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How to Say “No” and Why You Need To

Do you need to learn how to say “no” more often?

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It’s the final episode in my goal setting series. We’ve talked about clarifying our purpose or our why when it comes to our goals. We created a clear plan and then scheduled the steps in that plan along with finding someone to hold us accountable. And today we finish up by talking 2 letters that can make a huge difference in your ability to reach your goals and maintain boundaries to protect your time, energy and effort. And those two letters are N and O. That’s right, we are talking how to say “NO” and why it is important to learn to do this as a business owner and as a mom.

Learning to confidently say no to tasks, people, or opportunities that don’t serve you frees you up for the tasks, people, and opportunities that do. You start to control your time and energy rather than feeling tapped out by constantly meeting the needs and goals of others.

If you are aware of your priorities and learn to evaluate if a task or opportunity serves you, you can learn to boldly say “no” without the need for explanation or excuses.

You might be thinking “saying no feels so negative. I want to be a positive person.” Or “I don’t want to disappoint people”. Maybe even “I’m afraid if I say no I’ll miss out on an opportunity”. And I totally get that. I’ve been working on my “saying yes too much” recovery for many years.

But I love this quote from author Paolo Coehlo…

“When you say ‘Yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to yourself.”

Maybe it helps if we think of it as being a “yes to you” person rather than a “no” person.

How to Tell if You Need to Say “Yes to You” More

Do you feel tapped out? Do you feel like you don’t have time for yourself or your family? Are you working with people who don’t bring you joy or surrounded by clients who don’t respect your boundaries? Do you feel like you give and give without feeling appreciated? Maybe like you spend so much time fulfilling everyone else’s to-do list that you don’t have time to tackle the priorities or goals on yours?

A practice of confidently saying “no” helps you make time for yourself and your family. It helps you work on your personal and work goals because you aren’t filling your days with tasks you’ve reluctantly agreed to do for other people. And while saying “no” might feel negative, you will start to recognize how positive it feels to fill your day with tasks, people, and opportunities that fill your cup. That help you maintain your positive energy.

On a daily basis, you will feel like you are in control of your schedule. You make the rules. You create a business and family life based on your goals and priorities, not feeling guilty or obligated or at the whim of others.

And when you prioritize your priorities at work, you are able to complete the truly important tasks and turn off work, and tune into family. You can prioritize the quality time with your family, your spouse and your friends versus feeling overwhelmed by obligations to people or tasks that aren’t on your VIP list.

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But where do you even start being “yes to you” person. How do you tell if a task or opportunity should be a “yes” or a “no” if you are so used to saying yes? I’m going to give you 10 questions to ask yourself to help you determine if you say “yes” or “no”

  1. Do you want to do this?
  2. Does it require your specific expertise?
  3. Do you have time in your schedule for this?
  4. Does this align with your values?
  5. Will it take time away from yourself or your family?
  6. Will it take time away from your work?
  7. Is it a priority?
  8. Will it take time away from something else that is a priority?
  9. Could someone else do this?
  10. Will there be an opportunity for me to do this in the future?

What these 10 questions help you do is slow down and evaluate opportunities before you answer. They help you think of alternate ways you could be involved. For instance, if it doesn’t require your expertise and it would take time away from something that is a priority, could you delegate it to a member of your team. If there is an opportunity to do it again in the future, can you get on the list for the next time around?

Ok. So now you have a system to determine if you should say “no”. But how do you actually do it if it doesn’t feel comfortable? Or you still have that nagging voice saying “you’re going to let people down”? Or they can’t do it without you.”

You practice.

Say it in the mirror. Start by saying “no” to easy no’s. Recognize the times you are saying “yes” and find yourself wishing you said “no”. Commit that feeling to memory so you don’t get roped in again.

The more you practice slowing down and taking time before you make commitments, the easier the no will become. You will start to see progress on the goals you’ve set because you are focusing time and energy on tasks that help you. Rather than spreading yourself too thin. You will start making time for yourself, your family, and your friends again. You will start saying “yes to you” and your goals, your priorities, and your values.

This Week’s Family Fun Tip

This week’s family fun tip comes via last week’s guest on 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur, Luana HueSing. Luana mentioned in our episode that they do weekly family meals with her mother. I noticed in her IG stories Friday that they created a tabletop nacho bar this week. It seemed like a fun option for any of us planning some stay at home Super Bowl activities or just a fun Friday night like Luana.

If you haven’t seen the TikTok trend yet, you start by covering a table with foil. Both to protect the table and for easier cleanup. Make a line of tortilla chips down the center of the foil. Then layer on your favorite nacho toppings….meats, beans, tomatoes, queso, lettuce, jalapenos, guacamole. A pro tip I read is to use queso versus shredded cheese since you can’t melt the cheese in the over. Unless you have a really big oven. Once you’ve layered all your favorite toppings, dig in!

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Why You Need to Know Your Why

Do you know your why for your goals?

If you are like many entrepreneurs I know, you’ve got a LONG list of goals you’d like to accomplish in the coming year. And you’re fresh off some time away and raring to get started on making these changes.  I also know that after more than 11 years as an entrepreneur, even the best-laid goal setting strategies lose momentum.

But never fear, my fellow business savvy mamas, that is exactly why we are talking about why today. Specifically your why. Your purpose for setting goals. The root of the reason you want to make a change. 

You may be asking “why do I need to know why?”

Because that purpose is what is going to keep you motivated when you’ve lost momentum. It will pull you back in when you want to give up.

