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4 Simple High Performance Habits for Mompreneurs

Are you a high performance mompreneur?

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There are so many things you need to run your business. From computers to software, to classes and marketing. But how much time are you investing in the most important asset of your business? Yourself! This week we are discussing high performance habits for mompreneurs and why it is so important for you to take care of the you part of running a business. And easy ways you can work this care into every day. And to be clear…we aren’t talking specifically about “self-care” in the traditional, although it is technically self-care. It’s more of creating habits to maintain a healthy mind and body so you can continue serving your customers, creating amazing content, and stay healthy to care for your family.

Benjamin Franklin said, “When the well is dry, we know the worth of water”. Too often as both moms and entrepreneurs, we allow ourselves to run down before we take the time to care and nurture our bodies and mind. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There are simple, everyday steps you can take to take care of yourself to stay healthy, stave off burnout, and limit common entrepreneur mental health issues like stress, anxiety, and depression.

If you can commit to making incremental changes to your daily habits involving your mind, body, sleep, and downtime, you too can stay happy and healthy as a mompreneur.. Often, we separate our physical or social life from our business life. But they actually all work together. And the more harmonious we can make them, the better our overall health and mindset will be. That’s what makes high performance mompreneurs.

How Mompreneurs Benefit from High Performance Habits

If you’re stuck in a loop of grinding it out or hustle, hustle, hustle when it comes to your business but feel like your relationships, physical or mental health, or sleep patterns are suffering due to this hustle…it’s time to care for and protect your most important mompreneur asset…you!

When you adopt these habits you’ll be able to better cope with truly stressful situations. And not let the small stuff throw you off your game. You’ll be able to stay physically healthier to show up for your family and your business.

You’ll sleep better which will help you show up more focused, creative, and alert for both your business and home life. And you’ll make time for the people who matter on a regular basis.

If the hustle is keeping you from spending time with your family, spouse, or friends, then what good is that hustle. Let’s nurture our relationships that matter while nurturing ourselves AND growing our business.

Simple Habits for High Performance Mompreneurs

Here are four areas where you can uplevel your “you care” to become the high performance mompreneurs you need to be. Those areas are your mind, your body, your sleep, and your relationships.

  1. Mind – And real talk, if your first reaction to hearing the word “mindset” is “that’s such a buzzword” or “what a fad”, you are probably the person who need mindset the most. Just saying. There are so many simple ways to incorporate developing a growth mindset into your daily routine. Start a gratitude practice. Start an affirmation journal. Meditate. Flip the script on failure to see it as a learning experience. Loosen your grip on “it’s my way or the highway” and find places you can adapt, modify, or edit. When you are able to see the abundance in your life, believe in who you are, stay present, learn from what doesn’t work, and be open to alternatives you will be a happy and healthier entrepreneur…no question.
  2. Body – For far too long I thought of my physical health and my entrepreneurial life as two separate things. And when I realized that I needed to keep my body healthy in order to run my businesses as an optimal level, it’s like a lightbulb went off. Just like you need your computer to be healthy and up to date if your work is done on your laptop. Or a truck driver needs to maintain their rig. Your body is the key to your business success. It generated the idea for the business and continues to generate content, growth points, new ventures, or is just doing the work day in and day out. You need to keep it in optimal working condition. Eat healthy. Exercise regularly. Take vitamins. Drink plenty of water. Reduce alcohol consumption. All of these habits work together to help keep your body in peak working order so you can tackle the daily duties of running your business. And all these healthy habits work even better when you focus on our third habit…
  3. Sleep – And I know, depending on what stage of motherhood you’re in, you might be like “um, what’s sleep?” But part of the reason you might feel unfocused, unproductive, unable to remember thoughts, or uncreative could be linked to lack of sleep. Sleep is when your brain and body reset and repair. Getting the proper amount of sleep leads to better concentration and productivity. It can also help you stave off an array of mental and physical health issues like weight gain, diabetes, and depression. Not to mention, it boosts your immune system to help keep you healthy. Getting a good night’s sleep may mean keeping your phone outside your bedroom. Or choosing not to watch one more episode of the show you’re binging. Or creating a bedtime routine that helps you fall asleep faster. A little effort but so worth the reward.
  4. Relationships…The final important habit to keep your mompreneur body and mind healthy is to make time for your important relationships. Date nights with your spouse. Play dates with your kids. Coffee dates with your friends. Is there an activity with friends or family you’ve been putting off in order to “get work done”? Or do you think you’ll make time once you’ve reached a certain point of success? The truth is…burning yourself out and neglecting relationships that fill your cup will slow down your success. Take time to step away from your work to spend time with the people you love doing what you love. You will return with better focus, more creativity, and more energy to complete the tasks you need or want to do.

Your action step to start creating high performance habits as a mompreneur is to start pivoting your daily routine with the suggestions given today. Don’t try to do it all at once. Especially if it is all very different from what you are currently doing. Small, incremental changes on a regular basis are more sustainable.  And you are more likely to stick with them until they become part of your routine. As opposed to going whole hog and giving up after a week because it’s just too much change at once.

Find simple, subtle ways to incorporate mindset shifts like starting a gratitude practice or writing a daily list of what you accomplished. Nurture your body by finding time to exercise 2-3 times per week or limiting alcohol consumption to the weekends. Find nights during the week where you can get a few extra hours of sleep to allow your body and mind to reset and recover from all your ask it to do. And schedule some downtime with your spouse, your family, or your friends to step away from work and focus on fun. You know I love when you focus on fun!

