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How to Avoid Work at Home Burnout

Anyone else feel on the edge of work at home burnout the last couple weeks???

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Last week, I had a trifecta of crazy. I was readjusting after going out of town for the weekend. My son needed help prepping for his 3rd grade test after not having a real teacher since March. And then this little election we had here in the United States. 😬

Let’s just say I was on the stress struggle bus. But luckily, and thanks to the help of fantastic coaches helping me create systems to deal with life when it feels overwhelming, I made it through. And I want to help you identify and conquer your overwhelm too.

That is why today I’m sharing strategies to identify when you are heading towards maximum capacity so you can identify your stress and stop burnout before it starts.

If you can learn the signals your mind and body start to send when you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or burned out, you can create solutions in advance to help. Bonus points if you share those solutions with your spouse, friend, coach or other support so they can also identify when you’re heading for trouble and lend their help.

If you’re anything like me, my previous max capacity cycle runs something like a car with a wobbly wheel….At first, the car just shakes a bit, I might not even notice it all the time. But instead of stopping to fix it (which would be pretty easy at this point), I just keep pushing. And as the shaking gets worse, I continue to say “if I can just get to this destination” or “if I can just drive this far I’ll fix it then”. So I push forward, maybe even driving faster, trying to out drive the eventual damage. And then BAM! Blown tire. Or the wheel falls off. Or some other bad tire-related problem with your car. I didn’t listen when the triggers started and look where that got me.

When you start to identify your triggers or know what your mind and body need to recover, you create a plan of action for those times when you know you’re going to be stretched to your limits.

Work at Home Burnout and Your Brain

You might be thinking “burnout is just part of the process” or “how can working less actually help me”. Sounds crazy, right? But hear me out…That stress you think is normal is damaging your brain.

As you near your burnout, your body produces excess amounts of the hormone cortisol. This affects the part of the brain that creates new brain cells and keeps them healthy. And that excess cortisol can affect decision making, working memory and control of impulsive behavior. Hello, stress eating, anyone??? And while stress is making it harder to think, make decisions, or control your urge to raid the peanut butter cups in your kid’s Halloween basket, it is also reducing the levels of the brain chemicals dopamine and serotonin which maker you feel happier. No wonder stress is so stressful!!!

But there is hope…By recognizing the signs of burnout before it’s too late, you can create a plan that will stop that flow of cortisol, save your dopamine levels, and help you continue to problem solve with the best of them.

Incorporating stress relievers on a regular basis can not only stave off the major meltdowns, but it can help you in your day to day functions. You’ll feel better and less on edge when you incorporate some form of self-care into your daily routine like exercising, meditating, or reading for yourself. You’ll notice more of an even keel rather than major swings in mood, productivity, and stress levels.

And let’s face it…everyone is better when mom is better. Your family benefits because you can be present with them without stressing over little things. Your clients appreciate your clear, focused efforts.

Signs of Work at Home Burnout

Let’s start by identifying some of the basic signs or triggers of burnout. And you may hear this list and think, “well, that just sounds like mom life to me.” And that is because mom life IS incredibly stressful. We are regularly on the verge of burnout with all the balls we are trying to juggle. That is why it is so important to recognize the signs and start to develop solutions before the burnout starts. So, signs of burnout include feeling:

  1. Forgetful
  2. Short Tempered
  3. Tired
  4. Unmotivated

Like I said. Pretty much every mom on the planet just said. Um, so I’m heading for burnout then. But we have spent so long ignoring the signs or saying “that’s just motherhood” that we have normalized the damaging stress. But the good news is, now that we know how it might look or feel, we can brainstorm ways to stop work at home burnout before it starts…

How to Stop Work at Home Burnout Before It Starts

  1. Prioritize – Moms notoriously like to do it all. In fact, it can feel like a competition at times. But if you truly want to prevent those damaging burnout episodes, you need to practice prioritizing. Start to evaluate the activities and tasks you have and whether they fit your values or fall into the truly “urgent” or “important” category. If you aren’t sure which tasks are truly priorities, check out my episode “How to Choose Your Priority Tasks”.
  2. Create Boundaries – Again, moms are notorious “yes” women. We love to help and make people happy. We feel the need to ask how high when I clients say “jump now”. Setting effective boundaries around when we work, what our schedule capacity is, and learning to say “no” when there just isn’t time helps us create boundaries to protect our stress levels. Need more tips on setting boundaries? Check out my episode “Why You Need to Set Work Boundaries”.
  3. Recognize Your Triggers – What do you do when you are approaching burnout? Or does it seem to come at certain times during the year? The holidays for example…so many activities, wanting to do all the things but it is also the end of the year for your business and you need to plan for the following year or for Q1. And you need to wrap up Q4 of 2020. I am literally feeling stressed just thinking about it. When you can learn to recognize that overwhelming feeling, you can start to problem solve in advance how to prevent it. Do you need to cut back on unnecessary holiday activities? Or need to hire help for end of the year wrap up in your business? Do you need to take a full day off from all things digital once a week to focus on your family and refill your cup? Recognize your triggers and problem solve how you’ll fight them in advance.
  4. Schedule Non-Negotiable Time for What Makes You Happy – This is super important for all those moms who put the needs of literally everyone else first. It goes hand in hand with the boundaries thing. You deserve time to take care of you, do something that makes you happy. It doesn’t have to be alone time. I can totally be family time. Or a date night. Make time for the activities that make you happy. Get it on the schedule. Make it non-negotiable. Do not let outside commitments keep you from your happy place.
  5. Incorporate Self-Care Tiny Tasks into Every Day – Over the years, I feel like self-care has become the realm of spa days or massages. And those are totally and completely self-care activities. And if you can incorporate them into your regular routine, by all means, mama, do so! But there are also small acts of self-care you can do in your home that cost virtually nothing and take no time at all. For ideas, click here to check out my “10 Free, 10-Minute Self Care Ideas for Moms”. Find a tiny pocket of time just for you as often as you can to help keep your cup topped off. And stave off that burnout dragon.

