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How to Avoid Work at Home Burnout

Anyone else feel on the edge of work at home burnout the last couple weeks???

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Last week, I had a trifecta of crazy. I was readjusting after going out of town for the weekend. My son needed help prepping for his 3rd grade test after not having a real teacher since March. And then this little election we had here in the United States. 😬

Let’s just say I was on the stress struggle bus. But luckily, and thanks to the help of fantastic coaches helping me create systems to deal with life when it feels overwhelming, I made it through. And I want to help you identify and conquer your overwhelm too.

That is why today I’m sharing strategies to identify when you are heading towards maximum capacity so you can identify your stress and stop burnout before it starts.

If you can learn the signals your mind and body start to send when you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or burned out, you can create solutions in advance to help. Bonus points if you share those solutions with your spouse, friend, coach or other support so they can also identify when you’re heading for trouble and lend their help.

If you’re anything like me, my previous max capacity cycle runs something like a car with a wobbly wheel….At first, the car just shakes a bit, I might not even notice it all the time. But instead of stopping to fix it (which would be pretty easy at this point), I just keep pushing. And as the shaking gets worse, I continue to say “if I can just get to this destination” or “if I can just drive this far I’ll fix it then”. So I push forward, maybe even driving faster, trying to out drive the eventual damage. And then BAM! Blown tire. Or the wheel falls off. Or some other bad tire-related problem with your car. I didn’t listen when the triggers started and look where that got me.

When you start to identify your triggers or know what your mind and body need to recover, you create a plan of action for those times when you know you’re going to be stretched to your limits.

Work at Home Burnout and Your Brain

You might be thinking “burnout is just part of the process” or “how can working less actually help me”. Sounds crazy, right? But hear me out…That stress you think is normal is damaging your brain.

As you near your burnout, your body produces excess amounts of the hormone cortisol. This affects the part of the brain that creates new brain cells and keeps them healthy. And that excess cortisol can affect decision making, working memory and control of impulsive behavior. Hello, stress eating, anyone??? And while stress is making it harder to think, make decisions, or control your urge to raid the peanut butter cups in your kid’s Halloween basket, it is also reducing the levels of the brain chemicals dopamine and serotonin which maker you feel happier. No wonder stress is so stressful!!!

But there is hope…By recognizing the signs of burnout before it’s too late, you can create a plan that will stop that flow of cortisol, save your dopamine levels, and help you continue to problem solve with the best of them.

Incorporating stress relievers on a regular basis can not only stave off the major meltdowns, but it can help you in your day to day functions. You’ll feel better and less on edge when you incorporate some form of self-care into your daily routine like exercising, meditating, or reading for yourself. You’ll notice more of an even keel rather than major swings in mood, productivity, and stress levels.

And let’s face it…everyone is better when mom is better. Your family benefits because you can be present with them without stressing over little things. Your clients appreciate your clear, focused efforts.

Signs of Work at Home Burnout

Let’s start by identifying some of the basic signs or triggers of burnout. And you may hear this list and think, “well, that just sounds like mom life to me.” And that is because mom life IS incredibly stressful. We are regularly on the verge of burnout with all the balls we are trying to juggle. That is why it is so important to recognize the signs and start to develop solutions before the burnout starts. So, signs of burnout include feeling:

  1. Forgetful
  2. Short Tempered
  3. Tired
  4. Unmotivated

Like I said. Pretty much every mom on the planet just said. Um, so I’m heading for burnout then. But we have spent so long ignoring the signs or saying “that’s just motherhood” that we have normalized the damaging stress. But the good news is, now that we know how it might look or feel, we can brainstorm ways to stop work at home burnout before it starts…

