and communicate your expectations with the people they affect in your life. Write down a simple version of who it affects, what is involved, when it needs to happen, where it needs to happen, and why it needs to happen. Once you’ve clarified your expectations, schedule a time to communicate expectations with those affected. Create a document for your team or for new clients. Call a family meeting. Have a date night with your spouse. Whatever you do, make sure that you don’t create the expectations and skip the part when you include the people involved. Give yourself a pep talk using the affirmations from today’s episode.

Still struggling to clarify and communicate expectations and goals as a mom and business owner? Tired of feeling angry, ignored, or overworked, let’s change that. Let’s talk about how my programs can help you overcome your overwhelm and stop your stress. You can live a more fun and fulfilling life as a mom and business owner. And that is exactly what I am here to help you with. Book your free call by clicking below to start your journey from burnout to blissful today. 


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How to Manage Expectations as a Mom and Entrepreneur

How do you manage expectations as a mompreneur?

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Productivity guru David Allen said “You can do anything, but you can’t do everything”. And yet as moms and business owners we continue to push ourselves to the breaking point to do everything. I’ve done it. And I see it in my community. I also know from what I’ve done and what I’ve seen that running ourselves ragged trying to do it all only leads to burnout. And stress. And potentially health problems…again speaking from experience here. That’s why I’m here to help you develop a better way to manage expectations.

I’m totally former president of the “trying to cram way too much into a day because I think I have to” society. Those expectations we think we have to meet can really do a number on our stress levels. Our self-esteem. And our sleep patterns. And our relationships…you name it.

To be completely honest, I wrestled with preparing this episode. And I think it’s because this is an area where I regularly find myself needing to reinvest in my mindset. So often, all that added pressure is entirely brought on by our own minds. And by no means am I suggesting we settle for less than we absolutely desire or deserve. I’m just saying, let’s take a minute to realistically evaluate our schedules, lists of tasks, and expectations for work and home life so we can confidently stay on track to achieve our goals and desires.

Entrepreneurship as a mom can be a rough road. Especially when you’re first starting out. Once the initial excitement wanes, you may find yourself continually thinking “what the f did I get myself into?” The sooner we learn to realistically manage our expectations when it comes to what is successful in our business and our mom life, the sooner we can learn to actually enjoy the life we are creating as a business owner.

Managing expectations comes down to a brutally honest review of your skills, your time, your support system, your finances, and your desires. Remember, we can do anything just not everything. The sooner we learn to ask for help in our home and business life, delegate tasks that aren’t in our skillset, spend money to make money with systems or automation, and set manageable goals aligned with our vision AND time available, the sooner we will crush those previously held expectations of who we should be and how we do it. And we will start to relish in the here and now, which sets us up for future success.

Currently, you may be running your business and home life based on how you perceived an entrepreneur life looks like. Or maybe you are trying to be your own mom, who kept an immaculate house but did not work additionally outside the home. Maybe your favorite online business building guru is full of amazing strategies but also single or childless.

Benefits When You Manage Expectations

You are 100% unique when it comes to your family, your business, and how they all work together. There isn’t a single mentor, regardless of their yearly income, Instagram followers, or number of team members they have, that shares the same needs as you. And yet we often model our view of “success” after these other people. No wonder we are struggling to recognize the difference between actual and perceived expectations as a mom and business owner.

But when we start to manage our expectations on a realistic level that is based on our goals, our values, and our time available, we can stay motivated. We learn to accept a range of success and celebrate it. Rather than the constant belief we are failing or missing the mark.  

We are better prepared when life happens…like a sick kid or your internet’s out before a big meeting. The adage “Done is better than perfect” could become a sort of mantra. Helping you complete the work and home tasks that are required while leaving you time and energy for yourself and your family.

And speaking of your family…if you were to ask them, do you think they would be more concerned about a perfectly kept house that you spend hours maintaining in the evenings after work and school. Or would they rather have you present for a board game or a movie night? How can we get to a place where we can better juggle all the things and the perceived expectations we have for our home and business life?

It’s helpful to think of success in a range rather than black and white. There are so many tiny victories to celebrate that will keep us motivated and lead us to greater success.

