A Simple Secret to Better Evenings as a Mompreneur

A Simple Secret to Better Evenings as a Mompreneur

Let’s talk decision fatigue and better evenings…this week’s episode goes out to all those mamas who have lost their minds over the question “what’s for dinner?” ( I think I did it like two nights ago. 🤣)  I want to dive into why that happens and what we can do to fix it…how we can actually enjoy our evenings. And how we can have the end of the day stop feeling like we are completely just spent. Like if anything else happens or if anything else ends up on our plate we are just going to explode.

Often when we’re irritable or we’re stressed out at the end of the day it’s because we’ve been making decisions all day long. From the moment we wake up until the time we go to bed at night. Everything from do you hit the snooze or do you get out of bed? To what should you have for breakfast? And what are you going to wear…there are so many decisions that you have to make during the day. Frankly, by the time 5 o’clock rolls around, we’re real tired. And we don’t feel like making decisions anymore.

I can think of nights when my husband is like “let’s order pizza…where do you wanna get it from?” And I can’t even decide where to get it from. It’s like my brain is so spent at that point that I can’t make the simplest decisions. Perhaps there are a lot of you out there that feel the same way.

And you may think that it’s just that you’re just irritable. Or that’s just how it is. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Your evenings don’t have to be a brain dead mom not being able to make decisions and getting angry at people for asking simple questions. And that is why we’re going to talk about how you can streamline and simplify your life with some systems and routines.

Brain Fatigue and Better Evenings

Ever feel like by 3 o’clock you can’t make even the simplest decision? Or that you’re unmotivated? Super irritable? Like the smallest question that is not a big deal really just sets you off? Maybe you go to bed and as you’re laying there, you’re feeling disappointed about what you didn’t accomplish today. Or your head is spinning over everything that you have to do. All of those things are related to brain fatigue. And one of the major things that contribute to brain fatigue is decision making.

Any way that we can sort of streamline our days and take things off of our brain’s plate is going to reflect better on our attitude and on our mood. We’re going to get to sleep easier. And we’re going to feel more accomplished in our day, even if it feels like we’re doing less.

Streamlining and simplifying your day with systems and routines can help you to be a better mom and mom entrepreneur. Here’s a fun fact about brain fatigue…your brain is responsible for 20% of the energy that your body uses up. Think about how big your body is and how little your brain is. Yet it is 1/5 of the energy that your body is putting out. And as we just discussed, so much of that energy is going into making decisions.

Better Evenings…Where to Start

There are two simple ways you can reduce the number of decisions you make in a day. First, set up a routine. Something that you do subconsciously. A pattern of things that happen over and over again so that you’re not constantly making decisions. Second, set up a system. A series of actions that lead to a particular result. You have some sort of checklist that you are following because there is an end result and by creating that system you aren’t making as many decisions.

Sometimes these words are used interchangeably. Routines can be systems. But not all systems are routines. The thing to realize is we need them both. They are what is going to help us be a happier mom at the end of our day.

Here’s a great example of a routine and a system. This is from my sister who has four kids under the age of nine. She’s got a lot on her plate but this routine and system have simplified her evenings. She makes the same meal on the same night every single week. Monday night is spaghetti night. Tuesday night is tacos. Wednesday night is hamburgers. And so on. Every single week she knows exactly what she’s making. The kids know exactly what they are eating. And she knows what she needs to get from the grocery store which is where her system comes in.

Before she does her shopping for the week she has the task of taking an inventory of the stuff that she needs for her regular meals. She has created a list on her phone of the exact things that she needs to buy every week to make the food that’s part of her routine. She does her grocery shopping. And when she comes home she puts all those things away. She knows exactly where the items are when she needs them for her meal routine.

There is your routine of what you’re eating every single day…very few decisions being made because it’s the same thing all the time…and the system of checking to make sure that she has the items that she needs, buying what she doesn’t have, and putting those things where she can find them when she needs them. Routine and system. And while the idea of eating the same thing over and over again may sound boring, the idea that she has streamlined this part of her life means that she can now redirect that energy into something else. She’s freed up her brain to make other decisions because she has taken meal planning decisions off her plate.

When you incorporate routines and systems you’ll have less brain fatigue. You’ll have fewer decisions to make. And you’ll have better evenings. Not to mention, you’ll enjoy your workday more because won’t feel overwhelmed. Meanwhile, you’ll have a chance to put that amazing brainpower and creativity into those things that make an impact on your business or your family life.

Now where can you incorporate a routine or systems so you can have better evenings??? (If you’re struggling with creating systems or routines, click below to schedule a free, 15-minute clarity call to see how I can help.)

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