How to Stop Work at Home Burnout Before It Starts

  1. Prioritize – Moms notoriously like to do it all. In fact, it can feel like a competition at times. But if you truly want to prevent those damaging burnout episodes, you need to practice prioritizing. Start to evaluate the activities and tasks you have and whether they fit your values or fall into the truly “urgent” or “important” category. If you aren’t sure which tasks are truly priorities, check out my episode “How to Choose Your Priority Tasks”.
  2. Create Boundaries – Again, moms are notorious “yes” women. We love to help and make people happy. We feel the need to ask how high when I clients say “jump now”. Setting effective boundaries around when we work, what our schedule capacity is, and learning to say “no” when there just isn’t time helps us create boundaries to protect our stress levels. Need more tips on setting boundaries? Check out my episode “Why You Need to Set Work Boundaries”.
  3. Recognize Your Triggers – What do you do when you are approaching burnout? Or does it seem to come at certain times during the year? The holidays for example…so many activities, wanting to do all the things but it is also the end of the year for your business and you need to plan for the following year or for Q1. And you need to wrap up Q4 of 2020. I am literally feeling stressed just thinking about it. When you can learn to recognize that overwhelming feeling, you can start to problem solve in advance how to prevent it. Do you need to cut back on unnecessary holiday activities? Or need to hire help for end of the year wrap up in your business? Do you need to take a full day off from all things digital once a week to focus on your family and refill your cup? Recognize your triggers and problem solve how you’ll fight them in advance.
  4. Schedule Non-Negotiable Time for What Makes You Happy – This is super important for all those moms who put the needs of literally everyone else first. It goes hand in hand with the boundaries thing. You deserve time to take care of you, do something that makes you happy. It doesn’t have to be alone time. I can totally be family time. Or a date night. Make time for the activities that make you happy. Get it on the schedule. Make it non-negotiable. Do not let outside commitments keep you from your happy place.
  5. Incorporate Self-Care Tiny Tasks into Every Day – Over the years, I feel like self-care has become the realm of spa days or massages. And those are totally and completely self-care activities. And if you can incorporate them into your regular routine, by all means, mama, do so! But there are also small acts of self-care you can do in your home that cost virtually nothing and take no time at all. For ideas, click here to check out my “10 Free, 10-Minute Self Care Ideas for Moms”. Find a tiny pocket of time just for you as often as you can to help keep your cup topped off. And stave off that burnout dragon.

You cannot fill from an empty cup, mama. If you want to avoid max capacity, pre-plan how you will deal when you feel stress coming. Brainstorm a list of what triggers your stressful feelings then pre-plan a solution for how you will recognize and release them. For instance, if you say “I feel stressed when I have a work deadline the weekend after my kid’s basketball tournament”. The solution may be to finish or complete a large percentage of the project before the weekend. Or to delegate some of the tasks so all you have to do is assemble and edit come Monday.

Maybe you’re saying “I feel stressful during the holidays because we are running around so much and never get a chance to sit and enjoy.” The solution maybe you will limit functions to one per week. Or maybe push some celebrations into January when everyone’s social calendars have cleared a bit.

There is a solution. I promise.

And if you are struggling to see it, I’m here to help. Feel free to drop a comment below or reach out in the DMs on social media @businesssavvymama. This is a huge issue for us mom entrepreneurs. I know it personally. I’ve lived it many a time. And I am passionate about helping other mom entrepreneurs see the way through.


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3 Reasons Why You Should Celebrate Everything

What do you celebrate? Everything? Anything? Nothing?

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Why not celebrate everything? You are perfectly able and encouraged to celebrate yourself. Even the smallest victories won or goals achieved, you should celebrate!!!

Creating a celebration for your big and small achievements will keep you motivated. It will boost your self-confidence. You no longer need to wait for your boss, your co-workers, your family, or your clients to give you the positive feedback you crave. You can do this for yourself.

Can you commit to regular affirmations and recognition of what you accomplish? Then you will feel results. Your words are powerful. And all too often we are quick to focus on what we don’t have or didn’t accomplish versus what we have done and did achieve.

Benefits When You Celebrate Everything

Here’s the thing…we are all very busy. You can’t just wait around to be noticed or praised to move on to the next project. You can’t base your self-esteem on what other people view as your victories or accomplishments. Stop relying on other’s to build your confidence because, here’s a little secret, you get the exact same positive, mood boosting dopamine rush when you praise yourself as you do when you hear it from other. #scienceiscool

So you might be sitting there thinking “yeah, I’m not sure. It feels a little weird or conceited.” Or you might feel silly celebrating things like drinking enough water or not eating the last chocolate chip cookie when you’re trying to avoid sugar.

But the confidence and happiness you gain when you regularly celebrate all the things will aid you in trying new things, increase your willingness to fail which is crucial as a business owner, and despite our talk of failure, it will increase your confidence.

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Not to mention, you are contributing on a regular basis to that abundance mindset we talked about earlier in the week. Your gratitude practice help you appreciate what you have and experience. Your celebration practice help you appreciate what you’ve accomplished. Furthermore, all of those practices open you up to earn more, do more, and receive more. And that my mama friends is the definition of abundance.

Not to mention, when you start celebrating you’ve completed your to-do list, or email 10 new potential clients, or completely cleaned the house top to bottom, it let’s others off the hook for not meeting your expectations of gratitude and celebration for your work. You don’t need them, you’ve got you. If they notice or say something, that’s just a little extra.