You cannot fill from an empty cup, mama. If you want to avoid max capacity, pre-plan how you will deal when you feel stress coming. Brainstorm a list of what triggers your stressful feelings then pre-plan a solution for how you will recognize and release them. For instance, if you say “I feel stressed when I have a work deadline the weekend after my kid’s basketball tournament”. The solution may be to finish or complete a large percentage of the project before the weekend. Or to delegate some of the tasks so all you have to do is assemble and edit come Monday.

Maybe you’re saying “I feel stressful during the holidays because we are running around so much and never get a chance to sit and enjoy.” The solution maybe you will limit functions to one per week. Or maybe push some celebrations into January when everyone’s social calendars have cleared a bit.

There is a solution. I promise.

And if you are struggling to see it, I’m here to help. Feel free to drop a comment below or reach out in the DMs on social media @businesssavvymama. This is a huge issue for us mom entrepreneurs. I know it personally. I’ve lived it many a time. And I am passionate about helping other mom entrepreneurs see the way through.


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Why You Need to Set Work Boundaries

Who out there struggles to set work boundaries?

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I can’t you see you and you can’t see me but I am raising my hand. And I bet you are too. As moms, I feel part of our struggle comes from our caring hearts. We want to help everyone, we want to do all the things. But in the end, when we run ourselves ragged trying to do all things because we haven’t created good boundaries, we end up stressed, overwhelmed, and with no time for ourselves. Sound like you? This is why we need to set work boundaries.

This episode was inspired by a chat with one of the members of the Business Savvy Mama community. She told me “I feel like when I make a phone call or am dealing with a client request that requires a bit more texting, my kids are drawn to me like a moth to a flame. They will be peacefully playing with each other and the second I take a call or pick up the phone they are hanging on my legs. Then I get short tempered and irritated with them.”

Yep, been there. How about you?

That is precisely why we are talking boundaries today. Setting clear boundaries improves your work-home life. It helps you work more productively and get more done. Clearly communicating your boundaries creates a respect for your time and activities in both your work life with clients and home life with your family. And it can reduce stress around working because your boundaries help you work with less interruptions.

Can you identify your limits? Clearly communicate your boundaries and expectations?  Can you invest in keeping those boundaries in place? Then you too can enjoy the benefits of setting boundaries.

The method we’ll talk about today differs from what you’ve tried in the past because often, we try to establish boundaries from a point of frustration or anger. Yep, been there too! We let the interruptions or additional tasks or constant calls outside work hours go until it boils over and we explode. And sometimes we let go on our family who had nothing to do with the overstepping client. That is why we are going to establish our boundaries from a place of calm.

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So, where are we now? We know we need to work, we need to get stuff done, but we are also stuck in a cycle of “start a task, get interrupted or get frustrated or distracted and unfocused.” We let ourselves take on more than we can reasonably accomplish which eats into our family time or time off. We don’t shut off which allows clients to take advantage of our off-work hours. This is why we need those boundaries.

Setting boundaries now helps you accomplish those urgent and important tasks and get done what needs to get done. Usually quicker and better. And you’ll feel less frustrated and stressed on a regular basis. You’ll have work time, family time, home time and, dare I say it, self-time clearly established.

And setting clear boundaries creates clear expectations for your clients and your family. Your client won’t expect an email response at 10pm because you’ve told them you don’t work past 5pm. You children understand that when the door is shut, mommy is working on something that needs her attention but when that door opens, she’s all yours.

Steps to Set Work Boundaries

I completely understand if the idea of setting boundaries feels intimidating or that you’re afraid to not be available to everyone everywhere at all times. But trust me when I tell you, the sooner you shut it off and create a clear line between your work and home life, the sooner you’ll feel the weight of that struggle to balance it all lift. And here is where you start…

