How to Manage Expectations as a Mompreneur - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Manage Expectations as a Mom and Entrepreneur

How do you manage expectations as a mompreneur?

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Productivity guru David Allen said “You can do anything, but you can’t do everything”. And yet as moms and business owners we continue to push ourselves to the breaking point to do everything. I’ve done it. And I see it in my community. I also know from what I’ve done and what I’ve seen that running ourselves ragged trying to do it all only leads to burnout. And stress. And potentially health problems…again speaking from experience here. That’s why I’m here to help you develop a better way to manage expectations.

I’m totally former president of the “trying to cram way too much into a day because I think I have to” society. Those expectations we think we have to meet can really do a number on our stress levels. Our self-esteem. And our sleep patterns. And our relationships…you name it.

To be completely honest, I wrestled with preparing this episode. And I think it’s because this is an area where I regularly find myself needing to reinvest in my mindset. So often, all that added pressure is entirely brought on by our own minds. And by no means am I suggesting we settle for less than we absolutely desire or deserve. I’m just saying, let’s take a minute to realistically evaluate our schedules, lists of tasks, and expectations for work and home life so we can confidently stay on track to achieve our goals and desires.

Entrepreneurship as a mom can be a rough road. Especially when you’re first starting out. Once the initial excitement wanes, you may find yourself continually thinking “what the f did I get myself into?” The sooner we learn to realistically manage our expectations when it comes to what is successful in our business and our mom life, the sooner we can learn to actually enjoy the life we are creating as a business owner.

Managing expectations comes down to a brutally honest review of your skills, your time, your support system, your finances, and your desires. Remember, we can do anything just not everything. The sooner we learn to ask for help in our home and business life, delegate tasks that aren’t in our skillset, spend money to make money with systems or automation, and set manageable goals aligned with our vision AND time available, the sooner we will crush those previously held expectations of who we should be and how we do it. And we will start to relish in the here and now, which sets us up for future success.

Currently, you may be running your business and home life based on how you perceived an entrepreneur life looks like. Or maybe you are trying to be your own mom, who kept an immaculate house but did not work additionally outside the home. Maybe your favorite online business building guru is full of amazing strategies but also single or childless.

Benefits When You Manage Expectations

You are 100% unique when it comes to your family, your business, and how they all work together. There isn’t a single mentor, regardless of their yearly income, Instagram followers, or number of team members they have, that shares the same needs as you. And yet we often model our view of “success” after these other people. No wonder we are struggling to recognize the difference between actual and perceived expectations as a mom and business owner.

But when we start to manage our expectations on a realistic level that is based on our goals, our values, and our time available, we can stay motivated. We learn to accept a range of success and celebrate it. Rather than the constant belief we are failing or missing the mark.  

We are better prepared when life happens…like a sick kid or your internet’s out before a big meeting. The adage “Done is better than perfect” could become a sort of mantra. Helping you complete the work and home tasks that are required while leaving you time and energy for yourself and your family.

And speaking of your family…if you were to ask them, do you think they would be more concerned about a perfectly kept house that you spend hours maintaining in the evenings after work and school. Or would they rather have you present for a board game or a movie night? How can we get to a place where we can better juggle all the things and the perceived expectations we have for our home and business life?

It’s helpful to think of success in a range rather than black and white. There are so many tiny victories to celebrate that will keep us motivated and lead us to greater success.

Click here to hear why we need to celebrate those tiny victories in Episode 21 “3 Reasons You Should Celebrate Everything” from August 2020.

If we only focus on reaching the big, hairy goals or celebrating life working out exactly how we planned, we miss the opportunity to revel in the abundance of the great things we are doing along the way. Instead, let’s think of our “successes” on a good, better, best scale. I learned this as a goal-setting method from a former coach. And it’s a great way to help manage expectations and create a more abundant attitude toward success.

How to Manage Expectations on a Sliding Scale

Here is your action step to start using a sliding scale to manage your expectations. I recommend starting this exercise by working through a couple of stress points. Use a journal, a piece of paper, or the notes app on your phone. After a while, you’ll start noticing your reaction to perceived expectations in the moment. As GI Joe used to say “knowing is half the battle”.

Let’s start by writing down a perceived expectation. What is an expectation you believe is required of you that feels overwhelming or impossible? Let’s use the example of tackling a sinkful of dishes at the end of a very long day. Your perceived expectation may be that despite feeling exhausted or wanting to hang out with your family on the couch watching “Lego Masters”, you need to spend your time in the kitchen doing these dishes. That’s the perceived expectation which is causing stress or overwhelm.

Next, let’s look at the actual expectation. Did someone, other than yourself, tell you to complete this job or action? Or is the expectation of completion coming from you? Back to the dishes example…Did your mother always had clear counters and a clean sink before going to bed? Do you also feel like that is expected of you? Did your spouse ask for it? Or your kids? Most times they did not. And yet the expectation is there. Deeply rooted in your daily routine creating stress and potentially resentment. Chances are that the expectations that cause the most stress in our daily lives are coming from our own mind. Which is great because it means we have an opportunity to evolve our thinking.

Using our good, better, best sliding scale…how can we meet the expectation of doing the dishes and not go to bed resenting the fact that your spouse and kids are enjoying their evening on the couch while you do the dishes. The “Good” option may be your put the dishes in the dishwasher and call it a night. “Better” may be you get the dishes in the dishwasher, soak the pans, and wipe the counters down. And “Best” might be you complete all the actions. Most nights you may be ok in your better to best range. But on the days you don’t have it in you, and you really want to snuggle down with your family, good is also ok.

How about a quick example from the business world. Let’s say you have a perceived expectation that you need to post 6 days a week on Instagram. As well as creating 4-10 stories a day. Creating that much content requires you to stay up very late after the kids go to bed. You’re losing sleep. Missing out on time with your spouse. and have found yourself generally cranky trying to meet this perceived expectation. What could a good, better, best scenario be for this situation? “Good” could be you create just the posts or just the stories for the week. “Better” is you create 4 posts instead of 6 and 2-5 stories per day instead of 10. “Best” is you create all the content you perceive necessary to grow your business and increase your income.

Regardless of completing your “good”, “better”, or “best” goal, you’re still producing content that will help grow your business. But now you are better managing expectations so you can juggle your need for downtime. And reduce the resentment that life is all work and no play.

How are you feeling about managing your expectations on a scale from good to better to best? Changing up years of patterns and thoughts can feel daunting. As I said in the opening, managing expectations is mindset matter I am constantly working on. If you’re also feeling overwhelmed or still aren’t sure where to start, I’d love to help you. Let’s evaluate the tasks on your to-do list and come up with your range of success for those tasks that wear you out. Click the link below to schedule a free clarity call. And discuss how I can help you manage expectations, reach your goals, and still spend time watching Lego Masters on the couch with your family.


