Trying to find more time for family? Self-care? Your spouse?
Today, I’m talking to the mamas who feel like they never have enough time. I am going to help you find or create more time in your day. And yes, I am a magician. 😉
Here’s the trick…Are you willing to make some choices with where you spend your time? Are you willing to work on figuring out your priorities? Then you will start to find more time to do the things you love.
And this is great because you have the power to start right now. Today. As soon as you finish listening to this episode. You have always had this ability and it will cost you nothing to get started. Win and win in my book!
Incorporating and practicing today’s time management tactics will help you find time in your day and schedule for what is important to you. You will start to feel like you are less stressed on a daily basis because your to-do list is getting to-done. And you can actually find some time to do something for yourself…if that is one of your priorities. Which it absolutely should be. 😉
And your family will benefit from you being less stressed and more available to them for focused, family time. Sound like something you can get on board with? Yep, I totally agree.
Pick Your No’s
Your first tip to find more time is to Pick Your No’s. Whump-whump…as in the things you say “no” to. I stole this bit of parenting advice I received when I was pregnant for my first child. But I think it applies well here as well. So often when we feel overscheduled or stressed about time, it’s because we have said “yes” too often. “Yes!” I will do this for a client on short notice. I will absolutely enroll my kids in 7 different activities. “Sure.” I will agree to make cookies for the school fundraiser and deliver meals to a friend who’s had a baby. And run a business. And have a family life…
Just to be clear, I am not saying any of these things are wrong or that you shouldn’t do them…unless you feel overwhelmed by your schedule and that things are slipping through the cracks. When you start to feel that way, you have to pick your no’s and figure out where saying yes is important and where you need to say no.
Make Your Priorities a Priority
Picking your “no’s” goes hand-in-hand with my second tip to find more time…Make your priorities a priority. Know what is important for you to focus your time on. Get those activities on the calendar. Do what’s important first thing when you sit down to work or with your family when you wake up each day.
I often see a vicious cycle where moms are frustrated because they feel pulled in too many directions because they aren’t clear on what is important for their business or family life. And because they aren’t clear on what’s important in their business or family life, they do all the things trying to make sure every base is covered…all the while stressing out themselves and often their family.
Getting clear on your priorities helps you focus your time and energy on the things that truly matter in growing your business or spending time with your family. And if you have time for other stuff, that’s gravy.
Ask for Help
My final tip to find more time is to let someone help you. And I know this can be hard. Believe me. I am the queen of thinking I can just do it all myself. Or that I can do it so I should. Or that I can do it right and I don’t want someone to mess it up. But letting go of a little control and allowing ourselves help will go a long way in helping us buy time, move forward, and spend more time with our families. You cannot be the only person who does all the things without cracking eventually.
And getting help doesn’t mean surrendering all control. This may mean your spouse puts the kids to bed so you can work on your priorities in the evening. Or everyone pitches in for a 10-minute cleanup session every afternoon. Yes, your spouse might not read The Pout Pout Fish the way you do. And yes, the toys might not make it into the exact right bin you’ve labeled. But sometimes done is better than perfect. Especially if you feel stressed and overwhelmed.
If you feel ready and inspired to find more time in your schedule for what is important and what you love, I want to you take action on the steps I’ve given you today…
- Pick Your No’s and start saying yes only when something is a priority.
- Make your priorities a priority. Get those urgent and important things that help you grow your business or spend more quality time with your family on the schedule.
- Ask for help if you are still struggling to fit it all in. Figure out what you can have someone in your family help with or hire out tasks that don’t require your direct involvement.