German philosopher Frederick Nietzsche once said, ‘He who has a why can endure any how.’ How many of us get tripped up in HOW we will meet our goals? How can we make more money? How can we find time to exercise or meal plan to eat healthier?

Focusing on your why…the purpose behind the change you want to make helps to keep you motivated when it feels like you can’t figure out HOW you are going to do it.

If you can take time to clarify your why when you are planning what you want to do and how you are going to do it, you will have tools you need to stay motivated.

In the past, you might have sat down at the beginning of the year or whenever you are looking to set some goals and made a list. You might have even broke those goals down in manageable pieces so make it not seem so overwhelming.

And even if you feel like you have planned, scheduled and made your tasks manageable, the momentum will start to wane at some point if you haven’t put yourself in the right mindset to make these changes in your life.

When you align the “what” of your goal with “why” you want to achieve it, you have a positive mindset tool in your back pocket to keep you motivated.

When you complete the simple exercise we are going to talk about in a minute, you can pull out and review you purpose on a daily basis to help you continue to invest in these positive life changes.

And rarely will meeting these goals only improve your life…when you make more money, it benefits your family and your team. Maybe even your clients because you are able to better invest in yourself. When you change your eating habits or start exercising, you can show up better for your spouse and your family. If you make good on your goal to travel more you benefit the travel industries. And perhaps inspire another mom entrepreneur to live their best life.

So how about it…ready to get super clear on your why so you can stay motivated and meet your goals?

How to Clarify and Know Your Why When Setting Goals

There are tons of books, YouTube videos and blog posts with super deep dives on discovering your purpose. And if you are interested in diving deeper, I highly recommend checking out both Start with Why and Find Your Why by Simon Sinek.

But for those of you just tip-toeing into the world of aligning your goals with your purpose, I have a simple exercise to help you clarify why you want to make this change. Because all goals are changes we want to make. The exercise also serves as a tool to help you stay motivated when you want to give in. And it’s as simple as grabbing a pen and paper…or the notes app on your phone and filling in the blank

I want to _________________ because _________________.

Then repeat over and over for every reason you want to make the change. I want to make $100,000 this year because it will help me pay off debt. I want to make $100,000 this year because I want to take my family on a dream vacation. Or I want to make $100,000 this year because I want to buy a new car.

Or maybe I want to lose 20 lbs because I want to feel better about myself in photos. I want to lose 20lbs because I want to feel comfortable in my clothes. I want to lose 20lbs so I can keep up with my active children.

There is no right or wrong to WHY you want to change. The important thing is squeeze every ounce of because out of your brain for your list. Then I want you to keep this list somewhere that is easily accessible. Those days when you don’t feel like putting in the work. Or going to the gym. Or settling for one glass of wine. Pull out the list and remember WHY you are working for this change. Every victory, no matter how small, gets you closer to completing your goal.

Ready to take action on achieving your goals? Let’s get super clear on your why. Fill in the blanks for “I want to _______________ because ____________” for as many reasons as you can possibly think of that you will benefit from this change. Then keep that list where you can review it regularly to keep your why, your purpose front of mind.

This week’s Family Fun Tip

Check out 1000hoursoutside.com to download trackers for both 100 and 1000 hours. 1000 Hours Outside was created by Ginny Yurich, a mom to 5 who wanted to help you set aside screen and get outside.

Click below to join my FREE Monthly Family Fun Bucket List community. We can work together to plan plenty of quality, intentional family time with the people you love.

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How to Take Time Off and Enjoy It

Do you take time off as a mom entrepreneur?

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In the spirit of gratitude and giving, I wanted to give you some tips so you can take time off and enjoy this upcoming holiday season with your family. I know what it is like to be stuck between mom guilt and entrepreneur guilt. And I also know it doesn’t have to be that way.

The strategies we will talk about help you to step away from your business and enjoy guilt-free time off with your family. Or with your spouse or partner. Or on a girls’ trip. The point is…whoever you choose to take time off with, you can do it and feel confident your business will continue without your ever-present hand. And you can enjoy some much needed and well-deserved time away.

If you can commit to discovering what you must do before, practice taking time away to build your confidence, and set boundaries in place to protect your time away, you too can take time off for the holidays. Or, dare I suggest, a vacation.

Why You Need to Take Time Off

And you might be thinking “there is no way I could take time away. Everything would collapse.” Or “I’m fine working while I go on vacation, my family doesn’t mind.”

You may actually schedule and take time off. But the days leading up to your time off is so frantic, you can’t enjoy the first few days of your vacation. Or you might have a wonderful vacation. But because you stress yourself out playing “catch up” when you return, all that good mojo you had going flies out the window.

Learning to take time away improves your mental health. And helps to stave off burnout, which is so common among entrepreneurs. Not to mention it creates lasting memories for us and the people we care about.

Downtime also helps with mental clarity because it gives your brain a rest. It helps improve productivity because we can work focused and with energy.