Click here to hear why we need to celebrate those tiny victories in Episode 21 “3 Reasons You Should Celebrate Everything” from August 2020.

If we only focus on reaching the big, hairy goals or celebrating life working out exactly how we planned, we miss the opportunity to revel in the abundance of the great things we are doing along the way. Instead, let’s think of our “successes” on a good, better, best scale. I learned this as a goal-setting method from a former coach. And it’s a great way to help manage expectations and create a more abundant attitude toward success.

How to Manage Expectations on a Sliding Scale

Here is your action step to start using a sliding scale to manage your expectations. I recommend starting this exercise by working through a couple of stress points. Use a journal, a piece of paper, or the notes app on your phone. After a while, you’ll start noticing your reaction to perceived expectations in the moment. As GI Joe used to say “knowing is half the battle”.

Let’s start by writing down a perceived expectation. What is an expectation you believe is required of you that feels overwhelming or impossible? Let’s use the example of tackling a sinkful of dishes at the end of a very long day. Your perceived expectation may be that despite feeling exhausted or wanting to hang out with your family on the couch watching “Lego Masters”, you need to spend your time in the kitchen doing these dishes. That’s the perceived expectation which is causing stress or overwhelm.

Next, let’s look at the actual expectation. Did someone, other than yourself, tell you to complete this job or action? Or is the expectation of completion coming from you? Back to the dishes example…Did your mother always had clear counters and a clean sink before going to bed? Do you also feel like that is expected of you? Did your spouse ask for it? Or your kids? Most times they did not. And yet the expectation is there. Deeply rooted in your daily routine creating stress and potentially resentment. Chances are that the expectations that cause the most stress in our daily lives are coming from our own mind. Which is great because it means we have an opportunity to evolve our thinking.

Using our good, better, best sliding scale…how can we meet the expectation of doing the dishes and not go to bed resenting the fact that your spouse and kids are enjoying their evening on the couch while you do the dishes. The “Good” option may be your put the dishes in the dishwasher and call it a night. “Better” may be you get the dishes in the dishwasher, soak the pans, and wipe the counters down. And “Best” might be you complete all the actions. Most nights you may be ok in your better to best range. But on the days you don’t have it in you, and you really want to snuggle down with your family, good is also ok.

How about a quick example from the business world. Let’s say you have a perceived expectation that you need to post 6 days a week on Instagram. As well as creating 4-10 stories a day. Creating that much content requires you to stay up very late after the kids go to bed. You’re losing sleep. Missing out on time with your spouse. and have found yourself generally cranky trying to meet this perceived expectation. What could a good, better, best scenario be for this situation? “Good” could be you create just the posts or just the stories for the week. “Better” is you create 4 posts instead of 6 and 2-5 stories per day instead of 10. “Best” is you create all the content you perceive necessary to grow your business and increase your income.

Regardless of completing your “good”, “better”, or “best” goal, you’re still producing content that will help grow your business. But now you are better managing expectations so you can juggle your need for downtime. And reduce the resentment that life is all work and no play.

How are you feeling about managing your expectations on a scale from good to better to best? Changing up years of patterns and thoughts can feel daunting. As I said in the opening, managing expectations is mindset matter I am constantly working on. If you’re also feeling overwhelmed or still aren’t sure where to start, I’d love to help you. Let’s evaluate the tasks on your to-do list and come up with your range of success for those tasks that wear you out. Click the link below to schedule a free clarity call. And discuss how I can help you manage expectations, reach your goals, and still spend time watching Lego Masters on the couch with your family.


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Organize Your Business - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Organize Your Business When You’re Not Organized

Let talk how to organize your business when you not organized.

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Do you ever catch yourself thinking “I don’t have time to organize”. “It’s just not a good use of my time”. “I would rather do work”. My question for you is “do you really have time to not be organized?” Learning how to organize your business could be the best way for you to manage your time, work productively, and create more of a balance in your work and home life as a mom business owner.

