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Amy McBride – 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur

Meet personal stylist Amy McBride…

Amy is a fellow Columbus resident and mom entrepreneur I connected with via Instagram. She is the as a CPA by day and stylist by choice, Amy is the definition of balancing left and right brain.

With Closet Confidence, Amy helps busy women find their confidence and simplify their lives via their closets. She has always loved fashion and it became a confidence tool as she navigated a corporate finance career and motherhood. Now Amy works with other women (and men!) to create wardrobes that empower them to confidently focus on the things they are most passionate about. She offers both in-person and virtual services including closet edits, personal shopping, and personal styling.  Amy believes that confidence starts from within and a confident closet is a vessel to allowing your best self to show from the inside out.  That’s why her work starts with who her client is as a person and creates a wardrobe that serves her…her body and her life.

Amy lives with her husband, son, and daughter who are the best of friends…most of the time! Like any mom, she thinks they are just the funniest humans alive. They love getting outside (especially these days) and exploring the local metro parks. There is always music playing in their home and you can often find them having spontaneous dance parties. The kids are more into our music than kid songs with favorites including Grateful Dead, Beatles, the Band, and Johnny Cash. We also have a 3-year-old rescue pup named Mickey who they thought was a good idea to adopt a month before their daughter was born. He’s probably the most difficult child! 🤣

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You can listen to my conversation with Amy McBride at the link above. Or get an overview below.

1. What do you do in your business and why did you choose it? 

I help people find their confidence and simplify their lives via their closet. I believe confidence comes within and our clothing is a tool to allowing our best selves shine from the inside out. Since an early age I have loved fashion and it became a confidence tool as I navigated a corporate finance career. When my kids were 1 and 2 I finally jumped into this business idea that I had been thinking about for years. If I was going to be working and away from my kids it had to be doing something that I loved and felt impactful. Crazy time to start a (side) business? Yes. But worth it. Absolutely. I run Closet Confidence on the side while working a job in corporate finance full time.

2. What is your greatest strength when it comes to running your business? 

I think passion is so important in running your own business. There is nothing more motivating than the passion behind your why, not money, not success. And running a business is hard so you need that passion to keep you going. Specific to my business I think my greatest strength has been combining all of these aspects of myself and my experiences. My analytical business sensibility, combined with creativity and love of unique and beautiful things, and finally the way I connect with people. I think everyone deserves to feel special. I have really enjoyed being a part of each of my client’s journey to uncover how uniquely special and talented he or she really is.

3. What is the area of entrepreneurship where you could grow the most? 

I think it’s expanding my impact. While I love working with clients one on one and love it, I have often thought about expanding into working with more people. Like in a group setting or in the social media space. I know I need to think bigger if I want to grow.

4. If you were to start your business over today, what piece of advice or lesson learned would you emphasize to yourself? 

Who cares what people think? I spent a lot of time worrying about what people thought about my business. Will people get what I am doing? Would my corporate colleagues think of me differently? What if people don’t like my style? Ultimately I want to serve my customers and audience in the best and most authentic way possible. I have learned that I won’t be for everyone, but that is okay.

5. What is your best advice for balancing business and home life or creating intentional family time? 

Oh man, this is a hard one and a work in progress for me. I think the most elusive commodity in the life of a working mom is time! Early on I felt like if I wasn’t at my full time job, I should be working on my business. It burned me out and kept me from being present for that family time.

Now I set aside nights and weekends that are family only. I also think it’s important to prioritize time with your partner. I’ve also learned to leverage the times that I am most productive and creative. For me that’s the morning, so if I want to get a lot of work done I’ll get up super early before the family wakes. I think finding that balance and intentionality of time takes trial and error to figure out what really works for your family dynamic. I’ve also found that as much as it helps to schedule and block time our family needs some flexibility in that schedule.

Where can we find you online and social media?

Closet Confidence Website

Instagram

Facebook

LinkedIn


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If Life Gets In the Way Plan - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

What’s Your “If Life Gets In the Way” Plan?

Do you have a plan “if life gets in the way”?

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My sister recently broke her leg falling off a ladder. The injury brought life in her busy family with four kids to a screeching halt. And it got me thinking…whether it’s the upcoming holidays or a family emergency, do you have a plan for your business “if life gets in the way”?

I think as business owners, we often think “I can’t take time off for the holidays”. Or “keeping my fingers crossed my kids don’t get sick”. But the fact is you can take time off. And you don’t have to fear stepping away from your business in case of emergency. All it takes is what I’m calling an “if life gets in the way” plan.

Creating this plan helps you identify what actually MUST be done if there is an emergency. Or if you’d like to take time off. It solves the problem of feeling stressed before you go on vacation because you know what to focus on. And after because there is less playing catch up. It helps you identify tasks to delegate if your kid gets sick. Or you need to take time away to help your sister with her 4 kids when she’s shattered her tibia.

Can you take some time to identify those priority tasks that will keep you afloat or that are absolutely necessary? Then you can create a plan in case of emergency. Or in case of vacation. Or in case of the holidays.