Not to mention, stepping away from your business can improve your relationships and help with that elusive work/life balance. So many of us moms get into the entrepreneurial game because we want to have flexibility in our schedule and control over how much we work. So make good on this promise to yourself of spending more time with your family. Create those long lasting memories and relationships. Your business will be fine for a few days…if you can incorporate these few strategies I have for you today…

Tips to Take Time Off as a Mom Entrepreneur

  1. Practice Makes Better – If you are nervous about stepping away from your business baby or community, start small. Take weekend days off. Like completely off. Or maybe even a few weekdays to do something you want to do with your family. Build up your confidence in stepping away and realizing it will be there when you come back.
  2. Set Boundaries — If taking time completely away is preventing you from taking time at all, perhaps you need “boundaries” during your time off. Like 10 minutes of social media in the morning and night. But don’t get stuck in a scroll hole ignoring your family. Or you can check your email every other day. You have to find the balance that works for you. And maybe even eventually leave it behind. So quick Instagram stories post is ok. Bringing your laptop to work poolside while your family swims, maybe not so much.
  3. Focus and Finish Priority Tasks — Next, make sure you are crystal clear on what projects need completing before you leave. These tasks have consequences if not completed before you leave. No need to stress over the non-urgent or non-important tasks before you take time off. If they won’t have a direct impact during your vacation, you can let it go. And remember, if you are struggling to determine which of your tasks are time-sensitive, impact-driven, money related, or required, pick up my FREE Priority Recipe with all the ingredients you need to complete the urgent and important tasks for guilt-free downtime. You can pick up your copy at priorities.businesssavvymama.com. And finishing priority tasks leads perfectly to my next tip which is to…
  4. Let Go of the Fluff — When it comes to prepping for time off, your to-do list may feel very full and overwhelming. But I bet if you determine which tasks NEED completing, your list starts to feel less stressful. You should relax during your downtime. Don’t start it off by stressing over incomplete, inconsequential tasks. And don’t waste the time leading up to time off on tasks that won’t have an impact. If it isn’t urgent and important, let it go. As Elsa would say…
  5. Set Yourself Up for Return And finally, as you prep the tasks you do before we leave, look at what you have coming up after your return. Is there something you can add to your priority prep list to help make the transition easier when you come back? For instance, do you plan to take the week between Christmas and New Year’s off? Do you also have some sort of sale or promotion starting at the beginning of January when you return? What can you do now or to make that transition easier coming out of your time off?

Implementing these 5 tips will help you learn to take time away from your business. And actually enjoy the time with your family, your friends, or just by yourself. Upon return, you will find yourself refreshed, focused, engaged, and energized…what are you waiting for? Schedule that time off!


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What’s Your “If Life Gets In the Way” Plan?

Do you have a plan “if life gets in the way”?

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My sister recently broke her leg after falling off a ladder. The injury brought life in her busy family with four kids to a screeching halt. And it got me thinking…whether it’s the upcoming holidays or a family emergency, do you have a plan for your business “if life gets in the way”?

I think as business owners, we often think “I can’t take time off for the holidays”. Or “keeping my fingers crossed my kids don’t get sick”. But the fact is you can take time off. And you don’t have to fear stepping away from your business in case of emergency. All it takes is what I’m calling an “if life gets in the way” plan.

Creating this plan helps you identify what actually MUST be done if there is an emergency. Or if you’d like to take time off. It solves the problem of feeling stressed before you go on vacation because you know what to focus on. And after because there is less playing catch up. It helps you identify tasks to delegate if your kid gets sick. Or you need to take time away to help your sister with her 4 kids when she’s shattered her tibia.

Can you take some time to identify those priority tasks that will keep you afloat or that are absolutely necessary? Then you can create a plan in case of emergency. Or in case of vacation. Or in case of the holidays.

If you haven’t previously identified your priorities, you may have just ignored your work if an emergency arose. This could lead to stress of playing catch up when you return to it. Or you might stress yourself out getting all your ducks in a row before a vacation. And then you miss the first few days of relaxation trying to un-wind what you wound up the week before.

Right now, you might be looking at the holiday season and think “there’s no way I can take any time off”. Or “I’m afraid if I pull back I will lose momentum”. When it comes to thinking about someone in your family getting sick or injured, do you think “I’ll just cross that bridge when I come to it”? But the holidays are stressful enough. Living during a pandemic is stressful enough. Don’t add to your stress levels when you could prevent that stress with a little extra planning now.

Creating your “if life gets in the way” plan helps you stay present during your vacation. And lessen the stress when emergencies arise. And who wouldn’t want to enjoy vacations more? Or lessen the stress in case of emergency?

As you create this plan, you will start to see where you need to focus your time and energy. Whether you are prepping for time off or simply your regular workweek.

And you’ll be able to be that friend or family member who can swoop in to help at a moment’s notice. Along with staying more present during the time off with your family. You’ve create the piece of mind that what is necessary is complete so you can sit back and enjoy. Or help.

3 Steps to Create Your “If Life Gets In the Way” Plan

If this sounds like something you’d like to incorporate ASAP, I’ve got 3 super simple steps to make creating you “if life gets in the way” plan.

  1. What MUST Completed? – First, you must determine your priorities. I know, broken record, right? But this is why it is so absolutely crucial that you figure out what must be done on your daily and weekly to-do list in order to keep your business afloat, continue to serve and grow your community, and move you toward your goals. If you aren’t sure what your priority tasks might be, pick up my FREE Priority Recipe here.
  2. Eliminate the Unnecessary – Once you’re determined the priority tasks, identify what can go in case of emergency or if you are taking time off. We all have “fluff” on our to-do list. Or tasks that are great but not necessary. Those are the tasks we can let go of when we need the time off. You can always add them back in later. Or maybe you’ll find you didn’t need them anyway.
  3. Delegate What You Don’t Finish – After we’ve decided what we must do and what we can eliminate, figure out if there are tasks you can delegate. Delegating could mean hiring someone to post on social media. Or scheduling your posts for that week. (Delegating to technology is still delegating). Depending on how much time you need or want to take off, there may not necessarily be a ton of tasks that need your hand. But if it is something to complete and it doesn’t require your specific expertise, pass it off to a VA, team member, or an automated system.