Today I am wearing hats from both of my businesses…Let’s talk about organizing your business when you don’t feel like you are an organized person. I spent over a decade as a professional organizer helping moms to overcome their clutter and simplify their stuff so they could do more of what they loved with who they loved. So yeah, you could say I have a bit of a passion for organizing. And not just because it looks pretty.

Practicing your organizing skill is truly a way to optimize your time and energy. You can show up a better mom, a better business owner, a better spouse, and a better you all around. And today we are going to talk about easy ways you can start to practice your organizing skills…Even if you’ve spent your life thinking you’re disorganized.

Why Take the Time to Organize Your Business

When you take time to organize your space and time as business owner, you can work more efficiently. And expend less energy completing the necessary tasks. It takes so much energy to run a business, especially if you are just starting out or a solopreneur. Why spend any more time than you absolutely have to search for documents you know you created? Or distracted by the piles of papers on your desk when you don’t have to?

Decide today to devote time on a regular basis to decluttering what is unnecessary. Create systems. Organize your space and schedule. And regularly maintain it all will ensure you keep your business and your household running at an optimal level.

And as I said in the opening…you may think you don’t have time to organize. But do you really have time not be? Disorganization shows up as lost items or files, missed deadlines or communications, unpaid invoices or lack of invoicing…the list goes on. All of these actions take a toll on both your productivity and business success. As well as your stress levels. Because, let’s face it, if you are constantly looking for things, missing deadlines, or forgetting invoice clients, it’s going to cause a bit of stress and strain in your already tapped out life.

And if you’re thinking “I could never be an organized person”. Or “I’m creative so I can’t be organized”, I’m here to help you see that everyone can benefit from a bit more organization.

You’ll complete tasks because you know when they’re due AND where the supplies you need to complete them are. You’ll serve your customers better because they will receive their services or packages in a timely manner. And happy customers mean more money. Maybe even repeat business. And more business means more compensation. More compensation means less stress because your efforts are rewarded. See how nicely that all works together!

And this isn’t just a long-term strategy. I want you to close your eyes and imagine a workday where you know what you need to do. You know where you can find everything you need to do your job. You start your day in a clear workspace where you can focus. And end your workday by resetting the space for next work session. Can you see it?

And practicing your organizing skills in your business is bound to spill over into your home life too. You and your family can set up systems to find all sorts of items that were previously on the “mom, where are my (insert lost item)” list. And, as I used to discuss with my organizing clients, the earlier you start to practice the skill of organizing with your kids, the better. I firmly believe you can teach an old dog new tricks. But I also know the sooner you start to nurture skills the better.

First Steps to Organize Your Business

So, where do you start honing your organizing skills as business owner? I’ve got 3 simple steps that even the most disorganized person can implement to start organizing their space and time. Reduce. Systematize. Maintain.

