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Accountability: How You Benefit and Why It’s Important

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I’m so happy you are joining me today to talk (cue ominous music)…accountability.

I’m hoping after today to assuage any fears or angst that you might have around the word accountability. And that you’ll see accountability can be an effective and essential tool in your success as an entrepreneur. And in so many other aspects of your life.

That is the great thing about accountability. It helps you make things happen. I had a big accountability “a-ha” moment several years back. I had been trying to lose weight for many years. So my husband and I decided to try Weight Watchers when they introduced their online program and app. There was something about the reminders to log my food and knowing whatever I put in my mouth was recorded. It made me way more successful than I had ever been on my own. For so many years, I had this idea that if I reached out for support meant that I was weak. Or the success wouldn’t mean as much if you didn’t do it all along.

I am grateful my Weight Watchers adventure started my accountability journey that I confirmed when reading the book “The Four Tendencies” by Gretchen Rubin. If you aren’t familiar, The Four Tendencies are a personality framework that breaks down your response to inner and outer expectations. In a nutshell, some people are great with setting their own expectations. Some do better when they know others are expecting them to do something. In other words, internally versus externally motivated.

When I took the The Four Tendencies quiz, which you can take by clicking here, I discovered I was what she calls an “Obliger”. This means I respond best to outer expectations and motivation but struggle with my own personal expectations for myself. It was like a light bulb went off. My need for outside accountability didn’t mean I was broken. It just meant that I responded best when I knew someone would be expecting something from me. And ever since then, I have been looking for ways I can incorporate outside accountability. This helps me reach both business and personal goals.

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The Benefits of Accountability

When you commit to an accountability partner, whether it is a friend, family member, or paid coach, you create a team around the expectation of your success. Now, there are other people routing for you. Supporting you. Making sure you are hitting milestones. Cheering your success. And picking you up when things don’t go so well.

Can you find that person or people that align with the goals you set? Commit to showing up for your check-ins and doing the work between? Then you too can see massive success from finding an accountability partner.

Ever find yourself wondering why you just can’t get past a certain level? Or feeling frustrated that you know you NEED to do X, Y, and Z, but you put it off. Or just don’t do it. Even if you know it could bring you the success you want in your business or personal life.

You may be struggling to keep up on your own. Or you’ve kept your goals and dreams a secret from your friends and family. You know, just in case you didn’t hit those milestones. Maybe you thought, like me, if you didn’t achieve your success on your own without outside help that it just wasn’t as sweet.

But I’ll tell you what is sweet…research shows that having a specific accountability partner to help you reach your goals improves your success rate to 95%. That sounds pretty sweet to me. Over time, your accountability partner can help you reframe your “failures” as growth points.   

They keep you motivated, moving forward and on track by meeting for regularly scheduled check-ins and progress updates. And their outside perspective can help you prioritize your task list better. Because their heart isn’t as close to your goal as you. I mean, I’ve had some tough love with coaches who told me to modify certain plans because they didn’t align with my goals. And they were right…but I couldn’t see it because my passion was to close to my ideas.

And when you start to succeed more, feel more confident and less stressed, everyone around you will feel it. You can show up for your family less anxious. Share your financial success with family and friends. Finally feel confidant to take those family pictures or go to the pool with your kids this summer. Finding accountability to get you to your goals is so worth it!

Finding Your Accountability Partner

Ready to start to wading into the pool of potential accountability buddies? Consider a few things so you can have a successful experience…

  1. Does the person you want to work with have experience in the area where you need support? Just because someone is an amazing business owner, doesn’t mean they can help you lose weight. Find someone with real life, successful experience in what you want to accomplish.
  2. Are they too close to you that their feedback could be taken personally or affect your relationship? Remember, part of accountability is being open for feedback and change. If you choose your spouse or best friend, will their honest feedback leave you feeling resentful? If so, maybe look for someone a little less familiar.
  3. Are they dependable? Make sure your buddy is the person that shows up for lunch dates that were on the schedule…not the buddy that texts when they are 5 minutes late that they aren’t going to make it. Both buddies are perfectly fine on a social level…but when it comes to accountability, you want the person that shows up on time and ready to go.

And if you are looking for accountability to help you juggle working as an entrepreneur with enjoying your family life, I want to help. Let’s jump on a free, 15 minute consultation call to see if my programs are a good fit for the accountability you need in your business and home life.

Click here to schedule your free, 15-minute consultation and start your journey to experience your happiest and most fulfilled life as a mom entrepreneur.

Family Fun Tip

This week, we are talking scavenger hunts. Am I showing my age if I say that Polaroid Picture Scavenger Hunts are one of my favorite memories from high school? You know, where you’d have to snap a polaroid of everyone on your team “Building a Pyramid on the Football Field” or “Crammed Into a Phone Booth”. Ok, if the mention of Polaroid didn’t date me, the idea of phone booths might have. But you get the idea. Divide into teams. Find the items on your list. Race back to the assigned end point.