Ready to start creating your “if life gets in the way” plan of action? Be sure to grab Your Priority Recipe to set your priority tasks. Then eliminate anything that isn’t absolutely necessary during the time you need off. And figure out the tasks to delegate that don’t need your specific expertise. I want you to feel comfortable taking time off whether for pleasure or emergencies. If you’re struggling to figure out your plan, drop a comment below. Or reach out to me via DM on Instagram or Facebook. Just search for Business Savvy Mama.


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How to Avoid Work at Home Burnout

Anyone else feel on the edge of work at home burnout the last couple weeks???

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Last week, I had a trifecta of crazy. I was readjusting after going out of town for the weekend. My son needed help prepping for his 3rd grade test after not having a real teacher since March. And then this little election we had here in the United States. 😬

Let’s just say I was on the stress struggle bus. But luckily, and thanks to the help of fantastic coaches helping me create systems to deal with life when it feels overwhelming, I made it through. And I want to help you identify and conquer your overwhelm too.

That is why today I’m sharing strategies to identify when you are heading towards maximum capacity so you can identify your stress and stop burnout before it starts.

If you can learn the signals your mind and body start to send when you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or burned out, you can create solutions in advance to help. Bonus points if you share those solutions with your spouse, friend, coach or other support so they can also identify when you’re heading for trouble and lend their help.

If you’re anything like me, my previous max capacity cycle runs something like a car with a wobbly wheel….At first, the car just shakes a bit, I might not even notice it all the time. But instead of stopping to fix it (which would be pretty easy at this point), I just keep pushing. And as the shaking gets worse, I continue to say “if I can just get to this destination” or “if I can just drive this far I’ll fix it then”. So I push forward, maybe even driving faster, trying to out drive the eventual damage. And then BAM! Blown tire. Or the wheel falls off. Or some other bad tire-related problem with your car. I didn’t listen when the triggers started and look where that got me.

When you start to identify your triggers or know what your mind and body need to recover, you create a plan of action for those times when you know you’re going to be stretched to your limits.

Work at Home Burnout and Your Brain

You might be thinking “burnout is just part of the process” or “how can working less actually help me”. Sounds crazy, right? But hear me out…That stress you think is normal is damaging your brain.

As you near your burnout, your body produces excess amounts of the hormone cortisol. This affects the part of the brain that creates new brain cells and keeps them healthy. And that excess cortisol can affect decision making, working memory and control of impulsive behavior. Hello, stress eating, anyone??? And while stress is making it harder to think, make decisions, or control your urge to raid the peanut butter cups in your kid’s Halloween basket, it is also reducing the levels of the brain chemicals dopamine and serotonin which maker you feel happier. No wonder stress is so stressful!!!

But there is hope…By recognizing the signs of burnout before it’s too late, you can create a plan that will stop that flow of cortisol, save your dopamine levels, and help you continue to problem solve with the best of them.

Incorporating stress relievers on a regular basis can not only stave off the major meltdowns, but it can help you in your day to day functions. You’ll feel better and less on edge when you incorporate some form of self-care into your daily routine like exercising, meditating, or reading for yourself. You’ll notice more of an even keel rather than major swings in mood, productivity, and stress levels.

And let’s face it…everyone is better when mom is better. Your family benefits because you can be present with them without stressing over little things. Your clients appreciate your clear, focused efforts.

Signs of Work at Home Burnout

Let’s start by identifying some of the basic signs or triggers of burnout. And you may hear this list and think, “well, that just sounds like mom life to me.” And that is because mom life IS incredibly stressful. We are regularly on the verge of burnout with all the balls we are trying to juggle. That is why it is so important to recognize the signs and start to develop solutions before the burnout starts. So, signs of burnout include feeling:

  1. Forgetful
  2. Short Tempered
  3. Tired
  4. Unmotivated

Like I said. Pretty much every mom on the planet just said. Um, so I’m heading for burnout then. But we have spent so long ignoring the signs or saying “that’s just motherhood” that we have normalized the damaging stress. But the good news is, now that we know how it might look or feel, we can brainstorm ways to stop work at home burnout before it starts…

How to Stop Work at Home Burnout Before It Starts

  1. Prioritize – Moms notoriously like to do it all. In fact, it can feel like a competition at times. But if you truly want to prevent those damaging burnout episodes, you need to practice prioritizing. Start to evaluate the activities and tasks you have and whether they fit your values or fall into the truly “urgent” or “important” category. If you aren’t sure which tasks are truly priorities, check out my episode “How to Choose Your Priority Tasks”.
  2. Create Boundaries – Again, moms are notorious “yes” women. We love to help and make people happy. We feel the need to ask how high when I clients say “jump now”. Setting effective boundaries around when we work, what our schedule capacity is, and learning to say “no” when there just isn’t time helps us create boundaries to protect our stress levels. Need more tips on setting boundaries? Check out my episode “Why You Need to Set Work Boundaries”.
  3. Recognize Your Triggers – What do you do when you are approaching burnout? Or does it seem to come at certain times during the year? The holidays for example…so many activities, wanting to do all the things but it is also the end of the year for your business and you need to plan for the following year or for Q1. And you need to wrap up Q4 of 2020. I am literally feeling stressed just thinking about it. When you can learn to recognize that overwhelming feeling, you can start to problem solve in advance how to prevent it. Do you need to cut back on unnecessary holiday activities? Or need to hire help for end of the year wrap up in your business? Do you need to take a full day off from all things digital once a week to focus on your family and refill your cup? Recognize your triggers and problem solve how you’ll fight them in advance.
  4. Schedule Non-Negotiable Time for What Makes You Happy – This is super important for all those moms who put the needs of literally everyone else first. It goes hand in hand with the boundaries thing. You deserve time to take care of you, do something that makes you happy. It doesn’t have to be alone time. I can totally be family time. Or a date night. Make time for the activities that make you happy. Get it on the schedule. Make it non-negotiable. Do not let outside commitments keep you from your happy place.
  5. Incorporate Self-Care Tiny Tasks into Every Day – Over the years, I feel like self-care has become the realm of spa days or massages. And those are totally and completely self-care activities. And if you can incorporate them into your regular routine, by all means, mama, do so! But there are also small acts of self-care you can do in your home that cost virtually nothing and take no time at all. For ideas, click here to check out my “10 Free, 10-Minute Self Care Ideas for Moms”. Find a tiny pocket of time just for you as often as you can to help keep your cup topped off. And stave off that burnout dragon.