  1. Identify Your Limits…Notice how you react when you feel particularly stressed or overwhelmed. For me, I feel like I have to go to the bathroom a lot. But seriously, what is happening when you feel that physical or emotional stress creep in? Is it deadlines? Social media? Answering emails? Too much on your to-do list? When you identify the trigger, you can put a boundary in place to prevent stress. Stress over deadlines? Break task in to smaller chunks so the last day isn’t overwhelming. Social media? Put a limit on the time you spend scrolling. Email? Set an autoresponder saying you’ll get back tomorrow. To do list? Delete or delegate tasks that don’t need your attention. Identify the trigger, develop a response.
  2. Give Yourself Permission to Set Boundaries…We often feel if we work from home that we have to be always available to our kids. I am here today to tell you that is simply not true. Your job at home is as important as anyone’s job that is outside the home. You are allowed to set boundaries that say “I am working, I need space and concentration unless it’s an emergency.” If this is one of your triggers, refer to step one. Do you need child care? To work when your spouse is home? An outside the home workspace to create an actual boundary? You have permission to work in a focused, productive way. Repeat that over and over until it sinks in. I have permission to work in a focused, productive way.
  3. Have a conversation…When you’ve identified your triggers and solutions and given yourself permission, be sure to let the other people in on your boundaries. Have a calm, clear conversation with your spouse, kids, co-workers, boss, or clients about what your boundaries are, why they are important, where you need help maintaining them, and how it can benefit them. Because a focused, productive, accomplished, and happy mama shows up better for everyone. Right?

Your action step for today is to start a limit log. Brainstorm any of those triggers that cause you anxiety in your work and home life. Keep it somewhere you can reference when those stressors creep in. Once you’ve established the stress, figure out how you can put a boundary in place to protect your mind, stress levels, mood, and productivity. And remember to repeat to yourself on a regular basis “I have permission to work in a focused, productive way.”


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3 Reasons Why You Should Celebrate Everything

What do you celebrate? Everything? Anything? Nothing?

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Why not celebrate everything? You are perfectly able and encouraged to celebrate yourself. Even the smallest victories won or goals achieved, you should celebrate!!!

Creating a celebration for your big and small achievements will keep you motivated. It will boost your self-confidence. You no longer need to wait for your boss, your co-workers, your family, or your clients to give you the positive feedback you crave. You can do this for yourself.

Can you commit to regular affirmations and recognition of what you accomplish? Then you will feel results. Your words are powerful. And all too often we are quick to focus on what we don’t have or didn’t accomplish versus what we have done and did achieve.

Benefits When You Celebrate Everything

Here’s the thing…we are all very busy. You can’t just wait around to be noticed or praised to move on to the next project. You can’t base your self-esteem on what other people view as your victories or accomplishments. Stop relying on other’s to build your confidence because, here’s a little secret, you get the exact same positive, mood boosting dopamine rush when you praise yourself as you do when you hear it from other. #scienceiscool

So you might be sitting there thinking “yeah, I’m not sure. It feels a little weird or conceited.” Or you might feel silly celebrating things like drinking enough water or not eating the last chocolate chip cookie when you’re trying to avoid sugar.

But the confidence and happiness you gain when you regularly celebrate all the things will aid you in trying new things, increase your willingness to fail which is crucial as a business owner, and despite our talk of failure, it will increase your confidence.

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Not to mention, you are contributing on a regular basis to that abundance mindset we talked about earlier in the week. Your gratitude practice help you appreciate what you have and experience. Your celebration practice help you appreciate what you’ve accomplished. Furthermore, all of those practices open you up to earn more, do more, and receive more. And that my mama friends is the definition of abundance.

Not to mention, when you start celebrating you’ve completed your to-do list, or email 10 new potential clients, or completely cleaned the house top to bottom, it let’s others off the hook for not meeting your expectations of gratitude and celebration for your work. You don’t need them, you’ve got you. If they notice or say something, that’s just a little extra.

Why You Should Celebrate Everything

Here are my 3 reasons why you should celebrate even the smallest things on a regular basis…

  1. It stops putting the approval of your success in someone else’s hands. Like we said earlier, your brain doesn’t know if you’re saying good job or your husband or your boss or your client. If you are proud, if you know you did good, relish it. Celebrate it. Pick yourself up something real nice.
  2. It feels good. Celebrating boosts your morale, self-confidence, and productivity. Mostly because, as we talked about earlier, it gives you a rush of that feel good neurotransmitter dopamine.
  3. It motivates you to keep going. Stopping to celebrate the steps you’ve made along the way will go much further in continuing to move you forward than focusing on how far you still have to go. Especially for you business-owning mamas out there, entrepreneurship can be a very lonely island. I know, I set up camp there for quite a while.

Learning to put the approval of success in my own hands, that I can boost my own morale with a “Good job Christy!” keeps me going when things gets stressful or feel like they are not working. And you can do it too.

That’s why your action step for today is to celebrate even the smallest thing from today, this week or this month. Remember, it can be anything like making $10K to putting on pants with zipper, for instance. If you made and effort and followed through, I call that success. You go ahead and celebrate!

For me, I am celebrating the end of this podcast every weekday in August journey. I have so enjoyed sharing my best time management, productivity, and mindset tips along with introducing you to my amazing mompreneur friends. In just a few short weeks, we already have almost 600 downloads in 7 countries and that is growing every day. So thank you from the bottom of my heart for your support and know I will be celebrating this achievement this week.

I’d love to hear what you’re celebrating in the comments below. Remember, big or small…we celebrate it all!


