High Performance Mompreneurs - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

4 Simple High Performance Habits for Mompreneurs

Are you a high performance mompreneur?

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There are so many things you need to run your business. From computers to software, to classes and marketing. But how much time are you investing in the most important asset of your business? Yourself! This week we are discussing high performance habits for mompreneurs and why it is so important for you to take care of the you part of running a business. And easy ways you can work this care into every day. And to be clear…we aren’t talking specifically about “self-care” in the traditional, although it is technically self-care. It’s more of creating habits to maintain a healthy mind and body so you can continue serving your customers, creating amazing content, and stay healthy to care for your family.

Benjamin Franklin said, “When the well is dry, we know the worth of water”. Too often as both moms and entrepreneurs, we allow ourselves to run down before we take the time to care and nurture our bodies and mind. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There are simple, everyday steps you can take to take care of yourself to stay healthy, stave off burnout, and limit common entrepreneur mental health issues like stress, anxiety, and depression.

If you can commit to making incremental changes to your daily habits involving your mind, body, sleep, and downtime, you too can stay happy and healthy as a mompreneur.. Often, we separate our physical or social life from our business life. But they actually all work together. And the more harmonious we can make them, the better our overall health and mindset will be. That’s what makes high performance mompreneurs.

How Mompreneurs Benefit from High Performance Habits

If you’re stuck in a loop of grinding it out or hustle, hustle, hustle when it comes to your business but feel like your relationships, physical or mental health, or sleep patterns are suffering due to this hustle…it’s time to care for and protect your most important mompreneur asset…you!

When you adopt these habits you’ll be able to better cope with truly stressful situations. And not let the small stuff throw you off your game. You’ll be able to stay physically healthier to show up for your family and your business.

You’ll sleep better which will help you show up more focused, creative, and alert for both your business and home life. And you’ll make time for the people who matter on a regular basis.

If the hustle is keeping you from spending time with your family, spouse, or friends, then what good is that hustle. Let’s nurture our relationships that matter while nurturing ourselves AND growing our business.

Simple Habits for High Performance Mompreneurs

Here are four areas where you can uplevel your “you care” to become the high performance mompreneurs you need to be. Those areas are your mind, your body, your sleep, and your relationships.

  1. Mind – And real talk, if your first reaction to hearing the word “mindset” is “that’s such a buzzword” or “what a fad”, you are probably the person who need mindset the most. Just saying. There are so many simple ways to incorporate developing a growth mindset into your daily routine. Start a gratitude practice. Start an affirmation journal. Meditate. Flip the script on failure to see it as a learning experience. Loosen your grip on “it’s my way or the highway” and find places you can adapt, modify, or edit. When you are able to see the abundance in your life, believe in who you are, stay present, learn from what doesn’t work, and be open to alternatives you will be a happy and healthier entrepreneur…no question.
  2. Body – For far too long I thought of my physical health and my entrepreneurial life as two separate things. And when I realized that I needed to keep my body healthy in order to run my businesses as an optimal level, it’s like a lightbulb went off. Just like you need your computer to be healthy and up to date if your work is done on your laptop. Or a truck driver needs to maintain their rig. Your body is the key to your business success. It generated the idea for the business and continues to generate content, growth points, new ventures, or is just doing the work day in and day out. You need to keep it in optimal working condition. Eat healthy. Exercise regularly. Take vitamins. Drink plenty of water. Reduce alcohol consumption. All of these habits work together to help keep your body in peak working order so you can tackle the daily duties of running your business. And all these healthy habits work even better when you focus on our third habit…
  3. Sleep – And I know, depending on what stage of motherhood you’re in, you might be like “um, what’s sleep?” But part of the reason you might feel unfocused, unproductive, unable to remember thoughts, or uncreative could be linked to lack of sleep. Sleep is when your brain and body reset and repair. Getting the proper amount of sleep leads to better concentration and productivity. It can also help you stave off an array of mental and physical health issues like weight gain, diabetes, and depression. Not to mention, it boosts your immune system to help keep you healthy. Getting a good night’s sleep may mean keeping your phone outside your bedroom. Or choosing not to watch one more episode of the show you’re binging. Or creating a bedtime routine that helps you fall asleep faster. A little effort but so worth the reward.
  4. Relationships…The final important habit to keep your mompreneur body and mind healthy is to make time for your important relationships. Date nights with your spouse. Play dates with your kids. Coffee dates with your friends. Is there an activity with friends or family you’ve been putting off in order to “get work done”? Or do you think you’ll make time once you’ve reached a certain point of success? The truth is…burning yourself out and neglecting relationships that fill your cup will slow down your success. Take time to step away from your work to spend time with the people you love doing what you love. You will return with better focus, more creativity, and more energy to complete the tasks you need or want to do.