You cannot fill from an empty cup, mama. If you want to avoid max capacity, pre-plan how you will deal when you feel stress coming. Brainstorm a list of what triggers your stressful feelings then pre-plan a solution for how you will recognize and release them. For instance, if you say “I feel stressed when I have a work deadline the weekend after my kid’s basketball tournament”. The solution may be to finish or complete a large percentage of the project before the weekend. Or to delegate some of the tasks so all you have to do is assemble and edit come Monday.

Maybe you’re saying “I feel stressful during the holidays because we are running around so much and never get a chance to sit and enjoy.” The solution maybe you will limit functions to one per week. Or maybe push some celebrations into January when everyone’s social calendars have cleared a bit.

There is a solution. I promise.

And if you are struggling to see it, I’m here to help. Feel free to drop a comment below or reach out in the DMs on social media @businesssavvymama. This is a huge issue for us mom entrepreneurs. I know it personally. I’ve lived it many a time. And I am passionate about helping other mom entrepreneurs see the way through.


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3 Reasons Why You Should Celebrate Everything

What do you celebrate? Everything? Anything? Nothing?

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Why not celebrate everything? You are perfectly able and encouraged to celebrate yourself. Even the smallest victories won or goals achieved, you should celebrate!!!

Creating a celebration for your big and small achievements will keep you motivated. It will boost your self-confidence. You no longer need to wait for your boss, your co-workers, your family, or your clients to give you the positive feedback you crave. You can do this for yourself.

Can you commit to regular affirmations and recognition of what you accomplish? Then you will feel results. Your words are powerful. And all too often we are quick to focus on what we don’t have or didn’t accomplish versus what we have done and did achieve.

Benefits When You Celebrate Everything

Here’s the thing…we are all very busy. You can’t just wait around to be noticed or praised to move on to the next project. You can’t base your self-esteem on what other people view as your victories or accomplishments. Stop relying on other’s to build your confidence because, here’s a little secret, you get the exact same positive, mood boosting dopamine rush when you praise yourself as you do when you hear it from other. #scienceiscool

So you might be sitting there thinking “yeah, I’m not sure. It feels a little weird or conceited.” Or you might feel silly celebrating things like drinking enough water or not eating the last chocolate chip cookie when you’re trying to avoid sugar.

But the confidence and happiness you gain when you regularly celebrate all the things will aid you in trying new things, increase your willingness to fail which is crucial as a business owner, and despite our talk of failure, it will increase your confidence.

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Not to mention, you are contributing on a regular basis to that abundance mindset we talked about earlier in the week. Your gratitude practice help you appreciate what you have and experience. Your celebration practice help you appreciate what you’ve accomplished. Furthermore, all of those practices open you up to earn more, do more, and receive more. And that my mama friends is the definition of abundance.

Not to mention, when you start celebrating you’ve completed your to-do list, or email 10 new potential clients, or completely cleaned the house top to bottom, it let’s others off the hook for not meeting your expectations of gratitude and celebration for your work. You don’t need them, you’ve got you. If they notice or say something, that’s just a little extra.

Why You Should Celebrate Everything

Here are my 3 reasons why you should celebrate even the smallest things on a regular basis…

  1. It stops putting the approval of your success in someone else’s hands. Like we said earlier, your brain doesn’t know if you’re saying good job or your husband or your boss or your client. If you are proud, if you know you did good, relish it. Celebrate it. Pick yourself up something real nice.
  2. It feels good. Celebrating boosts your morale, self-confidence, and productivity. Mostly because, as we talked about earlier, it gives you a rush of that feel good neurotransmitter dopamine.
  3. It motivates you to keep going. Stopping to celebrate the steps you’ve made along the way will go much further in continuing to move you forward than focusing on how far you still have to go. Especially for you business-owning mamas out there, entrepreneurship can be a very lonely island. I know, I set up camp there for quite a while.

Learning to put the approval of success in my own hands, that I can boost my own morale with a “Good job Christy!” keeps me going when things gets stressful or feel like they are not working. And you can do it too.

That’s why your action step for today is to celebrate even the smallest thing from today, this week or this month. Remember, it can be anything like making $10K to putting on pants with zipper, for instance. If you made and effort and followed through, I call that success. You go ahead and celebrate!

For me, I am celebrating the end of this podcast every weekday in August journey. I have so enjoyed sharing my best time management, productivity, and mindset tips along with introducing you to my amazing mompreneur friends. In just a few short weeks, we already have almost 600 downloads in 7 countries and that is growing every day. So thank you from the bottom of my heart for your support and know I will be celebrating this achievement this week.