If you find you’re struggling with incorporating these habits for high performance mompreneurs, let’s talk about how I can help. When you schedule a free clarity call with me, we’ll review your current goals, discuss your schedule, and clarify your priorities to make sure all the parts of your life your value are getting the time they need and deserve. You can schedule your free call by visiting bit.ly/bsmbookacall. You can have the successful business and fulfilling family life you want. Let’s work together to make it happen.

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Accountability: How You Benefit and Why It’s Important

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I’m so happy you are joining me today to talk (cue ominous music)…accountability.

I’m hoping after today to assuage any fears or angst that you might have around the word accountability. And that you’ll see accountability can be an effective and essential tool in your success as an entrepreneur. And in so many other aspects of your life.

That is the great thing about accountability. It helps you make things happen. I had a big accountability “a-ha” moment several years back. I had been trying to lose weight for many years. So my husband and I decided to try Weight Watchers when they introduced their online program and app. There was something about the reminders to log my food and knowing whatever I put in my mouth was recorded. It made me way more successful than I had ever been on my own. For so many years, I had this idea that if I reached out for support meant that I was weak. Or the success wouldn’t mean as much if you didn’t do it all along.

I am grateful my Weight Watchers adventure started my accountability journey that I confirmed when reading the book “The Four Tendencies” by Gretchen Rubin. If you aren’t familiar, The Four Tendencies are a personality framework that breaks down your response to inner and outer expectations. In a nutshell, some people are great with setting their own expectations. Some do better when they know others are expecting them to do something. In other words, internally versus externally motivated.

When I took the The Four Tendencies quiz, which you can take by clicking here, I discovered I was what she calls an “Obliger”. This means I respond best to outer expectations and motivation but struggle with my own personal expectations for myself. It was like a light bulb went off. My need for outside accountability didn’t mean I was broken. It just meant that I responded best when I knew someone would be expecting something from me. And ever since then, I have been looking for ways I can incorporate outside accountability. This helps me reach both business and personal goals.

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The Benefits of Accountability

When you commit to an accountability partner, whether it is a friend, family member, or paid coach, you create a team around the expectation of your success. Now, there are other people routing for you. Supporting you. Making sure you are hitting milestones. Cheering your success. And picking you up when things don’t go so well.

Can you find that person or people that align with the goals you set? Commit to showing up for your check-ins and doing the work between? Then you too can see massive success from finding an accountability partner.

Ever find yourself wondering why you just can’t get past a certain level? Or feeling frustrated that you know you NEED to do X, Y, and Z, but you put it off. Or just don’t do it. Even if you know it could bring you the success you want in your business or personal life.

You may be struggling to keep up on your own. Or you’ve kept your goals and dreams a secret from your friends and family. You know, just in case you didn’t hit those milestones. Maybe you thought, like me, if you didn’t achieve your success on your own without outside help that it just wasn’t as sweet.

But I’ll tell you what is sweet…research shows that having a specific accountability partner to help you reach your goals improves your success rate to 95%. That sounds pretty sweet to me. Over time, your accountability partner can help you reframe your “failures” as growth points.   

They keep you motivated, moving forward and on track by meeting for regularly scheduled check-ins and progress updates. And their outside perspective can help you prioritize your task list better. Because their heart isn’t as close to your goal as you. I mean, I’ve had some tough love with coaches who told me to modify certain plans because they didn’t align with my goals. And they were right…but I couldn’t see it because my passion was to close to my ideas.

And when you start to succeed more, feel more confident and less stressed, everyone around you will feel it. You can show up for your family less anxious. Share your financial success with family and friends. Finally feel confidant to take those family pictures or go to the pool with your kids this summer. Finding accountability to get you to your goals is so worth it!

Finding Your Accountability Partner

Ready to start to wading into the pool of potential accountability buddies? Consider a few things so you can have a successful experience…

  1. Does the person you want to work with have experience in the area where you need support? Just because someone is an amazing business owner, doesn’t mean they can help you lose weight. Find someone with real life, successful experience in what you want to accomplish.
  2. Are they too close to you that their feedback could be taken personally or affect your relationship? Remember, part of accountability is being open for feedback and change. If you choose your spouse or best friend, will their honest feedback leave you feeling resentful? If so, maybe look for someone a little less familiar.
  3. Are they dependable? Make sure your buddy is the person that shows up for lunch dates that were on the schedule…not the buddy that texts when they are 5 minutes late that they aren’t going to make it. Both buddies are perfectly fine on a social level…but when it comes to accountability, you want the person that shows up on time and ready to go.

And if you are looking for accountability to help you juggle working as an entrepreneur with enjoying your family life, I want to help. Let’s jump on a free, 15 minute consultation call to see if my programs are a good fit for the accountability you need in your business and home life.

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Family Fun Tip

This week, we are talking scavenger hunts. Am I showing my age if I say that Polaroid Picture Scavenger Hunts are one of my favorite memories from high school? You know, where you’d have to snap a polaroid of everyone on your team “Building a Pyramid on the Football Field” or “Crammed Into a Phone Booth”. Ok, if the mention of Polaroid didn’t date me, the idea of phone booths might have. But you get the idea. Divide into teams. Find the items on your list. Race back to the assigned end point.

And lucky for us moms, there are a lot of other moms who make scavenger hunting for our families much easier. I found a fantastic post from My Joy Filled Life with 75 different scavenger hunt ideas for you and your family. From nature walks to the library to birds or letters or things at the grocery store. And, of course, one of the most popular hunts of the spring season is often an Easter Egg Hunt, which you can also turn into a clue-based scavenger hunt if you would like. Lots of different options to get your family out and about. Solving clues and looking for items to cross off their hunt list.

And one of the major issues my Family Fun Bucket List solves for the families in my community is accountability. When you sit down for your monthly family meeting and family members share and schedule their ideas, there is a sense of expectation set. You can bet dollars to donuts if my 9-year-old says he wants to go on a Family PokemonGo walk in the park and we schedule it, he will make sure we remember and make it happen.