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How to Use Your Jealousy for Good

How do you react to jealousy?

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We’ve talked gratitude, we’ve talked abundance versus scarcity, and now let’s talk jealousy. Oh yeah. I know we have all had those gut punch feelings when we see another mom succeeding in business. Or in life. Or in having Pinterest worthy home or Instagram-able vacation.

This mindset strategy will help you flip the script on those gut punches and use that jealousy to boost you up rather than hold you back. It may take a few tries and a bit of practice to undo the inborn feelings of defeat, shame, or wanting to throw in the towel because “why both if she’s already done it.” But if you are willing to take a breath, evaluate your feelings, then use that energy as motivation to propel you forward rather than holding you back, you too can conquer your jealousy and use it for good.

Before, you might find yourself lying in bed after a social media scroll having rage-y thoughts about “why does she get to do all this”. Or “I would be so much better than she is if I was doing that”. Or “there’s no way her life is actually like that…she’s such a fake.” But have you taken a minute to analyze why you are reacting the way you are? Could it be…jealousy???

And you may be thinking “that’s not jealousy, I’m just tired of everyone faking it on social media.” But, real talk, why do you even care if there wasn’t the smallest part of you that deep down wanted a piece of that life? Wanted the chance to see if you were the mom in that picture, would you feel happier, more fulfilled, or think life was more enjoyable?

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You can have that Pinterest perfect, Instagram worthy, relationship, family, business, home, and life if you stop whining and start working. The only things different between you and Insta-mom is that she learned to harness the power of her envy and jealousy to propel her forward before you. But don’t worry, there’s plenty of time.

When you start focusing on what you can have and what you can achieve versus what you don’t have and haven’t achieved, your mood is better, your work is more focused, and your drive is engaged. As much as it might feel good to bash another women’s progress to make yourself feel better in the moment, in the end, the only person who loses is you…because she loses nothing when you’re jealous of her.

And as with so many mindset victories, when you use your jealousy for good, you show up more positive, you’re work is more focused, and most often, you’ll make more money. And let’s face it…everyone in your house appreciates when you make more money.

Flip the Script on Jealousy

So how do we stop letting jealousy tell us we need to quit. That we aren’t good enough. That we will never get where we want to be.

And how do we start using that feeling in our belly to motivate us? To be the driving force that says “if she can do it, I can do it, too!” To examine what we’ve been doing and figure out where we can invest more, become more efficient, or delete what might be holding us back.

First…recognize the feeling.

Second…identify the root of the reaction.

Third…rephrase the jealousy.

As an example…you’re scrolling Facebook and you see a friend from high school on an amazing Disney vacation. You immediately recognize a wave of jealousy that you can’t/haven’t taken your family on an amazing Disney vacation. You identify that your feel jealous because you feel like you cannot afford a vacation. Then you rephrase the jealous reaction to a motivation to research Disney vacations, start a savings account, and work towards taking your family for a  similar experience. Recognize, Identify, Rephrase. It takes some practice, but I think you can do it.

Now is the time to stop wallowing because you don’t have her life. Start using your jealousy as a motivator. Remember, we all have the same number of hours in the day as Beyoncé. We can all work hard, build an empire, and have an amazing butt if we put the effort in. Or we can just sit and be jealous from afar.

Want to take action on your jealousy today? Write down something you’ve found yourself jealous of recently. Then follow the 3 steps…you’ve recognized the feeling, now identify why you’re jealous. Then rephrase the jealousy as a motivation. I’d love to hear how you’re reframing your jealousy. Comment below and let me know how you’ve flipped your script.


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How Your Abundance Mindset Develops a Successful Life

What exactly do you mean by “abundance mindset”?

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Yesterday we talked about the importance of creating a gratitude practice and how it can influence our physical and mental health. Today we are going to expand on the idea of how our we influence our thoughts and how that can influence our success. In other words, let’s talk about abundance mindset versus scarcity.

And let’s be real…there is a lot of scarcity around us right now. We may not be able to do things we want to do. Or see the people we want to see. We may not be as successful as we thought we would be in 2020 or we might have even given up on the idea of our business because of outside forces. But you need to kick that scarcity mindset to the curb because all that “I can’t” talk is holding you back way more than any actual physical or economic barriers. Where there is a will and a positive abundant mindset, there is a way.

Can you commit to a regular gratitude practice? Get super clear on your goals and what it will take to achieve them? Focus on your strengths, how you can use them and put energy into developing them more while surrounding yourself with a super supportive community? Then you to are on a path to developing an abundance mindset.

You may be thinking “but output and effort increase results, right?” And that is what we’ve been taught for years. But a major component that we just started including is how our mind and our thoughts affect our outcomes too. How can we pre-plan for positive pro-active action versus negative reactive over-reaction? Is it possible to embrace and adapt to change versus continuing to put effort into the same tactics we’ve been using with lessening results? Can we use another mom’s success to signal we too can juggle work-home-and family versus festering in jealousy and resentment?

And you may be thinking “Yeah, Christy. All that woo-woo stuff isn’t for me. Or I barely have time to get my actual work done how can I possibly include all this mindset mumbo jumbo too?