I’d love to hear what you’re celebrating in the comments below. Remember, big or small…we celebrate it all!


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How to Use Your Jealousy for Good

How do you react to jealousy?

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We’ve talked gratitude, we’ve talked abundance versus scarcity, and now let’s talk jealousy. Oh yeah. I know we have all had those gut punch feelings when we see another mom succeeding in business. Or in life. Or in having Pinterest worthy home or Instagram-able vacation.

This mindset strategy will help you flip the script on those gut punches and use that jealousy to boost you up rather than hold you back. It may take a few tries and a bit of practice to undo the inborn feelings of defeat, shame, or wanting to throw in the towel because “why both if she’s already done it.” But if you are willing to take a breath, evaluate your feelings, then use that energy as motivation to propel you forward rather than holding you back, you too can conquer your jealousy and use it for good.

Before, you might find yourself lying in bed after a social media scroll having rage-y thoughts about “why does she get to do all this”. Or “I would be so much better than she is if I was doing that”. Or “there’s no way her life is actually like that…she’s such a fake.” But have you taken a minute to analyze why you are reacting the way you are? Could it be…jealousy???

And you may be thinking “that’s not jealousy, I’m just tired of everyone faking it on social media.” But, real talk, why do you even care if there wasn’t the smallest part of you that deep down wanted a piece of that life? Wanted the chance to see if you were the mom in that picture, would you feel happier, more fulfilled, or think life was more enjoyable?

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You can have that Pinterest perfect, Instagram worthy, relationship, family, business, home, and life if you stop whining and start working. The only things different between you and Insta-mom is that she learned to harness the power of her envy and jealousy to propel her forward before you. But don’t worry, there’s plenty of time.

When you start focusing on what you can have and what you can achieve versus what you don’t have and haven’t achieved, your mood is better, your work is more focused, and your drive is engaged. As much as it might feel good to bash another women’s progress to make yourself feel better in the moment, in the end, the only person who loses is you…because she loses nothing when you’re jealous of her.

And as with so many mindset victories, when you use your jealousy for good, you show up more positive, you’re work is more focused, and most often, you’ll make more money. And let’s face it…everyone in your house appreciates when you make more money.

Flip the Script on Jealousy

So how do we stop letting jealousy tell us we need to quit. That we aren’t good enough. That we will never get where we want to be.

And how do we start using that feeling in our belly to motivate us? To be the driving force that says “if she can do it, I can do it, too!” To examine what we’ve been doing and figure out where we can invest more, become more efficient, or delete what might be holding us back.

First…recognize the feeling.

Second…identify the root of the reaction.

Third…rephrase the jealousy.

As an example…you’re scrolling Facebook and you see a friend from high school on an amazing Disney vacation. You immediately recognize a wave of jealousy that you can’t/haven’t taken your family on an amazing Disney vacation. You identify that your feel jealous because you feel like you cannot afford a vacation. Then you rephrase the jealous reaction to a motivation to research Disney vacations, start a savings account, and work towards taking your family for a  similar experience. Recognize, Identify, Rephrase. It takes some practice, but I think you can do it.

Now is the time to stop wallowing because you don’t have her life. Start using your jealousy as a motivator. Remember, we all have the same number of hours in the day as Beyoncé. We can all work hard, build an empire, and have an amazing butt if we put the effort in. Or we can just sit and be jealous from afar.

Want to take action on your jealousy today? Write down something you’ve found yourself jealous of recently. Then follow the 3 steps…you’ve recognized the feeling, now identify why you’re jealous. Then rephrase the jealousy as a motivation. I’d love to hear how you’re reframing your jealousy. Comment below and let me know how you’ve flipped your script.


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How Your Abundance Mindset Develops a Successful Life

What exactly do you mean by “abundance mindset”?

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Yesterday we talked about the importance of creating a gratitude practice and how it can influence our physical and mental health. Today we are going to expand on the idea of how our we influence our thoughts and how that can influence our success. In other words, let’s talk about abundance mindset versus scarcity.

And let’s be real…there is a lot of scarcity around us right now. We may not be able to do things we want to do. Or see the people we want to see. We may not be as successful as we thought we would be in 2020 or we might have even given up on the idea of our business because of outside forces. But you need to kick that scarcity mindset to the curb because all that “I can’t” talk is holding you back way more than any actual physical or economic barriers. Where there is a will and a positive abundant mindset, there is a way.

Can you commit to a regular gratitude practice? Get super clear on your goals and what it will take to achieve them? Focus on your strengths, how you can use them and put energy into developing them more while surrounding yourself with a super supportive community? Then you to are on a path to developing an abundance mindset.

You may be thinking “but output and effort increase results, right?” And that is what we’ve been taught for years. But a major component that we just started including is how our mind and our thoughts affect our outcomes too. How can we pre-plan for positive pro-active action versus negative reactive over-reaction? Is it possible to embrace and adapt to change versus continuing to put effort into the same tactics we’ve been using with lessening results? Can we use another mom’s success to signal we too can juggle work-home-and family versus festering in jealousy and resentment?

And you may be thinking “Yeah, Christy. All that woo-woo stuff isn’t for me. Or I barely have time to get my actual work done how can I possibly include all this mindset mumbo jumbo too?

What if I told you that leaning into and developing your strengths means you get more done in less time? That clear goal-setting streamlines your to-do list. The gratitude helps you appreciate all you have while inviting even more. And that community you will find can save you time and money not to mention provide you with support.