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How to Say No - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Say “No” and Why You Need To

Do you need to learn how to say “no” more often?

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It’s the final episode in my goal setting series. We’ve talked about clarifying our purpose or our why when it comes to our goals. We created a clear plan and then scheduled the steps in that plan along with finding someone to hold us accountable. And today we finish up by talking 2 letters that can make a huge difference in your ability to reach your goals and maintain boundaries to protect your time, energy and effort. And those two letters are N and O. That’s right, we are talking how to say “NO” and why it is important to learn to do this as a business owner and as a mom.

Learning to confidently say no to tasks, people, or opportunities that don’t serve you frees you up for the tasks, people, and opportunities that do. You start to control your time and energy rather than feeling tapped out by constantly meeting the needs and goals of others.

If you are aware of your priorities and learn to evaluate if a task or opportunity serves you, you can learn to boldly say “no” without the need for explanation or excuses.

You might be thinking “saying no feels so negative. I want to be a positive person.” Or “I don’t want to disappoint people”. Maybe even “I’m afraid if I say no I’ll miss out on an opportunity”. And I totally get that. I’ve been working on my “saying yes too much” recovery for many years.

But I love this quote from author Paolo Coehlo…

“When you say ‘Yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to yourself.”

Maybe it helps if we think of it as being a “yes to you” person rather than a “no” person.

How to Tell if You Need to Say “Yes to You” More

Do you feel tapped out? Do you feel like you don’t have time for yourself or your family? Are you working with people who don’t bring you joy or surrounded by clients who don’t respect your boundaries? Do you feel like you give and give without feeling appreciated? Maybe like you spend so much time fulfilling everyone else’s to-do list that you don’t have time to tackle the priorities or goals on yours?

A practice of confidently saying “no” helps you make time for yourself and your family. It helps you work on your personal and work goals because you aren’t filling your days with tasks you’ve reluctantly agreed to do for other people. And while saying “no” might feel negative, you will start to recognize how positive it feels to fill your day with tasks, people, and opportunities that fill your cup. That help you maintain your positive energy.

On a daily basis, you will feel like you are in control of your schedule. You make the rules. You create a business and family life based on your goals and priorities, not feeling guilty or obligated or at the whim of others.

And when you prioritize your priorities at work, you are able to complete the truly important tasks and turn off work, and tune into family. You can prioritize the quality time with your family, your spouse and your friends versus feeling overwhelmed by obligations to people or tasks that aren’t on your VIP list.

Learn How to Say “No”

But where do you even start being “yes to you” person. How do you tell if a task or opportunity should be a “yes” or a “no” if you are so used to saying yes? I’m going to give you 10 questions to ask yourself to help you determine if you say “yes” or “no”

  1. Do you want to do this?
  2. Does it require your specific expertise?
  3. Do you have time in your schedule for this?
  4. Does this align with your values?
  5. Will it take time away from yourself or your family?
  6. Will it take time away from your work?
  7. Is it a priority?
  8. Will it take time away from something else that is a priority?
  9. Could someone else do this?
  10. Will there be an opportunity for me to do this in the future?

What these 10 questions help you do is slow down and evaluate opportunities before you answer. They help you think of alternate ways you could be involved. For instance, if it doesn’t require your expertise and it would take time away from something that is a priority, could you delegate it to a member of your team. If there is an opportunity to do it again in the future, can you get on the list for the next time around?

Ok. So now you have a system to determine if you should say “no”. But how do you actually do it if it doesn’t feel comfortable? Or you still have that nagging voice saying “you’re going to let people down”? Or they can’t do it without you.”

You practice.

Say it in the mirror. Start by saying “no” to easy no’s. Recognize the times you are saying “yes” and find yourself wishing you said “no”. Commit that feeling to memory so you don’t get roped in again.

The more you practice slowing down and taking time before you make commitments, the easier the no will become. You will start to see progress on the goals you’ve set because you are focusing time and energy on tasks that help you. Rather than spreading yourself too thin. You will start making time for yourself, your family, and your friends again. You will start saying “yes to you” and your goals, your priorities, and your values.

This Week’s Family Fun Tip

This week’s family fun tip comes via last week’s guest on 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur, Luana HueSing. Luana mentioned in our episode that they do weekly family meals with her mother. I noticed in her IG stories Friday that they created a tabletop nacho bar this week. It seemed like a fun option for any of us planning some stay at home Super Bowl activities or just a fun Friday night like Luana.

If you haven’t seen the TikTok trend yet, you start by covering a table with foil. Both to protect the table and for easier cleanup. Make a line of tortilla chips down the center of the foil. Then layer on your favorite nacho toppings….meats, beans, tomatoes, queso, lettuce, jalapenos, guacamole. A pro tip I read is to use queso versus shredded cheese since you can’t melt the cheese in the over. Unless you have a really big oven. Once you’ve layered all your favorite toppings, dig in!

Photo Courtesy of Stupid Food on Reddit

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Schedule & Accountability When Goal Setting - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

Why Schedules & Accountability are Important When Goal Setting

Do you think about your schedule or accountability when goal setting?

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Scheduling and accountability provide the checks when goal setting for your business or home. Writing your tasks on a schedule carves out specific times to work on specific tasks related to the improvements you would like to make. Finding accountability means it is more than just you checking in on yourself when it comes to the progress you are making.

People who commit to scheduling time for their goals and finding a partner or group to meet with and hold them accountable see up to a 95% success rate with the goals they commit to complete. This according to a study by The American Society of Training and Development. In fact, that same study from the ASTD found a 65% success rate by just telling someone your goals. See why scheduling and accountability are important?