What if I told you that leaning into and developing your strengths means you get more done in less time? That clear goal-setting streamlines your to-do list. The gratitude helps you appreciate all you have while inviting even more. And that community you will find can save you time and money not to mention provide you with support.

You can show up during your “work hours” excited about the work you’ll do and the impact you’ll make. Your attitude will invite others into community who want to know how you do it or how you can help them. You’ll feel more accomplished and you’ll start to see your efforts working.

And when you have a positive impact on other’s, they love to tell their friends. When you feel grateful and fulfilled in your work, you’ll show up happier for your family, for your employees, and for yourself.

Shifts to Make for an Abundance Mindset

Ready to make an impact, show up happier, reach your goals, and open yourself up to a more abundant life? Here are 3 shifts you can make starting today to start thinking more abundantly:

  1. Think “How will I” versus “I can’t”. For instance, how will I show up for my community versus I can’t make money because there is a pandemic. Remember positive and pro-active “how will I” or “how can I” versus “I can’t do things the way that I want or the way I think they should be so I won’t do anything at all.” This can even work with your family in terms of “I can’t take a vacation so our Christmas break is ruined” versus “how will I make Christmas special and memorable even without our annual ski trip.” Use an abundance of creativity to problem solve versus wallowing in a vat of scarcity.
  2. Next, choose to focus on the positive. We can all fall into the trap of focusing on what needs to be fixed. We need to lose weight, we need to make more money, we need to stop working so much. But what if instead we leaned into the positive, let that carry us more, and see if those negative attributes take care of themselves (hint, they often do). For example, instead of “My IG following isn’t growing at all, I hate editing pictures. I might as well give up” you could try “I’m really great on video. Maybe I could learn more about how to use IGTV or IG stories to grow my community rather than staying frustrated trying to edit pictures.” As Marie Forleo says “Everything is figureoutable.” And I can guarantee you, those successful business owners and mom’s that you don’t know how they do it…they are leaning into their strengths rather than focusing on their negatives, embracing change rather than fearing it, and constantly learning & adapting versus thinking they know it all.
  3. And finally, stop using failure or lack of perceived success as your excuse. Yes, this year has been a doozy for business owners. Absolutely, we are in uncertain times. Of course, things may not go to plan. But what have you learned? How can you grow? You could spend time and energy whining about what could have been. Or you can take the opportunity to learn how you can serve your community. To create something unique to the times. To become a beacon of positivity and resilience. And when things turn around, who do you think is better prepared to exploded…the wallflower or the person who kept working towards their goals, kept showing up for their community, and kept working when times weren’t so great.

Where Do I Start?

I have 3 small action steps for you today to start you on your path to a more abundant mindset.

  • First, write down something you’ve told yourself you can’t do or you won’t do. Now change it to a “how will I “ question. Instead of “I can’t grow my business during a pandemic” say “how will I grow my business during a pandemic.” Then start to brainstorm ideas.
  • Next, what is a negative statement you find yourself saying. Write it down then flip the script by leaning into something positive you have that can solve that problem or replace it with. Instead of “My family never lets me do anything by myself” becomes “I’m really good at arranging playdates for my kids. I’m going to see if this other mom wants to trade off one a week so we can each have a little self-care time.”
  • And finally, write down a goal you made for 2020 that you have not yet reached. Then write the steps you have taken towards it already and celebrate those. Then brainstorm the steps you need to take to reach it by the end of the year. Get those tasks onto your to-do list. I can 100% guarantee that pandemic or not, you will not reach your goal if you don’t try. So what’s the harm in trying and believing?

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Why You Need a Gratitude Practice

Ever wondered what all the buzz around a gratitude practice is about?

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A regular gratitude practice is crucial to creating an abundance mindset. In other words, it helps you focus on what you have versus what you do not, . In addition, it creates many positive physical and mental health benefits. For example, it creates positive emotions. It releases dopamine and serotonin in our brain. This helps boost our mood and lowers our stress levels. It helps you relish life’s experiences more. It can improve your physical and mental health, even improving your immune system. And it can help you on a path towards an abundance mindset.

Your gratitude practics is recognizing what you receive…whether from a person, an action, an object, or just the universe in general. A regular habit of recognizing this can open you up to receive more. To lower your stress. To appreciate what you have in your quest for more.

But I am Grateful…

Previously you might focus on gratitude around Thanksgiving. Or strictly in relation to what your have versus someone else. But are you ever just grateful for something because you’re grateful for it?

For instance, almost everyone has access to sunshine. But have you ever stopped to think how grateful you are for sun rises, sun sets, warm days, winter sun on a cold day, summer sun on a hot day. It’s not because you have access to something someone else doesn’t have. It’s just because you love the positive effects it has on your life.

And I know some of you may think “but I say thank you” or “I am grateful”. But are you setting aside a specific time each day to write down or speak out loud what makes your life better?

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As I said earlier, the mental and physical impacts of a regular gratitude practice are many and well documented. One study by Dr. Robert Emmons of UC Davis found stress hormones 23% lower in participants with a regular gratitude practice. Certainly, there are mamas out there trying to home school, raise little nuggets, work from home, or build a business could use a few less stress hormones. Am I right?