You can show up during your “work hours” excited about the work you’ll do and the impact you’ll make. Your attitude will invite others into community who want to know how you do it or how you can help them. You’ll feel more accomplished and you’ll start to see your efforts working.

And when you have a positive impact on other’s, they love to tell their friends. When you feel grateful and fulfilled in your work, you’ll show up happier for your family, for your employees, and for yourself.

Shifts to Make for an Abundance Mindset

Ready to make an impact, show up happier, reach your goals, and open yourself up to a more abundant life? Here are 3 shifts you can make starting today to start thinking more abundantly:

  1. Think “How will I” versus “I can’t”. For instance, how will I show up for my community versus I can’t make money because there is a pandemic. Remember positive and pro-active “how will I” or “how can I” versus “I can’t do things the way that I want or the way I think they should be so I won’t do anything at all.” This can even work with your family in terms of “I can’t take a vacation so our Christmas break is ruined” versus “how will I make Christmas special and memorable even without our annual ski trip.” Use an abundance of creativity to problem solve versus wallowing in a vat of scarcity.
  2. Next, choose to focus on the positive. We can all fall into the trap of focusing on what needs to be fixed. We need to lose weight, we need to make more money, we need to stop working so much. But what if instead we leaned into the positive, let that carry us more, and see if those negative attributes take care of themselves (hint, they often do). For example, instead of “My IG following isn’t growing at all, I hate editing pictures. I might as well give up” you could try “I’m really great on video. Maybe I could learn more about how to use IGTV or IG stories to grow my community rather than staying frustrated trying to edit pictures.” As Marie Forleo says “Everything is figureoutable.” And I can guarantee you, those successful business owners and mom’s that you don’t know how they do it…they are leaning into their strengths rather than focusing on their negatives, embracing change rather than fearing it, and constantly learning & adapting versus thinking they know it all.
  3. And finally, stop using failure or lack of perceived success as your excuse. Yes, this year has been a doozy for business owners. Absolutely, we are in uncertain times. Of course, things may not go to plan. But what have you learned? How can you grow? You could spend time and energy whining about what could have been. Or you can take the opportunity to learn how you can serve your community. To create something unique to the times. To become a beacon of positivity and resilience. And when things turn around, who do you think is better prepared to exploded…the wallflower or the person who kept working towards their goals, kept showing up for their community, and kept working when times weren’t so great.

Where Do I Start?

I have 3 small action steps for you today to start you on your path to a more abundant mindset.

  • First, write down something you’ve told yourself you can’t do or you won’t do. Now change it to a “how will I “ question. Instead of “I can’t grow my business during a pandemic” say “how will I grow my business during a pandemic.” Then start to brainstorm ideas.
  • Next, what is a negative statement you find yourself saying. Write it down then flip the script by leaning into something positive you have that can solve that problem or replace it with. Instead of “My family never lets me do anything by myself” becomes “I’m really good at arranging playdates for my kids. I’m going to see if this other mom wants to trade off one a week so we can each have a little self-care time.”
  • And finally, write down a goal you made for 2020 that you have not yet reached. Then write the steps you have taken towards it already and celebrate those. Then brainstorm the steps you need to take to reach it by the end of the year. Get those tasks onto your to-do list. I can 100% guarantee that pandemic or not, you will not reach your goal if you don’t try. So what’s the harm in trying and believing?

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Why You Need a Gratitude Practice

Ever wonder what all the buzz around a gratitude practice is about?

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A regular gratitude practice is crucial to creating an abundance mindset. In other words, it helps you focus on what you have versus what you do not, . In addition, it creates many positive physical and mental health benefits. For example, it creates positive emotions. It releases dopamine and serotonin in our brain. This helps boost our mood and lowers our stress levels. It helps you relish life’s experiences more. It can improve your physical and mental health, even improving your immune system. And it can help you on a path towards an abundance mindset.

Your gratitude practice is recognizing what you receive…whether from a person, an action, an object, or just the universe in general. A regular habit of recognizing this can open you up to receive more. To lower your stress. To appreciate what you have in your quest for more.

But I am Grateful…

Previously you might focus on gratitude around Thanksgiving. Or strictly in relation to what your have versus someone else. But are you ever just grateful for something because you’re grateful for it?

For instance, almost everyone has access to sunshine. But have you ever stopped to think how grateful you are for sun rises, sun sets, warm days, winter sun on a cold day, summer sun on a hot day. It’s not because you have access to something someone else doesn’t have. It’s just because you love the positive effects it has on your life.

And I know some of you may think “but I say thank you” or “I am grateful”. But are you setting aside a specific time each day to write down or speak out loud what makes your life better?

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As I said earlier, the mental and physical impacts of a regular gratitude practice are many and well documented. One study by Dr. Robert Emmons of UC Davis found stress hormones 23% lower in participants with a regular gratitude practice. Certainly, there are mamas out there trying to home school, raise little nuggets, work from home, or build a business could use a few less stress hormones. Am I right?

On a daily basis, you can start or end or even start & end your day focusing on your blessings. Who makes you happy? What makes you special? What makes you a great mom, a great business owners, and just a great woman overall.

And when our stress is lower, our dopamine and serotonin are releasing regularly, and we’re feeling positive and happier…it shows. Confident, happy, grateful you is a better mom, a better wife, a better boss, and a better service provider.