  1. Reduce – aka decluttering. When it comes to organizing anything, whether physical stuff or calendar clutter, the first step is to reduce the amount of items that need organizing. It just doesn’t make sense to organize something you don’t need. Or you don’t use. Or that doesn’t bring value to your day. When you look at the papers you keep, do you actually need them all? If you’ve got digital copy, do you need a printed copy? Or could you keep a well labeled digital copy on the chance you’ll reference it again. Rather than taking the time to print and file that document? When you look at your desktop, is everything there necessary for you to complete your job? Or does it cause a distraction or additional stress because your desk looks messy. When you look at your schedule or to-do list, do the tasks or activities add value and increase the bottom line of your business? Or are they unaligned with your goals and values causing you to waste your precious time and energy. Look at your space and schedule and ask yourself, is this all necessary and essential? If the answer is no, what can go. I am giving you permission to let go of items or tasks that don’t serve your vision, goals, or values.
  2. Systematize – For some reason, many business owners love to make things harder than they need to be. Even when they know they don’t have the time for it. It’s the “I don’t have time to get organized” lie again. But when you take a little time to organize systems for routine business tasks, you’ll work more productively and have fewer mistakes or missed opportunities. There’s a chance you’re already using some sort of systems in your business and you may not even realize it. Do you have templates you use for social media? A nurture sequence when new subscribers opt-in to your email list? Or a process for sending products to customers once they’ve purchased from you? Then you’ve organized systems designed to offload some of the decision making you do during your workday. AND to ensure the work is completed with fewer mistakes and consistent results. Currently recreating the wheel every time you have a repeated task in your business? I challenge you to look for places you can create systems. Creating a new blog post? Uploading new products to your website? Writing an email newsletter? Onboarding a new client? These are all places you can write down each step you need to complete in the process. Then create a checklist of these steps. I know, I know. It may seem redundant to record routine tasks when you are used to doing them over and over. But some days, mom brain kicks in. Some days we miss a step. And mistakes can cost our time and money. Not mention, you can easily delegate a well documented system as your business grows. And your business will grow now that you’ve committed to using your time and space more efficiently. For even more on creating systems for your business, check out episode 57 from February 2021 called “Systems: What are they and why you need them”.
  3. Maintenance – Maintaining what you decluttered or the systems you’ve created is so key to staying organized. And yet, this step is so often overlooked. Organizing is never set it and forget it like a Ronco Rotisserie Oven (how’s that for a throwback reference). We have to review and reevaluate to make constant improvements. You might find that items you once thought were necessary for your workflow aren’t anymore because you’ve digitized a system. Or tasks your once did no longer align with your current vision and goals. Or the system you created feels clunky, outdated, or complicated. Just because you reduce and systematize doesn’t mean it’s complete. For instance, I make a habit of reviewing my marketing numbers at the end of every month. I’ve created a weekly marketing checklist, aka a system, so I know what I would like to post where. And when I write my podcast. And what needs completed that week to accomplish my marketing goals. Based on my marketing numbers each month, I refine and review my weekly system. I look for places I can eliminate tasks or where I need to lean in a bit more. Schedule time in on a regular basis, maybe monthly or quarterly, to review what you’ve done. And determine if it is still working for you. Or if it might need a little zhuzh.

Here are your action steps to organize your business, even if you don’t feel like you’re an organized person…

First, reduce the clutter. Eliminate any items that you don’t absolutely need or that cause distractions. Ask yourself “will I realistically need this? Or am I just keeping it because I might use it or someone else told me to have it”? Let go of items that don’t directly contribute to your success. Or align with your values. Or that distract you from doing focused work. You don’t have to overhaul your whole office at once. Start small. A drawer. Your desktop. A day on your schedule. Then tomorrow, do a little more.

Next up, systematize. Are there areas of your business where you repeat tasks? If so, create a checklist or automation to ensure you complete each step accurately. And yes, I know words like accurate and timely can start to sound a little confining to a free flowing creative. But when you create simple systems to offload the regular, boring, non-creative yet essential tasks, you free up brainpower for more creative time in your work.

And finally, schedule time for maintenance and review. Sure, if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. But as we develop organizing skills, we find that the stuff or tasks we thought we needed, aren’t really necessary. In fact, they may actually distract us. Make an appointment on a regular basis to review the state of your workspace, your schedule, and your systems. Evaluate that they align with your current, vision, goals, and values.


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Boundaries & Mom Guilt - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Create Boundaries Without Mom Guilt

Mom guilt wreaks havoc on the mindset of mompreneurs…

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Ever put boundaries in place to protect your time and energy only to find that stupid mom guilt rears its ugly head and wrecks your plans? Yeah, me too. That’s why today we are discussing how you can create strong boundaries and ditch the mom guilt.

Do you ever say “yes” then resent saying “yes” because it means you’re making a sacrifice? Feel like you’re always doing but never for yourself? Would you like to feel like you control your schedule? Enjoy the activities you participate in? Or want to spend time with family instead of feeling like it’s out of obligation? Then you need to create some boundaries. And we’re going to talk about how you can do it without feeling mom guilt. Or wife guilt. Or any number of other guilts you feel when you put yourself first.

Establishing clear boundaries allows you to identify and communicate where you draw the line, how much you can handle, and when you know you have reached your capacity. Going over the line or over capacity leads to resentment, frustration, burnout, feeling disrespected, and a multitude of other generally bad feelings towards our work, our clients, our families, and even ourselves.

When we clarify our limits, communicate our boundaries, and practice protecting them, we also protect ourselves from all that comes with living an over-capacity life.