And lucky for us moms, there are a lot of other moms who make scavenger hunting for our families much easier. I found a fantastic post from My Joy Filled Life with 75 different scavenger hunt ideas for you and your family. From nature walks to the library to birds or letters or things at the grocery store. And, of course, one of the most popular hunts of the spring season is often an Easter Egg Hunt, which you can also turn into a clue-based scavenger hunt if you would like. Lots of different options to get your family out and about. Solving clues and looking for items to cross off their hunt list.

And one of the major issues my Family Fun Bucket List solves for the families in my community is accountability. When you sit down for your monthly family meeting and family members share and schedule their ideas, there is a sense of expectation set. You can bet dollars to donuts if my 9-year-old says he wants to go on a Family PokemonGo walk in the park and we schedule it, he will make sure we remember and make it happen.

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Stefanie Oseni-Momodu – 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur

Meet mindset coach Stefanie Oseni-Momodu…

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I met Stefanie Oseni-Momodu via Instagram when I was researching mindset for my own personal development. I was inspired by her message for mom entrepreneurs. And her smile. 😊

Stefanie started Stefanie Gabriella Coaching for ambitious, busy mums out there who are ready to stop living on autopilot and start taking action towards their dreams. And reach their goals without the feeling of guilt. To rediscover themselves after becoming a mum, and start dreaming big again. Her mission is to reach that mum who feels overwhelmed with the multiple roles she is juggling. And yet feels isolated. She has lost who she was and struggling to determine who she is besides a mum.

As a Mindset Coach, Stefanie uses different tools and techniques to get down to the bottom of what is really holding back her clients from achieving what they really want to achieve for themselves and their business.

Before becoming a certified coach, Stefanie spent just over 10 years in the finance sector, she is a part-qualified Accountant, with an MSc in International Financial Management and a BSc in Accounting with Finance. Though she maintained a successful career in Finance, she always knew her passion was to help people achieve their dreams and help them see the best version of themselves. She loves investing herself in the growth of people that crosses her path where possible.

When she’s not coaching mums to be their best selves at home and at work, Stefanie enjoys spending time with her family and traveling. She is married with two boys aged 5 and her 11 months old “lockdown” baby. They enjoy traveling, hanging outdoors when the weather is nice. But haven’t been able to do much since the lockdown.

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You can listen to my conversation with Stefanie Oseni-Momodu at the link above. Or get an overview below.

1. What do you do in your business and why did you choose it? 

I support working mums and busy mums to rediscover their identity so they can unleash their inner genius through self belief and self confidence

2. What is your greatest strength when it comes to running your business? 

Connecting with my clients and helping them see themselves in a way they don’t see themselves.

3. What is the area of entrepreneurship where you could grow the most? 

Attracting more of my ideal clients

4. If you were to start your business over today, what piece of advice or lesson learned would you emphasize to yourself? 

Hire a coach right from the beginning.

5. What is your best advice for balancing business and home life or creating intentional family time? 

Not everything is urgent. Prioritise what really matters and make sure there is time for family time and yourself in your schedule.

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Nicole Bensen – 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur

Meet Happiness and Wellbeing Ambassador Nicole Bensen…

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Nicole and I met through our mastermind and you will quickly find out why I was excited to chat with her. I mean, she’s a happiness and wellbeing ambassador, Positive Psychology coach, and creator of transformational experiences…there’s a lot to like there!

Nicole Bensen spent nearly a decade at Google, ultimately managing the wellbeing program for Google’s executive women leaders. After experiencing burnout herself, she left to found Tentacles and Tea to share resilience, self-compassion, and accessible mindfulness techniques through her corporate workshops, group programs, and 1:1 coaching. Her mission to support people in creating more meaningful, connected, happy lives.

When she’s not spreading happiness and wellbeing to others, Nicole enjoys her life in Silicon Valley, California with her husband, two daughters, and three cats (one with fur, 2 with no fur).

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You can listen to my conversation with Nicole Bensen at the link above. Or get an overview below.

1. What do you do in your business and why did you choose it? 

I inspire others to create a meaningful, connected, happy life through my corporate workshops and group programs. Why do I do this? I achieved success in Corporate America. But still felt like something was missing; I burned out and did the work to get mentally healthy again. Now I want to share what I’ve learned with others who are feeling overwhelmed and stressed out.

2. What is your greatest strength when it comes to running your business? 

Strong at doing the client-facing work, building relationships, and being creative in sharing concepts. And bringing fun to neuroscience.

3. What is the area of entrepreneurship where you could grow the most? 

Marketing and sales…I need to figure out the smartest place to focus

4. If you were to start your business over today, what piece of advice or lesson learned would you emphasize to yourself? 

Go back to the basics. You have a lot of answers already.

5. What is your best advice for balancing business and home life or creating intentional family time? 

Set boundaries. Say “no”.

Where can we find you online and on social media?


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How to Say “No” and Why You Need To

Do you need to learn how to say “no” more often?

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It’s the final episode in my goal setting series. We’ve talked about clarifying our purpose or our why when it comes to our goals. We created a clear plan and then scheduled the steps in that plan along with finding someone to hold us accountable. And today we finish up by talking 2 letters that can make a huge difference in your ability to reach your goals and maintain boundaries to protect your time, energy and effort. And those two letters are N and O. That’s right, we are talking how to say “NO” and why it is important to learn to do this as a business owner and as a mom.

