I’m so happy you are joining me today to talk (cue ominous music)…accountability.
I’m hoping after today to assuage any fears or angst that you might have around the word accountability. And that you’ll see accountability can be an effective and essential tool in your success as an entrepreneur. And in so many other aspects of your life.
That is the great thing about accountability. It helps you make things happen. I had a big accountability “a-ha” moment several years back. I had been trying to lose weight for many years. So my husband and I decided to try Weight Watchers when they introduced their online program and app. There was something about the reminders to log my food and knowing whatever I put in my mouth was recorded. It made me way more successful than I had ever been on my own. For so many years, I had this idea that if I reached out for support meant that I was weak. Or the success wouldn’t mean as much if you didn’t do it all along.
I am grateful my Weight Watchers adventure started my accountability journey that I confirmed when reading the book “The Four Tendencies” by Gretchen Rubin. If you aren’t familiar, The Four Tendencies are a personality framework that breaks down your response to inner and outer expectations. In a nutshell, some people are great with setting their own expectations. Some do better when they know others are expecting them to do something. In other words, internally versus externally motivated.
When I took the The Four Tendencies quiz, which you can take by clicking here, I discovered I was what she calls an “Obliger”. This means I respond best to outer expectations and motivation but struggle with my own personal expectations for myself. It was like a light bulb went off. My need for outside accountability didn’t mean I was broken. It just meant that I responded best when I knew someone would be expecting something from me. And ever since then, I have been looking for ways I can incorporate outside accountability. This helps me reach both business and personal goals.
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The Benefits of Accountability
When you commit to an accountability partner, whether it is a friend, family member, or paid coach, you create a team around the expectation of your success. Now, there are other people routing for you. Supporting you. Making sure you are hitting milestones. Cheering your success. And picking you up when things don’t go so well.
Can you find that person or people that align with the goals you set? Commit to showing up for your check-ins and doing the work between? Then you too can see massive success from finding an accountability partner.
Ever find yourself wondering why you just can’t get past a certain level? Or feeling frustrated that you know you NEED to do X, Y, and Z, but you put it off. Or just don’t do it. Even if you know it could bring you the success you want in your business or personal life.
You may be struggling to keep up on your own. Or you’ve kept your goals and dreams a secret from your friends and family. You know, just in case you didn’t hit those milestones. Maybe you thought, like me, if you didn’t achieve your success on your own without outside help that it just wasn’t as sweet.
But I’ll tell you what is sweet…research shows that having a specific accountability partner to help you reach your goals improves your success rate to 95%. That sounds pretty sweet to me. Over time, your accountability partner can help you reframe your “failures” as growth points.
They keep you motivated, moving forward and on track by meeting for regularly scheduled check-ins and progress updates. And their outside perspective can help you prioritize your task list better. Because their heart isn’t as close to your goal as you. I mean, I’ve had some tough love with coaches who told me to modify certain plans because they didn’t align with my goals. And they were right…but I couldn’t see it because my passion was to close to my ideas.
And when you start to succeed more, feel more confident and less stressed, everyone around you will feel it. You can show up for your family less anxious. Share your financial success with family and friends. Finally feel confidant to take those family pictures or go to the pool with your kids this summer. Finding accountability to get you to your goals is so worth it!
Finding Your Accountability Partner
Ready to start to wading into the pool of potential accountability buddies? Consider a few things so you can have a successful experience…
- Does the person you want to work with have experience in the area where you need support? Just because someone is an amazing business owner, doesn’t mean they can help you lose weight. Find someone with real life, successful experience in what you want to accomplish.
- Are they too close to you that their feedback could be taken personally or affect your relationship? Remember, part of accountability is being open for feedback and change. If you choose your spouse or best friend, will their honest feedback leave you feeling resentful? If so, maybe look for someone a little less familiar.
- Are they dependable? Make sure your buddy is the person that shows up for lunch dates that were on the schedule…not the buddy that texts when they are 5 minutes late that they aren’t going to make it. Both buddies are perfectly fine on a social level…but when it comes to accountability, you want the person that shows up on time and ready to go.
And if you are looking for accountability to help you juggle working as an entrepreneur with enjoying your family life, I want to help. Let’s jump on a free, 15 minute consultation call to see if my programs are a good fit for the accountability you need in your business and home life.
Family Fun Tip
This week, we are talking scavenger hunts. Am I showing my age if I say that Polaroid Picture Scavenger Hunts are one of my favorite memories from high school? You know, where you’d have to snap a polaroid of everyone on your team “Building a Pyramid on the Football Field” or “Crammed Into a Phone Booth”. Ok, if the mention of Polaroid didn’t date me, the idea of phone booths might have. But you get the idea. Divide into teams. Find the items on your list. Race back to the assigned end point.
And lucky for us moms, there are a lot of other moms who make scavenger hunting for our families much easier. I found a fantastic post from My Joy Filled Life with 75 different scavenger hunt ideas for you and your family. From nature walks to the library to birds or letters or things at the grocery store. And, of course, one of the most popular hunts of the spring season is often an Easter Egg Hunt, which you can also turn into a clue-based scavenger hunt if you would like. Lots of different options to get your family out and about. Solving clues and looking for items to cross off their hunt list.
And one of the major issues my Family Fun Bucket List solves for the families in my community is accountability. When you sit down for your monthly family meeting and family members share and schedule their ideas, there is a sense of expectation set. You can bet dollars to donuts if my 9-year-old says he wants to go on a Family PokemonGo walk in the park and we schedule it, he will make sure we remember and make it happen.
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