Your action step to start creating high performance habits as a mompreneur is to start pivoting your daily routine with the suggestions given today. Don’t try to do it all at once. Especially if it is all very different from what you are currently doing. Small, incremental changes on a regular basis are more sustainable.  And you are more likely to stick with them until they become part of your routine. As opposed to going whole hog and giving up after a week because it’s just too much change at once.

Find simple, subtle ways to incorporate mindset shifts like starting a gratitude practice or writing a daily list of what you accomplished. Nurture your body by finding time to exercise 2-3 times per week or limiting alcohol consumption to the weekends. Find nights during the week where you can get a few extra hours of sleep to allow your body and mind to reset and recover from all your ask it to do. And schedule some downtime with your spouse, your family, or your friends to step away from work and focus on fun. You know I love when you focus on fun!

If you find you’re struggling with incorporating these habits for high performance mompreneurs, let’s talk about how I can help. When you schedule a free clarity call with me, we’ll review your current goals, discuss your schedule, and clarify your priorities to make sure all the parts of your life your value are getting the time they need and deserve. You can schedule your free call by visiting bit.ly/bsmbookacall. You can have the successful business and fulfilling family life you want. Let’s work together to make it happen.

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How to Instantly Find More Fun as a Mompreneur

Is it possible to easily “find more fun”?

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The answer is a resounding “yes”! Think of it like this…When you start a gratitude practice, you quickly start to recognize all the things you are grateful for throughout your day. I believe the same can be true to find more fun. And it’s easier than you might think. It is so easy to get caught up in the hustly bustly life of running a family and a business and forget to stop and smell the fun roses.

Chances are you do experience some sort of fun or activity you previously thought was fun on a daily basis. You’ve just decided it was normal. It’s become a baseline and therefore you no longer recognize it as “fun”. Or you’re so busy that you’ve scaled the activities you enjoy back to their most basic form which you don’t deem “fun”. Can you make the mindset shift that an activity is enjoyable? Or you can make a task amusing? Or can you prioritize finding fun in your day? If you can, you will start to recognize it’s easier to find fun than you think.

Want to enjoy your mompreneur life more? Make the mindset shift that you do have fun or you’ll find more fun every day. Rather than all work and no play, you’ll experience pockets of fun and pleasure every day. And as I love to point out in the Fulfillment-Productivity cycle…when you feel more fulfilled, you’re more productive. And when you’re more productive, you free yourself up to find more fulfillment.

You can find more fun so simply and easily with subtle mindset shifts. For instance, if you order pizza every Friday night, it might not feel fun anymore. But how could you reframe or make it fun? Make your own pizza? Try a new topping combo? Or a new pizza place? Even just hyping it up by talking about at breakfast…”Hey, it’s pizza night? Are you guys excited? I am”

It is so easy to think our lives are mundane or lack fun. Because we’ve let fun become normal. But in the textbook definition of fun, it means something you find enjoyable, amusing, or entertaining. I bet there are parts of your day your find enjoyable, amusing, or entertaining. Watching your kids play? Drinking your morning coffee? Watching TV with your spouse after the kids are in bed? It’s time we recognize those normal or regular tasks we do that we find enjoyable, amusing, or entertaining as FUN!

Why You Need to Find More Fun

And you might be thinking “I just need to shift my thinking to find more fun in my day?” Yes. Yes. And yes. It is all about perspective. Instead of rushing from one thing to the next without taking time to enjoy it, your life might feel lackluster or boring. But when you recognize what you enjoy, appreciate what amuses you, or stay present for what entertains you rather than rushing to the next thing, you’ll feel the benefits of finding more fun.

Benefits that include lower our stress levels. You know, the stress that negatively impacts both your work and family life by causing frustration, a short fuse, sleeplessness, and a myriad of mental and physical health issues. Fun combats stress…“pew-pew-pew”

Daily fun might be moving your body in a way you find fun to balance out your hormones. Or laughing every day to increase the gamma function in your brain. Because through this gamma function, laughter literally heals the brain for better memory function while reducing feelings of depression, anxiety, and sleeplessness. Laughter is truly the best medicine!!