You don’t have to do this alone. Whether you need professional coaching to meet business goals or friendship support in fitness goals, the rewards for reaching your goals are no less if you find a support network to help you get there.

You may think that no one cares what you are trying to accomplish. Or you don’t want bother someone. But trust me when I tell you, your friends and family care about your happiness. They want to share in your success. And if it isn’t your friends or family, that is what the coaching industry is here for. That is why there are coaches to help you eat healthy. To train for a half marathon. To market your business or create a membership. And my personal favorite…to help you to make the most of your time, energy and effort you so can have more fun! When you commit to an accountability buddy and commit to the time it takes to complete your goal, you will succeed.

And that success begets more success. Accomplishing your goals builds confidence to try more things and reach even further when it comes to your business and home life.

Creating a schedule of the tasks you need to complete to reach your goals helps you know exactly what you need to do when. And checking in with your accountability means you are more likely to complete those tasks.

And as I’ve said in the past 2 goal setting episodes, you accomplishing your goals benefits both you and those around you. From feeling healthier and having more energy when you are with your family, to making more money and feel less stressed about your finances, to showing up for your clients or co-workers as a better, more confident you…so many people benefit when you reach your goals. Improvement is never selfish.

How to Start Scheduling & Find Accountability When Goal Setting

So let’s talk steps to schedule time to work on your goals and find accountability to keep you on track…

First, when it comes to scheduling, set aside specific time for a specific purpose. And the more specific about the task and time you can be, the better. Last week we talked about breaking your goal into manageable tasks.

For instance, if you want to add 100 new members to your membership, you figure out your quarterly, monthly, than weekly goals. And let’s say you want to 2 new members to your group this week. You know that direct outreach via DMs works well for bringing in new members. So you will schedule time at 10am each day to send 10 DMs to potential new members. You are assigning a specific task…sending DMs…to a specific time on your schedule…10 am each day.

Or maybe you want to run your first ½ marathon. You have a training schedule that lays out how many runs and the length of each run for the weeks leading up to the race. Rather than just hanging the schedule on the fridge and leaving your training to “if you get around to it”, create specific times on your schedule to do your runs. Create reminders or alarms so that you can stay on track.

And speaking of staying on track, our second tactic for goal success is accountability. Your accountability buddy is there for the expressed purpose of keeping you moving towards your goal. Because even with the best schedule or calendar or reminders, it is easy to talk yourself out of running 2 miles when it’s cold outside. Or sending DMs when you feel like no one is responding.

Our accountability keeps us going when we want to wallow about how long progress is taking or that we want to give up because it doesn’t really matter. Some people find success with friends or family members. Simply asking “hey, I have a goal to do ____________ this year. I’ll be doing X, Y, & Z to reach this goal. Could you check in on me to keep me on track?” Some of us, myself included, need a bit more. We need someone with expertise in the area we’d like to make our change. Hiring accountability says you are serious about your change. Hiring accountability says you need an expert. You could spend more time spinning your wheels or you could cut to the chase and hire someone who makes it their life’s work to help people like you reach goals like you’ve set.

In conclusion, as that enthusiasm for your 2021 goals starts to wane the deeper we get into January, I’d love for you to invest in these success tactics I’ve shared today. Get the tasks you need to meet your goals on your schedule. The more specific you can be about what you will do and when you will do it the better.

And find or hire accountability. Tell your spouse. Tell your best friend. Join a group. Hire a coach. Find that person or people who will make sure your stay on track and meet the goals you’ve set.

And if those goals include working more productively or streamlining your workday so you make the most of your time, energy, and effort, I want to help you. Let’s jump on a free 15-minute call to see how I can help you reach your goals in 2021. You can book your free call at bit.ly/bsmbookacall.

This Week’s Family Fun Tip

This week’s tip is something I love to consult when I am trying to think of fun activities. It’s called the National Day Calendar and you can find it at nationaldaycalendar.com. Trust me when I tell you, there is something you can celebrate with your family every day.

For instance, the day this episode is release, January 19th is World Popcorn Day. Tomorrow, January 20th is National Cheese Lover’s Day. And this coming Saturday, January 24th is both National Peanut Butter Day AND Beer Can Appreciation Day. I love to use these days to create easy, fun activities with my family. So be sure to check out the National Day Calendar as you fill out your family fun bucket list every month. And don’t forget you can pick up your free copy of my Monthly Family Fun Bucket List by clicking below.


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Avoid Work at Home Burnout - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Avoid Work at Home Burnout

Anyone else feel on the edge of work at home burnout the last couple weeks???

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Last week, I had a trifecta of crazy. I was readjusting after going out of town for the weekend. My son needed help prepping for his 3rd grade test after not having a real teacher since March. And then this little election we had here in the United States. 😬

Let’s just say I was on the stress struggle bus. But luckily, and thanks to the help of fantastic coaches helping me create systems to deal with life when it feels overwhelming, I made it through. And I want to help you identify and conquer your overwhelm too.

That is why today I’m sharing strategies to identify when you are heading towards maximum capacity so you can identify your stress and stop burnout before it starts.

If you can learn the signals your mind and body start to send when you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or burned out, you can create solutions in advance to help. Bonus points if you share those solutions with your spouse, friend, coach or other support so they can also identify when you’re heading for trouble and lend their help.

If you’re anything like me, my previous max capacity cycle runs something like a car with a wobbly wheel….At first, the car just shakes a bit, I might not even notice it all the time. But instead of stopping to fix it (which would be pretty easy at this point), I just keep pushing. And as the shaking gets worse, I continue to say “if I can just get to this destination” or “if I can just drive this far I’ll fix it then”. So I push forward, maybe even driving faster, trying to out drive the eventual damage. And then BAM! Blown tire. Or the wheel falls off. Or some other bad tire-related problem with your car. I didn’t listen when the triggers started and look where that got me.