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Organize Your Business - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Organize Your Business When You’re Not Organized

Let talk how to organize your business when you not organized.

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Do you ever catch yourself thinking “I don’t have time to organize”. “It’s just not a good use of my time”. “I would rather do work”. My question for you is “do you really have time to not be organized?” Learning how to organize your business could be the best way for you to manage your time, work productively, and create more of a balance in your work and home life as a mom business owner.

Today I am wearing hats from both of my businesses…Let’s talk about organizing your business when you don’t feel like you are an organized person. I spent over a decade as a professional organizer helping moms to overcome their clutter and simplify their stuff so they could do more of what they loved with who they loved. So yeah, you could say I have a bit of a passion for organizing. And not just because it looks pretty.

Practicing your organizing skill is truly a way to optimize your time and energy. You can show up a better mom, a better business owner, a better spouse, and a better you all around. And today we are going to talk about easy ways you can start to practice your organizing skills…Even if you’ve spent your life thinking you’re disorganized.

Why Take the Time to Organize Your Business

When you take time to organize your space and time as business owner, you can work more efficiently. And expend less energy completing the necessary tasks. It takes so much energy to run a business, especially if you are just starting out or a solopreneur. Why spend any more time than you absolutely have to search for documents you know you created? Or distracted by the piles of papers on your desk when you don’t have to?

Decide today to devote time on a regular basis to decluttering what is unnecessary. Create systems. Organize your space and schedule. And regularly maintain it all will ensure you keep your business and your household running at an optimal level.

And as I said in the opening…you may think you don’t have time to organize. But do you really have time not be? Disorganization shows up as lost items or files, missed deadlines or communications, unpaid invoices or lack of invoicing…the list goes on. All of these actions take a toll on both your productivity and business success. As well as your stress levels. Because, let’s face it, if you are constantly looking for things, missing deadlines, or forgetting invoice clients, it’s going to cause a bit of stress and strain in your already tapped out life.

And if you’re thinking “I could never be an organized person”. Or “I’m creative so I can’t be organized”, I’m here to help you see that everyone can benefit from a bit more organization.

You’ll complete tasks because you know when they’re due AND where the supplies you need to complete them are. You’ll serve your customers better because they will receive their services or packages in a timely manner. And happy customers mean more money. Maybe even repeat business. And more business means more compensation. More compensation means less stress because your efforts are rewarded. See how nicely that all works together!

And this isn’t just a long-term strategy. I want you to close your eyes and imagine a workday where you know what you need to do. You know where you can find everything you need to do your job. You start your day in a clear workspace where you can focus. And end your workday by resetting the space for next work session. Can you see it?

And practicing your organizing skills in your business is bound to spill over into your home life too. You and your family can set up systems to find all sorts of items that were previously on the “mom, where are my (insert lost item)” list. And, as I used to discuss with my organizing clients, the earlier you start to practice the skill of organizing with your kids, the better. I firmly believe you can teach an old dog new tricks. But I also know the sooner you start to nurture skills the better.

First Steps to Organize Your Business

So, where do you start honing your organizing skills as business owner? I’ve got 3 simple steps that even the most disorganized person can implement to start organizing their space and time. Reduce. Systematize. Maintain.

  1. Reduce – aka decluttering. When it comes to organizing anything, whether physical stuff or calendar clutter, the first step is to reduce the amount of items that need organizing. It just doesn’t make sense to organize something you don’t need. Or you don’t use. Or that doesn’t bring value to your day. When you look at the papers you keep, do you actually need them all? If you’ve got digital copy, do you need a printed copy? Or could you keep a well labeled digital copy on the chance you’ll reference it again. Rather than taking the time to print and file that document? When you look at your desktop, is everything there necessary for you to complete your job? Or does it cause a distraction or additional stress because your desk looks messy. When you look at your schedule or to-do list, do the tasks or activities add value and increase the bottom line of your business? Or are they unaligned with your goals and values causing you to waste your precious time and energy. Look at your space and schedule and ask yourself, is this all necessary and essential? If the answer is no, what can go. I am giving you permission to let go of items or tasks that don’t serve your vision, goals, or values.
  2. Systematize – For some reason, many business owners love to make things harder than they need to be. Even when they know they don’t have the time for it. It’s the “I don’t have time to get organized” lie again. But when you take a little time to organize systems for routine business tasks, you’ll work more productively and have fewer mistakes or missed opportunities. There’s a chance you’re already using some sort of systems in your business and you may not even realize it. Do you have templates you use for social media? A nurture sequence when new subscribers opt-in to your email list? Or a process for sending products to customers once they’ve purchased from you? Then you’ve organized systems designed to offload some of the decision making you do during your workday. AND to ensure the work is completed with fewer mistakes and consistent results. Currently recreating the wheel every time you have a repeated task in your business? I challenge you to look for places you can create systems. Creating a new blog post? Uploading new products to your website? Writing an email newsletter? Onboarding a new client? These are all places you can write down each step you need to complete in the process. Then create a checklist of these steps. I know, I know. It may seem redundant to record routine tasks when you are used to doing them over and over. But some days, mom brain kicks in. Some days we miss a step. And mistakes can cost our time and money. Not mention, you can easily delegate a well documented system as your business grows. And your business will grow now that you’ve committed to using your time and space more efficiently. For even more on creating systems for your business, check out episode 57 from February 2021 called “Systems: What are they and why you need them”.
  3. Maintenance – Maintaining what you decluttered or the systems you’ve created is so key to staying organized. And yet, this step is so often overlooked. Organizing is never set it and forget it like a Ronco Rotisserie Oven (how’s that for a throwback reference). We have to review and reevaluate to make constant improvements. You might find that items you once thought were necessary for your workflow aren’t anymore because you’ve digitized a system. Or tasks your once did no longer align with your current vision and goals. Or the system you created feels clunky, outdated, or complicated. Just because you reduce and systematize doesn’t mean it’s complete. For instance, I make a habit of reviewing my marketing numbers at the end of every month. I’ve created a weekly marketing checklist, aka a system, so I know what I would like to post where. And when I write my podcast. And what needs completed that week to accomplish my marketing goals. Based on my marketing numbers each month, I refine and review my weekly system. I look for places I can eliminate tasks or where I need to lean in a bit more. Schedule time in on a regular basis, maybe monthly or quarterly, to review what you’ve done. And determine if it is still working for you. Or if it might need a little zhuzh.

Here are your action steps to organize your business, even if you don’t feel like you’re an organized person…

First, reduce the clutter. Eliminate any items that you don’t absolutely need or that cause distractions. Ask yourself “will I realistically need this? Or am I just keeping it because I might use it or someone else told me to have it”? Let go of items that don’t directly contribute to your success. Or align with your values. Or that distract you from doing focused work. You don’t have to overhaul your whole office at once. Start small. A drawer. Your desktop. A day on your schedule. Then tomorrow, do a little more.