On a daily basis, you can start or end or even start & end your day focusing on your blessings. Who makes you happy? What makes you special? What makes you a great mom, a great business owners, and just a great woman overall.

And when our stress is lower, our dopamine and serotonin are releasing regularly, and we’re feeling positive and happier…it shows. Confident, happy, grateful you is a better mom, a better wife, a better boss, and a better service provider.

How to Start a Gratitude Practice

Let’s start with where to keep your gratitude. There is no right or wrong way to start your gratitude journal. You could purchase an actual journal. Or you can use a note pad. We’ve even used a mason jar with little slips of paper in my boy’s room at bedtime to talk about what we are grateful for from the day. Or you could make it part of your meal discussion with your family. Pinterest is FULL of ideas for creating a gratitude practice that suits you and your family if you’d like to include them. And that will meet your personal needs and comfort level.

I personally use the 5 Minute journal app because I nearly always have my phone on me. And it sends me reminders if I get busy and forget to stop and give thanks.

Want to get started on your own gratitude practice? Start by writing down 3 things you are grateful for. It doesn’t have to be a long drawn-out journal entry. Just a quick list on a note pad or your phone of 3 things you are happy you have or people you are thankful to know or actions that make you feel grateful. If you’re struggling to start here’s some prompts:

  • What is something you take for granted?
  • Who or what inspires you?
  • What is the best thing that happened this week?
  • Who or what makes you happy or smile?
  • What do you love about yourself?
  • Who or what made you smile today?
  • What family members or friends are you grateful for?
  • What is something you are looking forward to?

In conclusion, starting your gratitude practice is one of many pieces on your way to an abundance mindset. Regularly recognizing what you have makes you open to receive more. More love, more money, more success. Tell me below how you’ll keep track of your gratitude practice.


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Leah Ellis – 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur

Meet Financial Coach Leah Ellis…

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My next guest on “5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur is mom to 2 and financial coach Leah Ellis of Endeavor Financial Coaching. Leah pivoted from an in-home daycare to finance coach when Covid hit. She and her husband used their own financial journey as the inspiration to help other families pay off debt and live with financial freedom.

Mom and money teacher by day and financial coach by night, Leah Ellis is all-in to help eliminate money stress in America’s families. Her money management classes for kids and teens help the next generation learn how to plan for the future and avoid debt. Through Endeavor Financial Coaching, she is dedicated to helping millennials break the paycheck to paycheck cycle and reach their money goals. No matter your age or financial situation, Leah is ready to help you create a plan to take control of your money. Find her online for students here or for adults students here.

You can listen to my chat with Leah at the link above. Or read a summary and connect with her below.

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1. What do you do in your business and why did you choose it?


We help broke people break the paycheck to paycheck cycle and reach their money goals. Our clients learn how to handle money in order to build long term wealth. I chose to become a financial coach because we were living paycheck to paycheck. When we realized that it was possible to reach our goals, we wanted to share that knowledge with others.

2. What is your greatest strength when it comes to running your business?

I am good at creating a plan and executing it without too much procrastination.

3. What is the area entrepreneurship where you could grow the most?


I am terrible at marketing, and sometimes let my business take over my personal life.

4. If you were to start your business over today, what piece of advice or lesson learned would you emphasize to yourself?


Don’t expect the clients to start rolling in the first time you send out an offer. Give yourself time and grace.

5. What is your best advice for balancing business and home life or creating intentional family time?

Add family time to your schedule. It isn’t something you will get to when work is done, it is the most important work you will do. Add one thing every day that you can do as a family or one-on-one with a child. Even if it only takes 30 minutes, it will help your children feel loved, appreciated, and safe.

Where can we find you online and on social media?

Website

Facebook


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How to Create a Mom Morning Routine

“I could never have a mom morning routine.”

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I disagree.

Wanna know the biggest factor in my success as an entrepreneur and mom trying to juggle all the things? That is my morning routine. We touched on it a little in EarlyWhy Mom Needs an Morning Routine to balance work and homeschool successfully. This week we dive into the nitty gritty details of all things morning routine. From mindset to backsliding. From going to bed to waking up.

Today I have mindset exercises to help you get over the idea that you’re not a morning person. They will help you create a “why” around waking up earlier and see how your life could benefit from an early morning routine.

Dig deep with these exercises. Establish a solid connection to how your morning routine could help you complete your work and spend more time with your family. Even the most non-morning person can start to develop a morning routine when they focus on their why.

You might be thinking that waking up early is simply a matter of setting your alarm earlier. But there is more too it than that. Knowing your “why”, the benefits and the motivation for why you are making this change can help you stick with it. If you’re just setting an alarm, it’s easy to say “well I don’t need to wake up early tomorrow. I’ll do it the next day.” If you connect the act of setting your alarm or waking up early to a “why”, a specific purpose and benefit, you will be more successful and your new morning routine will feel enjoyable to maintain.

And you might think “this sounds great but I’m not a morning person.” I never thought of myself as a morning person. But I am addicted to crossing things off my to-do list. I am a person who prefers to spend my evenings with my family versus my laptop. Would you like to be that person too?