If you haven’t previously identified your priorities, you may have just ignored your work if an emergency arose. This could lead to stress of playing catch up when you return to it. Or you might stress yourself out getting all your ducks in a row before a vacation. And then you miss the first few days of relaxation trying to un-wind what you wound up the week before.

Right now, you might be looking at the holiday season and think “there’s no way I can take any time off”. Or “I’m afraid if I pull back I will lose momentum”. When it comes to thinking about someone in your family getting sick or injured, do you think “I’ll just cross that bridge when I come to it”? But the holidays are stressful enough. Living during a pandemic is stressful enough. Don’t add to your stress levels when you could prevent that stress with a little extra planning now.

Creating your “if life gets in the way” plan helps you stay present during your vacation. And lessen the stress when emergencies arise. And who wouldn’t want to enjoy vacations more? Or lessen the stress in case of emergency?

As you create this plan, you will start to see where you need to focus your time and energy. Whether you are prepping for time off or simply your regular workweek.

And you’ll be able to be that friend or family member who can swoop in to help at a moment’s notice. Along with staying more present during the time off with your family. You’ve create the piece of mind that what is necessary is complete so you can sit back and enjoy. Or help.

3 Steps to Create Your “If Life Gets In the Way” Plan

If this sounds like something you’d like to incorporate ASAP, I’ve got 3 super simple steps to make creating you “if life gets in the way” plan.

  1. What MUST Completeted? – First, you must determine your priorities. I know, broken record, right? But this is why it is so absolutely crucial that you figure out what must be done on your daily and weekly to-do list in order to keep your business afloat, continue to serve and grow your community, and move you toward your goals. If you aren’t sure what your priority tasks might be, pick up my FREE Priority Recipe here.
  2. Eliminate the Unnecessary – Once you’re determined the priority tasks, identify what can go in case of emergency or if you are taking time off. We all have “fluff” on our to-do list. Or tasks that are great but not necessary. Those are the tasks we can let go of when we need the time off. You can always add them back in later. Or maybe you’ll find you didn’t need them anyway.
  3. Delegate What You Finish – After we’ve decided what we must do and what we can eliminate, figure out if there are tasks you can delegate. Delegating could mean hiring someone to post on social media. Or scheduling your posts for that week. (Delegating to technology is still delegating). Depending on how much time you need or want to take off, there may not necessarily be a ton of tasks that need your hand. But if it is something to complete and it doesn’t require your specific expertise, pass it off to a VA, team member, or an automated system.

Ready to start creating your “if life gets in the way” plan of action? Be sure to grab Your Priority Recipe to set your priority tasks. Then eliminate anything that isn’t absolutely necessary during the time you need off. And figure out the tasks to delegate that don’t need your specific expertise. I want you to feel comfortable taking time off whether for pleasure or emergencies. If you’re struggling to figure out your plan, drop a comment below. Or reach out to me via DM on Instagram or Facebook. Just search for Business Savvy Mama.


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Jen McRae - 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur

Jen McRae – 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur

Meet artist and jewelry design Jen McRae…

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I met Jen through the Small Business Moms Facebook group. She is absolutely delightful and I love her blend of creative energy and business sense.

Jen McRae found McRae Design where she creates accessories to wear as tiny works of original work art in her studio in North Carolina. Each piece is one of kind and thoughtfully crafted just for you to shine! Jen’s work can be found online and is featured in over 15 galleries and boutiques in North Carolina, Tennessee, Texas, Wisconsin, and more coming soon. And was just named one of top 40 North Carolina gifts to give by NC Tripping.

Jen is a mom of two boys, 11 and 14 and three crazy pups!

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You can listen to my conversation with Jen McRae at the link above. Or get an overview below.

1. What do you do in your business and why did you choose it? 

I create hand painted jewelry. It started as an accident. I was an artist and teacher who had a great idea!

2. What is your greatest strength when it comes to running your business? 

Creativity, creative thought and brainstorming, positivity.

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3. What is the area of entrepreneurship where you could grow the most? 

Email marketing, growing in new areas.

4. If you were to start your business over today, what piece of advice or lesson learned would you emphasize to yourself? 

To start sooner and jump in faster.

5. What is your best advice for balancing business and home life or creating intentional family time? 

Bring your kids along. Let them help you in your business and learn about it. Also time management, making sure to take vacation and really leave work behind.

Where can we find you on online or on social media?

Website

Facebook

Instagram


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Avoid Work at Home Burnout - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Avoid Work at Home Burnout

Anyone else feel on the edge of work at home burnout the last couple weeks???

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Last week, I had a trifecta of crazy. I was readjusting after going out of town for the weekend. My son needed help prepping for his 3rd grade test after not having a real teacher since March. And then this little election we had here in the United States. 😬

Let’s just say I was on the stress struggle bus. But luckily, and thanks to the help of fantastic coaches helping me create systems to deal with life when it feels overwhelming, I made it through. And I want to help you identify and conquer your overwhelm too.

That is why today I’m sharing strategies to identify when you are heading towards maximum capacity so you can identify your stress and stop burnout before it starts.

If you can learn the signals your mind and body start to send when you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or burned out, you can create solutions in advance to help. Bonus points if you share those solutions with your spouse, friend, coach or other support so they can also identify when you’re heading for trouble and lend their help.