When you start to identify your triggers or know what your mind and body need to recover, you create a plan of action for those times when you know you’re going to be stretched to your limits.

Work at Home Burnout and Your Brain

You might be thinking “burnout is just part of the process” or “how can working less actually help me”. Sounds crazy, right? But hear me out…That stress you think is normal is damaging your brain.

As you near your burnout, your body produces excess amounts of the hormone cortisol. This affects the part of the brain that creates new brain cells and keeps them healthy. And that excess cortisol can affect decision making, working memory and control of impulsive behavior. Hello, stress eating, anyone??? And while stress is making it harder to think, make decisions, or control your urge to raid the peanut butter cups in your kid’s Halloween basket, it is also reducing the levels of the brain chemicals dopamine and serotonin which maker you feel happier. No wonder stress is so stressful!!!

But there is hope…By recognizing the signs of burnout before it’s too late, you can create a plan that will stop that flow of cortisol, save your dopamine levels, and help you continue to problem solve with the best of them.

Incorporating stress relievers on a regular basis can not only stave off the major meltdowns, but it can help you in your day to day functions. You’ll feel better and less on edge when you incorporate some form of self-care into your daily routine like exercising, meditating, or reading for yourself. You’ll notice more of an even keel rather than major swings in mood, productivity, and stress levels.

And let’s face it…everyone is better when mom is better. Your family benefits because you can be present with them without stressing over little things. Your clients appreciate your clear, focused efforts.

Signs of Work at Home Burnout

Let’s start by identifying some of the basic signs or triggers of burnout. And you may hear this list and think, “well, that just sounds like mom life to me.” And that is because mom life IS incredibly stressful. We are regularly on the verge of burnout with all the balls we are trying to juggle. That is why it is so important to recognize the signs and start to develop solutions before the burnout starts. So, signs of burnout include feeling:

  1. Forgetful
  2. Short Tempered
  3. Tired
  4. Unmotivated

Like I said. Pretty much every mom on the planet just said. Um, so I’m heading for burnout then. But we have spent so long ignoring the signs or saying “that’s just motherhood” that we have normalized the damaging stress. But the good news is, now that we know how it might look or feel, we can brainstorm ways to stop work at home burnout before it starts…

How to Stop Work at Home Burnout Before It Starts

  1. Prioritize – Moms notoriously like to do it all. In fact, it can feel like a competition at times. But if you truly want to prevent those damaging burnout episodes, you need to practice prioritizing. Start to evaluate the activities and tasks you have and whether they fit your values or fall into the truly “urgent” or “important” category. If you aren’t sure which tasks are truly priorities, check out my episode “How to Choose Your Priority Tasks”.
  2. Create Boundaries – Again, moms are notorious “yes” women. We love to help and make people happy. We feel the need to ask how high when I clients say “jump now”. Setting effective boundaries around when we work, what our schedule capacity is, and learning to say “no” when there just isn’t time helps us create boundaries to protect our stress levels. Need more tips on setting boundaries? Check out my episode “Why You Need to Set Work Boundaries”.
  3. Recognize Your Triggers – What do you do when you are approaching burnout? Or does it seem to come at certain times during the year? The holidays for example…so many activities, wanting to do all the things but it is also the end of the year for your business and you need to plan for the following year or for Q1. And you need to wrap up Q4 of 2020. I am literally feeling stressed just thinking about it. When you can learn to recognize that overwhelming feeling, you can start to problem solve in advance how to prevent it. Do you need to cut back on unnecessary holiday activities? Or need to hire help for end of the year wrap up in your business? Do you need to take a full day off from all things digital once a week to focus on your family and refill your cup? Recognize your triggers and problem solve how you’ll fight them in advance.
  4. Schedule Non-Negotiable Time for What Makes You Happy – This is super important for all those moms who put the needs of literally everyone else first. It goes hand in hand with the boundaries thing. You deserve time to take care of you, do something that makes you happy. It doesn’t have to be alone time. I can totally be family time. Or a date night. Make time for the activities that make you happy. Get it on the schedule. Make it non-negotiable. Do not let outside commitments keep you from your happy place.
  5. Incorporate Self-Care Tiny Tasks into Every Day – Over the years, I feel like self-care has become the realm of spa days or massages. And those are totally and completely self-care activities. And if you can incorporate them into your regular routine, by all means, mama, do so! But there are also small acts of self-care you can do in your home that cost virtually nothing and take no time at all. For ideas, click here to check out my “10 Free, 10-Minute Self Care Ideas for Moms”. Find a tiny pocket of time just for you as often as you can to help keep your cup topped off. And stave off that burnout dragon.

You cannot fill from an empty cup, mama. If you want to avoid max capacity, pre-plan how you will deal when you feel stress coming. Brainstorm a list of what triggers your stressful feelings then pre-plan a solution for how you will recognize and release them. For instance, if you say “I feel stressed when I have a work deadline the weekend after my kid’s basketball tournament”. The solution may be to finish or complete a large percentage of the project before the weekend. Or to delegate some of the tasks so all you have to do is assemble and edit come Monday.

Maybe you’re saying “I feel stressful during the holidays because we are running around so much and never get a chance to sit and enjoy.” The solution maybe you will limit functions to one per week. Or maybe push some celebrations into January when everyone’s social calendars have cleared a bit.

There is a solution. I promise.

And if you are struggling to see it, I’m here to help. Feel free to drop a comment below or reach out in the DMs on social media @businesssavvymama. This is a huge issue for us mom entrepreneurs. I know it personally. I’ve lived it many a time. And I am passionate about helping other mom entrepreneurs see the way through.