Learning to confidently say no to tasks, people, or opportunities that don’t serve you frees you up for the tasks, people, and opportunities that do. You start to control your time and energy rather than feeling tapped out by constantly meeting the needs and goals of others.

If you are aware of your priorities and learn to evaluate if a task or opportunity serves you, you can learn to boldly say “no” without the need for explanation or excuses.

You might be thinking “saying no feels so negative. I want to be a positive person.” Or “I don’t want to disappoint people”. Maybe even “I’m afraid if I say no I’ll miss out on an opportunity”. And I totally get that. I’ve been working on my “saying yes too much” recovery for many years.

But I love this quote from author Paolo Coehlo…

“When you say ‘Yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to yourself.”

Maybe it helps if we think of it as being a “yes to you” person rather than a “no” person.

How to Tell if You Need to Say “Yes to You” More

Do you feel tapped out? Do you feel like you don’t have time for yourself or your family? Are you working with people who don’t bring you joy or surrounded by clients who don’t respect your boundaries? Do you feel like you give and give without feeling appreciated? Maybe like you spend so much time fulfilling everyone else’s to-do list that you don’t have time to tackle the priorities or goals on yours?

A practice of confidently saying “no” helps you make time for yourself and your family. It helps you work on your personal and work goals because you aren’t filling your days with tasks you’ve reluctantly agreed to do for other people. And while saying “no” might feel negative, you will start to recognize how positive it feels to fill your day with tasks, people, and opportunities that fill your cup. That help you maintain your positive energy.

On a daily basis, you will feel like you are in control of your schedule. You make the rules. You create a business and family life based on your goals and priorities, not feeling guilty or obligated or at the whim of others.

And when you prioritize your priorities at work, you are able to complete the truly important tasks and turn off work, and tune into family. You can prioritize the quality time with your family, your spouse and your friends versus feeling overwhelmed by obligations to people or tasks that aren’t on your VIP list.

Learn How to Say “No”

But where do you even start being “yes to you” person. How do you tell if a task or opportunity should be a “yes” or a “no” if you are so used to saying yes? I’m going to give you 10 questions to ask yourself to help you determine if you say “yes” or “no”

  1. Do you want to do this?
  2. Does it require your specific expertise?
  3. Do you have time in your schedule for this?
  4. Does this align with your values?
  5. Will it take time away from yourself or your family?
  6. Will it take time away from your work?
  7. Is it a priority?
  8. Will it take time away from something else that is a priority?
  9. Could someone else do this?
  10. Will there be an opportunity for me to do this in the future?

What these 10 questions help you do is slow down and evaluate opportunities before you answer. They help you think of alternate ways you could be involved. For instance, if it doesn’t require your expertise and it would take time away from something that is a priority, could you delegate it to a member of your team. If there is an opportunity to do it again in the future, can you get on the list for the next time around?

Ok. So now you have a system to determine if you should say “no”. But how do you actually do it if it doesn’t feel comfortable? Or you still have that nagging voice saying “you’re going to let people down”? Or they can’t do it without you.”

You practice.

Say it in the mirror. Start by saying “no” to easy no’s. Recognize the times you are saying “yes” and find yourself wishing you said “no”. Commit that feeling to memory so you don’t get roped in again.

The more you practice slowing down and taking time before you make commitments, the easier the no will become. You will start to see progress on the goals you’ve set because you are focusing time and energy on tasks that help you. Rather than spreading yourself too thin. You will start making time for yourself, your family, and your friends again. You will start saying “yes to you” and your goals, your priorities, and your values.

This Week’s Family Fun Tip

This week’s family fun tip comes via last week’s guest on 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur, Luana HueSing. Luana mentioned in our episode that they do weekly family meals with her mother. I noticed in her IG stories Friday that they created a tabletop nacho bar this week. It seemed like a fun option for any of us planning some stay at home Super Bowl activities or just a fun Friday night like Luana.

If you haven’t seen the TikTok trend yet, you start by covering a table with foil. Both to protect the table and for easier cleanup. Make a line of tortilla chips down the center of the foil. Then layer on your favorite nacho toppings….meats, beans, tomatoes, queso, lettuce, jalapenos, guacamole. A pro tip I read is to use queso versus shredded cheese since you can’t melt the cheese in the over. Unless you have a really big oven. Once you’ve layered all your favorite toppings, dig in!

Photo Courtesy of Stupid Food on Reddit

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Why You Need to Know Your Why

Do you know your why for your goals?

If you are like many entrepreneurs I know, you’ve got a LONG list of goals you’d like to accomplish in the coming year. And you’re fresh off some time away and raring to get started on making these changes.  I also know that after more than 11 years as an entrepreneur, even the best-laid goal setting strategies lose momentum.

But never fear, my fellow business savvy mamas, that is exactly why we are talking about why today. Specifically your why. Your purpose for setting goals. The root of the reason you want to make a change. 

You may be asking “why do I need to know why?”

Because that purpose is what is going to keep you motivated when you’ve lost momentum. It will pull you back in when you want to give up.