These exercises will help you establish a clear “why” that will help you continue your morning routine even on the days you want to hit the snooze 17 times.

You’ll start to develop a routine that may include self-care or home tasks that you’ve had trouble fitting in.   

And doing the mindset work to clearly establish the benefits of your morning routine keeps you waking early, completing work, and focusing on your family life later in the day.

Let’s Create Your Mom Morning Routine “Why”

Our exercises will focus on the benefits and tasks you would like to include in your morning routine. So grab a pen and paper or the notes app on your phone and play along…

First, list 3 ways you could benefit from an early morning routine…these could be work related, family releated, self-care related, exercise relates, quiet cup of coffee related…everyone’s list will be different. The important thing is to look at where you struggle in your work and home life now, and thing how a quiet, focused, kid-free environment could help you with that.

If you need more time…go ahead and pause before moving to the next step. Ready…step 2 is to figure out what tasks you would do in your early morning routine. Fill in the blank of “If I woke up consistently earlier I could” blank…what could you do for your self-care? What could you do around your house? How could your work or productivity improve?

See how your morning routine can help you balance homeschool and work life.
Listen to “Why Mom Needs an Early Morning Routine.”

And finally, let’s put all your brainstorming together. The ways you could benefit and what your could do with the new found time in your morning routine. Create your “why” statement by writing “I’m motivated to create a consistent morning routine so I can” and pick your priority benefits and tasks.

For instance, my morning routine why sounds like this….I’m motivated to create a consistent morning routine so I can meditate to prepare my mind for the day, get the priority tasks on my to-do list completed, and finish last night’s dishes. Because I hate doing dishes at night after dinner. I just want to sit on my couch. That couch time with my family is important and helps keep me motivated to wake up early. Getting those priority tasks keeps me motivated to wake up. Because I know the stress I feel when I try to do focused work with my kids asking a thousand questions or needing a thousand snacks. And my early morning meditation practice is the first form of self-care I’ve stuck too consistently since becoming a mother. Now I feel like my day is incomplete without it.

Let’s create your why…List 3 or more ways you could benefit from a morning routine. Next, answer what self-care, home care, or work tasks you could do that you aren’t doing consistently now if you started a morning routine. And I finally, using the lists you’ve created, write your why statement…I’m motivated to create a consistent morning routine so I can…

I’d love to hear your morning routine why. Tell me in the comments below the benefits and tasks you’ll tackle complete in your morning routine.


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3 Ways to Find More Time for What Matters

Trying to find more time for family? Self-care? Your spouse?

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Today, I’m talking to the mamas who feel like they never have enough time. I am going to help you find or create more time in your day. And yes, I am a magician. 😉

Here’s the trick…Are you willing to make some choices with where you spend your time? Are you willing to work on figuring out your priorities? Then you will start to find more time to do the things you love.

And this is great because you have the power to start right now. Today. As soon as you finish listening to this episode. You have always had this ability and it will cost you nothing to get started. Win and win in my book!

Incorporating and practicing today’s time management tactics will help you find time in your day and schedule for what is important to you. You will start to feel like you are less stressed on a daily basis because your to-do list is getting to-done. And you can actually find some time to do something for yourself…if that is one of your priorities. Which it absolutely should be. 😉

And your family will benefit from you being less stressed and more available to them for focused, family time. Sound like something you can get on board with? Yep, I totally agree.

Pick Your No’s

Your first tip to find more time is to Pick Your No’s.  Whump-whump…as in the things you say “no” to. I stole this bit of parenting advice I received when I was pregnant for my first child. But I think it applies well here as well. So often when we feel overscheduled or stressed about time, it’s because we have said “yes” too often. “Yes!” I will do this for a client on short notice. I will absolutely enroll my kids in 7 different activities. “Sure.” I will agree to make cookies for the school fundraiser and deliver meals to a friend who’s had a baby. And run a business. And have a family life…

Just to be clear, I am not saying any of these things are wrong or that you shouldn’t do them…unless you feel overwhelmed by your schedule and that things are slipping through the cracks. When you start to feel that way, you have to pick your no’s and figure out where saying yes is important and where you need to say no.

Make Your Priorities a Priority

Picking your “no’s” goes hand-in-hand with my second tip to find more time…Make your priorities a priority. Know what is important for you to focus your time on. Get those activities on the calendar. Do what’s important first thing when you sit down to work or with your family when you wake up each day.

I often see a vicious cycle where moms are frustrated because they feel pulled in too many directions because they aren’t clear on what is important for their business or family life. And because they aren’t clear on what’s important in their business or family life, they do all the things trying to make sure every base is covered…all the while stressing out themselves and often their family.

Getting clear on your priorities helps you focus your time and energy on the things that truly matter in growing your business or spending time with your family. And if you have time for other stuff, that’s gravy.

Ask for Help

My final tip to find more time is to let someone help you. And I know this can be hard. Believe me. I am the queen of thinking I can just do it all myself. Or that I can do it so I should. Or that I can do it right and I don’t want someone to mess it up. But letting go of a little control and allowing ourselves help will go a long way in helping us buy time, move forward, and spend more time with our families. You cannot be the only person who does all the things without cracking eventually.