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Why You Need to Set Work Boundaries

Who out there struggles to set work boundaries?

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I can’t you see you and you can’t see me but I am raising my hand. And I bet you are too. As moms, I feel part of our struggle comes from our caring hearts. We want to help everyone, we want to do all the things. But in the end, when we run ourselves ragged trying to do all things because we haven’t created good boundaries, we end up stressed, overwhelmed, and with no time for ourselves. Sound like you? This is why we need to set work boundaries.

This episode was inspired by a chat with one of the members of the Business Savvy Mama community. She told me “I feel like when I make a phone call or am dealing with a client request that requires a bit more texting, my kids are drawn to me like a moth to a flame. They will be peacefully playing with each other and the second I take a call or pick up the phone they are hanging on my legs. Then I get short tempered and irritated with them.”

Yep, been there. How about you?

That is precisely why we are talking boundaries today. Setting clear boundaries improves your work-home life. It helps you work more productively and get more done. Clearly communicating your boundaries creates a respect for your time and activities in both your work life with clients and home life with your family. And it can reduce stress around working because your boundaries help you work with less interruptions.

Can you identify your limits? Clearly communicate your boundaries and expectations?  Can you invest in keeping those boundaries in place? Then you too can enjoy the benefits of setting boundaries.

The method we’ll talk about today differs from what you’ve tried in the past because often, we try to establish boundaries from a point of frustration or anger. Yep, been there too! We let the interruptions or additional tasks or constant calls outside work hours go until it boils over and we explode. And sometimes we let go on our family who had nothing to do with the overstepping client. That is why we are going to establish our boundaries from a place of calm.

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So, where are we now? We know we need to work, we need to get stuff done, but we are also stuck in a cycle of “start a task, get interrupted or get frustrated or distracted and unfocused.” We let ourselves take on more than we can reasonably accomplish which eats into our family time or time off. We don’t shut off which allows clients to take advantage of our off-work hours. This is why we need those boundaries.

Setting boundaries now helps you accomplish those urgent and important tasks and get done what needs to get done. Usually quicker and better. And you’ll feel less frustrated and stressed on a regular basis. You’ll have work time, family time, home time and, dare I say it, self-time clearly established.

And setting clear boundaries creates clear expectations for your clients and your family. Your client won’t expect an email response at 10pm because you’ve told them you don’t work past 5pm. You children understand that when the door is shut, mommy is working on something that needs her attention but when that door opens, she’s all yours.

Steps to Set Work Boundaries

I completely understand if the idea of setting boundaries feels intimidating or that you’re afraid to not be available to everyone everywhere at all times. But trust me when I tell you, the sooner you shut it off and create a clear line between your work and home life, the sooner you’ll feel the weight of that struggle to balance it all lift. And here is where you start…

  1. Identify Your Limits…Notice how you react when you feel particularly stressed or overwhelmed. For me, I feel like I have to go to the bathroom a lot. But seriously, what is happening when you feel that physical or emotional stress creep in? Is it deadlines? Social media? Answering emails? Too much on your to-do list? When you identify the trigger, you can put a boundary in place to prevent stress. Stress over deadlines? Break task in to smaller chunks so the last day isn’t overwhelming. Social media? Put a limit on the time you spend scrolling. Email? Set an autoresponder saying you’ll get back tomorrow. To do list? Delete or delegate tasks that don’t need your attention. Identify the trigger, develop a response.
  2. Give Yourself Permission to Set Boundaries…We often feel if we work from home that we have to be always available to our kids. I am here today to tell you that is simply not true. Your job at home is as important as anyone’s job that is outside the home. You are allowed to set boundaries that say “I am working, I need space and concentration unless it’s an emergency.” If this is one of your triggers, refer to step one. Do you need child care? To work when your spouse is home? An outside the home workspace to create an actual boundary? You have permission to work in a focused, productive way. Repeat that over and over until it sinks in. I have permission to work in a focused, productive way.
  3. Have a conversation…When you’ve identified your triggers and solutions and given yourself permission, be sure to let the other people in on your boundaries. Have a calm, clear conversation with your spouse, kids, co-workers, boss, or clients about what your boundaries are, why they are important, where you need help maintaining them, and how it can benefit them. Because a focused, productive, accomplished, and happy mama shows up better for everyone. Right?

Your action step for today is to start a limit log. Brainstorm any of those triggers that cause you anxiety in your work and home life. Keep it somewhere you can reference when those stressors creep in. Once you’ve established the stress, figure out how you can put a boundary in place to protect your mind, stress levels, mood, and productivity. And remember to repeat to yourself on a regular basis “I have permission to work in a focused, productive way.”


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3 Reasons Why You Should Celebrate Everything

What do you celebrate? Everything? Anything? Nothing?

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Why not celebrate everything? You are perfectly able and encouraged to celebrate yourself. Even the smallest victories won or goals achieved, you should celebrate!!!

Creating a celebration for your big and small achievements will keep you motivated. It will boost your self-confidence. You no longer need to wait for your boss, your co-workers, your family, or your clients to give you the positive feedback you crave. You can do this for yourself.

Can you commit to regular affirmations and recognition of what you accomplish? Then you will feel results. Your words are powerful. And all too often we are quick to focus on what we don’t have or didn’t accomplish versus what we have done and did achieve.