If you’re anything like me, my previous max capacity cycle runs something like a car with a wobbly wheel….At first, the car just shakes a bit, I might not even notice it all the time. But instead of stopping to fix it (which would be pretty easy at this point), I just keep pushing. And as the shaking gets worse, I continue to say “if I can just get to this destination” or “if I can just drive this far I’ll fix it then”. So I push forward, maybe even driving faster, trying to out drive the eventual damage. And then BAM! Blown tire. Or the wheel falls off. Or some other bad tire-related problem with your car. I didn’t listen when the triggers started and look where that got me.

When you start to identify your triggers or know what your mind and body need to recover, you create a plan of action for those times when you know you’re going to be stretched to your limits.

Work at Home Burnout and Your Brain

You might be thinking “burnout is just part of the process” or “how can working less actually help me”. Sounds crazy, right? But hear me out…That stress you think is normal is damaging your brain.

As you near your burnout, your body produces excess amounts of the hormone cortisol. This affects the part of the brain that creates new brain cells and keeps them healthy. And that excess cortisol can affect decision making, working memory and control of impulsive behavior. Hello, stress eating, anyone??? And while stress is making it harder to think, make decisions, or control your urge to raid the peanut butter cups in your kid’s Halloween basket, it is also reducing the levels of the brain chemicals dopamine and serotonin which maker you feel happier. No wonder stress is so stressful!!!

But there is hope…By recognizing the signs of burnout before it’s too late, you can create a plan that will stop that flow of cortisol, save your dopamine levels, and help you continue to problem solve with the best of them.

Incorporating stress relievers on a regular basis can not only stave off the major meltdowns, but it can help you in your day to day functions. You’ll feel better and less on edge when you incorporate some form of self-care into your daily routine like exercising, meditating, or reading for yourself. You’ll notice more of an even keel rather than major swings in mood, productivity, and stress levels.

And let’s face it…everyone is better when mom is better. Your family benefits because you can be present with them without stressing over little things. Your clients appreciate your clear, focused efforts.

Signs of Work at Home Burnout

Let’s start by identifying some of the basic signs or triggers of burnout. And you may hear this list and think, “well, that just sounds like mom life to me.” And that is because mom life IS incredibly stressful. We are regularly on the verge of burnout with all the balls we are trying to juggle. That is why it is so important to recognize the signs and start to develop solutions before the burnout starts. So, signs of burnout include feeling:

  1. Forgetful
  2. Short Tempered
  3. Tired
  4. Unmotivated

Like I said. Pretty much every mom on the planet just said. Um, so I’m heading for burnout then. But we have spent so long ignoring the signs or saying “that’s just motherhood” that we have normalized the damaging stress. But the good news is, now that we know how it might look or feel, we can brainstorm ways to stop work at home burnout before it starts…

How to Stop Work at Home Burnout Before It Starts

  1. Prioritize – Moms notoriously like to do it all. In fact, it can feel like a competition at times. But if you truly want to prevent those damaging burnout episodes, you need to practice prioritizing. Start to evaluate the activities and tasks you have and whether they fit your values or fall into the truly “urgent” or “important” category. If you aren’t sure which tasks are truly priorities, check out my episode “How to Choose Your Priority Tasks”.
  2. Create Boundaries – Again, moms are notorious “yes” women. We love to help and make people happy. We feel the need to ask how high when I clients say “jump now”. Setting effective boundaries around when we work, what our schedule capacity is, and learning to say “no” when there just isn’t time helps us create boundaries to protect our stress levels. Need more tips on setting boundaries? Check out my episode “Why You Need to Set Work Boundaries”.
  3. Recognize Your Triggers – What do you do when you are approaching burnout? Or does it seem to come at certain times during the year? The holidays for example…so many activities, wanting to do all the things but it is also the end of the year for your business and you need to plan for the following year or for Q1. And you need to wrap up Q4 of 2020. I am literally feeling stressed just thinking about it. When you can learn to recognize that overwhelming feeling, you can start to problem solve in advance how to prevent it. Do you need to cut back on unnecessary holiday activities? Or need to hire help for end of the year wrap up in your business? Do you need to take a full day off from all things digital once a week to focus on your family and refill your cup? Recognize your triggers and problem solve how you’ll fight them in advance.
  4. Schedule Non-Negotiable Time for What Makes You Happy – This is super important for all those moms who put the needs of literally everyone else first. It goes hand in hand with the boundaries thing. You deserve time to take care of you, do something that makes you happy. It doesn’t have to be alone time. I can totally be family time. Or a date night. Make time for the activities that make you happy. Get it on the schedule. Make it non-negotiable. Do not let outside commitments keep you from your happy place.
  5. Incorporate Self-Care Tiny Tasks into Every Day – Over the years, I feel like self-care has become the realm of spa days or massages. And those are totally and completely self-care activities. And if you can incorporate them into your regular routine, by all means, mama, do so! But there are also small acts of self-care you can do in your home that cost virtually nothing and take no time at all. For ideas, click here to check out my “10 Free, 10-Minute Self Care Ideas for Moms”. Find a tiny pocket of time just for you as often as you can to help keep your cup topped off. And stave off that burnout dragon.