And there’s no denying that having fun creates better relationships with our spouse, our kids, our friends, and ourselves. Think about the last time you truly stepped away from all your mom duties and submersed yourself in fun with your spouse, family, or friends. Did you fall asleep with a smile on your face? Did you wake up the next morning feeling rejuvenated and with more energy to tackle your day? I want to help you find more fun in every day so every day can have this level of enjoyment and enthusiasm.

How to Easily Find More Fun

Where do we start finding fun? Here are 3 questions to ask that help you immediately find more fun every day:

  1. Can you recognize what you enjoy about your day? I started by comparing fun to gratitude in the sense that once you start to recognize it, you see it everywhere. What do you enjoy about your day? Or what is amusing about your day? What is entertaining about your day? Make a note of these things as they occur. Stop and relish the moment. Recognize that it is fun.
  2. Can your reframe to find fun? I get that not everything we do every day is considered fun. But for those tasks and activities we have to do but don’t find enjoyment in, can we reframe to find fun? If we hate creating social media content, can we find enjoyment or entertainment in the responses or connections we make with our community? If we dislike doing the dishes, can we find enjoyment in our clear sink and clean kitchen? Reframe what we don’t like to find the enjoyable or amusing parts of it.
  3. Can you make it fun? Mary Poppins said “in every job that must be done, there is an element of fun”. How can you make those tasks and activities you dread or don’t particularly like to do fun? For instance, I HATE folding laundry. I’m am totally guilty of letting clean clothes sit in the dryer or baskets for days even weeks. That is until I instituted my Friday Laundry Folding nights. Because my husband works early Saturday mornings, my family is all in bed by 930pm Friday nights. This is the time when I get to watch my shows like Bridgerton or the Friend’s Reunion or any number of YouTube baking tutorials uninterrupted and for as long as I like. And I enjoy these shows as I fold the laundry (and usually while sipping an adult beverage). I have figured out a way to make something I do not enjoy fun.

Your action step to immediately find more fun in your life is to recognize the parts of your day that you do enjoy. Your morning coffee? Family dinner? TV time with your spouse? Relish in what you do that you actually enjoy. Then, find ways to reframe tasks you don’t love in a way that makes them enjoyable. Is there an outcome or result that you enjoy? Focus on that rather than the part you don’t enjoy. And finally, find a way to make the un-fun fun. Listen to your favorite podcast while doing dishes. Make recipes that bring you joy when you dread cooking. Create a bedtime routine with your kids that includes enjoyable, calming activities so you end the day on a positive note.

How to Create Margin in Your Mompreneur Life - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Create Margin in Your Mompreneur Life

What do you think of when I say “create margin”?

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Terms papers? Profits? The fact is, margins are key to maintaining a balanced schedule as a mompreneur. That’s why we are talking about this important and often overlooked boundary…how to create margin in your schedule. Last week we talked about the importance of rest to stay healthy and productive while juggling your business and home life. This week we are diving into a specific sort of rest break. A full stop, transition space between tasks and activities to help us catch our break. And to help prevent feeling overwhelmed, overstimulated, and overscheduled.

This quote nails it…

“Margin is the boundaries, the rest that is built into your every day life.  It is the space between our load and our limits. Margin is the gap between rest and exhaustion, the space between breathing freely and suffocating. It is the opposite of overload.”

While I couldn’t find exactly who said this, I think it perfectly sums up margin and why you need margin.

When you can commit to creating space, a buffer zone, or emergency fund for time in your schedule, you will feel less stressed and anxious. You can take time to enjoy the current task or activity you are focusing on because you aren’t worried about what you didn’t finish before and what you’re rushing off to next.

Continuing to jam one activity after another after another into your schedule isn’t sustainable. Well, not if you want to feel present in your life. Or like you can actually breathe.

And I get the desire to do it all…you want to serve all the people. Do all the things. You want your kids to experience all the activities and have all the things. You want your house to look like Real Simple magazine or cook recipes from Martha Stewart every night. But there will come a point when you feel exhausted, overwhelmed or out of control. You can either break and burnout or start to prioritize.

Having margin means you’re less full and less rushed. You have time and space to breathe. To transition from one activity to the next.

It means the tasks and activities on your schedule are intentional and bring you or your family joy. It means you have time to finish and close out your work mom life and transition into home mom life without feeling anxiety because tasks and activities overlap, intermingle, or slam into each other day after day.