And getting help doesn’t mean surrendering all control. This may mean your spouse puts the kids to bed so you can work on your priorities in the evening. Or everyone pitches in for a 10-minute cleanup session every afternoon. Yes, your spouse might not read The Pout Pout Fish the way you do. And yes, the toys might not make it into the exact right bin you’ve labeled. But sometimes done is better than perfect. Especially if you feel stressed and overwhelmed.

If you feel ready and inspired to find more time in your schedule for what is important and what you love, I want to you take action on the steps I’ve given you today…

  • Pick Your No’s and start saying yes only when something is a priority.
  • Make your priorities a priority. Get those urgent and important things that help you grow your business or spend more quality time with your family on the schedule.
  • Ask for help if you are still struggling to fit it all in. Figure out what you can have someone in your family help with or hire out tasks that don’t require your direct involvement.

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Combat Working Mom Guilt Like a Pro

Let’s chat working mom guilt.

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Mom guilt something that I dealt with since I became a mother. I have always worked since I had my kids. I stayed home for about 14 weeks with my first son. When I went back to work and had three different part-time jobs during the first year of his life. So I totally get the working mom guilt thing.

I’ve developed a couple of strategies because I believe that kids need us. But I also believe there is something to be learned in learning patience or maybe even a little boredom.

Today’s podcast episode helps all you mamas out there feeling like you can’t ever get anything done because the minute you start to write an email or unload the dishwasher, a tiny human starts crying that they need your attention. The tips I share help the mamas who can problem solve for the fits and tears before they happen…and who can work on a healthy mindset about what your child can learn by playing independently.

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Up until now, you may have tried asking them to play quietly or told them you needed some space without actually creating a plan for spending quality time either before or after you work.

My tactics may be different from what you’ve tried in the past because they require a bit of pre-planning…both in your work schedule and in your thinking around how you will confront those guilty feelings that creep up when your kids are crying but you need to get work done.

If you implement these steps you will start to create confidence in your kid’s ability to play independently. AND your ability to work (even if it is just for short periods of time). You’ll feel much less of that mom guilt because you are actually building quality time with your kids into your schedule.

Creating a routine around when you work helps everyone know what to expect when mom needs to work. You’ll hear me say this a lot…kids and adults love structure and routine.

Another fun fact, you benefit by getting work done and spending quality time with your kids. Your kids will benefit by spending quality time with you and learning some independent play skills…what’s not to love. Here are three of my strategies for combatting working mom guilt like a pro.

Start with Quality Time

First, start out your work session with some quality time with your child before your quality time for work. This helps to assuage any mom guilt because you know you’ve spent time with your kids. If you’ve got younger kids, start out by having them pick out to short books or an easy game. You’ll read or play with them. Then say “all right, Mommy needs to work now and when we get done we can do something else.”

Spending quality time before takes the working mom guilt off the plate because, ta-da, you already have spent some time with your kids. Start with short activities that might take like 15 or 20 minutes prior to your work session. This will help to tamper those guilty feelings of taking time to do the work that you need to do.

And that “work” doesn’t need to be sitting at a computer and answering emails. That work might be putting away laundry or I’m cleaning the bathroom. You can totally use the same sort of tactic of starting out with intentional time one-on-one time with the kids. And then move into your work, whatever that looks like.

Give Them a Carrot

My next tip is offering them a carrot…Try saying “if you give me the time I need to get this work done, then we will do something you want to do.” Like we will go on a bike ride. Or we will go to the park. Or we will do something that will take a little bit more time.

This works really well if you have analog clocks in your house. As a professional organizer, I often encouraged my clients to have analog clocks. They really help for kids (and adults) to see the passage of time better. In this instance, you say to them “if you give me till a certain time, we will do something that you want to do.” Then you are able to point to the clock and say “the big hand is on the three. If you give me to work until the big hand is on the 12, we will take a bike ride.

Analog clocks give a visual way to see this passage of time. It helps to know when they’re going to get that thing you are offering them. This tactic can also buy you time for work that you’re doing in your house.

Boredom is Good for Kids

My final tip for tamping down mom guilt while you’re trying to be productive is that boredom is actually good for kids. And I know that that sounds crazy to think about but it actually encourages problem solving and creativity. The idea that you have to be 24/7 available to meet the entertainment needs of your kids just isn’t true. And there are plenty of studies to back this up.

A 2014 study from the University of Michigan observed how kids react to having more options to play with and guided play versus less options and independent play. They found when they gave kids fewer toys and allowed them to play independently, it encouraged problem solving and creativity. Because it forces them to exercise those brain muscles.

And the same is true if you are trying to be productive and get stuff done around your house. Telling kids they need to go figure out for themselves what they want to play with is a great way for them to create those neurological pathways. It allows their brain to be creative and to solve problems. Don’t feel like you have to spoon feed your kids entertainment every single day…Especially if you are trying to be productive.

How will you pre-plan to combat working mom guilt? What are your techniques for creating healthy mindset around working in front of kids? Share below to help a mama who may need your strategy. 😀


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