Why You Should Celebrate Everything

Here are my 3 reasons why you should celebrate even the smallest things on a regular basis…

  1. It stops putting the approval of your success in someone else’s hands. Like we said earlier, your brain doesn’t know if you’re saying good job or your husband or your boss or your client. If you are proud, if you know you did good, relish it. Celebrate it. Pick yourself up something real nice.
  2. It feels good. Celebrating boosts your morale, self-confidence, and productivity. Mostly because, as we talked about earlier, it gives you a rush of that feel good neurotransmitter dopamine.
  3. It motivates you to keep going. Stopping to celebrate the steps you’ve made along the way will go much further in continuing to move you forward than focusing on how far you still have to go. Especially for you business-owning mamas out there, entrepreneurship can be a very lonely island. I know, I set up camp there for quite a while.

Learning to put the approval of success in my own hands, that I can boost my own morale with a “Good job Christy!” keeps me going when things gets stressful or feel like they are not working. And you can do it too.

That’s why your action step for today is to celebrate even the smallest thing from today, this week or this month. Remember, it can be anything like making $10K to putting on pants with zipper, for instance. If you made and effort and followed through, I call that success. You go ahead and celebrate!

For me, I am celebrating the end of this podcast every weekday in August journey. I have so enjoyed sharing my best time management, productivity, and mindset tips along with introducing you to my amazing mompreneur friends. In just a few short weeks, we already have almost 600 downloads in 7 countries and that is growing every day. So thank you from the bottom of my heart for your support and know I will be celebrating this achievement this week.

I’d love to hear what you’re celebrating in the comments below. Remember, big or small…we celebrate it all!


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How to Use Your Jealousy for Good

How do you react to jealousy?

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We’ve talked gratitude, we’ve talked abundance versus scarcity, and now let’s talk jealousy. Oh yeah. I know we have all had those gut punch feelings when we see another mom succeeding in business. Or in life. Or in having Pinterest worthy home or Instagram-able vacation.

This mindset strategy will help you flip the script on those gut punches and use that jealousy to boost you up rather than hold you back. It may take a few tries and a bit of practice to undo the inborn feelings of defeat, shame, or wanting to throw in the towel because “why both if she’s already done it.” But if you are willing to take a breath, evaluate your feelings, then use that energy as motivation to propel you forward rather than holding you back, you too can conquer your jealousy and use it for good.

Before, you might find yourself lying in bed after a social media scroll having rage-y thoughts about “why does she get to do all this”. Or “I would be so much better than she is if I was doing that”. Or “there’s no way her life is actually like that…she’s such a fake.” But have you taken a minute to analyze why you are reacting the way you are? Could it be…jealousy???

And you may be thinking “that’s not jealousy, I’m just tired of everyone faking it on social media.” But, real talk, why do you even care if there wasn’t the smallest part of you that deep down wanted a piece of that life? Wanted the chance to see if you were the mom in that picture, would you feel happier, more fulfilled, or think life was more enjoyable?

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You can have that Pinterest perfect, Instagram worthy, relationship, family, business, home, and life if you stop whining and start working. The only things different between you and Insta-mom is that she learned to harness the power of her envy and jealousy to propel her forward before you. But don’t worry, there’s plenty of time.

When you start focusing on what you can have and what you can achieve versus what you don’t have and haven’t achieved, your mood is better, your work is more focused, and your drive is engaged. As much as it might feel good to bash another women’s progress to make yourself feel better in the moment, in the end, the only person who loses is you…because she loses nothing when you’re jealous of her.

And as with so many mindset victories, when you use your jealousy for good, you show up more positive, you’re work is more focused, and most often, you’ll make more money. And let’s face it…everyone in your house appreciates when you make more money.

Flip the Script on Jealousy

So how do we stop letting jealousy tell us we need to quit. That we aren’t good enough. That we will never get where we want to be.

And how do we start using that feeling in our belly to motivate us? To be the driving force that says “if she can do it, I can do it, too!” To examine what we’ve been doing and figure out where we can invest more, become more efficient, or delete what might be holding us back.

First…recognize the feeling.

Second…identify the root of the reaction.

Third…rephrase the jealousy.

As an example…you’re scrolling Facebook and you see a friend from high school on an amazing Disney vacation. You immediately recognize a wave of jealousy that you can’t/haven’t taken your family on an amazing Disney vacation. You identify that your feel jealous because you feel like you cannot afford a vacation. Then you rephrase the jealous reaction to a motivation to research Disney vacations, start a savings account, and work towards taking your family for a  similar experience. Recognize, Identify, Rephrase. It takes some practice, but I think you can do it.