Benefits When You Celebrate Everything

Here’s the thing…we are all very busy. You can’t just wait around to be noticed or praised to move on to the next project. You can’t base your self-esteem on what other people view as your victories or accomplishments. Stop relying on other’s to build your confidence because, here’s a little secret, you get the exact same positive, mood boosting dopamine rush when you praise yourself as you do when you hear it from other. #scienceiscool

So you might be sitting there thinking “yeah, I’m not sure. It feels a little weird or conceited.” Or you might feel silly celebrating things like drinking enough water or not eating the last chocolate chip cookie when you’re trying to avoid sugar.

But the confidence and happiness you gain when you regularly celebrate all the things will aid you in trying new things, increase your willingness to fail which is crucial as a business owner, and despite our talk of failure, it will increase your confidence.

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Not to mention, you are contributing on a regular basis to that abundance mindset we talked about earlier in the week. Your gratitude practice help you appreciate what you have and experience. Your celebration practice help you appreciate what you’ve accomplished. Furthermore, all of those practices open you up to earn more, do more, and receive more. And that my mama friends is the definition of abundance.

Not to mention, when you start celebrating you’ve completed your to-do list, or email 10 new potential clients, or completely cleaned the house top to bottom, it let’s others off the hook for not meeting your expectations of gratitude and celebration for your work. You don’t need them, you’ve got you. If they notice or say something, that’s just a little extra.

Why You Should Celebrate Everything

Here are my 3 reasons why you should celebrate even the smallest things on a regular basis…

  1. It stops putting the approval of your success in someone else’s hands. Like we said earlier, your brain doesn’t know if you’re saying good job or your husband or your boss or your client. If you are proud, if you know you did good, relish it. Celebrate it. Pick yourself up something real nice.
  2. It feels good. Celebrating boosts your morale, self-confidence, and productivity. Mostly because, as we talked about earlier, it gives you a rush of that feel good neurotransmitter dopamine.
  3. It motivates you to keep going. Stopping to celebrate the steps you’ve made along the way will go much further in continuing to move you forward than focusing on how far you still have to go. Especially for you business-owning mamas out there, entrepreneurship can be a very lonely island. I know, I set up camp there for quite a while.

Learning to put the approval of success in my own hands, that I can boost my own morale with a “Good job Christy!” keeps me going when things gets stressful or feel like they are not working. And you can do it too.

That’s why your action step for today is to celebrate even the smallest thing from today, this week or this month. Remember, it can be anything like making $10K to putting on pants with zipper, for instance. If you made and effort and followed through, I call that success. You go ahead and celebrate!

For me, I am celebrating the end of this podcast every weekday in August journey. I have so enjoyed sharing my best time management, productivity, and mindset tips along with introducing you to my amazing mompreneur friends. In just a few short weeks, we already have almost 600 downloads in 7 countries and that is growing every day. So thank you from the bottom of my heart for your support and know I will be celebrating this achievement this week.

I’d love to hear what you’re celebrating in the comments below. Remember, big or small…we celebrate it all!


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How to Use Your Jealousy for Good

How do you react to jealousy?

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We’ve talked gratitude, we’ve talked abundance versus scarcity, and now let’s talk jealousy. Oh yeah. I know we have all had those gut punch feelings when we see another mom succeeding in business. Or in life. Or in having Pinterest worthy home or Instagram-able vacation.

This mindset strategy will help you flip the script on those gut punches and use that jealousy to boost you up rather than hold you back. It may take a few tries and a bit of practice to undo the inborn feelings of defeat, shame, or wanting to throw in the towel because “why both if she’s already done it.” But if you are willing to take a breath, evaluate your feelings, then use that energy as motivation to propel you forward rather than holding you back, you too can conquer your jealousy and use it for good.

Before, you might find yourself lying in bed after a social media scroll having rage-y thoughts about “why does she get to do all this”. Or “I would be so much better than she is if I was doing that”. Or “there’s no way her life is actually like that…she’s such a fake.” But have you taken a minute to analyze why you are reacting the way you are? Could it be…jealousy???

And you may be thinking “that’s not jealousy, I’m just tired of everyone faking it on social media.” But, real talk, why do you even care if there wasn’t the smallest part of you that deep down wanted a piece of that life? Wanted the chance to see if you were the mom in that picture, would you feel happier, more fulfilled, or think life was more enjoyable?

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You can have that Pinterest perfect, Instagram worthy, relationship, family, business, home, and life if you stop whining and start working. The only things different between you and Insta-mom is that she learned to harness the power of her envy and jealousy to propel her forward before you. But don’t worry, there’s plenty of time.

When you start focusing on what you can have and what you can achieve versus what you don’t have and haven’t achieved, your mood is better, your work is more focused, and your drive is engaged. As much as it might feel good to bash another women’s progress to make yourself feel better in the moment, in the end, the only person who loses is you…because she loses nothing when you’re jealous of her.

And as with so many mindset victories, when you use your jealousy for good, you show up more positive, you’re work is more focused, and most often, you’ll make more money. And let’s face it…everyone in your house appreciates when you make more money.

Flip the Script on Jealousy

So how do we stop letting jealousy tell us we need to quit. That we aren’t good enough. That we will never get where we want to be.

And how do we start using that feeling in our belly to motivate us? To be the driving force that says “if she can do it, I can do it, too!” To examine what we’ve been doing and figure out where we can invest more, become more efficient, or delete what might be holding us back.

First…recognize the feeling.

Second…identify the root of the reaction.

Third…rephrase the jealousy.

As an example…you’re scrolling Facebook and you see a friend from high school on an amazing Disney vacation. You immediately recognize a wave of jealousy that you can’t/haven’t taken your family on an amazing Disney vacation. You identify that your feel jealous because you feel like you cannot afford a vacation. Then you rephrase the jealous reaction to a motivation to research Disney vacations, start a savings account, and work towards taking your family for a  similar experience. Recognize, Identify, Rephrase. It takes some practice, but I think you can do it.