German philosopher Frederick Nietzsche once said, ‘He who has a why can endure any how.’ How many of us get tripped up in HOW we will meet our goals? How can we make more money? How can we find time to exercise or meal plan to eat healthier?

Focusing on your why…the purpose behind the change you want to make helps to keep you motivated when it feels like you can’t figure out HOW you are going to do it.

If you can take time to clarify your why when you are planning what you want to do and how you are going to do it, you will have tools you need to stay motivated.

In the past, you might have sat down at the beginning of the year or whenever you are looking to set some goals and made a list. You might have even broke those goals down in manageable pieces so make it not seem so overwhelming.

And even if you feel like you have planned, scheduled and made your tasks manageable, the momentum will start to wane at some point if you haven’t put yourself in the right mindset to make these changes in your life.

When you align the “what” of your goal with “why” you want to achieve it, you have a positive mindset tool in your back pocket to keep you motivated.

When you complete the simple exercise we are going to talk about in a minute, you can pull out and review you purpose on a daily basis to help you continue to invest in these positive life changes.

And rarely will meeting these goals only improve your life…when you make more money, it benefits your family and your team. Maybe even your clients because you are able to better invest in yourself. When you change your eating habits or start exercising, you can show up better for your spouse and your family. If you make good on your goal to travel more you benefit the travel industries. And perhaps inspire another mom entrepreneur to live their best life.

So how about it…ready to get super clear on your why so you can stay motivated and meet your goals?

How to Clarify and Know Your Why When Setting Goals

There are tons of books, YouTube videos and blog posts with super deep dives on discovering your purpose. And if you are interested in diving deeper, I highly recommend checking out both Start with Why and Find Your Why by Simon Sinek.

But for those of you just tip-toeing into the world of aligning your goals with your purpose, I have a simple exercise to help you clarify why you want to make this change. Because all goals are changes we want to make. The exercise also serves as a tool to help you stay motivated when you want to give in. And it’s as simple as grabbing a pen and paper…or the notes app on your phone and filling in the blank

I want to _________________ because _________________.

Then repeat over and over for every reason you want to make the change. I want to make $100,000 this year because it will help me pay off debt. I want to make $100,000 this year because I want to take my family on a dream vacation. Or I want to make $100,000 this year because I want to buy a new car.

Or maybe I want to lose 20 lbs because I want to feel better about myself in photos. I want to lose 20lbs because I want to feel comfortable in my clothes. I want to lose 20lbs so I can keep up with my active children.

There is no right or wrong to WHY you want to change. The important thing is squeeze every ounce of because out of your brain for your list. Then I want you to keep this list somewhere that is easily accessible. Those days when you don’t feel like putting in the work. Or going to the gym. Or settling for one glass of wine. Pull out the list and remember WHY you are working for this change. Every victory, no matter how small, gets you closer to completing your goal.

Ready to take action on achieving your goals? Let’s get super clear on your why. Fill in the blanks for “I want to _______________ because ____________” for as many reasons as you can possibly think of that you will benefit from this change. Then keep that list where you can review it regularly to keep your why, your purpose front of mind.

This week’s Family Fun Tip

Check out 1000hoursoutside.com to download trackers for both 100 and 1000 hours. 1000 Hours Outside was created by Ginny Yurich, a mom to 5 who wanted to help you set aside screen and get outside.

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How to Take Time Off and Enjoy It

Do you take time off as a mom entrepreneur?

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In the spirit of gratitude and giving, I wanted to give you some tips so you can take time off and enjoy this upcoming holiday season with your family. I know what it is like to be stuck between mom guilt and entrepreneur guilt. And I also know it doesn’t have to be that way.

The strategies we will talk about help you to step away from your business and enjoy guilt-free time off with your family. Or with your spouse or partner. Or on a girls’ trip. The point is…whoever you choose to take time off with, you can do it and feel confident your business will continue without your ever-present hand. And you can enjoy some much needed and well-deserved time away.

If you can commit to discovering what you must do before, practice taking time away to build your confidence, and set boundaries in place to protect your time away, you too can take time off for the holidays. Or, dare I suggest, a vacation.

Why You Need to Take Time Off

And you might be thinking “there is no way I could take time away. Everything would collapse.” Or “I’m fine working while I go on vacation, my family doesn’t mind.”

You may actually schedule and take time off. But the days leading up to your time off is so frantic, you can’t enjoy the first few days of your vacation. Or you might have a wonderful vacation. But because you stress yourself out playing “catch up” when you return, all that good mojo you had going flies out the window.

Learning to take time away improves your mental health. And helps to stave off burnout, which is so common among entrepreneurs. Not to mention it creates lasting memories for us and the people we care about.

Downtime also helps with mental clarity because it gives your brain a rest. It helps improve productivity because we can work focused and with energy.