Next up, systematize. Are there areas of your business where you repeat tasks? If so, create a checklist or automation to ensure you complete each step accurately. And yes, I know words like accurate and timely can start to sound a little confining to a free flowing creative. But when you create simple systems to offload the regular, boring, non-creative yet essential tasks, you free up brainpower for more creative time in your work.

And finally, schedule time for maintenance and review. Sure, if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. But as we develop organizing skills, we find that the stuff or tasks we thought we needed, aren’t really necessary. In fact, they may actually distract us. Make an appointment on a regular basis to review the state of your workspace, your schedule, and your systems. Evaluate that they align with your current, vision, goals, and values.


Need additional support in creating your best mompreneur life? Want to create a solid and simple plan to get your work done and have fun? Let’s jump on a free, no-obligation 15-minute call to see how I can help you feel more fun & fulfilled in your work and home life.

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How to Decide What to Do - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Decide What to Do When You Work

Struggling to decide what to do when you sit down to work?

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Ever sit down to work on your carefully curated list of tasks to-do that someone, somewhere said you “need” to do and feel completely overwhelmed by it all? Then today’s episode is for you! Let’s decide what to do for you when you work.

The topic of deciding what to do because it comes up over and over in my community. Figuring out what to do and then doing those things can really zap your energy as an entrepreneur. Add to that the duties you have as a mom and around your home and it’s no wonder this feels so daunting. But it doesn’t have to. And today I am going to share a few simple questions that will help you narrow that list down to your priority tasks when you are feeling confused, indecisive, or overwhelmed. 

Ugh….What Do I Do???

Staring at a to-do list of 10, 20, 30, or more tasks can feel completely overwhelming…even to the most productive go-getter. And whenever you have a large quantity of anything…whether it’s tasks on your to-do list or clothes in your closet…making a decision becomes even harder. Today we are solving the problem of knowing what to focus on NOW from your to-do list in order to get the right things done, work efficiently, and save time and energy. 

The mompreneurs who make a regular practice of evaluating the tasks and carving out time for the ones that are urgent and important often feel less stress. They can do more in less time because the tasks they focus on make a difference. And many of those tasks we thought we needed to do don’t need completed. All it takes is a little evaluation and prioritization. 

Feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list or confused about what to do? It’s often because you pick what to do willy nilly, rather than focusing time and energy on tasks that truly make an impact. Many times you choose a task because you like to do it or because it is easy. But I’m here to tell you…those are often not the tasks that will move the needle in helping you grow your community, work more efficiently, see more results or, most importantly, make more money. As busy mompreneurs pulled in 127 different directions, you have to stop wasting time on low-value tasks. 

But what are those low-value tasks? How do you even know what is a waste and what is productive? You have so many voices in your ear, mine included, telling you what you should and should not do. The fact is, only you know your priorities based on your goals and your values. But the more you practice prioritizing what’s on your list based on those goals and values, the easier it becomes to see exactly what you need to do when you sit down to work. Or what to do with your free time. When you manage to carve out that 3 minutes and 48 seconds. 

How You Benefit When You Decide What to Do

When you use the simple questions I’m sharing today to prioritize your to-do list, you focus on tasks that matter. You reduce feelings of overwhelm and stress because you can focus time and energy on only the tasks produce results. And you often reduce your workload because you can give up the tasks that don’t truly align with your goals or your values. 

On a daily basis, you will feel confident that what you are doing will benefit of your business, your self, or your family because those tasks are directly aligned with your goals or your values. 

And you aren’t the only person who benefits from a less stressed, less overwhelmed business owning mom. Your family will see more of you because you can accomplish more in less time. And you can show up less distracted or stressed at mealtimes or sporting events because you know the work you’ve done (and left behind) made an impact.  

Steps to Decide What to Do When You Work

So how can you arrive at this glorious place where can decide what to do, your tasks align, your to-do list shrinks, and you can walk away from work at the end of the day feeling accomplished? It’s easier than you might think. 

First, let’s take a second to review the difference between your urgent and important tasks. I did a deep dive on this topic in episode 38 titled “The Difference between Urgent and Important. And Why It Matters” back in November of 2020. But in a nutshell…your urgent tasks require immediate action. Your important tasks aid in reaching your long term goals. And your daily to-do list will contain a combination of both urgent and important tasks.  

Which leads us to my four, simple TRIM Your To-Do list questions. I developed these questions based on prioritizing what is urgent and important to my clients. Not what this guru said you have to do in some workshop or what that IG post said you need to do in order to (fill in the blank). These questions help you decide what to do based on the goals you’ve set for your business and personal life. Along with the values you hold for yourself and your family. 

  1. Is the task time sensitive? As in does it have a due date. And, importantly, is that due date approaching. If the answer is yes, the task is a priority and you should complete it asap. If the due date is in the future, schedule time to complete the task closer to the due date. These time sensitive tasks fall under the urgent category when it comes to prioritizing your to-do list. 
  1. Is the task required to move on to the next step? This would be a task like sending a questionnaire to a new potential client so you can schedule a sales call. Uploading new pictures to your website for your online shop so you can add those new seasonal products. Creating an opt-in so you can start collecting email addresses. If completing this task means you move on to a new, necessary phase of tasks directly related to your goals and your success, then those tasks are priorities and must be done. 
  1. Does the task make an impact positively or negatively? This category of tasks includes but is not limited to: scheduling a doctor’s appointment, going to your child’s choir concert, working out, self-care, showing up on social media if that is where you market your business, family dinner, scheduling client calls, taking an online course, and so on. Many of the tasks that make an impact will fall into the important category. They contribute to your long term goals and align with your values. And they are often overlooked or afterthoughts. Or we just try to squeeze them in rather than treating them as a priority. That is also why we often feel extra stress or overwhelm because we aren’t making time for these important tasks that make an impact. 
  1. Will the task make me money or cost me money? Remember…you are in business. Businesses make money. Otherwise it is a hobby. I cannot tell you the number of times I’ve talked with mompreneurs who will spin their wheels for hours planning marketing content or writing blog posts and ignore the tasks on their to-do list that can actually result in sales. Making money is a priority as a business. And your task list should reflect that. Likewise, if you avoid tasks like invoicing clients or paying bills, that avoidance is costing you money.  

Your action step to decide what to do when you work is to prioritize your to-do list. Ask yourself these questions about the tasks on your list…Is this time-sensitive? Is it required for me to move to the next step? Will it make an impact positively or negatively? Will it make me money or cost me money? If the answer is “yes” to one or more of those questions, it is a priority and needs your precious time and focus first. Time Sensitive. Required. Impact-Driven. Or Money Related. That’s the TRIM in TRIM your To-Do List. 