You cannot fill from an empty cup, mama. If you want to avoid max capacity, pre-plan how you will deal when you feel stress coming. Brainstorm a list of what triggers your stressful feelings then pre-plan a solution for how you will recognize and release them. For instance, if you say “I feel stressed when I have a work deadline the weekend after my kid’s basketball tournament”. The solution may be to finish or complete a large percentage of the project before the weekend. Or to delegate some of the tasks so all you have to do is assemble and edit come Monday.

Maybe you’re saying “I feel stressful during the holidays because we are running around so much and never get a chance to sit and enjoy.” The solution maybe you will limit functions to one per week. Or maybe push some celebrations into January when everyone’s social calendars have cleared a bit.

There is a solution. I promise.

And if you are struggling to see it, I’m here to help. Feel free to drop a comment below or reach out in the DMs on social media @businesssavvymama. This is a huge issue for us mom entrepreneurs. I know it personally. I’ve lived it many a time. And I am passionate about helping other mom entrepreneurs see the way through.


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Amy Banocy - 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur

Amy Banocy – 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur

Meet Entrepreneur-Speaker-Bestselling Author Amy Banocy…

I meet Amy through the Boss-Moms community on Facebook. Even through social media, I was drawn to her enthusiasm and positivity. And I think you will be, too!

If you’ve ever wondered if happiness a choice, Amy Banocy says, “YES!” And she has the professional success and personal story to prove it. Positive, relatable and authentic, she doesn’t just view life as a glass half full; she sees it as overflowing with abundance. She has worked hard to cultivate a happiness mindset, rejecting the toxic work environments of her past, and choosing instead to seek out business opportunities that allowed her to support and uplift others. Emotional Intelligence informs Amy’s work as a bestselling author and successful entrepreneur. She’s proof that our thoughts and feelings create our beliefs; our beliefs create actions; and our actions lead to outcomes. This Happiness Guru is on a mission to help women ignite their passion, cultivate a happiness mindset and live in abundance.

Amy has 3 boys, ages 7, 12, and 2 months shy of 16! They definitely keep her busy! Since Covid, their activities have changed, but prior to, it was basketball, hockey, ice skating, and baseball for the boys. One of their favorite things to do as a family is to play board games, with favorites being Sorry, Uno and Trouble. Personally, Amy enjoys yoga, meditation, reading, running and walking.

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You can listen to my conversation with Amy Banocy at the link above. Or get an overview below.

1. What do you do in your business and why did you choose it?

I currently have 2 business focuses, as a leader with a direct selling company and as a facilitator and teacher of my Ignite Your Passion community. 9 years ago, I was working in corporate marketing and I entered the world of entrepreneurship, as a consultant with a direct sales company, because I wanted a way out of my toxic work situation. I also wanted to be in an environment that aligned with my values and positive mindset. In 8 months, I was able to leave that toxic job. In 2 years, I hit the top 2% of the company and at 6 years, promoted again to the top 1%. I now lead a team of about 500 amazing entrepreneurs and love helping them grow their businesses.

This growth and success came at a price though, when I found myself suffering with chronic pain and fatigue about 6 years ago, which led me down a health and wellness journey. I made changes to diet, physical & mental health, self-care, and re-prioritizing my life. In doing so, I became such a happier, healthier person, for me, my team and my family. I have always had a passion for empowering women and realized that so many women around me were experiencing the same fatigue and burnout I’d dealt with and that I could help them. Now, I help hundreds of women, through teaching, speaking and writing in my IYP community and in for other organizations. I believe that happiness is a choice and that the choices we make every hour of each day, will determine our happiness factor. It completely fires me up when someone tells me that they implemented strategies I gave them and improved their life. That, is why I do what I do!

2. What is your greatest strength when it comes to running your business? 

Motivating and leading

3. What is the area of entrepreneurship where you could grow the most? 

Taking ideas from the idea stage, to concept, to launch, faster than I do now.

4. If you were to start your business over today, what piece of advice or lesson learned would you emphasize to yourself? 

Don’t ever forget why you started your business and always prioritize self care!

5. What is your best advice for balancing business and home life or creating intentional family time? 

I don’t know that it’s so much about balance, because that to me implies a 1:1 ratio, or equal sides. To me, it’s about prioritizing what is important, at that time or season. In my experience, there will always be times when you need to focus more on work and others when you can step back a bit. Identify those seasons and then time manage and create your schedule accordingly.

Where can we find you on online or on social media?

Facebook

Ignite Your Passion Community

Instagram

LinkedIn


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Teach Kids About Time Management - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

6 Tips to Teach Kids About Time Management

Wondering where to start when teaching kids time management skills?

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The idea of kids and time management was suggested by one of the Instagram followers. She said “I need tips to help my middle schooler with time management. How does one introduce such a topic. Since we are a few months into the school year, this seems relevant.”

I couldn’t agree more. Especially in light of the current school year. Many moms and mom entrepreneurs are juggling time to teach their kids with all the other balls they’ve got in the air.

Plus, the schools do a great job of sneakily setting up routines and structure, providing accountability, using due dates…you know, all those time management strategies. And they do it without presenting it like “we are going to learn time management now, kids.” But many of us don’t have that structure to fall back on. And that is exactly why we are going to talk about it today.

