Do you communicate expectations at work or at home?
Do you tell people what you expect from them? Or do you bring them into what you are expecting of yourself? If not, how can they possibly know what to do or how to best support you? People want to help you succeed. Or they just want to help you in general. And a great way to help them help you communicate expectations aka tell them what you need from them. Genius, right?
Last week, we discussed managing our expectations. We also recognized the difference between what we perceive as an expectation. And what is actually expected. Now that you are clear on what you are expecting from yourself (if not, you should pop back and check out that episode by clicking here), it’s time to bring those people that the expectations affect up to speed. Which may be part of the process that feels intimidating. But not after today.
Ready to feel understood? Seen? Satisfied? And Successful? Start to clearly communicate expectations to the people in your family. Your team. Your clients. And anyone that you expect anything from. When everyone is on the same page working towards the same goal, you’ll have less misunderstandings, less resentment, and you’ll feel less overwhelmed. You’ll create a baseline for behaviors. And you’ll open the lines of communication as they relate to your relationship and the expectations you have.
All it takes is you taking the time to create and clarify what you expect. Then communicating those expectations to those they affect. Uh, sure Christy. You make it sound so easy but I’m just not a confrontational person.
If this is what’s spinning your brain right now, you may need to reframe your mindset around setting boundaries or explaining what is expected. Communicating needs is not looking to start a fight. Boundaries are put in place to establish limits. Expectations are what you and others hope for or work towards.
When we aren’t clear on our limits and what we are working towards in our relationship, confusion abounds. Resentment builds up. And it just makes life harder in general. Ever found yourself pissed off because you’re folding laundry while everybody else is outside having fun on a beautiful fall day? Or you work super long hours for a client going above and beyond when you don’t feel appreciated? Was the work you are doing clearly laid out and defined? Or is it a product of what you “think” you need to do for your family or clients? See how that resentment starts to creep in?
Benefits of Communicating Expectations
When you clearly define and communicate expectations, you are aware of the workload or the requirements for your job…. whether that job is in your home or with your clients. You can reduce your workload because all those extras you thought were necessary are not necessary. You can delegate jobs you added to your list that doesn’t require your ability.
Now, you can build your daily to-do list around these expectations at home and at work. Rather than what you perceive your spouse, your family, your team, your boss, or your clients want you to do. Remember, when you clearly define what is expected, there’s no wiggle room… you know what the expectations are expectations are and create a task list or schedule based on those expectations.
And when you create your schedule around the clearly defined expectations, there’ll be less side-eye at your spouse for enjoying the evening while you are working. because. You’ll no longer resent your clients for underappreciating the extra work you do. We’ve defined the expectations of every job and all involved and communicated so it’s all sunshine and roses from here on out. Or at least it is monumentally better than you bitterly cursing under your breath because you feel unappreciated and undervalued.
How to Start Communicating Expectations
I know sometimes these conversations can feel hard. But I think this quote from Thomas Fuller sums it up well…. “All things are difficult before they are easy.” The more you have these conversations, the easier they become. The more comfortable you are with the idea that you do not need to do more than you are absolutely expected to do, the easier it will become to have a conversation about your expectations of yourself or others.
I’ve paired it down to 2 steps to effectively share your expectations: create and communicate. First, when you create your expectations write down the who, what, when, where, and why. Who is involved? What is happening? Where is it happening? Why does it need to happen? As you develop these expectations keep them as simple as possible. Don’t be wishy-washy. Don’t go overboard with explaining. Keep this super simple. Make it as clear as possible so there is no mistaking the expectation.
Once you clarify the expectation, it is time to communicate expectations to those involved in making them a success. Set a family meeting time. Create an onboarding document for new clients. Have a team meeting to present the new system. If you’re feeling a little nervous before this meeting or presentation, give yourself a little affirmation pep talk.
- I give myself permission to set and share expectations and boundaries that support myself, my business, and my life.
- I’m worthy and deserving of setting expectations that serve me.
- I’m worthy and deserving of setting boundaries that serve me.
- It is easy for me to share my expectations and boundaries with others.
- It is safe for me to share my expectations and boundaries with others.
- I honor myself by setting and communicating my boundaries and expectations with others.
Action step & CTA (Consequence & Deadline):
Your action step for this week is to clarify and communicate your expectations with the people they affect in your life. Write down a simple version of who it affects, what is involved, when it needs to happen, where it needs to happen, and why it needs to happen. Once you’ve clarified your expectations, schedule a time to communicate expectations with those affected. Create a document for your team or for new clients. Call a family meeting. Have a date night with your spouse. Whatever you do, make sure that you don’t create the expectations and skip the part when you include the people involved. Give yourself a pep talk using the affirmations from today’s episode.
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