For too long, our society has honored overworking and overcommitment. We glorify moms who don’t sleep because they sacrifice day in and day out their kids. We honor business owners who ignore their families and personal needs to get that 6 or 7 figure success.

I can understand why you would feel exhausted, anxious, depressed, frustrated, confused, or just plain burnt out. It’s grueling grind. Not to mention, the moment you find time and space for you, there’s a little voice in the back of your head saying “doesn’t your child need you right now?” or “a good mom doesn’t need a break from being a mom.”

There is a way out of this vicious cycle…establishing and communicating clear boundaries to your spouse, kids, clients, team, and whoever else you make commitments to helps you take control of your time and energy. In time you can better focus your time and energy on what you truly value.

You will squash the feelings of resentment or anxiety you feel about letting people down. If they know you’re at capacity and they try to breach it…that’s a them problem not a you problem. You will also gain back time and energy for doing what you love and nurturing you. Rather than constantly tapping yourself out for the sake of others.

And speaking of others, creating and recognizing your boundaries will help you learn to better respect other people’s boundaries. You’ll improve your relationships because you can ask about their limits and respect their capacity.

What Boundaries Are and Are Not

Before I share my simple steps for creating boundaries without feeling guilty, I want to address some of the resistance I hear from my community to setting boundaries.

  1. Setting boundaries is NOT ignoring people or causes you care about. But setting boundaries is about focusing your time and aligning your energy with what you truly value rather than spreading yourself too thin.
  2. Setting boundaries is NOT cutting yourself off from family, friends, or activities. However, setting boundaries is scaling back so you don’t go too far or run overcapacity.
  3. Setting boundaries is NOT selfishly limiting your options. Setting boundaries is making time and energy choices that align with the values of a healthier, happier mom entrepreneur.

I’m not saying setting boundaries is going to be easy, especially at first. Mom guilt is a beast. Setting boundaries is a skill that takes a bit of practice. But the more you practice, the easier it will become. The more you will see the benefits of protecting your time and energy. And you’ll tame that mom guilt beast with a present, happier mom during her non-work hours.

Creating Boundaries without Mom Guilt

Here is my simple, 3 step approach to start successfully creating and communicating boundaries…

  1. Identify where you need boundary…What gives your anxiety? When does your heart start to flutter? Where do you say “yes” when you really want to say “no”?
  2. Communicate your boundary with the person or people it may affect…This is a super important and often overlooked step. And that can lead to resentment. You know, when you set a boundary but don’t tell anyone. Then they violate it and you get angry. Not that I’m speaking from experience or anything. For help with steps one and two, check out episode 81 “How to Communicate Boundaries in Work and Home Life” where I give you an easy exercise to create a personal boundaries statement.
  3. Create positive boundary reminders…Because let’s face it, just because you create a boundary doesn’t mean those guilty feelings are going away. Mom guilt will still nag you. People may try to get to you agree “just this one time” or say “we really need you”. You may feel the urge to backtrack on your boundary after saying “no”. This is where you remind yourself why you put these boundaries in place. Repeat to yourself statement like “It’s OK to set boundaries”. Or “Feeling guilt doesn’t mean I made the wrong decision”. Or “I am not responsible for people’s reactions to my boundaries”. (That’s the one I have to remind myself of regularly.)

Today’s action step to help you create healthy boundaries without mom guilt is to identify where you need a boundary. Then communicate that boundary to the person or people affected. And finally, pre-write some positive boundary reminders for when you feel like you want to break your own rules.  Remember, putting other’s wants and needs first all the time runs you down. Then you, in turn, will turn to others to meet your needs and you could potentially violate their boundaries, either intentionally or unintentionally. Creating healthy boundaries disrupts this cycle.

And if you need help identifying where you need boundaries or communicating your boundaries with your clients or family, I’m here to help. On a free, 15-minute clarity call we can discuss where you feel stuck or spent and how I can help you go from Busy to Blissful as a mompreneur. You can sign up for your free call at bit.ly/bsmbookacall today. I believe you can create strong boundaries and crush your mom guilt.


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