Teaching time management to kids of any age helps them learn the value of time and how to use it best. The sooner your kids learn this skill, the sooner they can start to hone it and make it work for them.

No matter how old you kids may be, you can start to introduce the concepts of the passage of time. Of using a schedule and creating a structure to your day. And choosing priority tasks. If you can start working with your kids on just the basics on a regular basis, you will start to see their ability to manage time improve…and you might see some improvement for yourself as well.

Because here’s a little secret…You do not have to be the sole scheduler in your family. Your kids have the ability and capacity follow their own routine or even schedule their own events depending on their age. You might be worried that they’ll do it wrong or something will get missed, so you just do it yourself. But will you always be there to make sure they’ve scheduled everything in their planner once they leave your house? Or that they’ve plotted plenty of time to complete a massive work project due? Better to practice on tasks or events of lesser importance…The sooner you introduce the concepts of managing time to kids, the more time they will have to develop the skills before you aren’t around to do it for them.

Now, you might be thinking “kids are too young to learn time management”. Or “they don’t really need to manage their time if they’ve got me”. Or “they’ll just figure it out later”. But like a whole host of “adulting skills” like balancing a checkbook, doing laundry, or keeping a plant alive…it won’t just magically happen when they move from your home to their own abode. It can take some time to develop those skills. And the sooner you start to teach them, the better.

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When your kids learn time management skills, they develop self-discipline. And self-discipline has been shown in multiple studies to have a greater impact on academic success that IQ! Not to mention the overall benefits of learning to prioritize tasks. Or giving yourself time to complete projects. And just learning to respect time, both yours and other peoples.

Another benefit when your kids start to develop their own time management skills…you’ll find pockets in your day for you. For instance, a while back we started teaching our boys a bedtime routine. We encouraged them to create a routine that included brushing their teeth, getting water, going to bathroom, and so on. It also included a short wind-down play time with a timer. And it took us a bit of time to figure out our flow…but now my kids put themselves to bed AND I’ve bought myself back at least an hour in the evening. And my guys are 7 and 9. And this, my mama friends, is a major benefit of teaching your children about time management, structure, and routine.

Your kids benefit by learning a crucial life skill. Their teachers benefit because your child understands timelines and due date. And the importance of getting the important and urgent homework done first. And you benefit by gaining back time you making sure they complete the tasks on the schedule you created.

Tips to Teach Kids Time Management

I promise, every kid and adult has the capacity to learn these skills. And like I said earlier, the sooner the better. Because like in all things from riding a bike to multiplication tables to using a planner, practice makes better. And here’s where you start…

Start Early – As early as you can. Even preschool age kids can learn the basic ideas of the passage of time. Or how to follow a routine. Or why we do tasks in a certain order. If your kids are older, start by slowly introducing the idea of routine and schedule. Maybe start a Sunday review or the week ahead. Or allow them to write their activities and tasks due on the calendar themselves. This starts to develop that connection between I have “x” amount of time to do “x” amount of things.

Help Kids “See” Time – And speaking of that connection, my second tip is to show your kids time. We’ve away from analog clocks and “seeing” time and we might forget how hard it is to understand the concept. When your kids can see the passage of time on the hands of the clock, in an hour glass timer, or even as a kitchen timer ticks away, it helps to cement the idea that time is a limited resource. Especially if you kids are young, saying “10 minutes” is the same as “2 hours”. But if you indicate when the clock moves from the 2 to the 4, it develops the awareness of time.

Give Them a Calendar – And along with learning awareness of the passage of time, it is so important to empower your older kids to schedule it for themselves. This is where that self-discipline we talked about earlier becomes key. Teaching your kids to create calendar events for homework, projects, commitments, rehearsals, games, and social events helps them understand where they need to physically be. And also how they need to adjust to complete priorities. It will resonate much more with your child if they see that they have a project due on Monday. And they know they have basketball tournament all weekend. So they need to make time earlier in the week to start the project. As opposed to you knowing that all of this is due and nagging them to start because they will be tired on Sunday. And not have the energy to finish.

Don’t Overschedule – This instance exemplifies my next tip with is to avoid overscheduling. It is much easier for a child to keep up with a jam packed schedule when they’ve got you as a personal assistant. You shuffle them from place to place and stay on top of what they have due when. But the reality is, that sort of scheduled life is nearly impossible without that assistance. You are giving them a false sense of what is possible in their 24 hours in the day. Not to mention, the added stress of no down time. Choose the favorite, best, or most important activities and tasks and get them on the schedule…that they are making themselves, of course.

Create a Routine – Once you’ve chosen your priority activities and written them on the calendar, you will see a pattern emerge. A structure or routine, if you will. Which is my fifth tip…lean into routine for regularly scheduled activities. Routine helps with decision fatigue. And to off load some of the daily stress because in some capacity, you know what to expect. If Tuesdays are busy because you go straight from school to tennis, be sure to create a routine of packing your dinner. If you always have spelling tests on Friday, make a routine to practice on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday while you’re cleaning the dinner dishes. Look for places you can repeat regular tasks to save space on your schedule. And save your brain power for other decisions.