Now is the time to stop wallowing because you don’t have her life. Start using your jealousy as a motivator. Remember, we all have the same number of hours in the day as Beyoncé. We can all work hard, build an empire, and have an amazing butt if we put the effort in. Or we can just sit and be jealous from afar.

Want to take action on your jealousy today? Write down something you’ve found yourself jealous of recently. Then follow the 3 steps…you’ve recognized the feeling, now identify why you’re jealous. Then rephrase the jealousy as a motivation. I’d love to hear how you’re reframing your jealousy. Comment below and let me know how you’ve flipped your script.


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How Your Abundance Mindset Develops a Successful Life

What exactly do you mean by “abundance mindset”?

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Yesterday we talked about the importance of creating a gratitude practice and how it can influence our physical and mental health. Today we are going to expand on the idea of how our we influence our thoughts and how that can influence our success. In other words, let’s talk about abundance mindset versus scarcity.

And let’s be real…there is a lot of scarcity around us right now. We may not be able to do things we want to do. Or see the people we want to see. We may not be as successful as we thought we would be in 2020 or we might have even given up on the idea of our business because of outside forces. But you need to kick that scarcity mindset to the curb because all that “I can’t” talk is holding you back way more than any actual physical or economic barriers. Where there is a will and a positive abundant mindset, there is a way.

Can you commit to a regular gratitude practice? Get super clear on your goals and what it will take to achieve them? Focus on your strengths, how you can use them and put energy into developing them more while surrounding yourself with a super supportive community? Then you to are on a path to developing an abundance mindset.

You may be thinking “but output and effort increase results, right?” And that is what we’ve been taught for years. But a major component that we just started including is how our mind and our thoughts affect our outcomes too. How can we pre-plan for positive pro-active action versus negative reactive over-reaction? Is it possible to embrace and adapt to change versus continuing to put effort into the same tactics we’ve been using with lessening results? Can we use another mom’s success to signal we too can juggle work-home-and family versus festering in jealousy and resentment?

And you may be thinking “Yeah, Christy. All that woo-woo stuff isn’t for me. Or I barely have time to get my actual work done how can I possibly include all this mindset mumbo jumbo too?

What if I told you that leaning into and developing your strengths means you get more done in less time? That clear goal-setting streamlines your to-do list. The gratitude helps you appreciate all you have while inviting even more. And that community you will find can save you time and money not to mention provide you with support.

You can show up during your “work hours” excited about the work you’ll do and the impact you’ll make. Your attitude will invite others into community who want to know how you do it or how you can help them. You’ll feel more accomplished and you’ll start to see your efforts working.

And when you have a positive impact on other’s, they love to tell their friends. When you feel grateful and fulfilled in your work, you’ll show up happier for your family, for your employees, and for yourself.

Shifts to Make for an Abundance Mindset

Ready to make an impact, show up happier, reach your goals, and open yourself up to a more abundant life? Here are 3 shifts you can make starting today to start thinking more abundantly:

  1. Think “How will I” versus “I can’t”. For instance, how will I show up for my community versus I can’t make money because there is a pandemic. Remember positive and pro-active “how will I” or “how can I” versus “I can’t do things the way that I want or the way I think they should be so I won’t do anything at all.” This can even work with your family in terms of “I can’t take a vacation so our Christmas break is ruined” versus “how will I make Christmas special and memorable even without our annual ski trip.” Use an abundance of creativity to problem solve versus wallowing in a vat of scarcity.
  2. Next, choose to focus on the positive. We can all fall into the trap of focusing on what needs to be fixed. We need to lose weight, we need to make more money, we need to stop working so much. But what if instead we leaned into the positive, let that carry us more, and see if those negative attributes take care of themselves (hint, they often do). For example, instead of “My IG following isn’t growing at all, I hate editing pictures. I might as well give up” you could try “I’m really great on video. Maybe I could learn more about how to use IGTV or IG stories to grow my community rather than staying frustrated trying to edit pictures.” As Marie Forleo says “Everything is figureoutable.” And I can guarantee you, those successful business owners and mom’s that you don’t know how they do it…they are leaning into their strengths rather than focusing on their negatives, embracing change rather than fearing it, and constantly learning & adapting versus thinking they know it all.
  3. And finally, stop using failure or lack of perceived success as your excuse. Yes, this year has been a doozy for business owners. Absolutely, we are in uncertain times. Of course, things may not go to plan. But what have you learned? How can you grow? You could spend time and energy whining about what could have been. Or you can take the opportunity to learn how you can serve your community. To create something unique to the times. To become a beacon of positivity and resilience. And when things turn around, who do you think is better prepared to exploded…the wallflower or the person who kept working towards their goals, kept showing up for their community, and kept working when times weren’t so great.