Not to mention, stepping away from your business can improve your relationships and help with that elusive work/life balance. So many of us moms get into the entrepreneurial game because we want to have flexibility in our schedule and control over how much we work. So make good on this promise to yourself of spending more time with your family. Create those long lasting memories and relationships. Your business will be fine for a few days…if you can incorporate these few strategies I have for you today…

Tips to Take Time Off as a Mom Entrepreneur

  1. Practice Makes Better – If you are nervous about stepping away from your business baby or community, start small. Take weekend days off. Like completely off. Or maybe even a few weekdays to do something you want to do with your family. Build up your confidence in stepping away and realizing it will be there when you come back.
  2. Set Boundaries — If taking time completely away is preventing you from taking time at all, perhaps you need “boundaries” during your time off. Like 10 minutes of social media in the morning and night. But don’t get stuck in a scroll hole ignoring your family. Or you can check your email every other day. You have to find the balance that works for you. And maybe even eventually leave it behind. So quick Instagram stories post is ok. Bringing your laptop to work poolside while your family swims, maybe not so much.
  3. Focus and Finish Priority Tasks — Next, make sure you are crystal clear on what projects need completing before you leave. These tasks have consequences if not completed before you leave. No need to stress over the non-urgent or non-important tasks before you take time off. If they won’t have a direct impact during your vacation, you can let it go. And remember, if you are struggling to determine which of your tasks are time-sensitive, impact-driven, money related, or required, pick up my FREE Priority Recipe with all the ingredients you need to complete the urgent and important tasks for guilt-free downtime. You can pick up your copy at priorities.businesssavvymama.com. And finishing priority tasks leads perfectly to my next tip which is to…
  4. Let Go of the Fluff — When it comes to prepping for time off, your to-do list may feel very full and overwhelming. But I bet if you determine which tasks NEED completing, your list starts to feel less stressful. You should relax during your downtime. Don’t start it off by stressing over incomplete, inconsequential tasks. And don’t waste the time leading up to time off on tasks that won’t have an impact. If it isn’t urgent and important, let it go. As Elsa would say…
  5. Set Yourself Up for Return And finally, as you prep the tasks you do before we leave, look at what you have coming up after your return. Is there something you can add to your priority prep list to help make the transition easier when you come back? For instance, do you plan to take the week between Christmas and New Year’s off? Do you also have some sort of sale or promotion starting at the beginning of January when you return? What can you do now or to make that transition easier coming out of your time off?

Implementing these 5 tips will help you learn to take time away from your business. And actually enjoy the time with your family, your friends, or just by yourself. Upon return, you will find yourself refreshed, focused, engaged, and energized…what are you waiting for? Schedule that time off!


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What’s Your “If Life Gets In the Way” Plan?

Do you have a plan “if life gets in the way”?

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My sister recently broke her leg after falling off a ladder. The injury brought life in her busy family with four kids to a screeching halt. And it got me thinking…whether it’s the upcoming holidays or a family emergency, do you have a plan for your business “if life gets in the way”?

I think as business owners, we often think “I can’t take time off for the holidays”. Or “keeping my fingers crossed my kids don’t get sick”. But the fact is you can take time off. And you don’t have to fear stepping away from your business in case of emergency. All it takes is what I’m calling an “if life gets in the way” plan.

Creating this plan helps you identify what actually MUST be done if there is an emergency. Or if you’d like to take time off. It solves the problem of feeling stressed before you go on vacation because you know what to focus on. And after because there is less playing catch up. It helps you identify tasks to delegate if your kid gets sick. Or you need to take time away to help your sister with her 4 kids when she’s shattered her tibia.

Can you take some time to identify those priority tasks that will keep you afloat or that are absolutely necessary? Then you can create a plan in case of emergency. Or in case of vacation. Or in case of the holidays.

If you haven’t previously identified your priorities, you may have just ignored your work if an emergency arose. This could lead to stress of playing catch up when you return to it. Or you might stress yourself out getting all your ducks in a row before a vacation. And then you miss the first few days of relaxation trying to un-wind what you wound up the week before.

Right now, you might be looking at the holiday season and think “there’s no way I can take any time off”. Or “I’m afraid if I pull back I will lose momentum”. When it comes to thinking about someone in your family getting sick or injured, do you think “I’ll just cross that bridge when I come to it”? But the holidays are stressful enough. Living during a pandemic is stressful enough. Don’t add to your stress levels when you could prevent that stress with a little extra planning now.

Creating your “if life gets in the way” plan helps you stay present during your vacation. And lessen the stress when emergencies arise. And who wouldn’t want to enjoy vacations more? Or lessen the stress in case of emergency?

As you create this plan, you will start to see where you need to focus your time and energy. Whether you are prepping for time off or simply your regular workweek.

And you’ll be able to be that friend or family member who can swoop in to help at a moment’s notice. Along with staying more present during the time off with your family. You’ve create the piece of mind that what is necessary is complete so you can sit back and enjoy. Or help.

3 Steps to Create Your “If Life Gets In the Way” Plan

If this sounds like something you’d like to incorporate ASAP, I’ve got 3 super simple steps to make creating you “if life gets in the way” plan.