Learn to Prioritize – And my final tip to teach your kids about time management is to learn to prioritize. Which comes as a shock to pretty much no one. But I hope that you are seeing a pattern emerging…Whether it’s teaching your kids or setting up your morning routine for yourself, it is so important to learn which tasks fit your values. And which tasks are important. And which ones have consequences.

As I was reading the studies linking self-discipline and academic success, researchers found that those who succeed focused on the tasks that make a impact. They knew what was urgent and important and did that first. And while using the Eisenhower Time Matrix we talked about last week feels a bit extreme for your 2nd grader, you can teach them that it is important to study for a test (urgent). Or finish their chores (important). And to complete those tasks before they play video games (not urgent and not important). Practice makes better.

And if you or you kids struggle with deciding what’s important and urgent, be sure to pick up your free Priority Recipe. It’s a step-by-step guide to decide what to do. And what not to do now. You can grab it HERE.


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Nicole Simonin – 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur

Meet Health and Fitness Coach Nicole Simonin of Shape it Up…

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Nicole and I met 3 years ago during a crazy YouTube VEDA (Video Every Day in August) challenge. That crazy ride bonded us. And we’ve stayed connected ever since. 🤪

Since 2006, Nicole has been helping women lose weight for the last time. She is an ACE Personal Trainer, ACE Health Coach, host of Shape It Up Over 40 podcast, founder of Shape It Up, LLC, author of “The No Fuss, No Mess Shape It Up Cookbook”, licensed Physical Therapist Assistant and former professional ballet dancer. Nicole has been featured in Rachel Ray in Season, Bicycling Magazine, Real Simple, MSN and recently at the TEDx Cape May event.

Nicole is the mom to a teenage son and daughter and a dog named Trixie. Her incredibly busy life includes lots of soccer, basketball, school, and fencing.

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You can listen to my conversation with Nicole Simonin at the link above. Or get an overview below.

1. What do you do in your business and why did you choose it?

I’m a Health and Fitness Coach – I’ve always found how the human body works to be fascinating. Really interested in fitness, nutrition and mindset. Initially I choose it bc it was a way for me to interact with adults as my kids grew up and I love helping women feel comfortable in their own skin.

2. What is your greatest strength when it comes to running your business? 

I am very creative and I like to like huge leaps….if it doesn’t scare me then I am doing something wrong.

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3. What is the area of entrepreneurship where you could grow the most? 

I think overall I have my biz skill down. Now it’s time to add gasoline to the fire and level up.

4. If you were to start your business over today, what piece of advice or lesson learned would you emphasize to yourself? 

Find a great coach and jump in

5. What is your best advice for balancing business and home life or creating intentional family time? 

A calendar. Schedule in free time. Block out my days and do a task in the time I have given it.

Where can we find you on social media?

Shape It Up Website

Apple Podcast Link

LinkedIn

Facebook

Instagram

YouTube – Shape It Up with Nicole

Pinterest

Twitter


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The Difference Between Urgent and Important - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

The Difference Between Urgent and Important. And Why It Matters.

Do you spend too much time on urgent and not enough time on what’s important?

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Today we are going to explore the Eisenhower time management matrix to help you define your urgent versus important tasks.

Let’s start by defining the difference between the two. And I think Stephen Covey, author of “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” does a better job than I could…So let’s hear how he breaks down the difference between urgent and important…

“Urgent matters are those that require immediate action. These are the visible issues that pop up and demand your attention NOW. Often, urgent matters come with clear consequences for not completing these tasks. Urgent tasks are unavoidable, but spending too much time putting out fires can produce a great deal of stress and could result in burnout.

Important matters, on the other hand, are those that contribute to long-term goals and life values. These items require planning and thoughtful action. When you focus on important matters you manage your time, energy, and attention rather than mindlessly expending these resources. What is important is subjective and depends on your own values and personal goals. No one else can define what is important for you.”

Stephen Covey

Learning to determine the difference between all the various combinations of urgent, not urgent, important, and not important, will help you define the priority tasks you need to focus on.

If you can use the tactics we talk about today with your to-do list to determine which quadrant of the matrix your task falls into, you can manage your time better. And complete the tasks with due dates that require your expertise. You can schedule the tasks that are important for you, your family, your growth and your mental health. And determine what you should delegate or eliminate when you feel stressed or your schedule feels full.

Are you currently prioritizing your to-do list? Or do you give equal weight to all the tasks on your list? Which may make your list feel overwhelming or like its never complete?

But you might be thinking “I don’t have time to actually finish my tasks so I definitely don’t have extra time to delineate between urgent and important tasks.”

But what if by taking a few extra minutes, you would feel more in control. You could learn to delete the time-wasting to-dos that prevent you from spending time doing things you enjoy or with your family and friends.

You can start to develop a rhythm to your daily to-do routine. And spend less time on your work because the tasks you are dedicating your time to are having a greater impact on your business and your family. And you’ll be making room on your schedule personal projects that enhance your life, improve your health, or just make you happy.

How much more present you can show up for your clients, co-workers, and family when you feel accomplished and fulfilled? You know this is a no-brainer…you want this life. And you can have it.