Need additional support in creating your best mompreneur life? Want to create a solid and simple plan to get your work done and have fun? Let’s jump on a free, no-obligation 15-minute call to see how I can help you feel more fun & fulfilled in your work and home life.

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Boundaries & Mom Guilt - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Create Boundaries Without Mom Guilt

Mom guilt wreaks havoc on the mindset of mompreneurs…

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Ever put boundaries in place to protect your time and energy only to find that stupid mom guilt rears its ugly head and wrecks your plans? Yeah, me too. That’s why today we are discussing how you can create strong boundaries and ditch the mom guilt.

Do you ever say “yes” then resent saying “yes” because it means you’re making a sacrifice? Feel like you’re always doing but never for yourself? Would you like to feel like you control your schedule? Enjoy the activities you participate in? Or want to spend time with family instead of feeling like it’s out of obligation? Then you need to create some boundaries. And we’re going to talk about how you can do it without feeling mom guilt. Or wife guilt. Or any number of other guilts you feel when you put yourself first.

Establishing clear boundaries allows you to identify and communicate where you draw the line, how much you can handle, and when you know you have reached your capacity. Going over the line or over capacity leads to resentment, frustration, burnout, feeling disrespected, and a multitude of other generally bad feelings towards our work, our clients, our families, and even ourselves.

When we clarify our limits, communicate our boundaries, and practice protecting them, we also protect ourselves from all that comes with living an over-capacity life.

For too long, our society has honored overworking and overcommitment. We glorify moms who don’t sleep because they sacrifice day in and day out their kids. We honor business owners who ignore their families and personal needs to get that 6 or 7 figure success.

I can understand why you would feel exhausted, anxious, depressed, frustrated, confused, or just plain burnt out. It’s grueling grind. Not to mention, the moment you find time and space for you, there’s a little voice in the back of your head saying “doesn’t your child need you right now?” or “a good mom doesn’t need a break from being a mom.”

There is a way out of this vicious cycle…establishing and communicating clear boundaries to your spouse, kids, clients, team, and whoever else you make commitments to helps you take control of your time and energy. In time you can better focus your time and energy on what you truly value.

You will squash the feelings of resentment or anxiety you feel about letting people down. If they know you’re at capacity and they try to breach it…that’s a them problem not a you problem. You will also gain back time and energy for doing what you love and nurturing you. Rather than constantly tapping yourself out for the sake of others.

And speaking of others, creating and recognizing your boundaries will help you learn to better respect other people’s boundaries. You’ll improve your relationships because you can ask about their limits and respect their capacity.

What Boundaries Are and Are Not

Before I share my simple steps for creating boundaries without feeling guilty, I want to address some of the resistance I hear from my community to setting boundaries.

  1. Setting boundaries is NOT ignoring people or causes you care about. But setting boundaries is about focusing your time and aligning your energy with what you truly value rather than spreading yourself too thin.
  2. Setting boundaries is NOT cutting yourself off from family, friends, or activities. However, setting boundaries is scaling back so you don’t go too far or run overcapacity.
  3. Setting boundaries is NOT selfishly limiting your options. Setting boundaries is making time and energy choices that align with the values of a healthier, happier mom entrepreneur.

I’m not saying setting boundaries is going to be easy, especially at first. Mom guilt is a beast. Setting boundaries is a skill that takes a bit of practice. But the more you practice, the easier it will become. The more you will see the benefits of protecting your time and energy. And you’ll tame that mom guilt beast with a present, happier mom during her non-work hours.

Creating Boundaries without Mom Guilt

Here is my simple, 3 step approach to start successfully creating and communicating boundaries…

  1. Identify where you need boundary…What gives your anxiety? When does your heart start to flutter? Where do you say “yes” when you really want to say “no”?
  2. Communicate your boundary with the person or people it may affect…This is a super important and often overlooked step. And that can lead to resentment. You know, when you set a boundary but don’t tell anyone. Then they violate it and you get angry. Not that I’m speaking from experience or anything. For help with steps one and two, check out episode 81 “How to Communicate Boundaries in Work and Home Life” where I give you an easy exercise to create a personal boundaries statement.
  3. Create positive boundary reminders…Because let’s face it, just because you create a boundary doesn’t mean those guilty feelings are going away. Mom guilt will still nag you. People may try to get to you agree “just this one time” or say “we really need you”. You may feel the urge to backtrack on your boundary after saying “no”. This is where you remind yourself why you put these boundaries in place. Repeat to yourself statement like “It’s OK to set boundaries”. Or “Feeling guilt doesn’t mean I made the wrong decision”. Or “I am not responsible for people’s reactions to my boundaries”. (That’s the one I have to remind myself of regularly.)

Today’s action step to help you create healthy boundaries without mom guilt is to identify where you need a boundary. Then communicate that boundary to the person or people affected. And finally, pre-write some positive boundary reminders for when you feel like you want to break your own rules.  Remember, putting other’s wants and needs first all the time runs you down. Then you, in turn, will turn to others to meet your needs and you could potentially violate their boundaries, either intentionally or unintentionally. Creating healthy boundaries disrupts this cycle.

And if you need help identifying where you need boundaries or communicating your boundaries with your clients or family, I’m here to help. On a free, 15-minute clarity call we can discuss where you feel stuck or spent and how I can help you go from Busy to Blissful as a mompreneur. You can sign up for your free call at bit.ly/bsmbookacall today. I believe you can create strong boundaries and crush your mom guilt.


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4 Simple High Performance Habits for Mompreneurs

Are you a high performance mompreneur?

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There are so many things you need to run your business. From computers to software, to classes and marketing. But how much time are you investing in the most important asset of your business? Yourself! This week we are discussing high performance habits for mompreneurs and why it is so important for you to take care of the you part of running a business. And easy ways you can work this care into every day. And to be clear…we aren’t talking specifically about “self-care” in the traditional, although it is technically self-care. It’s more of creating habits to maintain a healthy mind and body so you can continue serving your customers, creating amazing content, and stay healthy to care for your family.

Benjamin Franklin said, “When the well is dry, we know the worth of water”. Too often as both moms and entrepreneurs, we allow ourselves to run down before we take the time to care and nurture our bodies and mind. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There are simple, everyday steps you can take to take care of yourself to stay healthy, stave off burnout, and limit common entrepreneur mental health issues like stress, anxiety, and depression.

If you can commit to making incremental changes to your daily habits involving your mind, body, sleep, and downtime, you too can stay happy and healthy as a mompreneur.. Often, we separate our physical or social life from our business life. But they actually all work together. And the more harmonious we can make them, the better our overall health and mindset will be. That’s what makes high performance mompreneurs.