Your clients and team can benefit from a more prioritized and streamlined schedule because you can focus and show up energized. And your family will also benefit from this “less is more” approach to activities. Kids’ brains, especially in adolescence, are already overloaded and overstimulated without piling extra activities or running around on top of what is already expected. Think of this as an opportunity to be a shining example of the ebb and flow it takes to stay healthy mentally and physically as an adult.

4 Strategies to Help Create Margin

Ready to create margin in your schedule? Here are 4 strategies to help you streamline your schedule and create more buffer zones between activities.

  1. Schedule Transition Time…This is the biggest offender I see in my clients and community when it comes to an overloaded schedule. There just isn’t time between. We eat dinner in the care while we rush from soccer to Girl Scouts. We schedule Zoom meetings back to back without a chance to get a sip of water or go to the bathroom. And when we neglect transition time, we run late. We have to cancel. Or we just run ourselves down. Your brain needs a chance to close out one activity before it rushes to the next. As you look at your schedule, see where you need to create a buffer zone between activities. Even 10-15  minutes gives you’re a chance to complete, rest, and pivot. Then you can show up more attentive and less flustered for your next task or activity.
  2. Stop Overbooking…I said transition time was the biggest offender when it comes to schedule stress, but usually that is because we are overbooking ourselves. Rushing from one thing to the next with no downtime is not sustainable. No wonder moms are exhausted. And it’s not just us. The American Academy of Pediatrics estimates that sleep problems affect 25 to 50 percent of children and 40 percent of adolescents. And when kids are overstimulated by activities or staying up late doing homework due to an overbooked scheduled, it can impact their mental and physical health. Before you add another task or activity to your schedule, ask yourself “is this necessary?” “Is this truly important?” “Will this make me or my family happy?” “Do I honestly have the space for this in my schedule?” If you answer “no” to all of these questions, you need to use tip 3 which is…
  3. Say “NO”…This can take some practice. It may even take a lot of practice. Especially if you are used to being a “yes” mom or a “yes” woman. But protecting your schedule and your margin. Finding time to transition or rest is more important. Stop feeling like saying “no” means you are letting people down and think of saying “no” as a way to say “yes” to you. And your family. And your priorities for home and work life. For a deeper dive on “How to Say No and Why You Need To”, click here to check out my episode from January.
  4. Delegate…And finally, if you feel like your have narrowed down your schedule to the absolute priorities. To the activities that bring you or your family joy. To the tasks that are absolute priorities for your household or business. And yet you still can’t create margin, it may be time to delegate. Where can you employ help so you can complete the tasks without burning out? Who can help you transition or rest between activities? Is there someone you can hire to help with marketing while you take calls? Can a spouse, neighbor or another parent that can drop off for soccer practice so you can complete work or home tasks and have chance to breathe and pivot? Asking for help is not weakness, it’s protection. Say it with me…”asking for help is not weakness, it’s protection.” Who can and will you ask for help so you can protect your time and energy to focus on your priorities at home and at work?

Your action step to create margin in your schedule to protect your time and energy is to look at your schedule for this week, next week, or the coming weeks. Where can you plan transition time? Or adjust to give yourself a buffer zone between appointments and activities? What could you delete or reschedule to keep tasks and activities from slamming into each other? Can you say “no” to any commitments or upcoming activities to help free up some space in your schedule? Or are there tasks you can delegate to a spouse, family member, or team member that can help you stay focused and present rather than scattered and overwhelmed?

Better Productivity through Rest - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How Rest Is the Secret to Better Productivity & Success

Can rest make for better productivity?

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Can you slow down to speed up your success? Is that even possible? Today we discuss how rest and relaxation can actually improve your productivity and success rate. More than a constant hustle, hustle, hustle vibe. It may feel counterintuitive to think rest, relaxation, or taking a break from your work can actually help you achieve more.

But a fulfilled, healthy, and well-rested mompreneur has more energy to work. She has better focus and creativity to generate new ideas or problem solve. And she has a greater appreciation for the work she does on a daily basis. Plus, she knows she can step away to nurture her relationships outside her business without worrying about falling behind. And she actually looks forward to serving through her business rather than dreading her work. I don’t know about you, but that sounds like the kind of mom entrepreneur I want to be.