  1. What MUST Completed? – First, you must determine your priorities. I know, broken record, right? But this is why it is so absolutely crucial that you figure out what must be done on your daily and weekly to-do list in order to keep your business afloat, continue to serve and grow your community, and move you toward your goals. If you aren’t sure what your priority tasks might be, pick up my FREE Priority Recipe here.
  2. Eliminate the Unnecessary – Once you’re determined the priority tasks, identify what can go in case of emergency or if you are taking time off. We all have “fluff” on our to-do list. Or tasks that are great but not necessary. Those are the tasks we can let go of when we need the time off. You can always add them back in later. Or maybe you’ll find you didn’t need them anyway.
  3. Delegate What You Don’t Finish – After we’ve decided what we must do and what we can eliminate, figure out if there are tasks you can delegate. Delegating could mean hiring someone to post on social media. Or scheduling your posts for that week. (Delegating to technology is still delegating). Depending on how much time you need or want to take off, there may not necessarily be a ton of tasks that need your hand. But if it is something to complete and it doesn’t require your specific expertise, pass it off to a VA, team member, or an automated system.

Ready to start creating your “if life gets in the way” plan of action? Be sure to grab Your Priority Recipe to set your priority tasks. Then eliminate anything that isn’t absolutely necessary during the time you need off. And figure out the tasks to delegate that don’t need your specific expertise. I want you to feel comfortable taking time off whether for pleasure or emergencies. If you’re struggling to figure out your plan, drop a comment below. Or reach out to me via DM on Instagram or Facebook. Just search for Business Savvy Mama.


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How to Avoid Work at Home Burnout

Anyone else feel on the edge of work at home burnout the last couple weeks???

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Last week, I had a trifecta of crazy. I was readjusting after going out of town for the weekend. My son needed help prepping for his 3rd grade test after not having a real teacher since March. And then this little election we had here in the United States. 😬

Let’s just say I was on the stress struggle bus. But luckily, and thanks to the help of fantastic coaches helping me create systems to deal with life when it feels overwhelming, I made it through. And I want to help you identify and conquer your overwhelm too.

That is why today I’m sharing strategies to identify when you are heading towards maximum capacity so you can identify your stress and stop burnout before it starts.

If you can learn the signals your mind and body start to send when you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or burned out, you can create solutions in advance to help. Bonus points if you share those solutions with your spouse, friend, coach or other support so they can also identify when you’re heading for trouble and lend their help.

If you’re anything like me, my previous max capacity cycle runs something like a car with a wobbly wheel….At first, the car just shakes a bit, I might not even notice it all the time. But instead of stopping to fix it (which would be pretty easy at this point), I just keep pushing. And as the shaking gets worse, I continue to say “if I can just get to this destination” or “if I can just drive this far I’ll fix it then”. So I push forward, maybe even driving faster, trying to out drive the eventual damage. And then BAM! Blown tire. Or the wheel falls off. Or some other bad tire-related problem with your car. I didn’t listen when the triggers started and look where that got me.

When you start to identify your triggers or know what your mind and body need to recover, you create a plan of action for those times when you know you’re going to be stretched to your limits.

Work at Home Burnout and Your Brain

You might be thinking “burnout is just part of the process” or “how can working less actually help me”. Sounds crazy, right? But hear me out…That stress you think is normal is damaging your brain.

As you near your burnout, your body produces excess amounts of the hormone cortisol. This affects the part of the brain that creates new brain cells and keeps them healthy. And that excess cortisol can affect decision making, working memory and control of impulsive behavior. Hello, stress eating, anyone??? And while stress is making it harder to think, make decisions, or control your urge to raid the peanut butter cups in your kid’s Halloween basket, it is also reducing the levels of the brain chemicals dopamine and serotonin which maker you feel happier. No wonder stress is so stressful!!!

But there is hope…By recognizing the signs of burnout before it’s too late, you can create a plan that will stop that flow of cortisol, save your dopamine levels, and help you continue to problem solve with the best of them.

Incorporating stress relievers on a regular basis can not only stave off the major meltdowns, but it can help you in your day to day functions. You’ll feel better and less on edge when you incorporate some form of self-care into your daily routine like exercising, meditating, or reading for yourself. You’ll notice more of an even keel rather than major swings in mood, productivity, and stress levels.

And let’s face it…everyone is better when mom is better. Your family benefits because you can be present with them without stressing over little things. Your clients appreciate your clear, focused efforts.

Signs of Work at Home Burnout

Let’s start by identifying some of the basic signs or triggers of burnout. And you may hear this list and think, “well, that just sounds like mom life to me.” And that is because mom life IS incredibly stressful. We are regularly on the verge of burnout with all the balls we are trying to juggle. That is why it is so important to recognize the signs and start to develop solutions before the burnout starts. So, signs of burnout include feeling:

  1. Forgetful
  2. Short Tempered
  3. Tired
  4. Unmotivated

Like I said. Pretty much every mom on the planet just said. Um, so I’m heading for burnout then. But we have spent so long ignoring the signs or saying “that’s just motherhood” that we have normalized the damaging stress. But the good news is, now that we know how it might look or feel, we can brainstorm ways to stop work at home burnout before it starts…