How to Determine What’s Urgent and Important

You just need to practice your prioritizing. So let’s dive into exactly how you determine which tasks are urgent and important. Your tasks will fall into one of 4 categories:

  • Urgent & Important
  • Not Urgent & Important
  • Urgetn & Not Important
  • Not Urgent & Not Important

Your Urgent and Important Tasks require you to take action because there is a deadline or a consequence if you don’t complete them. It might be paying bills, work for a client, or getting an oil change in your car. If you heard my episode last week on the 4 D’s of Time Management, these Urgent and Important Tasks would fall in the “Do It” category. It must be done and avoiding it won’t make it go away, it will just delay a consequence. So just do it.

Next we have your Important but Not Urgent Tasks…these tasks help you reach your overall business, personal or family goals. But they usually don’t have a deadline or consequence. And so we put them off in favor of those tasks that ARE urgent. But often, these activities have the biggest impact on us reaching our goals, even more so than the urgent tasks. Keeping our mental and physical health in order, spending time with our family or on ourselves, learning new skills, or growing our community has a huge influence on our success. Yet we often neglect these important tasks. So how do we fix it? We schedule time for these. Put it on the schedule. Make it a date.

And you may be thinking now “but if I have to do the urgent and I have to schedule the important, there is no way I’ll get it all done”. A-ha…I give Quadrant 3. The Urgent but Not Important Tasks…

The magic of quadrant 3 is that it does not require your specific zone of genius. These are the tasks you delegate to help offload some of the weight of your schedule. Sure there is a consequence if you don’t do the dishes, but does it require your hands? Or could you ask your family to help? Can you offload your social media or accounting to someone else? Can you turn off notifications for your email or text messages so you control what is urgent? If it is truly urgent and important, if there is a deadline or consequence, it is part of your quadrant 1. You know what that means for you. Don’t let someone else determine your priorities.

And finally, quadrant 4 is your not urgent and not important tasks. These would technically fall into the “Delete It” category. (Although I don’t think many of us have Quadrant 4 tasks like endlessly scrolling social media or binging 12 hours of Netflix on our to-do list.) You do deserve downtime. But is focusing your downtime on not urgent, not important tasks preventing you from doing a task you’ve deemed important? Like exercising? Or spending time with family? Or taking up a new skill? Important doesn’t have to mean “work” per see. It can just mean a task that you’ve decided it is something that is valuable to your life. And if you have choice, wouldn’t you want to choose something valuable?

Ok, so a quick review before you tackle prioritizing your to-do list. Here’s breakdown of what’s urgent, what’s important and what’s not.

Eisenhower Time Management Matrix - Urgent and Important Tasks
  • Quadrant 1 is your Urgent and Important tasks. There is an approaching deadline or consequence to inaction. You must do these tasks ASAP.
  • Quadrant 2 is your Important not Urgent tasks. Things that enhance your life or business like exercise, spending time with family, or networking with fellow business owners. Get these tasks on to your schedule at specific times.
  • Quadrant 3 is your Urgent but Not Important tasks. These activities will need completed but don’t require your specific expertise. Or may feel like they need to be done NOW because the person emailing, texting, or asking you for help assigns a deadline on their terms, not yours. These are tasks you can delegate or delay.
  • Quadrant 4 is Not Urgent and Not Important. Delete these tasks from your routine. Or at the very least push them off until you’ve completed the urgent and important for the day.

Does prioritizing your to-do list still feels overwhelming? I’d love to help you create a customized system to determine which tasks you need to focus on to grow your business and spend more time with your family. My 1-on-1 Virtual Intensives help you create a “fill-in-the-blank” life with fewer choices and more freedom. You’ll find yourself stressing less and enjoying more time with your family. Visit businesssavvymama.com/intensives for more information on how we can create your customized system today.


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Demaris Young - 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur

Demaris Young – 5 Questions with a Mom Entrepreneur

Meet online boutique owner Demaris Young…

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Demaris juggles her 9-5 work in IT in St Louis, Missouri with her passion for finding unique and trendy clothes for boys. She has 19-year-old daughter and 5-year-old twin boys.

She started Kids B.A.L (Beyond All Limitations) in June of 2020. Inspired by her love for children, it was her passion to provide her twin boys with unique and stylish clothes that drove her to start this business. Her main goal is to inspire boys to dress to impress so that they feel cool, confident, and present.

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You can listen to my conversation with Demaris Young at the link above. Or get an overview below.

1. What do you do in your business and why did you choose it?

I own a boys’ online children’s boutique. I choose it because I got frustrated about going shopping and not seeing a variety and/ or unique boys’ clothes. My friends were having the same issue.

2. What is your greatest strength when it comes to running your business? 

Faith. Having faith that it will work. I have gotten a few people to say it won’t work.

3. What is the area of entrepreneurship where you could grow the most?

I would say expanding my customer base. And marketing.

4. If you were to start your business over today, what piece of advice or lesson learned would you emphasize to yourself?

Social media is important and come up with a strong marketing plan before your start your business.

5. What is your best advice for balancing business and home life or creating intentional family time?

Set small goals weekly. Communication to your spouse and kids.

Where can we find you on social media?