The Key to Better Productivity & Success

When you create time for intentional rest as an entrepreneur, you are able give your brain a much needed break. These “brain breaks” improve your productivity because your brain is less fatigued. Rest breaks help boost your creativity because you refill your energy reserves, rather than tapping an empty tank. And rest helps to reduce stress…you know that “fight or flight” response your feel when you’re on a deadline, struggling to figure out what to do next, or worrying about if and when you’ll succeed? Rest activates your parasympathetic nervous system. This reduces the amount of stress hormones in your system that can directly impact your physical, mental and emotional health, and even your longevity. In a nutshell, rest helps keep you healthy, strong, and successful during your crazy entrepreneur life.

When you can find time in your day for short rest breaks and during your week for longer non-work related activities, you will reap the benefits of slowing down to speed up.

And you may be asking yourself “how is this even possible?” Doesn’t working more create better results? Don’t I just need to hustle until I find what works? Won’t someone take my place if I step away?

Your fears are quite common. It does feel really backwards to think not working is the key to working better and smarter. To completing more tasks. Or achieving greater success.

The Benefits of Rest

Here’s the thing…The well-rested mompreneur has a healthier mind and body. She experiences less stress and anxiety. And she copes better when stress and anxiety rear their ugly little heads. She is more creative because her well-rested brain is better at solving problems and producing solutions. And her productivity improves because her brain, like the other muscles in her body, works more efficiently and quickly when it has had time to recover. She can confidently step away from work at the end of the day and nurture the relationships with her family and friends without thinking “ugh, I just need to do one more thing and maybe that will be the key.”

Easy Rest Ideas for Better Productivity

Rest is so vital to your success as an entrepreneur. And if you’re thinking “I just don’t even know where to begin”, here are 4 easy ways you can incorporate daily rest into your routine:

  1. Take short breaks…First, whether you schedule them in or just step away when you feel the need, even a 5 or 10 minute break is beneficial. Take some deep breaths. Do a short meditation. Put laundry away, unload the dishwasher, or some other non-taxing activity that doesn’t require deep thought. Take a short walk. Find a way to change gears and give your brain a break for a bit. She’s been working hard. She deserves it.
  2. Create healthy habits…Habits are great for the brain because it doesn’t have to make a decision, therefore it’s like a mini-break for your brain. Healthy habits or routines could include making the same healthy smoothie for breakfast every morning. Or an after-lunch walk routine. Maybe a morning meditation habit or gratitude practice. Even a short 20 minute afternoon nap if you need it. These regular habits and routines give your brain the rest it needs to recharge for the important work you’re asking it to do during the day.
  3. Create a sleep routine…Sleep might just be the most important restful activity you can do. But I can totally relate to the mom who can’t settle her brain at night. When you develop a routine that tells your brain “It’s time to wind down and go to bed”, you’ll find it easier to fall and stay asleep. Your routine might include a skincare routine. Reading. Shutting off screens or turning the lights down. Taking a shower or bath. And my personal favorite…drifting off to the sounds of a soothing sleep story.
  4. Make time for fun…And Finally, fun is my preferred rest choice. It gives me a break from the grind. It helps me develop relationships with my family and friends. And fun is FUN! Don’t let all work and no play make mom a dull lady. Find a way to incorporate some sort of simple fun into every day. Dance to great music. Play board game. Take a bike ride. Watch a funny animal video. Make a new recipe. Keep it simple and keep it regular. Everyone’s fun is different but there’s no reason you can’t have fun every day.

In conclusion, your action step to start incorporating rest into your routine is to brainstorm ways you can incorporate the suggestions I gave you into your daily schedule. When can you take short breaks and what will you do? What healthy habits can you include in your daily routine that can offload some decision making but also increase your mindfulness? What would the elements of your sleep routine include or how can you improve your current bedtime ritual? And finally, what are the simple ways you can experience fun today, tomorrow, and every day?

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How to Communicate Your Boundaries for Work & Home Life

How are you at communicating boundaries you’ve set?

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What do you think of when I say “boundaries”? Restrictions? Limits? Freedom? Let’s talk about how communicating the boundaries you put in place for your work and home life can protect you from burnout and stress. The communication part of boundaries is so vital and yet so often overlooked.

For some reason, we like to establish clear boundaries about when we work. Or what kinds of projects we do. Or the space we need to complete a job…But then we neglect to tell the people around us about then. And subsequently, we get frustrated our family members or clients don’t respect the boundaries we have put in place. Or sometimes we violate our own boundaries because no one knew that line was there so we can cross it. Right? No. Lack of boundaries creates lack of respect, whether crossing that line is intentional or unintentional. And starting today, you, your family, friends, clients, and team will know exactly where your line is.