How Mompreneurs Benefit from High Performance Habits

If you’re stuck in a loop of grinding it out or hustle, hustle, hustle when it comes to your business but feel like your relationships, physical or mental health, or sleep patterns are suffering due to this hustle…it’s time to care for and protect your most important mompreneur asset…you!

When you adopt these habits you’ll be able to better cope with truly stressful situations. And not let the small stuff throw you off your game. You’ll be able to stay physically healthier to show up for your family and your business.

You’ll sleep better which will help you show up more focused, creative, and alert for both your business and home life. And you’ll make time for the people who matter on a regular basis.

If the hustle is keeping you from spending time with your family, spouse, or friends, then what good is that hustle. Let’s nurture our relationships that matter while nurturing ourselves AND growing our business.

Simple Habits for High Performance Mompreneurs

Here are four areas where you can uplevel your “you care” to become the high performance mompreneurs you need to be. Those areas are your mind, your body, your sleep, and your relationships.

  1. Mind – And real talk, if your first reaction to hearing the word “mindset” is “that’s such a buzzword” or “what a fad”, you are probably the person who need mindset the most. Just saying. There are so many simple ways to incorporate developing a growth mindset into your daily routine. Start a gratitude practice. Start an affirmation journal. Meditate. Flip the script on failure to see it as a learning experience. Loosen your grip on “it’s my way or the highway” and find places you can adapt, modify, or edit. When you are able to see the abundance in your life, believe in who you are, stay present, learn from what doesn’t work, and be open to alternatives you will be a happy and healthier entrepreneur…no question.
  2. Body – For far too long I thought of my physical health and my entrepreneurial life as two separate things. And when I realized that I needed to keep my body healthy in order to run my businesses as an optimal level, it’s like a lightbulb went off. Just like you need your computer to be healthy and up to date if your work is done on your laptop. Or a truck driver needs to maintain their rig. Your body is the key to your business success. It generated the idea for the business and continues to generate content, growth points, new ventures, or is just doing the work day in and day out. You need to keep it in optimal working condition. Eat healthy. Exercise regularly. Take vitamins. Drink plenty of water. Reduce alcohol consumption. All of these habits work together to help keep your body in peak working order so you can tackle the daily duties of running your business. And all these healthy habits work even better when you focus on our third habit…
  3. Sleep – And I know, depending on what stage of motherhood you’re in, you might be like “um, what’s sleep?” But part of the reason you might feel unfocused, unproductive, unable to remember thoughts, or uncreative could be linked to lack of sleep. Sleep is when your brain and body reset and repair. Getting the proper amount of sleep leads to better concentration and productivity. It can also help you stave off an array of mental and physical health issues like weight gain, diabetes, and depression. Not to mention, it boosts your immune system to help keep you healthy. Getting a good night’s sleep may mean keeping your phone outside your bedroom. Or choosing not to watch one more episode of the show you’re binging. Or creating a bedtime routine that helps you fall asleep faster. A little effort but so worth the reward.
  4. Relationships…The final important habit to keep your mompreneur body and mind healthy is to make time for your important relationships. Date nights with your spouse. Play dates with your kids. Coffee dates with your friends. Is there an activity with friends or family you’ve been putting off in order to “get work done”? Or do you think you’ll make time once you’ve reached a certain point of success? The truth is…burning yourself out and neglecting relationships that fill your cup will slow down your success. Take time to step away from your work to spend time with the people you love doing what you love. You will return with better focus, more creativity, and more energy to complete the tasks you need or want to do.

Your action step to start creating high performance habits as a mompreneur is to start pivoting your daily routine with the suggestions given today. Don’t try to do it all at once. Especially if it is all very different from what you are currently doing. Small, incremental changes on a regular basis are more sustainable.  And you are more likely to stick with them until they become part of your routine. As opposed to going whole hog and giving up after a week because it’s just too much change at once.

Find simple, subtle ways to incorporate mindset shifts like starting a gratitude practice or writing a daily list of what you accomplished. Nurture your body by finding time to exercise 2-3 times per week or limiting alcohol consumption to the weekends. Find nights during the week where you can get a few extra hours of sleep to allow your body and mind to reset and recover from all your ask it to do. And schedule some downtime with your spouse, your family, or your friends to step away from work and focus on fun. You know I love when you focus on fun!

If you find you’re struggling with incorporating these habits for high performance mompreneurs, let’s talk about how I can help. When you schedule a free clarity call with me, we’ll review your current goals, discuss your schedule, and clarify your priorities to make sure all the parts of your life your value are getting the time they need and deserve. You can schedule your free call by visiting bit.ly/bsmbookacall. You can have the successful business and fulfilling family life you want. Let’s work together to make it happen.


Need additional support in creating your best mompreneur life? Want to create a solid and simple plan to get your work done and have fun? Let’s jump on a free, no-obligation 15-minute call to see how I can help you feel more fun & fulfilled in your work and home life.

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How to Instantly Find More Fun as a Mompreneur

Is it possible to easily “find more fun”?

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The answer is a resounding “yes”! Think of it like this…When you start a gratitude practice, you quickly start to recognize all the things you are grateful for throughout your day. I believe the same can be true to find more fun. And it’s easier than you might think. It is so easy to get caught up in the hustly bustly life of running a family and a business and forget to stop and smell the fun roses.

Chances are you do experience some sort of fun or activity you previously thought was fun on a daily basis. You’ve just decided it was normal. It’s become a baseline and therefore you no longer recognize it as “fun”. Or you’re so busy that you’ve scaled the activities you enjoy back to their most basic form which you don’t deem “fun”. Can you make the mindset shift that an activity is enjoyable? Or you can make a task amusing? Or can you prioritize finding fun in your day? If you can, you will start to recognize it’s easier to find fun than you think.

Want to enjoy your mompreneur life more? Make the mindset shift that you do have fun or you’ll find more fun every day. Rather than all work and no play, you’ll experience pockets of fun and pleasure every day. And as I love to point out in the Fulfillment-Productivity cycle…when you feel more fulfilled, you’re more productive. And when you’re more productive, you free yourself up to find more fulfillment.

You can find more fun so simply and easily with subtle mindset shifts. For instance, if you order pizza every Friday night, it might not feel fun anymore. But how could you reframe or make it fun? Make your own pizza? Try a new topping combo? Or a new pizza place? Even just hyping it up by talking about at breakfast…”Hey, it’s pizza night? Are you guys excited? I am”

It is so easy to think our lives are mundane or lack fun. Because we’ve let fun become normal. But in the textbook definition of fun, it means something you find enjoyable, amusing, or entertaining. I bet there are parts of your day your find enjoyable, amusing, or entertaining. Watching your kids play? Drinking your morning coffee? Watching TV with your spouse after the kids are in bed? It’s time we recognize those normal or regular tasks we do that we find enjoyable, amusing, or entertaining as FUN!