Website

Facebook

Instagram


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What Not to Do - Business Savvy Mama Podcast

How to Decide What NOT to Do

Do you know what not to-do when it comes to your to-do’s?

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Last week I spent time with some amazing entrepreneurs during a virtual retreat. We discussed productivity with family around. And there was a bit of a discussion around permission of what NOT to do.

As a mom entrepreneur juggling all kinds of balls, it is SO important to distinguish between what is a priority and what is not. And also that you permit yourself to let some things go. To either delete them completely. Or delegate them to someone else. Or delay them until you have time or actually need to complete them.

By ranking the items on your to-do list, you stop giving equal weight to tasks that aren’t truly important. And you will find yourself feeling less overwhelmed or pulled to do so much.

The Greeting Card Test

Back in my professional organizing days, clients would often struggle to determine the items that were truly meaningful, had an impact, or were worth keeping. I developed what I called the “Greeting Card Test”.

Say you have a stack of greeting cards from your child’s first birthday party. Some of the cards contain beautifully written, personal messages from Great Grandma Annette. And others simply say “Bob and Jane”. And you can’t even remember who Bob and Jane are. By keeping all the cards in the stack, you diminish the value of the truly special ones. If you had to rank that cards on a scale of 1-10, you would probably rank Great Grandmas Annette’s card a “10”. And random Bob and Jane’s card a “1”. Yet, by keeping all those cards without discarding the ones that aren’t truly important, you devalue all the cards. Everything is of equal importance. And if everything is a 10, nothing is a 10. The same applies to the tasks on your to-do list.

Can you evaluate the tasks on your to-do list? Learn to separate what is necessary and important from what can wait or go away? Then you will effectively manage your time and use it more productively

Up until now, you might have just looked at your to-do list tasks with equal weight. Or you do the things you like to do first to start crossing items off. You know, just to complete something.

But you also may feel unproductive, unsuccessful, or unprofitable. The tasks you choose to spend your time on could be responsible. You are working. And working hard. You actually work a lot. But are you working on the right things?

By developing skills to evaluate and prioritize your tasks, you’ll develop confidence in what projects need your immediate attention. And you’ll develop the skill to ask for help for tasks that others can complete for you.

When you start to write an effective to-do list, your personal list may start to shrink while actually accomplishing more. Who wouldn’t prefer 7 focused, productive tasks in day to 14 with some spilling over into the next day because you don’t have the stamina to get it all done.

Learning to delegate tasks that don’t need your expertise helps you finish your work day on time. It helps you share the responsibilities at home and feel less resentment over the perception you need to do it all. And when you know you’ve focused on the urgent and important rather than what not to do, you can confidently close up shop at the end of the day. You can show up present for your family knowing you’ve completed the tasks that will have a positive effect on your business or home life. Instead of saying “just one more thing” or letting your mind wander during family time because you’re didn’t get something done.

How to Decide What Not To Do

But where do you even start evaluating all the things that need done to determine where it fits?

Let’s start with a quick overview of the 4 D’s of Time Management. When it comes to tasks you should Do It, Delegate It, Defer or Delay It, or Delete or Drop It. But how do you decide what needs you to “Do It” and what fits into the other “D’s” aka what NOT to do. I love to run tasks through my TRIM Your To-Do List Flowchart which asks

  • Is it time-sensitive or has an approaching due date coming soon?
  • Is it required, meaning it is necessary for your work or home life or there will be a consequence?
  • Will it make an impact positively or negatively on your work, home, family, or health?
  • Is it money related? As in it will help you make money or will affect your financial health if it’s not completed?
TRIM Your To-Do List Flowchart - Business Savvy Mama

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If you answered “yes” to any of these questions and it requires your specific expertise to finish, it falls into the “Do It” category.

For instance, writing a guest blog post that is due on Friday is time-sensitive, require, will make a positive impact on your business, and requires your specific expertise.

If you answered “yes” but someone else could help you out, it falls into Delegate It. For instance, you need to pay your household bills which qualify as time-sensitive, required, and money-related. BUT your spouse is perfectly capable of signing into the accounts to make sure they get paid. You’ve just never asked for help.

Or maybe you’ve been working on revamping your website but it isn’t really necessary. There isn’t a deadline. You are not required to do it. Your current website is converting you just don’t like the way it looks. And there wouldn’t be an immediate impact to your financial health if you kept working on it (except maybe it was taking you away from actual money making tasks). This would be an example of a task you would Delay or Defer until it became necessary or you found yourself with time to spare. Which I don’t know about you, but if I found myself with extra time, I don’t know that I’d want to spend it revamping my website.

And finally, if you answered no to all these questions…the task is not time sensitive, required, positively or negatively impact your life, and not money related…you need to Delete or Drop it. Your time is just too precious to waste. End of story.

I promise, the more you practice, the easier it will get to discern those important tasks you should do from the ones you delegate, delay or delete. And to make it even easier, you receive the TRIM Your To-Do List Flowchart as part of Your Priority Recipe, my free download with all the ingredients you need to focus on the tasks that matter and let go of those that don’t so you can spend more time doing what you love with who you love.  Click here to grab your FREE Priority Recipe today!


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