How to Stop Work at Home Burnout Before It Starts

  1. Prioritize – Moms notoriously like to do it all. In fact, it can feel like a competition at times. But if you truly want to prevent those damaging burnout episodes, you need to practice prioritizing. Start to evaluate the activities and tasks you have and whether they fit your values or fall into the truly “urgent” or “important” category. If you aren’t sure which tasks are truly priorities, check out my episode “How to Choose Your Priority Tasks”.
  2. Create Boundaries – Again, moms are notorious “yes” women. We love to help and make people happy. We feel the need to ask how high when I clients say “jump now”. Setting effective boundaries around when we work, what our schedule capacity is, and learning to say “no” when there just isn’t time helps us create boundaries to protect our stress levels. Need more tips on setting boundaries? Check out my episode “Why You Need to Set Work Boundaries”.
  3. Recognize Your Triggers – What do you do when you are approaching burnout? Or does it seem to come at certain times during the year? The holidays for example…so many activities, wanting to do all the things but it is also the end of the year for your business and you need to plan for the following year or for Q1. And you need to wrap up Q4 of 2020. I am literally feeling stressed just thinking about it. When you can learn to recognize that overwhelming feeling, you can start to problem solve in advance how to prevent it. Do you need to cut back on unnecessary holiday activities? Or need to hire help for end of the year wrap up in your business? Do you need to take a full day off from all things digital once a week to focus on your family and refill your cup? Recognize your triggers and problem solve how you’ll fight them in advance.
  4. Schedule Non-Negotiable Time for What Makes You Happy – This is super important for all those moms who put the needs of literally everyone else first. It goes hand in hand with the boundaries thing. You deserve time to take care of you, do something that makes you happy. It doesn’t have to be alone time. I can totally be family time. Or a date night. Make time for the activities that make you happy. Get it on the schedule. Make it non-negotiable. Do not let outside commitments keep you from your happy place.
  5. Incorporate Self-Care Tiny Tasks into Every Day – Over the years, I feel like self-care has become the realm of spa days or massages. And those are totally and completely self-care activities. And if you can incorporate them into your regular routine, by all means, mama, do so! But there are also small acts of self-care you can do in your home that cost virtually nothing and take no time at all. For ideas, click here to check out my “10 Free, 10-Minute Self Care Ideas for Moms”. Find a tiny pocket of time just for you as often as you can to help keep your cup topped off. And stave off that burnout dragon.

You cannot fill from an empty cup, mama. If you want to avoid max capacity, pre-plan how you will deal when you feel stress coming. Brainstorm a list of what triggers your stressful feelings then pre-plan a solution for how you will recognize and release them. For instance, if you say “I feel stressed when I have a work deadline the weekend after my kid’s basketball tournament”. The solution may be to finish or complete a large percentage of the project before the weekend. Or to delegate some of the tasks so all you have to do is assemble and edit come Monday.

Maybe you’re saying “I feel stressful during the holidays because we are running around so much and never get a chance to sit and enjoy.” The solution maybe you will limit functions to one per week. Or maybe push some celebrations into January when everyone’s social calendars have cleared a bit.

There is a solution. I promise.

And if you are struggling to see it, I’m here to help. Feel free to drop a comment below or reach out in the DMs on social media @businesssavvymama. This is a huge issue for us mom entrepreneurs. I know it personally. I’ve lived it many a time. And I am passionate about helping other mom entrepreneurs see the way through.


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3 Reasons Why You Should Celebrate Everything

What do you celebrate? Everything? Anything? Nothing?

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Why not celebrate everything? You are perfectly able and encouraged to celebrate yourself. Even the smallest victories won or goals achieved, you should celebrate!!!

Creating a celebration for your big and small achievements will keep you motivated. It will boost your self-confidence. You no longer need to wait for your boss, your co-workers, your family, or your clients to give you the positive feedback you crave. You can do this for yourself.

Can you commit to regular affirmations and recognition of what you accomplish? Then you will feel results. Your words are powerful. And all too often we are quick to focus on what we don’t have or didn’t accomplish versus what we have done and did achieve.

Benefits When You Celebrate Everything

Here’s the thing…we are all very busy. You can’t just wait around to be noticed or praised to move on to the next project. You can’t base your self-esteem on what other people view as your victories or accomplishments. Stop relying on other’s to build your confidence because, here’s a little secret, you get the exact same positive, mood boosting dopamine rush when you praise yourself as you do when you hear it from other. #scienceiscool

So you might be sitting there thinking “yeah, I’m not sure. It feels a little weird or conceited.” Or you might feel silly celebrating things like drinking enough water or not eating the last chocolate chip cookie when you’re trying to avoid sugar.

But the confidence and happiness you gain when you regularly celebrate all the things will aid you in trying new things, increase your willingness to fail which is crucial as a business owner, and despite our talk of failure, it will increase your confidence.

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Not to mention, you are contributing on a regular basis to that abundance mindset we talked about earlier in the week. Your gratitude practice help you appreciate what you have and experience. Your celebration practice help you appreciate what you’ve accomplished. Furthermore, all of those practices open you up to earn more, do more, and receive more. And that my mama friends is the definition of abundance.

Not to mention, when you start celebrating you’ve completed your to-do list, or email 10 new potential clients, or completely cleaned the house top to bottom, it let’s others off the hook for not meeting your expectations of gratitude and celebration for your work. You don’t need them, you’ve got you. If they notice or say something, that’s just a little extra.