Why You Need to Find More Fun

And you might be thinking “I just need to shift my thinking to find more fun in my day?” Yes. Yes. And yes. It is all about perspective. Instead of rushing from one thing to the next without taking time to enjoy it, your life might feel lackluster or boring. But when you recognize what you enjoy, appreciate what amuses you, or stay present for what entertains you rather than rushing to the next thing, you’ll feel the benefits of finding more fun.

Benefits that include lower our stress levels. You know, the stress that negatively impacts both your work and family life by causing frustration, a short fuse, sleeplessness, and a myriad of mental and physical health issues. Fun combats stress…“pew-pew-pew”

Daily fun might be moving your body in a way you find fun to balance out your hormones. Or laughing every day to increase the gamma function in your brain. Because through this gamma function, laughter literally heals the brain for better memory function while reducing feelings of depression, anxiety, and sleeplessness. Laughter is truly the best medicine!!

And there’s no denying that having fun creates better relationships with our spouse, our kids, our friends, and ourselves. Think about the last time you truly stepped away from all your mom duties and submersed yourself in fun with your spouse, family, or friends. Did you fall asleep with a smile on your face? Did you wake up the next morning feeling rejuvenated and with more energy to tackle your day? I want to help you find more fun in every day so every day can have this level of enjoyment and enthusiasm.

How to Easily Find More Fun

Where do we start finding fun? Here are 3 questions to ask that help you immediately find more fun every day:

  1. Can you recognize what you enjoy about your day? I started by comparing fun to gratitude in the sense that once you start to recognize it, you see it everywhere. What do you enjoy about your day? Or what is amusing about your day? What is entertaining about your day? Make a note of these things as they occur. Stop and relish the moment. Recognize that it is fun.
  2. Can your reframe to find fun? I get that not everything we do every day is considered fun. But for those tasks and activities we have to do but don’t find enjoyment in, can we reframe to find fun? If we hate creating social media content, can we find enjoyment or entertainment in the responses or connections we make with our community? If we dislike doing the dishes, can we find enjoyment in our clear sink and clean kitchen? Reframe what we don’t like to find the enjoyable or amusing parts of it.
  3. Can you make it fun? Mary Poppins said “in every job that must be done, there is an element of fun”. How can you make those tasks and activities you dread or don’t particularly like to do fun? For instance, I HATE folding laundry. I’m am totally guilty of letting clean clothes sit in the dryer or baskets for days even weeks. That is until I instituted my Friday Laundry Folding nights. Because my husband works early Saturday mornings, my family is all in bed by 930pm Friday nights. This is the time when I get to watch my shows like Bridgerton or the Friend’s Reunion or any number of YouTube baking tutorials uninterrupted and for as long as I like. And I enjoy these shows as I fold the laundry (and usually while sipping an adult beverage). I have figured out a way to make something I do not enjoy fun.

Your action step to immediately find more fun in your life is to recognize the parts of your day that you do enjoy. Your morning coffee? Family dinner? TV time with your spouse? Relish in what you do that you actually enjoy. Then, find ways to reframe tasks you don’t love in a way that makes them enjoyable. Is there an outcome or result that you enjoy? Focus on that rather than the part you don’t enjoy. And finally, find a way to make the un-fun fun. Listen to your favorite podcast while doing dishes. Make recipes that bring you joy when you dread cooking. Create a bedtime routine with your kids that includes enjoyable, calming activities so you end the day on a positive note.


Need additional support in creating your best mompreneur life? Want to create a solid and simple plan to get your work done and have fun? Let’s jump on a free, no-obligation 15-minute call to see how I can help you feel more fun & fulfilled in your work and home life.

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How to Create Margin in Your Mompreneur Life

What do you think of when I say “create margin”?

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Terms papers? Profits? The fact is, margins are key to maintaining a balanced schedule as a mompreneur. That’s why we are talking about this important and often overlooked boundary…how to create margin in your schedule. Last week we talked about the importance of rest to stay healthy and productive while juggling your business and home life. This week we are diving into a specific sort of rest break. A full stop, transition space between tasks and activities to help us catch our break. And to help prevent feeling overwhelmed, overstimulated, and overscheduled.

This quote nails it…

“Margin is the boundaries, the rest that is built into your every day life.  It is the space between our load and our limits. Margin is the gap between rest and exhaustion, the space between breathing freely and suffocating. It is the opposite of overload.”

While I couldn’t find exactly who said this, I think it perfectly sums up margin and why you need margin.

When you can commit to creating space, a buffer zone, or emergency fund for time in your schedule, you will feel less stressed and anxious. You can take time to enjoy the current task or activity you are focusing on because you aren’t worried about what you didn’t finish before and what you’re rushing off to next.

Continuing to jam one activity after another after another into your schedule isn’t sustainable. Well, not if you want to feel present in your life. Or like you can actually breathe.

And I get the desire to do it all…you want to serve all the people. Do all the things. You want your kids to experience all the activities and have all the things. You want your house to look like Real Simple magazine or cook recipes from Martha Stewart every night. But there will come a point when you feel exhausted, overwhelmed or out of control. You can either break and burnout or start to prioritize.

Having margin means you’re less full and less rushed. You have time and space to breathe. To transition from one activity to the next.

It means the tasks and activities on your schedule are intentional and bring you or your family joy. It means you have time to finish and close out your work mom life and transition into home mom life without feeling anxiety because tasks and activities overlap, intermingle, or slam into each other day after day.

Your clients and team can benefit from a more prioritized and streamlined schedule because you can focus and show up energized. And your family will also benefit from this “less is more” approach to activities. Kids’ brains, especially in adolescence, are already overloaded and overstimulated without piling extra activities or running around on top of what is already expected. Think of this as an opportunity to be a shining example of the ebb and flow it takes to stay healthy mentally and physically as an adult.

4 Strategies to Help Create Margin

Ready to create margin in your schedule? Here are 4 strategies to help you streamline your schedule and create more buffer zones between activities.