Why Establishing & Communicating Boundaries is Important

Establishing and communicating boundaries allows mompreneurs to safeguard themselves against burnout and failing to meet expectations. When you clarify the limits of what you allow in, what you accept from someone else, and how much your capacity is, you can communicate these limits to the people around you. And when you communicate your limits, you can problem-solve for overflow. You can prevent feeling overwhelmed because the people involved are aware of our capacity and limits.

Many of the mompreneurs in my community feel like running overcapacity is just par for the course. Or that if they just reach a certain point, everything will balance out or their workload with decrease. There is also a fear of saying no to business opportunities because their business may not be as successful. Or they fear saying “no” to their family because they don’t want to put their business before their family. Many times, they fear saying no to both which lands them in a cycle of exhaustion, stress, and overwhelm.

On the flip side, you could create healthy boundaries. You can clarify the limits of what you allow in. Establish what you will accept from someone else. And know your capacity to protect yourself from burnout and overwhelm. Then, you can communicate these boundaries with others. They will now know how to respect your needs. But can also hold you accountable when they notice your nearing capacity or allowing people to violate your limits.

Over time, you will discover that by decreasing the amount you allow in will allow the quality of what you focus on will increase. Higher quality work in your business. Focused, present, intentional quality time with your family.

You can actually look forward to your work because you know that when you reach your limit, you can shift out of work mode and into mom mode with ease and confidence. Your daily or weekly workload can shift from work you don’t love or working with clients you don’t love to only doing what you love.

And when you focus on doing work you love or working with clients you love, you can show up to serve better. And a mom who feels fulfilled and productive in her work can step away at the end of the day. She can focus on her family in the evenings, on the weekends, or on her days off.

Steps for Creating & Communicating Boundaries

I know setting and communicating boundaries can feel overwhelming itself…Especially if you’ve just dealt with doing it all or saying yes to everything for so long. That’s why I have a little fill-in-the-blank exercise for you. You can create a boundary statement to communicate to your clients, team, family, or friends.

  • The first step is to recognize where you need this boundary. Where do you allow people to crash through the fences you’ve tried to use to establish a boundaries? Are there places you’re allowing people to overload you? Or places you allowing yourself to go over capacity? Then fill in the blank for this statement… “I need to create a boundary around ___________”
  • Next, let’s talk about why. You know I love knowing the why behind any change or effort you make. Why is it that you feel you need this boundary? Because you don’t have set work hours? Or because it is hard to work when kids are constantly interrupting you? Maybe because when you spread yourself too thin with clients, all your clients suffer? Dig into WHY you want this boundary in place and fill in this blank… “I need this boundary because _____”.
  • And finally, let’s dive into how you know when you’re approaching your limits. Do you snap at your kids more? Have trouble sleeping? Feel anxiety, sleeplessness, or the need to overeat? When you take a step back, you can usually see a pattern when you reach capacity. What is that trigger you would like to avoid? How can that affect your mental and physical health as well as your relationships and business? Now fill in this blank… “I know I am approaching my limit when _____”.

We have clarified where we need a boundary, why we need it and how it protects us. Now we are going to create a boundary statement. We can use this for our benefit by placing it as a visible reminder to review on a regular basis. And we can use it as the basis for our boundary conversation with our family, clients, or team.

You can create your statement by grabbing the answers we just created and placing them in this statement…

I need to (insert boundary you need to create) because (insert reason why you need the boundary) and I no longer want to feel (insert how you know you are approaching your limit).

Examples are “I need to create specific work hours because I am not making progress just trying to fit my business building work in here and there and I no longer want to feel stressed and defeated.”

Or “I need to no longer schedule calls after 5pm because I want to focus on spending time with my family in the evenings and I no longer want to them or me to feel like they are second to my business.”

Once you have your statement ready, make a time to communicate it with your family or clients. Remember that this change could invoke some strong emotions. But, in the end, you are protecting your passion, relationships, and mental and physical health are what is most important.

Your action step to establish and communicate your boundaries today is to create your boundary statement. Then schedule a time to meet with the people affected by your change.

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You Need “Mom Office Hours”, Here’s How to Create Them

Do you set aside specific mom office hours to work on or in your business?

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Or do you just wake up with your fingers crossed hoping you can do some work today? Ever feel like you’re cramming too much into your day? Or like your energy is so scattered you can’t find your rhythm? It may be time to buckle down and create some specific mom office hours. This helps you focus on business building and client serving activities while your family learns to respect that mama’s working right now.