Now is the time to stop wallowing because you don’t have her life. Start using your jealousy as a motivator. Remember, we all have the same number of hours in the day as Beyoncé. We can all work hard, build an empire, and have an amazing butt if we put the effort in. Or we can just sit and be jealous from afar.

Want to take action on your jealousy today? Write down something you’ve found yourself jealous of recently. Then follow the 3 steps…you’ve recognized the feeling, now identify why you’re jealous. Then rephrase the jealousy as a motivation. I’d love to hear how you’re reframing your jealousy. Comment below and let me know how you’ve flipped your script.


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How Your Abundance Mindset Develops a Successful Life

What exactly do you mean by “abundance mindset”?

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Yesterday we talked about the importance of creating a gratitude practice and how it can influence our physical and mental health. Today we are going to expand on the idea of how our we influence our thoughts and how that can influence our success. In other words, let’s talk about abundance mindset versus scarcity.

And let’s be real…there is a lot of scarcity around us right now. We may not be able to do things we want to do. Or see the people we want to see. We may not be as successful as we thought we would be in 2020 or we might have even given up on the idea of our business because of outside forces. But you need to kick that scarcity mindset to the curb because all that “I can’t” talk is holding you back way more than any actual physical or economic barriers. Where there is a will and a positive abundant mindset, there is a way.

Can you commit to a regular gratitude practice? Get super clear on your goals and what it will take to achieve them? Focus on your strengths, how you can use them and put energy into developing them more while surrounding yourself with a super supportive community? Then you to are on a path to developing an abundance mindset.

You may be thinking “but output and effort increase results, right?” And that is what we’ve been taught for years. But a major component that we just started including is how our mind and our thoughts affect our outcomes too. How can we pre-plan for positive pro-active action versus negative reactive over-reaction? Is it possible to embrace and adapt to change versus continuing to put effort into the same tactics we’ve been using with lessening results? Can we use another mom’s success to signal we too can juggle work-home-and family versus festering in jealousy and resentment?

And you may be thinking “Yeah, Christy. All that woo-woo stuff isn’t for me. Or I barely have time to get my actual work done how can I possibly include all this mindset mumbo jumbo too?

What if I told you that leaning into and developing your strengths means you get more done in less time? That clear goal-setting streamlines your to-do list. The gratitude helps you appreciate all you have while inviting even more. And that community you will find can save you time and money not to mention provide you with support.

You can show up during your “work hours” excited about the work you’ll do and the impact you’ll make. Your attitude will invite others into community who want to know how you do it or how you can help them. You’ll feel more accomplished and you’ll start to see your efforts working.

And when you have a positive impact on other’s, they love to tell their friends. When you feel grateful and fulfilled in your work, you’ll show up happier for your family, for your employees, and for yourself.

Shifts to Make for an Abundance Mindset

Ready to make an impact, show up happier, reach your goals, and open yourself up to a more abundant life? Here are 3 shifts you can make starting today to start thinking more abundantly:

  1. Think “How will I” versus “I can’t”. For instance, how will I show up for my community versus I can’t make money because there is a pandemic. Remember positive and pro-active “how will I” or “how can I” versus “I can’t do things the way that I want or the way I think they should be so I won’t do anything at all.” This can even work with your family in terms of “I can’t take a vacation so our Christmas break is ruined” versus “how will I make Christmas special and memorable even without our annual ski trip.” Use an abundance of creativity to problem solve versus wallowing in a vat of scarcity.
  2. Next, choose to focus on the positive. We can all fall into the trap of focusing on what needs to be fixed. We need to lose weight, we need to make more money, we need to stop working so much. But what if instead we leaned into the positive, let that carry us more, and see if those negative attributes take care of themselves (hint, they often do). For example, instead of “My IG following isn’t growing at all, I hate editing pictures. I might as well give up” you could try “I’m really great on video. Maybe I could learn more about how to use IGTV or IG stories to grow my community rather than staying frustrated trying to edit pictures.” As Marie Forleo says “Everything is figureoutable.” And I can guarantee you, those successful business owners and mom’s that you don’t know how they do it…they are leaning into their strengths rather than focusing on their negatives, embracing change rather than fearing it, and constantly learning & adapting versus thinking they know it all.
  3. And finally, stop using failure or lack of perceived success as your excuse. Yes, this year has been a doozy for business owners. Absolutely, we are in uncertain times. Of course, things may not go to plan. But what have you learned? How can you grow? You could spend time and energy whining about what could have been. Or you can take the opportunity to learn how you can serve your community. To create something unique to the times. To become a beacon of positivity and resilience. And when things turn around, who do you think is better prepared to exploded…the wallflower or the person who kept working towards their goals, kept showing up for their community, and kept working when times weren’t so great.

Where Do I Start?

I have 3 small action steps for you today to start you on your path to a more abundant mindset.

  • First, write down something you’ve told yourself you can’t do or you won’t do. Now change it to a “how will I “ question. Instead of “I can’t grow my business during a pandemic” say “how will I grow my business during a pandemic.” Then start to brainstorm ideas.
  • Next, what is a negative statement you find yourself saying. Write it down then flip the script by leaning into something positive you have that can solve that problem or replace it with. Instead of “My family never lets me do anything by myself” becomes “I’m really good at arranging playdates for my kids. I’m going to see if this other mom wants to trade off one a week so we can each have a little self-care time.”
  • And finally, write down a goal you made for 2020 that you have not yet reached. Then write the steps you have taken towards it already and celebrate those. Then brainstorm the steps you need to take to reach it by the end of the year. Get those tasks onto your to-do list. I can 100% guarantee that pandemic or not, you will not reach your goal if you don’t try. So what’s the harm in trying and believing?

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