  1. Schedule Transition Time…This is the biggest offender I see in my clients and community when it comes to an overloaded schedule. There just isn’t time between. We eat dinner in the care while we rush from soccer to Girl Scouts. We schedule Zoom meetings back to back without a chance to get a sip of water or go to the bathroom. And when we neglect transition time, we run late. We have to cancel. Or we just run ourselves down. Your brain needs a chance to close out one activity before it rushes to the next. As you look at your schedule, see where you need to create a buffer zone between activities. Even 10-15  minutes gives you’re a chance to complete, rest, and pivot. Then you can show up more attentive and less flustered for your next task or activity.
  2. Stop Overbooking…I said transition time was the biggest offender when it comes to schedule stress, but usually that is because we are overbooking ourselves. Rushing from one thing to the next with no downtime is not sustainable. No wonder moms are exhausted. And it’s not just us. The American Academy of Pediatrics estimates that sleep problems affect 25 to 50 percent of children and 40 percent of adolescents. And when kids are overstimulated by activities or staying up late doing homework due to an overbooked scheduled, it can impact their mental and physical health. Before you add another task or activity to your schedule, ask yourself “is this necessary?” “Is this truly important?” “Will this make me or my family happy?” “Do I honestly have the space for this in my schedule?” If you answer “no” to all of these questions, you need to use tip 3 which is…
  3. Say “NO”…This can take some practice. It may even take a lot of practice. Especially if you are used to being a “yes” mom or a “yes” woman. But protecting your schedule and your margin. Finding time to transition or rest is more important. Stop feeling like saying “no” means you are letting people down and think of saying “no” as a way to say “yes” to you. And your family. And your priorities for home and work life. For a deeper dive on “How to Say No and Why You Need To”, click here to check out my episode from January.
  4. Delegate…And finally, if you feel like your have narrowed down your schedule to the absolute priorities. To the activities that bring you or your family joy. To the tasks that are absolute priorities for your household or business. And yet you still can’t create margin, it may be time to delegate. Where can you employ help so you can complete the tasks without burning out? Who can help you transition or rest between activities? Is there someone you can hire to help with marketing while you take calls? Can a spouse, neighbor or another parent that can drop off for soccer practice so you can complete work or home tasks and have chance to breathe and pivot? Asking for help is not weakness, it’s protection. Say it with me…”asking for help is not weakness, it’s protection.” Who can and will you ask for help so you can protect your time and energy to focus on your priorities at home and at work?

Your action step to create margin in your schedule to protect your time and energy is to look at your schedule for this week, next week, or the coming weeks. Where can you plan transition time? Or adjust to give yourself a buffer zone between appointments and activities? What could you delete or reschedule to keep tasks and activities from slamming into each other? Can you say “no” to any commitments or upcoming activities to help free up some space in your schedule? Or are there tasks you can delegate to a spouse, family member, or team member that can help you stay focused and present rather than scattered and overwhelmed?


Need additional support in creating your best mompreneur life? Want to create a solid and simple plan to get your work done and have fun? Let’s jump on a free, no-obligation 15-minute call to see how I can help you feel more fun & fulfilled in your work and home life.

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How Rest Is the Secret to Better Productivity & Success

Can rest make for better productivity?

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Can you slow down to speed up your success? Is that even possible? Today we discuss how rest and relaxation can actually improve your productivity and success rate. More than a constant hustle, hustle, hustle vibe. It may feel counterintuitive to think rest, relaxation, or taking a break from your work can actually help you achieve more.

But a fulfilled, healthy, and well-rested mompreneur has more energy to work. She has better focus and creativity to generate new ideas or problem solve. And she has a greater appreciation for the work she does on a daily basis. Plus, she knows she can step away to nurture her relationships outside her business without worrying about falling behind. And she actually looks forward to serving through her business rather than dreading her work. I don’t know about you, but that sounds like the kind of mom entrepreneur I want to be.

The Key to Better Productivity & Success

When you create time for intentional rest as an entrepreneur, you are able give your brain a much needed break. These “brain breaks” improve your productivity because your brain is less fatigued. Rest breaks help boost your creativity because you refill your energy reserves, rather than tapping an empty tank. And rest helps to reduce stress…you know that “fight or flight” response your feel when you’re on a deadline, struggling to figure out what to do next, or worrying about if and when you’ll succeed? Rest activates your parasympathetic nervous system. This reduces the amount of stress hormones in your system that can directly impact your physical, mental and emotional health, and even your longevity. In a nutshell, rest helps keep you healthy, strong, and successful during your crazy entrepreneur life.

When you can find time in your day for short rest breaks and during your week for longer non-work related activities, you will reap the benefits of slowing down to speed up.

And you may be asking yourself “how is this even possible?” Doesn’t working more create better results? Don’t I just need to hustle until I find what works? Won’t someone take my place if I step away?

Your fears are quite common. It does feel really backwards to think not working is the key to working better and smarter. To completing more tasks. Or achieving greater success.

The Benefits of Rest

Here’s the thing…The well-rested mompreneur has a healthier mind and body. She experiences less stress and anxiety. And she copes better when stress and anxiety rear their ugly little heads. She is more creative because her well-rested brain is better at solving problems and producing solutions. And her productivity improves because her brain, like the other muscles in her body, works more efficiently and quickly when it has had time to recover. She can confidently step away from work at the end of the day and nurture the relationships with her family and friends without thinking “ugh, I just need to do one more thing and maybe that will be the key.”

Easy Rest Ideas for Better Productivity

Rest is so vital to your success as an entrepreneur. And if you’re thinking “I just don’t even know where to begin”, here are 4 easy ways you can incorporate daily rest into your routine:

  1. Take short breaks…First, whether you schedule them in or just step away when you feel the need, even a 5 or 10 minute break is beneficial. Take some deep breaths. Do a short meditation. Put laundry away, unload the dishwasher, or some other non-taxing activity that doesn’t require deep thought. Take a short walk. Find a way to change gears and give your brain a break for a bit. She’s been working hard. She deserves it.
  2. Create healthy habits…Habits are great for the brain because it doesn’t have to make a decision, therefore it’s like a mini-break for your brain. Healthy habits or routines could include making the same healthy smoothie for breakfast every morning. Or an after-lunch walk routine. Maybe a morning meditation habit or gratitude practice. Even a short 20 minute afternoon nap if you need it. These regular habits and routines give your brain the rest it needs to recharge for the important work you’re asking it to do during the day.
  3. Create a sleep routine…Sleep might just be the most important restful activity you can do. But I can totally relate to the mom who can’t settle her brain at night. When you develop a routine that tells your brain “It’s time to wind down and go to bed”, you’ll find it easier to fall and stay asleep. Your routine might include a skincare routine. Reading. Shutting off screens or turning the lights down. Taking a shower or bath. And my personal favorite…drifting off to the sounds of a soothing sleep story.
  4. Make time for fun…And Finally, fun is my preferred rest choice. It gives me a break from the grind. It helps me develop relationships with my family and friends. And fun is FUN! Don’t let all work and no play make mom a dull lady. Find a way to incorporate some sort of simple fun into every day. Dance to great music. Play board game. Take a bike ride. Watch a funny animal video. Make a new recipe. Keep it simple and keep it regular. Everyone’s fun is different but there’s no reason you can’t have fun every day.