How to Start a Gratitude Practice

Let’s start with where to keep your gratitude. There is no right or wrong way to start your gratitude journal. You could purchase an actual journal. Or you can use a note pad. We’ve even used a mason jar with little slips of paper in my boy’s room at bedtime to talk about what we are grateful for from the day. Or you could make it part of your meal discussion with your family. Pinterest is FULL of ideas for creating a gratitude practice that suits you and your family if you’d like to include them. And that will meet your personal needs and comfort level.

I personally use the 5 Minute journal app because I nearly always have my phone on me. And it sends me reminders if I get busy and forget to stop and give thanks.

Want to get started on your own gratitude practice? Start by writing down 3 things you are grateful for. It doesn’t have to be a long drawn-out journal entry. Just a quick list on a note pad or your phone of 3 things you are happy you have or people you are thankful to know or actions that make you feel grateful. If you’re struggling to start here’s some prompts:

  • What is something you take for granted?
  • Who or what inspires you?
  • What is the best thing that happened this week?
  • Who or what makes you happy or smile?
  • What do you love about yourself?
  • Who or what made you smile today?
  • What family members or friends are you grateful for?
  • What is something you are looking forward to?

In conclusion, starting your gratitude practice is one of many pieces on your way to an abundance mindset. Regularly recognizing what you have makes you open to receive more. More love, more money, more success. Tell me below how you’ll keep track of your gratitude practice.


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How to Get Back on Track with Your Morning Routine

What happens when life happens to your morning routine?

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Today we’re talking how to regroup and restart your morning routine when life gets in the way. Or the snooze bar gets in the way. Whichever comes first. But you can salvage your morning routine with a bit of pre-planning for the inevitable backsliding or life happening that may come your way.

I created a past, present, future technique to help revitalize your morning routine…or any habit that may fall by the wayside. Can you identify what tripped you up? Need help creating a new plan or editing your old one to prevent similar backsliding in the future. Can you pre-plan a strategy to keep you going? Read on for more details below. 😉

You may not have thought about planning to fail in order to keep habit going in the past. But I can tell you it works. Your brain likes to be comfortable and stay the same. Whenever you try to get it out of its comfort zone, it sends all kinds of doubt and obstacles your way. It wants to protect its cozy, comfortable state. That’s why we are going to prepare in advance for what our brain could do to stop us and have a plan to succeed ready to go.

The tips in today’s episode are perfect for when you’ve been on a roll with your morning routine and then a kid gets sick. Or you go on vacation. Or you get sick while on vacation. Any number of things that can come up and threaten your morning routine. As a result, you start to convince yourself that a morning routine really wasn’t important or that it wasn’t working for you.

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And these problem solving/restart tips will not only work for you recalibrating your morning routine, but the past, present, future way to look at problem solving can also help you for restarting other habits that may have fallen by the wayside. Not to mention, the mindset skill of creating a stopping strategy will benefit you to talk your brain out of quitting other habits you truly want to incorporate into your life.

And showing others, like your kids or your clients, how you can reset or reinvest when you’ve fallen off the wagon can inspire them to do the same. #bonus

Learning from Your Past Morning Routine

When it comes to restarting or reinvesting in a your morning routine habit, I want to help you see the past, present and future. This will help you jump start waking up early again.

Let’s start with the past…Or evaluating what happened to get you off track. When did your morning routine get off track? Was it a vacation? Did you bedtime routine slide and make it harder to wake up? Did you convince yourself that a morning routine wasn’t worth it? Get super clear on what happened to get you off track.

And also, as we look at the past, remember WHY it was you wanted a morning routine. Was it to work more focused? To get work projects done before your kids woke up? To have some time to exercise or read a book for yourself? That why statement is so crucial to remembering what made you start this new habit.

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Succeed with Your Present Morning Routine

Next, comes the present…You want to continue the parts of your morning routine that were working. And eliminate what is not. What was working when routine was humming along? What was not working? As you reboot your routine, you don’t have to keep all the parts and pieces that you originally planned. For instance, your morning jog may be better in the evening. Maybe you’re trying to tackle too many to-dos. Don’t feel like you have to go back if it truly isn’t working.

And on the flip side…if something was working well. If it brought you joy, was something you love, or was something you looked forward to every day, be sure you keep doing that.

Preparing for Your Future Morning Routine

Finally, when we look to the future…How can you prepare for future success? I love the term “stopping strategy” which was introduced to me by my coach Emily Williams. It’s essentially pre-planning for those things that trip up and stop you from getting ahead. If we can identify the obstacles beforehand, we can problem solve before we encounter them.

For example, is binge watching Netflix and staying up too late is stopping you from waking early? Then it is essential for you to have a bedtime alarm. Or perhaps a friend who will call and make sure you’re getting ready for bed. Do you hit the snooze too many times because your alarm is on your nightstand? Try keeping your alarm across the room to force you to get up. In other words, figure out from your past what tripped you up and problem solve now for your success.

Does your morning routine or any habit that needs a little kick in the pants to address your past, present and future? Grab your journal or the notes app on your phone and let’s make a plan! To sum up the past, present, future technique, you need to:

  1. Write down your “why” for creating a morning routine.
  2. Record what it was that got you off track.
  3. List what was working and what wasn’t for your morning routine.
  4. What tripped you up or what could potentially stop you in the future? You need to plan for how you would successfully navigate that obstacle. Fill in the blank below:

“If I _________________ (insert the action that stops you), I will ______________ (insert the solution to keep you going.)

And I am here to help you in all aspects of your morning routine. Feel free to drop your question in the comments below. Or share your stopping strategy for a bit of accountability.


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