When you block out specific times on your calendar for mom office hours, you are more likely to actually do your work during those hours. Committing to scheduled time to work on your impact-driven tasks makes you more money and grows your community more successfully. Plain and simple.

And when you commit to an appointment with yourself to work, your productivity and focus will increase. When you treat these office hours just like you would if you were leaving the home…by communicating with your spouse, caregiver, or children that you are working and not to be disturbed, you and your family will start to respect your business as a business, not a hobby.

But Mom Office Hours Aren’t for Me

You might be thinking “my life is too inconsistent. I’m better when I just play it by ear and squeeze in work when I can.” Or maybe you’re saying “what I’m doing is working. Yeah, it can be chaotic but we muddle through.”

And muddling through might be fine for now. But when you start to treat your business like a business, you will see greater growth. Just think of the entrepreneurs you look up to…Do you think they are just squeezing it in when they can? Or do you think they are setting aside specific time for focused work?

Designating specific office hours helps you find a flow and dive into tasks that generate more income and reach more potential clients. There’s also a mindset shift that happens when you start treating your business as a business. Meaning you set aside specific time to work both on and in it. Haven’t seen the growth you hoped for with your business? It may be because your brain is subconsciously telling you it isn’t really a business…yet.

These assigned office hours help to feed the Productivity-Fulfillment cycle I like to talk about. When you are more productive, you’ll feel more fulfilled in your work. And feel more comfortable stepping away to spend time with your family in the evenings, on the weekends, or for a vacation. Feeling more fulfilled in your work and home life inspires you to focus and work more productively during your office hours. Because you want to leave your work to work hours and focus on doing what you love with who you love the rest of the time.

5 Steps to Create Your Mom Office Hours

Ready to schedule your mom office hours? Here are 5 action steps you can take to next level your productivity, grow your business, and confidently step away from work to focus on family life each day.

  1. Plan Work Blocks – Look at your schedule for the week and determine when you can “work”. You might base these blocks around when you have clients. You might want to work a few hours each day. Or you might want to have long days where you bust out everything you need for the week. Each one of you is as unique as your business. You know your needs. The big takeaway is to block out that time on your schedule and treat that time as an appointment.
  2. Communicate Your Plan – Once you have blocked the time out, it is important that you let the other people involved know what’s up. The people we live with aren’t mind-readers. So if we need focused time and space, we need to communicate this need with the people around us. Got little people who might not understand “mommy’s working, go play for a while”? You need step 3 which is…
  3. Problem Solve for Distractions – You might to arrange childcare for you kids. Or something as simple as turning off phone notifications. The important thing is to recognize what distracts you while you are doing your focused work. Then create a solution to the problem in advance rather than putting work aside.
  4. Have a Specific Work Space – Once we have the time blocked out, we’ve told our family what’s up, and we’ve limited distractions…We need to go to our workspace. Does this mean you need an office? No, not at all. I built my first business from my laptop at the kitchen table. But I had a specific workspace and a place to organize what I needed to do my work. When you create a workspace, your mind will know the routine. And slide more easily into “I’m going to work now” mode. Plus, when you have a workspace, you won’t waste that precious time you’ve set aside to work searching for what you need to do your work. Whether it’s an office or your laptop with a portable file box full of what you need, designate a workspace.
  5. Make a Plan – Know what you need to work on or your goal for your allotted mom office hours. We don’t want to waste time figuring out how we will spend the time. Look at your to-do list when you plan your work blocks for the week. Assign a specific task to each block. No multi-tasking because we want to focus on completing an impact driven task during this time. And remember Parkinson’s law which states “work expands to fit the time allowed”. That’s part of the magic of office hours…If you say “I am going to finish this project or this task during these office hours”, you are much more likely to finish it during that time. As opposed to giving yourself an open-ended time frame.

Your action steps for today are to create some mom office hours in your schedule for the rest of this week or next week. Look at your schedule and plan the time to work. Communicate with your spouse or children when that time will be. Pre-plan for any distractions that may interrupt you from your focused, productive work. And make sure you have a designated workspace and clear tasks you will work on during your office hours. As I said before, when you treat your business as a business, your brain and the people around you will also see your business as a business.

Avoid Overscheduling - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Avoid Overscheduling Your Life

Are you guilty of overscheduling?