In conclusion, your action step to start incorporating rest into your routine is to brainstorm ways you can incorporate the suggestions I gave you into your daily schedule. When can you take short breaks and what will you do? What healthy habits can you include in your daily routine that can offload some decision making but also increase your mindfulness? What would the elements of your sleep routine include or how can you improve your current bedtime ritual? And finally, what are the simple ways you can experience fun today, tomorrow, and every day?


Need additional support in creating your best mompreneur life? Want to create a solid and simple plan to get your work done and have fun? Let’s jump on a free, no-obligation 15-minute call to see how I can help you feel more fun & fulfilled in your work and home life.

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How to Communicate Your Boundaries to Improve Productivity

Looking to improve productivity?

Look no further than your boundaries. When you establish and communicate clearly defined boundaries around your time and space, your focus and productivity skyrocket.

And communicating these boundaries doesn’t have to be an awkward conversation. Or feel like your scolding your family, friends, or clients. It can be as simple as an after-hours email responder saying you’ll reply during your work hours tomorrow. Or a document for new clients stating your exact work hours and exactly what is included in their package or product.

When you look to improve your productivity, look no further than the places you lose focus. Or work outside your zone of genius. Or teaching your nuggets to entertain themselves while you take a call.

Did you catch this week’s podcast? Need a refresher? You can click here to listen…

For this week’s chat, we are discussing:

  1. Review how to create a personal boundary statement.
  2. Setting personal boundaries to limit distractions.
  3. 5 ways sharing your boundaries helps improve productivity.

Want additional resources on streamlining your day? Check out these past podcast episodes…

Still feeling overwhelmed? Confused about how to say no and create margin without disappointing your family, your clients, or yourself? I can help! Let’s jump on a free, no obligation call to discuss how I can help you experience more fun and fulfillment as a mom and entrepreneur. Book your free call at bit.ly/bsmbookacall.


Need additional support in creating your best mompreneur life? Want to create a solid and simple plan to get your work done and have fun? Let’s jump on a free, no-obligation 15-minute call to see how I can help you feel more fun & fulfilled in your work and home life.

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How to Communicate Your Boundaries for Work & Home Life

How are you at communicating boundaries you’ve set?

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What do you think of when I say “boundaries”? Restrictions? Limits? Freedom? Let’s talk about how communicating the boundaries you put in place for your work and home life can protect you from burnout and stress. The communication part of boundaries is so vital and yet so often overlooked.

For some reason, we like to establish clear boundaries about when we work. Or what kinds of projects we do. Or the space we need to complete a job…But then we neglect to tell the people around us about then. And subsequently, we get frustrated our family members or clients don’t respect the boundaries we have put in place. Or sometimes we violate our own boundaries because no one knew that line was there so we can cross it. Right? No. Lack of boundaries creates lack of respect, whether crossing that line is intentional or unintentional. And starting today, you, your family, friends, clients, and team will know exactly where your line is.

Why Establishing & Communicating Boundaries is Important

Establishing and communicating boundaries allows mompreneurs to safeguard themselves against burnout and failing to meet expectations. When you clarify the limits of what you allow in, what you accept from someone else, and how much your capacity is, you can communicate these limits to the people around you. And when you communicate your limits, you can problem-solve for overflow. You can prevent feeling overwhelmed because the people involved are aware of our capacity and limits.

Many of the mompreneurs in my community feel like running overcapacity is just par for the course. Or that if they just reach a certain point, everything will balance out or their workload with decrease. There is also a fear of saying no to business opportunities because their business may not be as successful. Or they fear saying “no” to their family because they don’t want to put their business before their family. Many times, they fear saying no to both which lands them in a cycle of exhaustion, stress, and overwhelm.

On the flip side, you could create healthy boundaries. You can clarify the limits of what you allow in. Establish what you will accept from someone else. And know your capacity to protect yourself from burnout and overwhelm. Then, you can communicate these boundaries with others. They will now know how to respect your needs. But can also hold you accountable when they notice your nearing capacity or allowing people to violate your limits.

Over time, you will discover that by decreasing the amount you allow in will allow the quality of what you focus on will increase. Higher quality work in your business. Focused, present, intentional quality time with your family.

You can actually look forward to your work because you know that when you reach your limit, you can shift out of work mode and into mom mode with ease and confidence. Your daily or weekly workload can shift from work you don’t love or working with clients you don’t love to only doing what you love.

And when you focus on doing work you love or working with clients you love, you can show up to serve better. And a mom who feels fulfilled and productive in her work can step away at the end of the day. She can focus on her family in the evenings, on the weekends, or on her days off.

Steps for Creating & Communicating Boundaries

I know setting and communicating boundaries can feel overwhelming itself…Especially if you’ve just dealt with doing it all or saying yes to everything for so long. That’s why I have a little fill-in-the-blank exercise for you. You can create a boundary statement to communicate to your clients, team, family, or friends.

  • The first step is to recognize where you need this boundary. Where do you allow people to crash through the fences you’ve tried to use to establish a boundaries? Are there places you’re allowing people to overload you? Or places you allowing yourself to go over capacity? Then fill in the blank for this statement… “I need to create a boundary around ___________”
  • Next, let’s talk about why. You know I love knowing the why behind any change or effort you make. Why is it that you feel you need this boundary? Because you don’t have set work hours? Or because it is hard to work when kids are constantly interrupting you? Maybe because when you spread yourself too thin with clients, all your clients suffer? Dig into WHY you want this boundary in place and fill in this blank… “I need this boundary because _____”.
  • And finally, let’s dive into how you know when you’re approaching your limits. Do you snap at your kids more? Have trouble sleeping? Feel anxiety, sleeplessness, or the need to overeat? When you take a step back, you can usually see a pattern when you reach capacity. What is that trigger you would like to avoid? How can that affect your mental and physical health as well as your relationships and business? Now fill in this blank… “I know I am approaching my limit when _____”.

We have clarified where we need a boundary, why we need it and how it protects us. Now we are going to create a boundary statement. We can use this for our benefit by placing it as a visible reminder to review on a regular basis. And we can use it as the basis for our boundary conversation with our family, clients, or team.

You can create your statement by grabbing the answers we just created and placing them in this statement…

I need to (insert boundary you need to create) because (insert reason why you need the boundary) and I no longer want to feel (insert how you know you are approaching your limit).

Examples are “I need to create specific work hours because I am not making progress just trying to fit my business building work in here and there and I no longer want to feel stressed and defeated.”

Or “I need to no longer schedule calls after 5pm because I want to focus on spending time with my family in the evenings and I no longer want them or me to feel like they are second to my business.”

Once you have your statement ready, make time to communicate it with your family or clients. Remember that this change could invoke some strong emotions. But, in the end, you are protecting your passion, relationships, and mental and physical health are what is most important.

Your action step to establish and communicate your boundaries today is to create your boundary statement. Then schedule a time to meet with the people affected by your change.


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