Why You Should Celebrate Everything

Here are my 3 reasons why you should celebrate even the smallest things on a regular basis…

  1. It stops putting the approval of your success in someone else’s hands. Like we said earlier, your brain doesn’t know if you’re saying good job or your husband or your boss or your client. If you are proud, if you know you did good, relish it. Celebrate it. Pick yourself up something real nice.
  2. It feels good. Celebrating boosts your morale, self-confidence, and productivity. Mostly because, as we talked about earlier, it gives you a rush of that feel good neurotransmitter dopamine.
  3. It motivates you to keep going. Stopping to celebrate the steps you’ve made along the way will go much further in continuing to move you forward than focusing on how far you still have to go. Especially for you business-owning mamas out there, entrepreneurship can be a very lonely island. I know, I set up camp there for quite a while.

Learning to put the approval of success in my own hands, that I can boost my own morale with a “Good job Christy!” keeps me going when things gets stressful or feel like they are not working. And you can do it too.

That’s why your action step for today is to celebrate even the smallest thing from today, this week or this month. Remember, it can be anything like making $10K to putting on pants with zipper, for instance. If you made and effort and followed through, I call that success. You go ahead and celebrate!

For me, I am celebrating the end of this podcast every weekday in August journey. I have so enjoyed sharing my best time management, productivity, and mindset tips along with introducing you to my amazing mompreneur friends. In just a few short weeks, we already have almost 600 downloads in 7 countries and that is growing every day. So thank you from the bottom of my heart for your support and know I will be celebrating this achievement this week.

I’d love to hear what you’re celebrating in the comments below. Remember, big or small…we celebrate it all!


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How to Use Your Jealousy for Good

How do you react to jealousy?

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We’ve talked gratitude, we’ve talked abundance versus scarcity, and now let’s talk jealousy. Oh yeah. I know we have all had those gut punch feelings when we see another mom succeeding in business. Or in life. Or in having Pinterest worthy home or Instagram-able vacation.

This mindset strategy will help you flip the script on those gut punches and use that jealousy to boost you up rather than hold you back. It may take a few tries and a bit of practice to undo the inborn feelings of defeat, shame, or wanting to throw in the towel because “why both if she’s already done it.” But if you are willing to take a breath, evaluate your feelings, then use that energy as motivation to propel you forward rather than holding you back, you too can conquer your jealousy and use it for good.

Before, you might find yourself lying in bed after a social media scroll having rage-y thoughts about “why does she get to do all this”. Or “I would be so much better than she is if I was doing that”. Or “there’s no way her life is actually like that…she’s such a fake.” But have you taken a minute to analyze why you are reacting the way you are? Could it be…jealousy???

And you may be thinking “that’s not jealousy, I’m just tired of everyone faking it on social media.” But, real talk, why do you even care if there wasn’t the smallest part of you that deep down wanted a piece of that life? Wanted the chance to see if you were the mom in that picture, would you feel happier, more fulfilled, or think life was more enjoyable?

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You can have that Pinterest perfect, Instagram worthy, relationship, family, business, home, and life if you stop whining and start working. The only things different between you and Insta-mom is that she learned to harness the power of her envy and jealousy to propel her forward before you. But don’t worry, there’s plenty of time.

When you start focusing on what you can have and what you can achieve versus what you don’t have and haven’t achieved, your mood is better, your work is more focused, and your drive is engaged. As much as it might feel good to bash another women’s progress to make yourself feel better in the moment, in the end, the only person who loses is you…because she loses nothing when you’re jealous of her.

And as with so many mindset victories, when you use your jealousy for good, you show up more positive, you’re work is more focused, and most often, you’ll make more money. And let’s face it…everyone in your house appreciates when you make more money.

Flip the Script on Jealousy

So how do we stop letting jealousy tell us we need to quit. That we aren’t good enough. That we will never get where we want to be.

And how do we start using that feeling in our belly to motivate us? To be the driving force that says “if she can do it, I can do it, too!” To examine what we’ve been doing and figure out where we can invest more, become more efficient, or delete what might be holding us back.

First…recognize the feeling.

Second…identify the root of the reaction.

Third…rephrase the jealousy.

As an example…you’re scrolling Facebook and you see a friend from high school on an amazing Disney vacation. You immediately recognize a wave of jealousy that you can’t/haven’t taken your family on an amazing Disney vacation. You identify that your feel jealous because you feel like you cannot afford a vacation. Then you rephrase the jealous reaction to a motivation to research Disney vacations, start a savings account, and work towards taking your family for a  similar experience. Recognize, Identify, Rephrase. It takes some practice, but I think you can do it.

Now is the time to stop wallowing because you don’t have her life. Start using your jealousy as a motivator. Remember, we all have the same number of hours in the day as Beyoncé. We can all work hard, build an empire, and have an amazing butt if we put the effort in. Or we can just sit and be jealous from afar.

Want to take action on your jealousy today? Write down something you’ve found yourself jealous of recently. Then follow the 3 steps…you’ve recognized the feeling, now identify why you’re jealous. Then rephrase the jealousy as a motivation. I’d love to hear how you’re reframing your jealousy. Comment below and let me know how you’ve flipped your script.


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