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Is busy just part of being a mom and an entrepreneur? Or is it possible to raise well rounded, activity immersed children AND create a success business without feeling overwhelmed? This week we are talking how to avoid overscheduling your life…both as a mom and as an entrepreneur.

Moms LOVE to say yes. We love to be involved. And we love to help. We hate to feel like we are letting people down. Especially our kids. BUT what happens when all those yeses compound to create a schedule that feels stressful and overwhelming? An anxious, stressed-out, overstimulated, unfulfilled mom entrepreneur is what happens. But we’re going to fix that.

When you actively work to control your schedule rather than letting it control you, you will find that there is time and space for what you truly value. For the priorities you’ve set for yourself, your business, and your family. And whatever fear or struggle you had in letting go of the events that don’t tick those boxes will dissipate quickly as you bask in the new found time and energy you’ve created by protecting yourself.

When you utilize the 3 steps I give you today, you take back control. You stop worrying about letting people down or disappointing your PTA or volunteer group or children and start making decisions about your time that focus on your values, your goals and your priorities. Both for your family and for your business.

If you’re usually a “yes” mom and you’re thinking “there is no way I can change my schedule. This is just the way it is going to be until my kids get older. Or until I can hire help. Or no one else can do it like me.” I have a truth bomb for you. You can make a change and stand up for the life you want. Or you can continue to complain and live that life that everyone else wants from you. Your choice.

When you stand up for your time, your values, your goals, and your dreams, you will start to see your life align. You can spend time fulfilling your vision with the creative energy you previously spent fulfilling someone else’s vision. And you can reallocate the time and effort you applied to reach someone else’s goal to your goals.

You’ll find ways to fill your cup, whether it’s for personal or business reasons, on a daily basis because you stop or limit what you are pouring out to others.

You can show up present at your child’s event without thinking about the other 100 things you have to do when you don’t dilute your energy. And you can devote focused effort to an organization you feel truly passionate about rather than giving the bare minimum to help them succeed. You and your family will start to see that less truly is more when it comes to your schedule.

Avoiding Overscheduling is About Knowing

Resetting your busy life is all about “knowing”. We are going to know where we need to be, know what space we need around that activity, and say no to tasks or projects that no longer align with our values or goals.

The first step to avoid overscheduling is to know your schedule. And to be honest, this is the task where you mamas are killing it. Most of you maintain some sort of family and business calendar so kudos to you. Where I see struggles start to arise with clients and in my community is when those calendars stay in separate places. Like when we schedule a meeting until 4 when soccer pick up is at 4:30.

This leads us to our second step to avoid overscheduling which is knowing the space we need around the activity. We know soccer practice ends at 4:30. We know we have a meeting until 4. And we know it takes 20 minutes to get to soccer. That’s running it pretty close if the meeting runs over. Or if there’s traffic. Or you can’t find your keys. What you need is margin. Or a buffer zone.

A huge factor in the anxiety we feel is the continuous slamming of activity into activity is. There is no transition time. We need breathing room. Do you have a transition or buffer space when you look at the schedules for you, your business, your kids, and your spouse layered on top of each other? If not, it may not be the actual number of activities that is causing you to feel overwhelmed, but the fact that there is never a minute to catch your breath in between.

And if you’re saying “Well, there’s nothing I can do about that, it’s just how it is.” That brings us to our third way of knowing which is actually N-Oing noing. Saying no more often. Protecting your time and energy by choosing tasks and activities that align with your goals rather than rushing to something your aren’t passionate about. Telling your kids “no” to the 17th activity they want to add when you feel like your evenings are spent as a chauffeur. Telling your clients “no” I can’t have a call at 8pm because that is my family time.

It’s gonna feel uncomfortable. I know, I’ve been there. You’re going to feel like you’re letting people down. But you are the decider when it comes to where you spend your time and how you expend your energy. Let’s stand up for our priorities, values, and goals rather than letting others dictate our day or free time.

Ok…I know that might ruffle few feathers out there, but if you are feeling that, it may be because you know there needs to be a change. Change is often uncomfortable. And hard. But a year from now, do you want to be proud of the leaps you’ve made in your business and personal life or stuck in the same stressful schedule cycle of overscheduling? If you’re ready to take action, I want you to take a look at your schedule. See how your commitments overlap or butt up to one another. See where you can build in some margin or a buffer zone to allow for transition from one activity to the next. And see where you can say no to build in space for your projects and goals as well as slowing the frantic pace of zooming from one activity to the next.