Where Do I Start?

I have 3 small action steps for you today to start you on your path to a more abundant mindset.

  • First, write down something you’ve told yourself you can’t do or you won’t do. Now change it to a “how will I “ question. Instead of “I can’t grow my business during a pandemic” say “how will I grow my business during a pandemic.” Then start to brainstorm ideas.
  • Next, what is a negative statement you find yourself saying. Write it down then flip the script by leaning into something positive you have that can solve that problem or replace it with. Instead of “My family never lets me do anything by myself” becomes “I’m really good at arranging playdates for my kids. I’m going to see if this other mom wants to trade off one a week so we can each have a little self-care time.”
  • And finally, write down a goal you made for 2020 that you have not yet reached. Then write the steps you have taken towards it already and celebrate those. Then brainstorm the steps you need to take to reach it by the end of the year. Get those tasks onto your to-do list. I can 100% guarantee that pandemic or not, you will not reach your goal if you don’t try. So what’s the harm in trying and believing?

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Why You Need a Gratitude Practice

Ever wondered what all the buzz around a gratitude practice is about?

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A regular gratitude practice is crucial to creating an abundance mindset. In other words, it helps you focus on what you have versus what you do not, . In addition, it creates many positive physical and mental health benefits. For example, it creates positive emotions. It releases dopamine and serotonin in our brain. This helps boost our mood and lowers our stress levels. It helps you relish life’s experiences more. It can improve your physical and mental health, even improving your immune system. And it can help you on a path towards an abundance mindset.

Your gratitude practics is recognizing what you receive…whether from a person, an action, an object, or just the universe in general. A regular habit of recognizing this can open you up to receive more. To lower your stress. To appreciate what you have in your quest for more.

But I am Grateful…

Previously you might focus on gratitude around Thanksgiving. Or strictly in relation to what your have versus someone else. But are you ever just grateful for something because you’re grateful for it?

For instance, almost everyone has access to sunshine. But have you ever stopped to think how grateful you are for sun rises, sun sets, warm days, winter sun on a cold day, summer sun on a hot day. It’s not because you have access to something someone else doesn’t have. It’s just because you love the positive effects it has on your life.

And I know some of you may think “but I say thank you” or “I am grateful”. But are you setting aside a specific time each day to write down or speak out loud what makes your life better?

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As I said earlier, the mental and physical impacts of a regular gratitude practice are many and well documented. One study by Dr. Robert Emmons of UC Davis found stress hormones 23% lower in participants with a regular gratitude practice. Certainly, there are mamas out there trying to home school, raise little nuggets, work from home, or build a business could use a few less stress hormones. Am I right?

On a daily basis, you can start or end or even start & end your day focusing on your blessings. Who makes you happy? What makes you special? What makes you a great mom, a great business owners, and just a great woman overall.

And when our stress is lower, our dopamine and serotonin are releasing regularly, and we’re feeling positive and happier…it shows. Confident, happy, grateful you is a better mom, a better wife, a better boss, and a better service provider.

How to Start a Gratitude Practice

Let’s start with where to keep your gratitude. There is no right or wrong way to start your gratitude journal. You could purchase an actual journal. Or you can use a note pad. We’ve even used a mason jar with little slips of paper in my boy’s room at bedtime to talk about what we are grateful for from the day. Or you could make it part of your meal discussion with your family. Pinterest is FULL of ideas for creating a gratitude practice that suits you and your family if you’d like to include them. And that will meet your personal needs and comfort level.

I personally use the 5 Minute journal app because I nearly always have my phone on me. And it sends me reminders if I get busy and forget to stop and give thanks.

Want to get started on your own gratitude practice? Start by writing down 3 things you are grateful for. It doesn’t have to be a long drawn-out journal entry. Just a quick list on a note pad or your phone of 3 things you are happy you have or people you are thankful to know or actions that make you feel grateful. If you’re struggling to start here’s some prompts:

  • What is something you take for granted?
  • Who or what inspires you?
  • What is the best thing that happened this week?
  • Who or what makes you happy or smile?
  • What do you love about yourself?
  • Who or what made you smile today?
  • What family members or friends are you grateful for?
  • What is something you are looking forward to?

In conclusion, starting your gratitude practice is one of many pieces on your way to an abundance mindset. Regularly recognizing what you have makes you open to receive more. More love, more money, more success. Tell me below how you’ll keep track of your gratitude practice.


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